Should I be concerned about this discharge?
Q. I started on the birth control patch a few weeks ago. I was suppose to have my period January 17-ish, but I started a week before my period was suppose to come, so I didn't get it until this week. So I didn't have my period at all in January. Toda...
A. 3 February 2010: I can't say for sure what it is, but I would suggest going to a doctor if you're concerned. It's better to be safe than sorry when it comes to your body.
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He wants dirty talk but I just can't do it!
Q. alright. i have been having an affair with a friend of mine for a while now and we started off as friends only then grew into having benefits.. now there are stronger feelings there!.. but anyways.. i am not vocal during sex. i find it degrading ...
A. 3 February 2010: You need to let go of your view about dirty talk being embarrassing and degrading for you to wholly embrace it.
Do you think dirty talk in your head? Like fantasize about talking dirty, but just not act it out?
Maybe get your partner to do so... (read in full...)
MY bf of 8 years just up and left to another country without telling me.
Q. I have been in a relationship for 8 years. I've done everything for him. He left in the beginning of January to his sister in another country, without even notifying me. I heard it through the grape vine. He hasnt contacted me up to now. I've...
A. 3 February 2010: I know you probably care about him but honestly? He doesn't sound like much of a catch.
I think in the long run this will be a good thing, because if he's an alcoholic who doesn't like working and blames everyone else for his problems, I doubt he... (read in full...)
I told an engaged friend how I feel about her and now she does not want to talk to me.
Q. Friend of 2 and half years now, she moved to CA for pursuing PhD with her Boyfriend (Both American, they’ve been dating for 3 years before moving to CA). She became my close friend. I’ve been nice, kind and caring to her, always been there to ...
A. 3 February 2010: It sounds like she was using you. She might have cared for you as a friend, but she probably was just pretending to like you so her boyfriend would propose.
Honestly, she sounds like a bitch.
I only say that because I cannot see what you hav... (read in full...)
I became aggressive in trying to get him to like me and I tried sleeping with him but he could not perform
Q. I have liked this guy for over 15 years. We dated over the phone when I was in the 9th grade and he was in the 11th grade. We use to talk on the telephone about every thing we had the greatest conversations. After a while, this guy asked me to be ...
A. 3 February 2010: Coming off as desperate is not attractive to most people.
There are countless times I've just wanted to literally throw myself at a guy because I like him so much, but having some restraint definitely pays off. Why? Because when you're desperat... (read in full...)
Why does he make sexual comments to me if he doesn't want to have sex with me?
Q. I have a friend of about one year. At first there was a little romance and a little sex but that all cooled by his choice because 1) I have herpes and 2) I am menopausal and he wants children (he is 15 yrs younger than me). I can clearly see his ...
A. 3 February 2010: It sounds like he's just being silly. Which is not to say that it's appropriate - I just think you need to take it with a grain of salt.
There's a guy at my work who makes sexual comments and remarks to me, but I know he probably doesn't want to ... (read in full...)
Tips On How To Hook Up Smoothly
Q. So there's a really popular,sexy,beautiful girl at my school who's shown an interest in me. She's been going to all of my basketball games, both at the home court and away. We've gone on study dates together and I've gone to her house to study, ...
A. 3 February 2010: If you want to hook up with her, avoiding her is probably the worst thing you can do!
You need to be comfortable around each other, so make time for her, put your arm around her if you're sitting next to each other or something, stroke her hair... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 16 months continuously sends friend requests to models, adult film stars, etc. Should I be worried?
Q. Does anyone have any insight or advice about this: my boyfriend of 16 months continuously sends friend requests to models, adult film stars, etc. He doesn't know these women personally. I am a little concerned, and wonder if I should be worried ...
A. 3 February 2010: Friend requests over myspace or facebook etc?
Personally, I wouldn't worry *too* much. If they're famous models or adult stars, they likely get a lot of requests daily from fans. I used to send friend requests to bands or actors I liked when I w... (read in full...)
