I want to marry him but I am sick of him wanting to know everything about me! How should I deal with this?
Q. hey there friends.. i met a guy a month and half ago, but hes getting too far he want to know everything around me even they way my exes treated me, i told him i am not comfortable with it but he says its nothing big.. if my phone goes off he ...
A. 12 May 2010: I personally don't think you should marry him. At least not yet. You've only been with him for 1.5 months - that's nothing.
Although, he doesn't sound like he'd be a very nice spouse; he sounds too controlling, and if that's something you're n... (read in full...)
I want to break my hymen so sex won't hurt so much!
Q. Don't get me wrong. I respect myself and I don't really want to have sex, yet anyway. But I used to want to, I've matured since then and have realised it'd be better to wait, but when me and my ex boyfriend did try, he only got it in about an inch ...
A. 9 May 2010: If you're going to use an inanimate object to break your hymen, at least make sure it's clean. Preferably use something... more phallic than an impulse body spray can. I would suggest a vibrator or dildo, but you seem too young to be able to ... (read in full...)
I am feeling very unattractive at the moment
Q. I was just wondering about what some of the biggest turn ons and turn offs for single girls are? I'm just not feeling very attractive at the moment! So i want to do something about it. I dont mean to change who i am, i just want to change the way i ...
A. 8 May 2010: I'm a single lady :)
For me, good hygiene, motivation / ambition to do something in life, being well dressed (and I don't mean dressed up all fancy schmancy like, I mean just wearing nice, clean clothes - not stained sweatpants, for instance... (read in full...)
She wants to leave the relationship but hasn't done a thing to make things better
Q. What am I to do with my girlfriend? I'm sorry but I hardly ask for advice. But me and my girlfriend have been fighting constantly for a while now. She says she wants to leave but the funny thing is that she hasn't lifted a finger to save our rela...
A. 6 May 2010: Well, it's obvious she doesn't care about the relationship, so that's obviously why she hasn't "lifted a finger" to save it. She doesn't want to save it.
Just let her go, you deserve better than someone who doesn't give a crap. ... (read in full...)
He's been told that checking out other women is hurtful but he still does it
Q. Why do married men say there not checking out other women while there with there wife, and she the wife see's it and says it hurts her. But he says its not true. And then when she says something about it he makes her feel bad for saying anything...
A. 3 May 2010: Everyone checks out other people, regardless of the fact they're in a relationship (men and women alike).
They say they aren't looking because they don't want to hurt their partner's feelings, but cut them some slack. They're only human, they hav... (read in full...)
Girls and their "playtime"
Q. How often do girls maturbate? How do they do it? Do they look at porn while they do it? Or just think about it?...
A. 3 May 2010: It depends on the girl. Everyone has their own way of doing it, and different things that work for them.
This goes for everything - some girls masturbate several times a day, some several times a week, some only once in a while. And some may look... (read in full...)
To take risks with finding a girlfriend, or not to take risks?
Q. *OP's own title* I happen to know someone who blames other people that he can't get a girlfriend. He whines that he wishes he'd never been born. He lost his virginity to a prostitute. He says he is a good guy and that he can't understand why the ...
A. 2 May 2010: Definitely take risks.
Taking risks and getting rejected can lead to short term humiliation / embarrassment / feeling down about oneself, but the key is it's only short term - you'll get over it.
It's better to risk being rejected than no... (read in full...)
A questions for all the guys out there: Girl A, Girl B, or Girl C?
Q. My question is not because I would ever change myself. I just want to hear what guys actually and truly think. I'm going to name three stereotypical girls. (Only sort of stereotypical, mainly just three different personalities). Tell me which you ...
A. 28 April 2010: Pfft, out of these three girls I am most like A, maybe with a little of B in me. Girl C sounds quite boring, if I do say so myself. But then, I'm not religious in the slightest and keeping my virginity until marriage was never a goal of mine.
... (read in full...)
