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| Latest articles: Cyber-Sex - Cheating Or Not?
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12 June 2008: This has been on my mind after someone mentioned to me that she had cyber-sex with someone who wasn't her boyfriend without her boyfriend knowing about it. We've all seen or heard about someone (maybe even yourself) participating in cyber-sex, ri...
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I think my body is unattractive and it's holding me back from sex.
Q. I find my body very un-attractive i am an english size 12-14 a 36C bust size. I have a boyfriend and am afraid to further the relationship into a sexual one because my body holds me back, please can someone help me?...
A. 4 January 2009: A 12-14 is a gorgeous size. It's so much nicer to look at than the size 6 people you see walking around. And your bust size is slightly above average, too, so don't worry about it. Your boyfriend is with you for a reason - he must love you and your ... (read in full...)
Questions about pubic hair....
Q. How do women prefer their man's pubic hair?Completely shaved/Trimmed/Etc? Also why do men like a woman's pubic hair completely shaved? I haven't seen a Vagina or a girl naked in person,but I know I'd prefer for her to have some form of hair oth...
A. 4 January 2009: Okay, all women like different things so you can't really ask... Personally, I don't really mind what the male is. It's not even something I really notice that much...
And it's completely normal for a guy to like their women to have hair. It shows... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and really want a baby, I'm just nervous about the pregnancy part.
Q. Hey, im 14 and my boyfriend is 15. We both are really ready for a baby and actually have been wanting one ever since summer of 2008. I know for fact i am ready for the taking care part of it, but not so sure about the pregnancy part. I love kids and ...
A. 4 January 2009: Well if she's already made up her mind on it there's nothing any of us could do...
But she must know that if she does have this baby the father could get in serious trouble and such... At 14 it is too hard but it's not completely impossib... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and really want a baby, I'm just nervous about the pregnancy part.
Q. Hey, im 14 and my boyfriend is 15. We both are really ready for a baby and actually have been wanting one ever since summer of 2008. I know for fact i am ready for the taking care part of it, but not so sure about the pregnancy part. I love kids and ...
A. 3 January 2009: I didn't say she should have it. If you looked closely I actually said "Although I do think you need a few more years life experience. You do need to live your life a little - enjoy the young years while you can. Being a teenager isn't easy, despite ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and really want a baby, I'm just nervous about the pregnancy part.
Q. Hey, im 14 and my boyfriend is 15. We both are really ready for a baby and actually have been wanting one ever since summer of 2008. I know for fact i am ready for the taking care part of it, but not so sure about the pregnancy part. I love kids and ...
A. 2 January 2009: Firstly, I would like to say I do agree with the other agony aunts with you are too young. I wouldn't think about having a child, but I know I want one years down the line; however, I would like to say that I am appalled at how cruel some people ... (read in full...)
Sould I continue a relationship that is illigal and my parents wouldn't like?
Q. Im 15 and a freshmen and my boyfriend is 18 and a sinor, and illegal for me. We arent going out really cuz we are school only has a student body of 600 students the which 30 no my parents, and im not allowed to go out with anyone cuz of church so ...
A. 30 December 2008: Technically, the relationship isn't illegal at all. Just sex would be illegal - you can be in a relationship with someone of whatever age you want and it wouldn't be illegal - however, if you're having doubts I wouldn't go over to his house. If you ... (read in full...)
Should I shave in preparation for sex?
Q. So, me and my boyfriend are wanting to have sex sometime soon but I don't know if I should shave down there or not. Should I ask him or is it weird to ask your boyfriend something like that? Or do most guys like it shaved or just trimmed? Or leave ...
A. 29 December 2008: Ask him. The only thing you can really do. If you two are ready to commit to each other in that way you should be able to talk about anything. I'm sure he won't freak out and will be more than happy that you're taking his personal views into ... (read in full...)
My 17 year old boyfriend wants to have sex...I'm afraid!
Q. hi,i'm 14 years old and my boyfriend is 17 he's always asking me if we could have sex but i'm afraid!! should i or not at this age?...