How can I tell my wife I want to wear female clothing?
Q. (Mod note - post re-worded for clarity) How can I tell my wife I want to wear female clothing? ...
A. 3 February 2010: Do you think she would be understanding about it?
Tell her that there's something important you need to discuss with her, but tell her that it's best if she goes into the discussion open minded. This will probably have her confused, but assure h... (read in full...)
Should I confront my bf's female text buddy over flirty messages?
Q. I have founds some texts on my bfs phone and to cut a long storey short from a female he apears to have met online or through a friend (as she doesnt know how he looks), although the conversation is flirty its not sex-chat, and its unclear weather ...
A. 3 February 2010: Don't talk to the other woman, talk to your boyfriend. Sit down with him and have a chat, but don't be accusatory because - as you implied - you don't know fully what's going on.
Just ask what's up with all the random text messages to this gir... (read in full...)
We arranged to meet Sat night and I have not heard from since.
Q. i am so confused. i was txting wat i thought was an honest decent man for th last six months. he would txt me ever spre moment he had every morning day and nite without fail. i felt something forhim and was re he felt it too. he coudnt wait to meet ...
A. 3 February 2010: If you've already deleted his phone number, then it seems you've already made up your mind.
If he can't make the effort early on, he won't make the effort later in the relationship. Just let it go. ... (read in full...)
I waited 3 months for a dinner reservation in a top restaurant and my bf has just cancelled out. Is it ok to take another man to not miss out on the dining experience?
Q. A while back I booked a table at the supposedly best restaurant in the UK and it took me 3 months and a cancellation to get in. My b/f has known about it for weeks and how excited I am about it. Today he texts me to say that the mother of his child ...
A. 3 February 2010: Avoid taking another male, as your partner might jump to conclusions and think you're having an affair or something.
I'd stick with taking a female friend, or a member of your family.
That way you still get the dinner experience, but ... (read in full...)
Helping Your Woman Unleash Her Inner Freak
Q. Lila here~ One of the biggest complaints I get from women (and men) in long term relationships is that the sex has become either stale or non-existent. There are lots of reasons for this: busy lives, children, work related travel, and the fact that ...
A. 3 February 2010: Why is it just the woman who needs to unleash her "inner freak"? I have to say, most of the guys I've dated have been mainly conservative in the bedroom!
I don't know whether it's just because they were older than me, or what, but sometime... (read in full...)
I don't know how to have an orgasm.
Q. How can i cum or orgasm when i masterbate without sticking my finger / anything else in my vagina ?...
A. 3 February 2010: Stimulate your clitoris while thinking about something that turns you on.
Stimulating the clit is one of the main ways girls and women orgasm, because they're easier to achieve than vaginal orgasms.
If you're unsure where your clitoris is, che... (read in full...)
Not wanting a relationship or sex
Q. I have a problem of sorts. I am normal by all accounts, but sometimes I wish never to be in a relationship and never to marry or father children. Sometimes I see myself down the future when I am old, without a wife or children. Of course I like to ...
A. 3 February 2010: One could say I'm similar. I'm 21, and although I've had boyfriends, I can't see myself getting married or growing old with someone. It's mainly because I'm focussed on the present right now, and whatever happens in the future will happen...
I als... (read in full...)
What do you think my chances are of being pregnant?
Q. Ok so me and my bf had sex 2 days after my period twice and both times he went in me, then two weeks later he did again I should start my period in a week so what do you think my chances are of being prego? =)...
A. 2 February 2010: If you didn't use birth control, then the chances could be fair. Technically a woman can get pregnant at any stage in her cycle, and if you've had unprotected sex twice at different stages, there is a fair chance.
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When wuold it be best to try and have sex? Before her period?
Q. me and my gf will be attempting to have sex for the first time, for both, soon. before she said that she only got her period about 4 times a year, but recently she started getting it every month, and she did around this week. i wanted to know, when ...
A. 2 February 2010: There is no real set best time to have sex. It's only when you feel like you want to have sex, as a couple. If you're both wanting to, then it shouldn't matter if it's before her period or after her period.