Problems galore--B/f has no job, obsessed with playstation and porn!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for nearly ayear and a half, I live at his house at the moment as he likes me to be here and i love bieng with him!! I and would like to have our personal space in a flat. I am finding it very claustraphobic living ...
A. 28 April 2010: I disagree with everyone saying "he can't change". That's complete crap.
So he doesn't have a job? He can get one.
He spends all day on the Playstation? He needs a variation of hobbies. Playing the Playstation is fine, but he needs to know th... (read in full...)
How important is it that a man is fit and attractive?
Q. Ladies do you think its important for a man to be physically attractive in a relationship (marriage for an example)? I know there are other more important factors, but don't you think its a least important for the man to be physically fit a...
A. 26 April 2010: Personally, a man I'm in a relationship needs to be very attractive... to me. He doesn't need to be the hottest man in the world, but if I'm not attracted to him then what's the point in me being with him?
So, looks are important. Also, I'd pref... (read in full...)
I have my first session with a counsellor coming up, any advice on how to go about it?
Q. Hi Ive posted before about a problem ive had about visiting prostitutes and feeling lonely. ive now decided this is a sexual addiction I have and want to see a counselor. Im going for the first session on Saturday with a relate counselor and wa...
A. 21 April 2010: If they are a good therapist they will not be harsh about it. Counselors / therapists / psychologists etc. are supposed to remain professional and objective when assessing and consulting with a patient. Good ones are also sympathetic and ... (read in full...)
Do girls care about circumcision?
Q. I m uncircumcised I don't know if it's going to be a problem ,i got pretty good size 9 inch and i can pull my forskin back pretty long way and it's not causing me any issues in bed ,and all women have a great pleasure during sex. Since now no women ...
A. 21 April 2010: There's nothing wrong with uncircumcised penises at all.
I don't think you should get circumcised, I think your girlfriend should get over it. I've heard it's mainly an American thing... you shouldn't feel pressured to. It's kind of unnatura... (read in full...)
Is eight guys too many?
Q. this is kind of stupid to ask but i just want to know people's opinion (go easy please :P) i am 18 and over the last 2 years i have had sex with 8 guys. is that too many? does that make me a slut? only 3 of the guys was i in any sort of relationship ...
A. 21 April 2010: No, it isn't "too much" and I definitely don't think it's slutty.
How many people you choose to sleep with is up to you. Anyone who looks down on you for it is just insecure about sexuality (that's what it seems to me), and having sex with sev... (read in full...)
Why is she so upset?
Q. My girlfriend is upset with me because we both just found out that i gave her chlamydia. I didn't know that I had it. I know this will sound strange but I dont understand her being so upset about it. Now before you call me a dumba** let me explain ...
A. 19 April 2010: Technically she does have a right to be upset, she caught *another* STD. Anyone probably would be upset regardless of circumstances.
I think you just need to explain to her what you feel and talk to her about it.
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Would he approve of my dress sense?
Q. I'm in a relationship w/ my bf for a year now. Do you think it's okay for a girl to wear whatever she wants to in a relationship? I know the basics that a girl shouldn't dress all slutty without the bf around, or even at all; BUT I feel like I can't ...
A. 19 April 2010: It's your body, wear what you like.
I don't know where you get the notion that girls aren't supposed to wear certain types of clothing just because they have boyfriends. To me, that's a little absurd.
Forget going by silly rules like "I sh... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'm going to lose the baby! The doctor said 'no sex' for one month, but my husband went ahead anyway...
Q. Last week(8th april) only I came to know that I'm pregnant. Since I didn't get my period on time(3rd april), I went to see doctor. Doctor did pregnancy test and confirmed that I'm pregnant. Doctor advised us not to have sex for next one month. But ...
A. 15 April 2010: Having sex with someone while they are asleep and unaware is actually a form of rape - even if he's your husband.
He may care about you, but what he did is actually... weird and not something a partner should be doing. If he wants to have sex, you... (read in full...)
Is it natural to feel bad after rejecting someone?