A. 29 December 2008: Okay, I'm fourteen and I've had sex. Personally, I believe that as long as you're completely ready for it and have NO doubts at all (which doesn't seem possible if you're asking), then go for it. But make sure he's not pressuring you into it and ... (read in full...)
What is your opinion on a 15 year old sleeping with a 17 year old?
Q. Hi DearCupid, I was wondering how you all feel about a fifteen year old being sexually active with a seventeen year old, just want your opinions. K, thank you (:...
A. 19 September 2008: I'd say it was perfectly fine as long as both members of the party are completely committed and know what they are doing. As long as it's because they both care for each other and not because of being too turned on or because he's pressuring her ... (read in full...)
I never told my boyfriend about the guy pinning me down making me do sexual things! I feel like I'm dying inside because of it.
Q. My heart is breaking into a million pieces, and its all my fault. i have been with my bf for over 4 yrs, and jus over a month ago i made the biggest mistake of my life. i cant eat, i cant sleep, i jus feel like dying. i work with the same company my ...
A. 23 August 2008: You must tell him. This wasn't you fault and you shouldn't feel guilty for it at all! Your boyfriend will understand and be sympathetic if he's as nice as you make him out to be. I'm sure he'll sit there and hug you while you cry. He'll be your ... (read in full...)
I have this urge to sleep with another guy to show my boyfriend how much it hurts to not be the only person in his life!
Q. My boyfriend "hung out" with two other women when we had started going out. I had told him how much I didn't like him being alone with another woman but he didn't listen. So I have this strange earge to go and sleep with another guy just to make him ...
A. 21 August 2008: It all depends what you mean by "hung out" if, for instance, he slept with these women then he's not worth your time even trying to get back at him. He's obviously heartless enough.
However, if he only did hang out with them and have female f... (read in full...)
Am I too young to have sex? My bf really wants to and I do too.
Q. Okayy so we both really wanna have sex but we dont know if we should cause were both scared it'll hurt me and we dont kno if were to young. Please help... What should we do?:( ...
A. 21 August 2008: If you feel you are ready then go for it. Loads of people have sex at your age. As long as you are sure you won't regret it, it's the right person, you are ready and you're not pressured into it, why not? Just do whatever you feel ready to do.... (read in full...)
Am I too young to be in love?
Q. Hi, i am 12 and i think i may be in love with my boyfriend...am i too young? My friends all think i am. Someone please help!...
A. 20 August 2008: You can fall in love at any age. Just at younger ages it doesn't seem to last that long. Don't be discouraged by what your friends are saying. They're probably just jealous. No one knows your feelings better than you do, hun. You know if you love ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hit me, but now threatens to kill himself if I leave him. Help!
Q. My bf and I get on good normally bt when we argue.. WE ARGUE.. we shout scream evrything but today he punched me.. I was in complete hysterics and tried to leave but he locked me in and I eventually managed to leave when his mate came in. He phoned ...
A. 18 August 2008: If a man hits you, you must never go back to them. Trust me on that one, yeah? Seriously, you don't want a man who hurts you. Men must never hurt women at all, and the fact that he did shows he doesn't care about you as much as you thought he did. ... (read in full...)
How do you french kiss?
Q. I av no idea how 2 french kiss, nd i'm scared i'll bite my bf tongue if i do....can u give me some advice? Its urgently needed....
A. 18 August 2008: Okay, I know that this really isn't helpful at all, but it does come naturally. Trust me. As soon as you start, you'll know what to do. I only had my first kiss a few months ago and I was dead nervous, but I actually knew what I was doing and ... (read in full...)
I am 14, he is 18. Should I date him?
Q. dear cupid well im seein this guy ive known for a long time now and he is understanding and he would never pressure me to have sex he told me he wud wait for me when im ready but thats the thing im 14 and he iz 18 and he iz realy nice but i dont ...
A. 12 August 2008: Okay, age gaps are absolutely no problem at all, especially one as little as four years. As long as he doesn't pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do then there's no problem at all. Go for it and good luck!
Don't let anyone else tel... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend says she will take me back when the time is right. Is she genuine?