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Once I was accused of rape and it proved to be a lie! I am afraid it can happen again.
Q. I just need some reassurance because i am worrying really. When i was 11 in school, we went on a week long residential trip to wales, half way through the week, a person i thought was a friend, she was also 11 accused me of raping her. it got found ...
A. 31 January 2010: In my opinion, the chances of you being accused of raping someone again when you haven't is quite low. If you haven't done anything wrong, you don't really have anything to fear. Rape is very hard to prove anyway, and usually it ends up being a ... (read in full...)
Why is she talking about how hot her body is after I creeped her out?
Q. I was really hung up on a good friend of mine. I told her I liked her and she said she liked me too but no thanks. Later I got really drunk and sent her an email about how much I liked parts of her body and how seeing her for a couple of minutes ...
A. 31 January 2010: People love to be desired, even if they don't desire the person who desires them. Some people just like the attention. You probably gave her a confidence boost when you sent her the email about liking different parts of her body, and to save face ... (read in full...)
How do I get through to him that while he might find it attractive I find shaving my pubic area sleazy and gross and uncomfortable?
Q. My husband keeps asking me (repeatedly) to shave (or at least severely trim) my pubic area. I prefer to just shave the sides to keep everything inside the underwear. If it was up to me (i.e. no embarrassing moments at the pool) I would stop shaving ...
A. 30 January 2010: If I were you I'd tell him to stop being an immature jerk. He's the one being "bitchy", because he gets in a huff when you tell him "no". And you're allowed to say "no", it's your body.
Tell him you don't like being bullied into doing somethin... (read in full...)
I think there is a huge problem of woman simply spreading there legs and thinking that is all that is required of them.
Q. For the first 10 years of marriage my wife hasn't been sexual at all. She new absolutly nothing at all about sex and could care less about learning anything new. Of course she couldn't have an orgasm. She did do her wifely duties and would spread ...
A. 30 January 2010: Just because your wife is crap in bed, it doesn't mean all women are like this or even think that way.
Some people are just more conservative when it comes to sex, and this could possibly stem from self esteem issues.
Personally in... (read in full...)
My wife is very childish when I scold her.
Q. My wife is 27 years old and I am 29.She's my sweetie and I do really care for her.But regarding few things i have some concern.I donno how can I help her to improve on those certain issues.I convince her.But nothing has worked yet. 1.She can't ma...
A. 29 January 2010: First of all, stop with the scolding. You scold a child, you don't scold your wife. If you treat her like a child, she will act like one - which is what has happened here.
I think she needs some counselling, she sounds depressed to me - people d... (read in full...)
We're 9 years apart and we're living together, but he's changed since I moved in!
Q. Hi...I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now...I met him through his brother and started a long distance relation ship. He lived in NY and me in FL..I decided to meet him after talking to him for 7 months..It was like love at first ...
A. 26 January 2010: Erm... "the girl is supposed to do the nagging"? You might want to think that through a bit more, it's kind of sexist and untrue.
Why don't you just go your separate ways? Why don't you move out? He's already acknowledged that you're "not rig... (read in full...)
How come everybody likes the same guy I like
Q. ever since i liked this guy everyone else wants to date him, why though?...
A. 25 January 2010: Perhaps he's just a really good catch? Or maybe since everyone else knows you like him, they want to see if they can snag him before you and make it a competition?
There are a myriad of reasons for why other people like the same guy you do, but ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get erect from hugging?
Q. Im 17 and have had a girl friend for about 2 months but she wont hug me without me asking and she wont kiss me. shes always sayin im cute and that she loves me. she recenly told me that shes had 4 boy freind and shes masterbate them after just ...
A. 25 January 2010: Ask her why she won't kiss you?
It seems strange that she's telling you about sexual experiences with her exes after "just a few weeks", but then won't even kiss you after two months. Perhaps she's trying to make you jealous? In which case, it... (read in full...)
