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writes:I am in a relationship with a guy since last yr. We are very attracted to each other and we love each other. However, most of the time all we talk about is sex or having sex. Is there anything wrong with it? Or How do we figure out if its physical or do we realy love each other? Reply to this Question
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reader, lilmisse2424 +, writes (1 April 2008):
 Hi there,
I am in the same boat as you. Sex is definitely one way to show how much you love each other. I would alsod consider asking yourself the questions suggested by Double M. They are very good ones to ask yourself.
Also, I would try to not have sex every time and suggest trying to talk about your feelings, your interests, and possibly the future. Maybe going third base or kissing and snuggling would be good as well.
And also, it is perftectly fine to be in love and have a pretty high sex drive. I wish you well on your relationship. Take care!!!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (1 April 2008):
 Ask yourself these questions:Do you spend most of your time together?Do you do all kinds of things together (other than sex)?Do you share many other interests?Do you feel that he is your best friend?Do you both always feel comfortable together?Does he kiss you hello and goodbye?Do you hold hands quite often?Do you walk slowly together, hand in hand?Does he tell you he loves you fairly often?If yes to many or most, you two may be falling in love. It takes a good while for love to really grow. Meanwhile, a lot of sex early in a growing relationship is quite normal and healthy. With good luck and hard work, it will hopefully continue.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 HiNothing wrong with good communication.I wouldn't know how you figure out if its ONLY sex that keeps you together or love. Um, i guess only if you abstain for a while. Dont know if theres any point in that though?Its normal to be at it like rabbits the first yr or so.C xxxxx
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (1 April 2008):
 You could love each other and just have very high sex drives. It's really quite impossible to tell as you haven't provided very much information. It could, of course, just be about sex. See if you can have a day without talking about sec or having sex at all. See if you can talk about your feelings for each other or something. If he says he finds you sexy or good in bed or something then I think it is just about the sex. Just have a day to you two and your feelings for each other.Wishing you the best.xx
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