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writes:Well, I was just wondering. How many people out there after telling their exes to get lost are only happy for a while but the not for long?Believe me, I know my ex isn't good for me. I know there's no way to avoid him but to politely tell him to stop bothering me. Well, it was a relief for several days. Yet now, the relief I feel starts to diminish and suddenly I feel like I shouldn't have told him to stay away. What if I just reduce my responses to him bit by bit until he notices that I have moved on?I feel terrible, is this normal? I don't want him back, that's for sure. But I don't want him to receive the rejection like that. Yes, he has hurt me before but it's nothing to me now.Am I just too nice or is this just natural? How do I handle this? I feel really really terrible. HELP!
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reader, veronika  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 Why would you want to let something back into your life that wasn't good for you?
I guess it can be natural to feel a little guilty after you tell someone to get lost, no matter who they are, but you need to be realistic and not cave into your mind telling you take him back. Logically, you know he wasn't good for you but emotionally, you want him back. Listen to your logic on this one. If he hurt you or he wasn't right for you, move on.
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 very interesting, well it sounds like your a very caring and sensitive person, I guess its possible to feel bad if you say something hurtful to some one you should feel bad if you have a heart. The thing is in your situation you really need to let this guy know you have moved on, Im not saying you ahve to be mean but just let him know you cant have any kind of relation ship with him hes bad for you. dotn talk to him dont answer the phone etc hes gotta get it through his head you are through. so stop feeling bad for the guy he had his chance you need to move on.
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