Q. My girlfriend and i recenntly broke up she says she still loves me as a boyfiend and that she will take me back when the time is right but she wants me to see other people and she doesnt want to see any other guys she tells me she loves me from time ...
A. 5 August 2008: It sounds to me like she wants to keep you around just in case her new relationships don't work out. I know it sounds horrible and cruel and you may hate me for it, but it's just what it sounds like to me. You cannot tell someone you love them, and ... (read in full...)
I need some advice about having sex for the first time.
Q. Can anyone tell me about their 'first time' at sex? I've been with my boyfriend 3 weeks so i'm not thinking about it soon, i just want to be prepared. I've 'dry humped' before and my last partner tried to finger me but i felt uncomfortable so...
A. 5 August 2008: If you'd like to know about my first time in a little more detail, then just message me. I'll also be happy to answer any questions, no matter how personal they are. I'm just a little uncomfortable typing them all out so anyone can see them.
Every... (read in full...)
How do I set up the right situation to get more intimate with a boy I like?
Q. Hi, basically i like this boy. I got off with him a couple of weeks ago at a party and we've been talking loads ever since. i'm meeting up with him soon -- i really want to go further (ie fingering handjob etc) and so does he. but i don't know how...
A. 28 July 2008: Okay, to start with I think that the age things are patronising and unneeded. Someone is asking for help, and they shouldn't be judging the person, but helping the problem.
On to the question in general, maybe just start going around each other's ... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend was forced to suck someone off before and since then she is not into for me how can I get her to do it?
Q. my girl was forced to do it once a few years ago but now when i ask or go down on her i get nothing back and its really frustrating i mean i wont break up with her because of it its just sometimes i wish she would just do it is there anything i can ...
A. 27 July 2008: Okay, I've actually had this very same problem so I know how it feels. I know that this is you're problem so I shouldn't be bringing myself up, so I'll move on from that. If you keep asking the girl to do it, she will get more and more afraid and ... (read in full...)
I'm ready but a little scared that he might not be "the one", should I give him my virginity or not?
Q. i was wondering.me and my b/f has been datin 4 7 mths and he dosnt rlly pressure me he has told me he wants to do it..im ready and i want to have sex with my b/f but im a lil scared tht he might not be the one should i give him my virginlatity or ...
A. 27 July 2008: If you feel you are ready to, then I think you should do it. You're not going to know whether he is "the one" or not until you either do it or until you realise he isn't. Either way, as long as you are ready it shouldn't matter whether he was or ... (read in full...)
I feel empty and sad because I broke up with my boyfriend. My friend told me to.
Q. I broke up with my b/f because my part-time friend told me to, but now i feel empty and sad, but i still want to be friends with my friend, and date him. What do i do???!...
A. 9 July 2008: You listened to a part-time friend over your own feelings, and she isn't even a full friend, yes? Obviously, this was a silly thing to do and you obviously regret it. Hopefully you'll have learnt your lesson and only listen to yourself instead of ... (read in full...)
I want a boyfriend and sex
Q. i am only 11 and i am single. wich im not happy about. also recently i have wanted sex loads. ihave been thinking that i will find a boyfriend, go to his house one day and he will ask me for sex with comdoms and i will say yes.... ..in my dreams...
A. 5 July 2008: Right then, this is an opposite argument for all of the comments. I am now 14 years old, and I have had those same feelings since I was about your age. I've only recently had a boyfriend who I feel I loved dearly, and I did give my virginity to him. ... (read in full...)
Cyber-Sex - Cheating Or Not?
Q. This has been on my mind after someone mentioned to me that she had cyber-sex with someone who wasn't her boyfriend without her boyfriend knowing about it. We've all seen or heard about someone (maybe even yourself) participating in cyber-sex, ri...
A. 19 June 2008: I agree with you all. Personally, I think it's wrong. If that wasn't obvious... Lol.
Wishing you the best.
xx... (read in full...)
Does it hurt to have sex the first time?
Q. I know you must get many of these questions, however, did it hurt the first time you had sex? How long will this go on for?...