Q. Well, I was just wondering. How many people out there after telling their exes to get lost are only happy for a while but the not for long? Believe me, I know my ex isn't good for me. I know there's no way to avoid him but to politely tell hi...
A. 15 April 2010: Why would you want to let something back into your life that wasn't good for you?
I guess it can be natural to feel a little guilty after you tell someone to get lost, no matter who they are, but you need to be realistic and not cave into your min... (read in full...)
Is there a correlation between gender and sex drive?
Q. I am curious. I have a pretty good sex life, but I think my sex drive is a little higher than that of my boyfriend. Don't get me wrong, it doesn't bother me, because I am getting enough to keep me satisfied and I know we both love each other to ...
A. 8 April 2010: Biologically, men generally have higher sex drives because they generally have higher levels of testosterone, which is the hormone responsible for sex drive.
However, some women can have high testosterone, and some men can have low testoste... (read in full...)
I think he really likes me
Q. Help! I think a guy likes me. Whenever we are at lunch he will always sit next to me and start blurting into my conversation. When I am in class kids say that hes staring at me. Im not very popular and I dont see why he would like me. He seems alot ...
A. 8 April 2010: Yeah, he probably likes you. But I don't think he's a stalker. Feel free to brand him a stalker when he starts following you home and popping up in random places you happen to go. But for now just enjoy the fact that you probably have an admirer. If ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to let the guy do most of the work?
Q. This might be a strange question. I'm wondering if it's ok to let the guy do most of the work when you're in a relationship...setting up dates, calling you, etc. I've been with my BF for about 7 months. In the beginning I felt that the asking ...
A. 8 April 2010: No one should "run" the relationship. It's not a business that needs to be run and owned by someone. Of course you can initiate things. Dates, catch ups, sex, whatever. It takes two to make a relationship work, it's not just up to one person to... (read in full...)
I'm addicted to a brutal type of pornography drawings. How will my girlfriend react?
Q. If I have an addiction to pornography involving drawings of young girls being killed, then...when should I tell my girlfriend, and what response might she have? ...
A. 8 April 2010: In answer to your follow up -
Well, who knows? Define evil.
Do you harm others? Do you have a desire to inflict harm on young girls? Do you think this fetish could get out of control and make you do something evil or stupid?
Most people hav... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much of him?
Q. I am 31 years old and have been married for almost 4 years. We have sex almost every month. I don't want to sound like a pervert but i started masturbating when my husband is not home which is most of the time since he's a truck driver. I know i ...
A. 8 April 2010: First of all, you're not a pervert for masturbating. Like 99 percent of people do it, and people who say they don't do it are probably lying.
Secondly, asking for sexual attention from your spouse is not asking too much. Definitely not. I unders... (read in full...)
I'm addicted to a brutal type of pornography drawings. How will my girlfriend react?
Q. If I have an addiction to pornography involving drawings of young girls being killed, then...when should I tell my girlfriend, and what response might she have? ...
A. 8 April 2010: I'm all for couples sharing fetishes and fantasies in their sex life, but some fetishes and fantasies people just do not warm to. Most people, men and women, would probably harshly judge a person with such a fetish.
If I were your girlfrie... (read in full...)
Since I cheated on her, she won't say that she loves me! What can I do?
Q. ok so i feel horrible for this but i cheated on my gf but she said she loved me enough that she would give me another chance but she wants me to still say 'i love you' to her but she wont say it back for a while until she fully trusts me again. I ...
A. 8 April 2010: You need to give her time. People don't just bounce back from being cheated on if they love the person that cheated. I would suggest to just accept that for now she isn't verbally expressing her love for you.
But, that also doesn't mean she does... (read in full...)
Guilt about masturbation!
Q. When I was 12, I didn't know anything about sex. Not a single thing about it. After I hit 13, I hit the point where my eyes finally awoke. It was around that time that two guys, two grades higher then me, asked me if I had ever masturbated before. ...
