Do any other girls out there withold sex from their partners when they have done something wrong?
Q. Please Help .... I have a problem . When my boyfriend does something wrong , like out late with his mates , or comes home intoxicated , I without Sex for a period of time . I tell him the set penalty time and he signs a form ..eg : 1 week , 1 ...
A. 17 February 2010: I don't understand why you keep on making excuses for your behaviour. If you don't think what you're doing is strange, then why are you on here asking for advice?
I'm not defending the people who were a little "too personal" in their comments... (read in full...)
Why have I not got a promise ring???
Q. hey everyone , ive posted quite a few relationship questions on here my lastest one has nothing to do with what im about to ask im just looking for a male perspective on my situation. okay so me and my boyfirend have a group of 2 other couples ...
A. 16 February 2010: Well, not everyone:
a) knows what a promise ring is
b) likes the idea behind promise rings
Just because he hasn't given you one it doesn't mean he cares for you any less, and it doesn't mean he doesn't care about your and his future. My paren... (read in full...)
I was wondering why a guy would leave someone like me for someone like this?
Q. Guys, I need your opinion here. I am (what people say is) an attractive, tall slim brunette. I have only been with the one guy in my life and I put everything into our relationship. I was open, honest, trusting, always cheerful and fun to be ar...
A. 14 February 2010: Wow, check your privileged attitude. You're not better than anyone.
I'm not condoning his cheating behaviour - I hate cheating - but generally people cheat for certain reasons, and one of those reasons could be that there was something lacking ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend becoming so controlling?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for about 9 months now. Hes 20, and i'm 18. We've been through so much and its been really difficult but we've made through it. Hes always been the jealous type, but recently its been starting to get out of ...
A. 14 February 2010: It's going to be a cycle. He gets controlling -- you get shitty with him -- he feels bad -- you feel bad -- he gives you the silent treatment -- you eventually make up -- it goes well for a while and then he gets controlling again because he hasn't ... (read in full...)
Do any other girls out there withold sex from their partners when they have done something wrong?
Q. Please Help .... I have a problem . When my boyfriend does something wrong , like out late with his mates , or comes home intoxicated , I without Sex for a period of time . I tell him the set penalty time and he signs a form ..eg : 1 week , 1 ...
A. 14 February 2010: Don't use sex as a weapon. In my opinion, it's immature and fuels resentment. If you have an issue with him, you need to partake in some good old fashioned communication - lack of sex shouldn't be used as a punishment. In fact, the whole idea of ... (read in full...)
How do I crush these desires before someone gets hurt?
Q. Hello, Basically I have a pretty big problem that has been on going for nearly 5 years now. It concerns my ex. I won't go in to detail but basically I went out with this girl on and off for about 4 years, the relationship was always shaky, partly ...
A. 13 February 2010: The obvious advice about the fantasising issue would be to replace the fantasies of your ex with other fantasies or scenarios. I don't know how possible that is for you.
This might be harsh, but I would suggest you cut off contact from your ex.... (read in full...)
I'm mad at my boyfriend but is my anger justified?
Q. Okay hi people.. basically ive been with my boyfriend 2 months today and we had been talking for long before that.. anyways on the 14th(yes valentines day) its his birthday and of course valentines day, i think thats kinda sexy lol, his a vlanetin...
A. 13 February 2010: Why don't you just ask him?
Even if you haven't been going out for that long, it's rude of him to snub you and ignore you by not inviting you. Don't wait and see, be proactive and talk to him about it. If he acts like a jerk about it and gets mad... (read in full...)
I get jealous of the special way he treats his wife but I am very dependent on him! What should I do?
Q. i have a lover who is married for over 20 years. We've been together for almost 3 yrs now. I am 32, he is 50 now. i love him so much and he loves me also but he loves his wife and children. most of the time, i get jealous and hurt because of the ...
A. 13 February 2010: You need to understand that the chance of him leaving his wife for you is very slim, mainly because cheaters who have a wife and kids think of their affair partners as a "bit on the side", generally, so they get the best of both worlds (until ... (read in full...)