A. 12 June 2008: It hurt for me, however it does not hurt for everyone. For some people it's odd, for others it's different, but for most it's painful. It will only hurt for a few minutes, however, but you may feel some discomfort or soreness afterwards for a while. ... (read in full...)
Couldn't control our feelings, she's 12, could she become pregnant?
Q. I am a 14 year old boy having sex with a 12 year old girl. We know that we did something wrong at this age but could not control our feelings. We are neighbours and it all started with a kiss. Then we started looking each others private parts. ...
A. 2 June 2008: Sorry, hun, but there is in fact a chance she is pregnant. It was a stupid thing to do without protection, as she really can get pregnant easily this way. I'm not going to yell at you about your ages, because this stuff happens. If you were both ... (read in full...)
PLEASEEEE I really need someone to talk to and someone to help me decide things!
Q. Hey aunts ! So its not like I have problems or anything, but I think I really need someone to talk to. It might make me feel better . But there are all these little problems I have, and I dont wanna write them all up here and post like 100 questi...
A. 31 May 2008: Well, I may only be 14, but you are perfectly welcome to contact me any time. I do have MSN and such, so you can IM me if you wish. I may not be your first choice due to my age, but I'm always here if you need me. ... (read in full...)
Me and my best friend both fancy the same guy!!
Q. Hi, I really fancy this guy , I mean I really do ... but my best friend fancies him too, I want to ask him out but I don't wanna ruin mine and her relationship. Please help!!! Thanks, Love becka....
A. 28 May 2008: I don't understand what's the big deal about the age thing... So what, it's young? You can have young relationships. Most children are having relationships much younger now. As long as it doesn't lead to sex, what's the big deal, right? Just have ... (read in full...)
She won't go out with me and chose my friend instead. How do I get over her?
Q. hey. there is this girl in my school who i really love. this isnt just some girl that i fancy. i think its love as i have felt this way about her for 3 years. anyway we tried to go out together but she only did it because she felt sorry for me. it ...
A. 24 April 2008: You should tell this person how you feel about them, and if she doesn't return your feelings, try and think of how she's happy. If you love her then you'll want her happy, no matter who or what it is that is making her happy. At least she's not sad. ... (read in full...)
What should I do? Can she even get pregnant from pre-ejaculate fludis from one sexual experience?
Q. I don't know if this really falls under the "love and relationship" category, but here goes: I was spending some time with a girl. We had sex once. Now, I am unable to use a condom. Everytime it goes on, I go down. I've tried different sizes,...
A. 20 April 2008: Yes, she can get pregnant from that. This is why the pull-out method isn't good and hardly ever works. The fluids can cause pregnancy, and the chances are there was a lot of it. It definitely sounds like it's your child. In fact, it's most likely ... (read in full...)
I think I'm a lesbian! Should I contact this girl?
Q. Hello everyone!, Ummm well this is kinda hard to say because im not sure if im right. I think I'm a lesbian. I have a boyfriend and I love him and stuff but sometimes when I see girls I feel physically attracted to them and yesterday I think I ...
A. 19 April 2008: It can't hurt to become friends with this girl, can it? As long as it doesn't develop into something more, you'll be fine. If you start out as friends, you may realise you're not a lesbian or you may realise you're not in love with her, plus you get ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but people say he's a hamster, so is he worth it?
Q. heyahh i love my boy friend so much but i get picked on and bullyed so bad that i have started self harming is it worth going out with my boyfriend? we went to the library today and 4 girls frm skwl came in and started having a go sayin i...
A. 19 April 2008: Uh... If you love your boyfriend STAY WITH HIM, no matter what. Of course it's worth going out with him. Just stand up to the bullies. Tell them to shut up and shove off. Trust me, it works. Or tell a member of staff at your school. I've been there, ... (read in full...)
Am I in danger of contracting a STI?
Q. i was having sex with my man and we didnt have protection on and he started to bleed we think he caught some thing but i am scared that with us not using protection i can get a infection of some kind and i just wanted to no could it be possible that ...
A. 19 April 2008: You can get STIs through blood, yes. I think you should both get checked out, just in case. If he's clean then you should be safe, but you really can get STIs through blood. Please get checked out.