A. 7 April 2010: I'm confused - you hate masturbation, but you feel if you don't do it then you'll perve on girls in public? I'm not quite sure if that's what you're trying to say, but that's the gist I got.
If you don't like masturbation then don't do it. Simp... (read in full...)
What do girls think when hugging a friend and feeling he has an erection?
Q. Hey all just wanted to ask a question. I have a cute and really hot female friend, we talk, go out as friends and stuff like that. but every time i hug her, first of - the hug is quit long, second i get an erection. I'm a really NICE GUY, not the ...
A. 7 April 2010: The reason why you probably get a boner when hugging her is because you like the closeness. It doesn't have to mean you want to have sex with her.
If I'm hugging a male family member, I wouldn't *really* like to feel his boner graze up against ... (read in full...)
I'm Christian but I want to have sex.
Q. Hi. I'm 17 years old and im horny a lot. I masturbate once a day right before i go to bed. sometimes twice a day. I have never kissed a girl, gone out with a girl or had sex. :(...I am a Christian so i want to keep my purity until marriage but i ...
A. 4 April 2010: What you're feeling is normal.
I personally find no sex before marriage very suppressing and abnormal - in fact, I'm not a big fan of marriage full stop. I fully believe people should have sex whenever they feel, not go by rules (like no sex befo... (read in full...)
I feel like I married a pimp!
Q. Before my husband and i were married we were out one evening drinking and i picked up a woman mostly to please my husband. We ended going back to her hotel and even as drunk as I was I was very uncomfortable when I saw him touching her and I ran ...
A. 2 April 2010: Find a job, get out of this relationship.
Seriously. Read your post. How many times do you mention "hate"? Do your see yourself writing "I am unhappy"?
If you don't have any money, get a job. If you want a family, get away from this man an... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is gross, do you think he wants someone else?
Q. My boyfriend does stupid things and i think he is showing off for me. But the things that he does are pretty stupid like he fights a lot. He talks about naked women and boobs and that stuff. Do you think he wants someone else?...
A. 2 April 2010: He's a teenager. Teenagers are notorious for doing silly things and talking about sex, boobs, naked people and the like. A lot of teenagers are also immature. This is what he sounds like - a typical teenager.
I don't think fighting is necessar... (read in full...)
I worry what the meaning of marriage is for the new generation.
Q. I am only 17 but I worry what the meaning of marriage is for the new generation. I have seen married couples into this new trend with the threesome. Correct me if iam wrong i thought when you marry its only to one person not sharing your mate. what ...
A. 23 March 2010: I don't see why other people's marriages are anyone else's business.
If someone wants to have a threesome in their marriage, then that's their choice and they're allowed to make it.
It shouldn't worry anyone.
I personally don't even li... (read in full...)
Is society right in thinking masturbation in mainly a male activity?
Q. Heyy everyone, this is just a general wondering, mainly to our female readers... How often do you masturbate in a week? I was talking to my boyfriend the other night, and I said on top of the sex we have, I probably masturbate about 5 times a week.....
A. 23 March 2010: I have quite a high sex drive, and the amount I do it every day varies. The other day I did it about 4 times. However, the average for me would be about once or twice a day.
I think women do it more, generally, then a lot of men realise.
... (read in full...)
Was this just an excuse to not go out with me?
Q. Ok so i've liked this girl for a while and id talk to her as often as i could. Finally i told her i liked her and she said she kind of figured but then wouldnt tell me how she felt (i didnt want to push it just kinda let the ball lie in her court) ...
A. 22 March 2010: I don't know if it was an excuse. She could have said that because she may have mixed feelings about you - like she doesn't know if she wants to go out with you or not.
Sometimes people will also say something like that if they're not interest... (read in full...)
Although I am not a virgin I would prefer to wait before having sex with my new boyfriend
Q. Hi, I have a question for the guys mainly, but any feedback at all would be appreciated. This question is a bit long, sorry. See, I've been dating this great guy for a few weeks. We've known each other a couple of months through a mutual friend but ...