How can I work out our relationship around his pot smoking?
Q. For starters, my boyfriend smokes weed and I don't. He's 22, lives with his best friend of 10 years and I'm his first girlfriend. I'm 19, live with my mom, and he is my first serious relationship. He only smokes with his best friend, which is every ...
A. 13 February 2010: He isn't being responsible about it. Okay, so he doesn't drive or work when he's high. Erm, big deal. That doesn't mean he's responsible, necessarily.
What about his obligation to your relationship? He's responsible for being your boyfrien... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied to me about looking at porn, I feel like he has cheated on me!
Q. Okay, so I've been with my boyfriend for more than 2.5 years and everything has been going great. So, the last night I was on his computer and I saw that he had been looking at porn. When I asked him about it he said it wasn't his, and he didn't ...
A. 12 February 2010: The crux of the issue here is that he lied to you. He needs to show you that he can stick to his word of not looking at porn.
But I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt and believe him this once, because I'm assuming this is the firs... (read in full...)
She has denied me sex until I pay for it!
Q. Have been in a relationship for four years now with a lady i do love soo much and ready to marry, she is 32 am 27, But she is so controlling, she doe's not like to be forced on doing things she has become miss independent, i lost my job recently and ...
A. 12 February 2010: The fact that she's making you pay for things including sex should be a red flag. If you continue on without any behaviour modification on her part it will only get worse. I highly doubt she is going to completely change. If I were you I'd call it ... (read in full...)
Do I trust him after his flirtiness...I'm in turmoil...
Q. Hi everyone, When your partner has made you feel so insecure by having flirty/sexy and emotionally close relationships with other women which he thinks are 'just a game' and you are distraught when you find out, how do you ever trust him again?? ...
A. 12 February 2010: 1. Yes, it is normal to question text messages - especially ones they're secretive about - and question when they're late home.
2. It may be foolish, it depends on how sincere he's being. If you've had to put up with his behaviour for years an... (read in full...)
I don't know why I don't feel like everyone else my age seems to?
Q. Ok so, I have no desire to have sex or do anything sexual at all. I’m in those years where I should be horny and thinking about sexual things but I don’t at all, I don’t even masturbate(Nor do I want to). And on the rare occasions that I do get ...
A. 12 February 2010: I don't know why you're like this, no one here can really answer that truthfully because we aren't you.
But I can say that you're not weird or abnormal. People develop sexually at different ages. Some people just have naturally low sex drives. ... (read in full...)
My sisters breasts are bigger than mine, will he choose her over me?
Q. Hi, I am with a man, and I love him and he loves me deeply. But he is very, very sexual. He watches porn all the time and he basically has one of the highest sex drives knows to man. Well, I have this insecurity. I have really small brea...
A. 12 February 2010: Why is he with you if "large breasts are to his taste"? If they truly were, then wouldn't he be with someone who has large breasts? Have you talked to him about this big boob issue, or are you assuming that he thinks this way because he watches porn ... (read in full...)
What are some comfortable positions for a "quickie"?
Q. ok so i need a little help me and my husband have busy schedules and does anyone know any comfortable sex positions for a "quickie" as some might say he says i pick the sex position and idk what position to do it in can anyone please help me...
A. 12 February 2010: I'd suggest doggy. Or perhaps you on top? Have him sit in a comfortable chair, or something, and then you hop in his lap and go for it ;)
... (read in full...)
How do I give a really good handjob?
Q. how do i give really good handjobs? ive given my boyfriend a few, but he doesnt seem to enjoy them, he says he does afterwards, but it doesnt show. he wants me to give him head but i dont want to, i just want him to really enjoy it and for me to see ...
A. 12 February 2010: Why don't you ask him to show you how he jerks himself off, and then let him teach you how to do it how he likes it. It can be kind of hot.
Only because every person is different when it comes to handjobs, and some like different things than oth... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not like me to smile at anyone.