Wishing you the best.
xxx... (read in full...)
I worry about HIV, could I have caught it in a moment of madness?
Q. Hi, This is probably a really stupid question but i'll ask none the less. A few years back I was really drunk and thought it was a brilliant idea to take off my shoes and go wading around in the city fountain in Leicester. I didn't get far and...
A. 18 April 2008: If there are no puncture wounds and such then there is no chance of you catching HIV. Don't worry. You should go and get it checked out by a doctor if it's itchy though, but I'm sure you don't have HIV. If you didn't feel anything and there are no ... (read in full...)
With my bf for about 6 months but I have always felt really nervous about initiating anything sexual,
Q. Hi, i actually posted this same querie before but it was edited so it was nothing at all to do with my problem so here it is again lol. I have been with my bf for about 6 months but i have always felt really nervous about initiating anything sexual, ...
A. 18 April 2008: Why don't you just try to initiate things? Think about how special it will make him feel that you want to kiss him and have sex with him and stuff. I'm sure he'd feel honoured. Surprising him with a kiss can never go wrong. The surprise ones are the ... (read in full...)
I would die if my crush ever found out I like him so I'm going to wait until he likes me! What do you think?
Q. ok well here is my problem..i have a crush on this guy and i told all my friends about it..as in 4 of my good friends..do u think i should have not told them or rather kept it a secret..i just got to know these people recently may be a few months i ...
A. 14 April 2008: Question, how are you going to know if he likes you? What if he feels the same as you and is waiting for you to like him back? If I were you, I'd tell him. If he laughs at you and you feel so bad you just want the floor to eat you alive, blame it on ... (read in full...)
Will I get pregnant if I keep having unprotected sex? He pulls out!
Q. Me and my BF had sex lots of times without using condom but always when he wants to pull the sperm out he takes his penis out of me, I'd like to know how safe is this from not getting pregnant? I've had sex lots of times with him this way, and I ...
A. 14 April 2008: Of course you can still get pregnant this way. The chances are SLIGHTlY less than just letting him ejaculate inside you, but there is sill a high chance you can get pregnant.
You can always use your hands instead of your mouth with oral. You coul... (read in full...)
I've never went out with girls before, only boys. She plans to kiss me in public, I dislike the idea and don't know what to do!
Q. hey everyone I just got a girlfriend yesterday . It's kinda weird for me because she is the only girl I have ever liked and gone out with. I would be nervous even if I was going out with a guy but since she's a girl it makes it that much more n...
A. 14 April 2008: Just tell her you're not ready to go public yet and tell her to wait until you're ready for it. If she respects you and your wishes like she should then she'll wait for you.
Wishing you the best.
xxx... (read in full...)
Isn't his love for me supposed to keep him away from other girls?!
Q. i broke up with my b/f and now he wants me back.i want him back too But he kissed another girl and if they wern't on the dance floor they'd probably have had sex. I didn't see them,he told me after i broke up with him and he explained that was the ...
A. 12 April 2008: He did this when you were together, yes? That is what it sounds like. What he did is classed as cheating. Yes his love for you IS supposed to keep him away from other girls. He's unfaithful to you. However, if he did it when you were not together ... (read in full...)
Am I right to say he just wanted sex?
Q. I am an Asian lady and dated a Caucasian guy for almost 2 months. He's the same age as me. I recently backed off from seeing him as I felt he didn't put in enough effort to make the relationship work or go further. It seems he's only interested in ...
A. 11 April 2008: I would have said that it didn't sound like it, but when you mentioned you had not communicated for a while, it made me think. It does sound like he was just after sex. Only because he hasn't communicated with you or tried to win you back in any ... (read in full...)
How can you tell is a guy is not a virgin?
Q. how would you know if the guys are already not virgin?...
A. 11 April 2008: There are no tell tale signs. Unlike women, they don't bleed the first time they have sex. There really is no way to tell except to ask and hope they tell you the answer you want to hear. If it is, hope it's the truth.
Wishing you the best.
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