A. 21 March 2010: The best thing to do would be honest about it. You wouldn't want him lying to you about how he feels, would you? I know I wouldn't. Nothing can be gained from you lying about it. Sure, hypothetically let's say you tell him your stance on the whole ... (read in full...)
Although I don't want a serious relationship, I want to go further than second base
Q. I'm a senior in college and went through a messy breakup about two months ago. Since then I've decided that I don't want a serious relationship with anyone for a while and I would rather try dating casually. I met this girl while helping ou...
A. 21 March 2010: Perhaps discuss sex with her and see how she feels about it? It's much better than just reaching for her zipper and assuming she wants to have sex with you. And if you wait without saying anything, you'll kind of be in limbo because you won't know ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't believe it didnt go past sexting
Q. I made a mistake about 6 - 8 months ago. I started sexting (sexual texting) a younger woman. I have been married for 12 years and have two beautiful boys. Over time though, it seems as if that spark that we had during the first couple years has ...
A. 21 March 2010: You need to accept that it won't go back to the way it was - not yet, anyway. Because in her mind, you cheated. Perhaps not physically - but emotionally.
It really depends on the couple. You can't put a date on when it's all going to go back to ... (read in full...)
We sleep in the same bed, but I want to ask her for sex
Q. Ok guys and girls i really need some help here, i have this female friend, we've been friends for a few years now and through this time we have both had relashionships with others, now we are both single, we kiss, we go on overnight getaways ...
A. 21 March 2010: Ask her where the relationship is heading. Are you just friends with benefits, or do you want to be a couple?
You should be able to talk to her about it, considering you do couple-y things like kiss, share a bed and go on overnight getaways... (read in full...)
I am 14, my boyfriend cheats, should I stick with him?
Q. erm, you might not think its much, but I don't know how to react. me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months, and a couple of months ago he got off with this girl a couple of times and we nearly split up. I stayed with him but it took age...
A. 21 March 2010: Why would you want to be with someone who;
a) you can't trust
b) cheated on you twice
c) lies - he obviously told you he wouldn't do it again, cheaters always say that to get their partner back
You have to ask yourself why you're with him. I'd... (read in full...)
Waiting for the phone to ring...
Q. well i started talking to this guy 5 days back.. he said he likes me but we are gonna think about dating after we are done with our exams.i actually got too excited and started pressuring him with some questions about dating he got pissed yesterday ...
A. 20 March 2010: Just have some patience and wait. If he's really into you, he'll call you or contact you in some way. He said he needs time, so give him time. ... (read in full...)
Is it more of a health factor or is there a limit on being slim?
Q. Is it possible to be too skinny? Could it be a turn off? With being thin I am really flexible. Also, even if I feel fat I do not talk about it all the time and let my husband look at me. I just understand, because everyone always says, “You can ...
A. 18 March 2010: Being underweight and "too thin" is definitely a health risk. In fact, it's healthier to be a little overweight than it is to be underweight.
Skinny men are a turn off for me. I don't know what it's like from anyone else's point of view. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has had a lot of partners and one night stands
Q. Hi Ive been with my Girlfriend over a year now, things are good between us and i love her lots. But im struggling to deal with her past sexually. I know from chatting that at 41 shes had 'about' 27 partners, maybee half a dozen of them bein...
A. 18 March 2010: I'm more worried by the fact that you think she's 'easy' since she's had more partners than you. So, she's 41 and she's had 27 partners. When did she start having sex? For argument's sake let's say she's been having sex between the ages of 17-21 ... (read in full...)
After how many dates is it ok to have sex?
Q. So I met this guy (We'll call him Mike) in September. It took us a while to finally get together, but in January we went on our first date. In February, Mike and I went on two dates (the second of which, we kissed for the first time and ultimately ...
A. 17 March 2010: There are no set rules for this.
Sex should happen naturally, when you both feel it's right. If the 5th date feels right, then do it.
But don't make the date JUST to have sex. See how it goes at the end of the date. And don't talk about it to... (read in full...)
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