Q. my boyfriend doesn't like it when i smile at people and he told me that he doesnt like it and he always fight with me so help me what should i do? ...
A. 10 February 2010: Tell him he doesn't own you and that you can smile whenever you like.
I mean, it's just smiling. What is his problem? He sounds very controlling, which isn't a good thing. ... (read in full...)
Selfish lover...
Q. What do I do? I love my boyfriend - he's perfect for me and I can't imagine being apart. We started dating this past summer before I went to a college 12 hours away, and our sex life was really fun and enjoyable. I have a muscle weakness that ...
A. 8 February 2010: First things first -
He isn't perfect for you. If he were, you wouldn't be complaining about his selfishness.
Secondly, he is being incredibly selfish, and stand up to him and TELL HIM!! You can't expect this to just sort itself out, he w... (read in full...)
Let's play a game! Who is more attractive?
Q. Im the poster of the unattractive black women post (Go back and read it. Great Posts) and I think we are not seeing eye to eye, so lets play a game. For men, choose one of the following women and explain why you would date her over the other (...
A. 8 February 2010: Out of the guys... I would choose Brad.
From a physical point of view, he's got chiseled good looks and a great body (the others probably do too, but he's the one I find most attractive out of all of them in terms of physical features).
But ... (read in full...)
How do I know if the sex was good or not?
Q. So I had sex with this guy last night. It was totally a one night stand and I'm not expecting anything out of it. I was just wondering, how do i know if he liked it or if I was bad? I wasn't laying there like a dead fish and when i gave him head he ...
A. 8 February 2010: It doesn't mean he didn't like it necessarily. It was a one night stand. For all you know, it could have been his first one night stand, and felt weird or awkward about it afterwards.
I wouldn't read too much into it, it was just a one time thi... (read in full...)
Sex is not working out for us. Why is that?
Q. well im fat and me and this girl went to have sex... it was my first time but not her first... she was tight but not tight tight... but she hadnt had sex in like a month... she was on top and we couldnt get it in... i couldnt get fully har...
A. 7 February 2010: Performance anxiety?
It was your first time, so perhaps it was just that (nerves). I don't see what being fat has to do with anything...
Just have another go at it, things will improve the more you have sex. If you can get it up usually, then... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting or is my partner actually taking the piss with me?
Q. Basically, I feel my partner is taking advantage a little bit... for example, tonight, he was going out with his friends, which I was absolutely fine with, obviously! But 2 hours into the night, he says he's bored and wants to see me, which i ...
A. 7 February 2010: I don't think you're overreacting, he's acting like a jerk. Tell him to stop playing around with you. Put an end to it. ... (read in full...)
Girls..do you like it when a guy licks you all over?
Q. I'm simply wondering, do women enjoy being licked all around their bodies passionately and tenderly, or is it a disgusting act for you? please comment thanks...
A. 7 February 2010: I'm sure some women would find it incredibly arousing.
Personally, I'm not that into it because - no offense to any guys out there - it would probably bore me, especially if he's going at it for ages.
Licking different parts of the body is g... (read in full...)
My bf's penis is unusually red..and it hurts him and me to have sex. What is wrong?
Q. hi. okay so this is kinda an embarrassing thing but im also kinda concerened, i had a bladder infection a while back and the antibiotics the doctor gave me ended up giving me a yeast infection. it is the first one ive ever had so i dont really n...
A. 7 February 2010: My advice for these sorts of questions is always go to the doctor if you have any bad feelings about your health. If you notice something is wrong, consult a doctor. If sex is hurting, and there's a noticeable change in the appearance of any part of ... (read in full...)
Can you tell when a person has had sex? Is this true?
Q. So... I am very open with my parents and siblings about sex, we talk about it from time to time and stuff but not like detailed. My mom tells me not to have it, and my brother says if I did ever have sex at my age, he would be able to tell because ...
A. 7 February 2010: 1. Your brother WON'T be able to tell if you're a virgin or not. Virgins and non-virgins don't tend to act "differently" from each other, we're all human whether we've had sex or not. He's bullshitting. The only real way he'd know is if you told ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated and called ME a psycho, now he won't leave her!