10 min and he still hadn't cum.
Q. i had sex with a guy am dating and he was pretty big and he took soo long to c'um so i got soo tired am gave up..he wanted to go second round.. but i was soo weak that i was in the mood to go another round.. we got kissing he was tryna make me ...
A. 25 January 2010: He was behaving like that because he's an idiot.
10 minutes? Please, that's not even enough time for foreplay for me. If he was complaining that he wasn't coming after 10 minutes, then he needs a reality check - a lot of people take longer t... (read in full...)
She's getting closer to this other guy! How can I get her back?
Q. My ex-gf and I broke up January of last year after two years together. Since then, she's gotten a lot closer to her best friend... who's a guy. And I know he's all for it, too, because I know he's liked her since way before I came along. The dude ...
A. 24 January 2010: Er, hate to break it you - but, um, she's your EX-girlfriend. "EX" meaning that you're not going out anymore. You're entitled to still have feelings for and have the desire to want her back, but what you're NOT entitled to is *her*. She isn't... (read in full...)
Has anyone had to deal with stretch marks before?
Q. hey all anybody had to deal with stretch marks before? i have em everywhere of my body and they are ruining my life. i have em on my back, on the sides of my body, on my stomach, my breasts, inside my arms and legs. im too worried about these...
A. 24 January 2010: Stretch marks will never be rid from your body once you get them, but they can fade dramatically to the point where they're only noticeable in certain light. When I was 13 and 14 I got some horrible red stretch marks on my upper thighs, but now - ... (read in full...)
Should I confront her about trying to always make me jealous?
Q. Hello, I've been dating this girl for 4 months now but she constantly tries to make me jealous, and tries to get a reaction out of me. For the past 2 months, wherever we are she'll make a remark of some sort saying, "Oh, check out that guy over ...
A. 24 January 2010: If you're serious about the relationship, you should confront her over it. This type of behaviour she's displaying is insensitive. Sometimes people play the silly make-them-jealous game because they think it will make their partner more int... (read in full...)
Why the double standard with him?
Q. Ok the other day my bf and I were checking some sites on my pc. He jokingly wanted to see my web history. I refused but he said if I had nothing to hide then why fret? So I let him see it. He also checked my files. Of course he found nothing. Today ...
A. 24 January 2010: Call him out on his hypocrisy. If I were you, I'd tell him to his face that I think he's hiding something. This will probably make him defensive and deny it, but if he denies it just say something like, "Well, if you have nothing to hide, why can... (read in full...)
I've been having fantasies about kissing and hugging, is this normal for a guy?
Q. I'm a 21 year old guy and realized that lately I've been having fantasies about kissing and hugging a girl. I was wondering if this is normal, because I thought guys usually fantasize about intercourse and girls are more into hugging and touching. ...
A. 24 January 2010: It's normal. Unfortunately, you've just been socialised to believe that "men *should* fantasize about *this* and women *should* fantasize about *that*". That's all bull. Fantasizing about being affectionate is something most humans do, it's n... (read in full...)
Is it normal to stay in a relationship if the constant arguing makes you feel awful?
Q. I recently got out of a long term relationship because I was so fed up with how are arguments were destroying me on the inside. The resson I felt like I wanted to get out of this relationship, was because sometimes he would make me feel like shi...
A. 24 January 2010: Er, well... do you enjoy feeling like a dead soul? Do you enjoy him yelling at you and making you feel guilty for probably no reason at all? I doubt you do. I don't doubt, necessarily, that you two shouldn't be together because of arguments. I ... (read in full...)
Just thinking about him turns me on. Is this normal?
Q. there this guy that am getting to know.. and i swear when i think about him.. i get soo horny:(.. is like i just wanna be with him..like have him sexually:(..am always fantasising about him..am soo embarrassed:(.. am not a sl.utt or anything.. and ...
A. 23 January 2010: It's normal, thinking about someone sexually and getting horny is part of human sexuality. You shouldn't be embarrassed, and I don't see how thinking about him sexually could ruin anything between you?... (read in full...)
Can someone get pregnant without sexual intercourse?
Q. Hey, I'm pretty much messed up right now and way too worried. I'm still a virgin as I have not had sexual intercourse yet. However, the other day I was lying on bed with my boyfriend and we were playing around, we had our underwear on and...
A. 23 January 2010: It's very very unlikely you're pregnant. You didn't even mention any cum was on his hands. You would probably know if he came, you'd be able to feel it and see it.
The symptoms you experienced could possibly be part of a 'phantom pregnanc... (read in full...)
Dry and unable to orgasm. How can I fix it?
Q. dear sir/madam i was just wondering why im so dry when me and my sex partner have sex and why is so hard for me to cum. can somebody please give a suggestion wat i can do bout my situation....
A. 23 January 2010: Do you do foreplay?
Some women are just dryer than usual, that could probably be for a number of reasons. Perhaps discuss the dryness issue with a gynecologist or doctor?
In the meanwhile, you could try using lube when you have sex so you ... (read in full...)
Wife found out about texts to other woman, and I don't think our marriage can survive this!
Q. I hope someone can help. I got very close to a co-worker, especially texting and phone calls plus some meetings when we could make it. Nothing sexual happened although we both led each other on to believe we wanted it to and the texts etc got pretty ...
A. 19 January 2010: What you need to do is SHOW more than tell. Show her that you have remorse, cut off all contact with the other woman, and most of all you need to give her time.
What you had indeed sounded like an Emotional Affair, and for some that can hit just... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my boyfriend's daughter?
Q. my boyfriend is 50 and has two children a 14yr boy and 16yrgirl (he rarely sees his boy). my partner's been separated from their mother for 15 years (who is remarried and has another child)- the daughter has him wrapped round her little finger and ...
A. 18 January 2010: I would suggest it's probably got something to do with your age - 18 - 21. That's quite close to his daughter's age.
I'm not saying age gaps are bad - I used to date a 43 year old, and I'm 21 - but when there's older children involved, they can... (read in full...)
Girl needs space... I think!
Q. Alright, so I've talked with a few of my other friends, and they are girls, some are guys... and it's regarding my situation with this girl. We hung out almost every night when I was available (work, etc...) Whether it be by phone, or somethin...
A. 17 January 2010: Oh dear. Well then, if you ignored her and now she's saying she loves you, perhaps it time to have a chat and see you're both on the same page... ... (read in full...)
Girl needs space... I think!
Q. Alright, so I've talked with a few of my other friends, and they are girls, some are guys... and it's regarding my situation with this girl. We hung out almost every night when I was available (work, etc...) Whether it be by phone, or somethin...
A. 17 January 2010: I personally think you should give each other space. You may be afraid of losing her, but there's a chance you could also lose her if you smother her too much and try and fix everything at once. So it's a risk either way.
I think it's one of those... (read in full...)
I married in secret and now worry my family will find out
Q. Dear Cupid , i will start sayin that i dated a guy when i was 19 and i loved him so much he cheated on me alot but whenever he needed i was always there , i come from a very strict family ,, ma bf was about to go to the army but cuz i have the ...
A. 16 January 2010: Are you sure he loves you? His actions say otherwise. If he loved you and wanted to be your husband, he'd stay faithful and respect you. But from what I gather, he cheats on you and hits you. That's not what a loving partner does.
Getting married ... (read in full...)
My husband got laid off and has turned into a couch potato!
Q. Ok please help me understand. My husband has been laid off for 3 or 4 month now and he has be come a couch potato. He is so lazy even our daughter sees it. She will say daddy you are a lazy butt. He sleeps till 11:00 or 12:00 every day and then ...
A. 16 January 2010: I disagree with a lot of the people here. No one can know he's depressed over the Internet. He'd need to go to a shrink to sort that out. Laziness and sleepiness does not always mean you're depressed. My 16 year old brother sleeps in until midday ... (read in full...)
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