Q. My question is regarding my reaction to my husband sleeping with another woman. I found out he was seeing this woman from work and I knew he was going to her place so I kept calling and texting him all evening to find out where he was and what was ...
A. 7 February 2010: His reaction to you calling him and checking up on him was wrong, but not uncommon unfortunately.
Usually when people are caught out cheating or having an affair, they tend to (wrongly) blame their spouse or partner to protect their feelings... (read in full...)
Visited an adult sex shop and now feeling upset about it.
Q. My boyfriend went to a adult variety store today and I got upset about it.. Am I wrong?...
A. 7 February 2010: You're not wrong, as such. You are entitled to your own feelings.
I would question *why* you feel upset about it - is it because he went without you, or because he may have bought porn, or sex toys, or because you just don't like sex shops? e... (read in full...)
I consider touching oneself as a bad thing.
Q. Here we are, I and my boyfriend had a phone sex which something I wasn't even heard about before i just read somewhere and realized it yeah I'm old fashioned so what, don't you think he should tell me that he want phone sex before started it with ...
A. 6 February 2010: Yes, it's normal to say something along the lines of "I want to touch myself" during phone sex - phone sex is all about fantasy and telling each other what you want to do sexually.
It sounds to me that you are a little sexually repressed. If you a... (read in full...)
Is it must for a girl to cum during sex?
Q. I want to ask a question. Is it must for a girl to cum during sex. and how do you make a girl cum?...
A. 6 February 2010: Is it a must for anyone to come during sex?
Technically, no - one doesn't *need* to come for the sex to be satisfactory and pleasurable. But orgasming for any partner during sex is still pretty damn important.
My advice would be to go down on... (read in full...)
I am worried about hair in the nether regions
Q. Hi, I'm a 17 year old female who is suffering from hair on my butt, not my cheeks, it's inside of my cheeks around my hole. ( I apologize for graphis terms). I've been dating my boyfriend for 7 months, and we haven't really gotten to the sexual area ...
A. 6 February 2010: Hair on any part of one's body is normal, so you shouldn't feel it's weird or odd that you have hair there.
If you really feel you must get rid of it, waxing or trimming is the best way to go, because shaving that area of your body could be trick... (read in full...)
What should she being doing during foreplay so I can come in 5-6 min of penetration?
Q. what type of a foreplay can arouse the couple to have enjoyable sex ... in the past i've been addicted to porn and masturbation, as a result got the problem of delayed ejaculation, I still have tht prob. I've been reading alot about what women want, ...
A. 6 February 2010: You'd probably have more success aiming for something a little longer than 5 or 6 minutes, because you might be a little ambitious to try and go from not having an orgasm at all in 2 hours to having one in 5 minutes.
Also, 5 to 6 minutes isn't ve... (read in full...)
Virgin, half virgin, whats the definition of virgin?
Q. How do YOU define the term "virgin"? A person who hasn't had ANY sort of sexual experience at all? Someone who hasn't had sexual intercourse but has had oral, anal? For girls, do you consider them a virgin if their hymen or "cherry" was popped from ...
A. 6 February 2010: I feel a virgin is someone who has never had sexual intercourse. So if someone's given oral but they haven't had actual sex, then in my opinion they're still a virgin.
The hymen doesn't have anything to do with virginity, contrary to what mos... (read in full...)
Our friend just got a new girlfriend and none of us like her!
Q. my best guy friend just got a new girl friend and none of our friends like her. she's just awful and she's cheated on every boyfriend she's ever had.we all love him and would hate to see him get hurt. we were wondering if there was a way to break ...
A. 6 February 2010: My advice: just let him be. Don't interfere with his relationship no matter how bad you think it is, because it's something he has to figure out for himself. If it turns out bad, it turns out bad and if it turns out good, it turns out good. You ... (read in full...)
Why are women's bodies so complicated?
Q. I did not have a cycle for the month of January. To my thought it was suppose to come down on the 27th of january. I took the first pregancy test 4 days after it was suppose to come down , came back neg. So I waited a week and 2 days later came back ...
A. 6 February 2010: If you think something's awry with your body, go to the doctor.
The human body *is* complicated and sometimes you need advice from the experts. ... (read in full...)
I am falling for a married man
Q. Hello, I would like to have your advice on this situation and please don’t judge me if possible. Well, you will agree with me that we have little control over our feelings. At my place of work, there is a man who really turns me on. I have a crush ...
A. 4 February 2010: Hey, there's nothing wrong with having a crush. Hell, at the moment I have about 3 crushes, and all of them are men who are either married or in a relationship.
But the key is to not beat yourself up over it. Generally you can't control who you'... (read in full...)
Do all men only worry about how good a woman looks?
Q. How important are looks to men? The ones who show an interest in me seem to only ever care about the way I look. I had one boyfriend who even said he loved how anywhere we went together, all the guys would be jealous of him because he'd got me and ...
A. 4 February 2010: Not all men are shallow. But there's nothing wrong with being complimented on the way you look. I think there's a fine line between complimenting someone and just being shallow, and in this scenario it just sounded like your BF was giving you a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends sex drive is much higher than mine
Q. My boyfriend and i love sex. But he wants it alot. He respects when i dont but when he cant get any from me he jacks off and he watches alot of porn. He says he is just like that and he cant help it. Why does he have such a high sex drive and is it ...
A. 4 February 2010: I think there needs to be understanding from both of you here. He needs to understand that you might be feeling bad or down about the fact that he watches porn to get off when you're not in the mood, and you need to understand that if his sex drive ... (read in full...)
I don't have a mother or aunt to ask
Q. Hi there well see my dad raised me up and talked to me about my peroids and how it works. i think it tooked alout of guts for my dad to talk women stuff with me. So my friend from shool told me the best is that you dont bath or wash it down there on ...
A. 4 February 2010: Don't listen to your friend, because it sounds like she has no idea what she's talking about. You should wash your pubic region every time you have a shower, which I presume is daily for you. This includes when you're on your period. ... (read in full...)
I have never had a gf I don't think I have the courage to ask any one out... can some one help me?
Q. ok well im 13, atheist, and i have grown up closer to girls than guys, so i know alot more about jr. high/ early highschool feelings and though processes than most other guys (yes i grew up with a single mother) i have one friend that is ...
A. 3 February 2010: Which one do you have stronger feelings for?
Which one do you talk to the most?
Which one do you get along with more?
Does either of them seem to like you more than a friend?
No one here can make a decision for you without knowing more details... (read in full...)
Was he looking at porn or flirting on line befoe having sex with me?
Q. Ummmm, without trying to be too specific, I took a shower and then when I was done I went to my bedroom to put on clean clothes, and my man was in the room with something in front of the door, and when I walked in he was more then ready to get ...
A. 3 February 2010: The most important thing - hands down - in a relationship is communication.
Therefore, you need to talk to him about anything if you have a concern, including this.
No one here can tell you what he was doing because none of us are him. ... (read in full...)
He re-used the same condom. Will this make it less effective?
Q. i setp with someone for the first time last night, and he took the rubber off after, then put it back on about 5 mins later after through it on the floor. he didnt cum the first time because it was quick. but what are the chances of me geting ...
A. 3 February 2010: Ew!
Re-using the same condom twice can be risky; the chance of it breaking the second time around is higher. Plus, he threw it on the floor? And THEN put it back on his dick? That's just unhygienic, and he needs to be told that's it's unaccept... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned about this discharge?
Q. I started on the birth control patch a few weeks ago. I was suppose to have my period January 17-ish, but I started a week before my period was suppose to come, so I didn't get it until this week. So I didn't have my period at all in January. Toda...
A. 3 February 2010: I can't say for sure what it is, but I would suggest going to a doctor if you're concerned. It's better to be safe than sorry when it comes to your body.
... (read in full...)
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