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writes:Don't get me wrong. I respect myself and I don't really want to have sex, yet anyway. But I used to want to, I've matured since then and have realised it'd be better to wait, but when me and my ex boyfriend did try, he only got it in about an inch or so and really couldnt go further because it hurt me too much. I heard about a girl in my school who's sent another boy a video of her 'playing' if you catch my drift with an impulse body spray. Now you might know that impulse body sprays are about 6 inches long and could be used as a female sex toy. I want to break my hymen so it wont be as painful when I do have my first time. I tried the impulse can thing and I really cant do it. I wasnt pleasuring myself I just wanted to break the hymen and see if I could get anything in. And I really can't because its so painful. Help me?
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reader, veronika  +, writes (9 May 2010):
 If you're going to use an inanimate object to break your hymen, at least make sure it's clean. Preferably use something... more phallic than an impulse body spray can. I would suggest a vibrator or dildo, but you seem too young to be able to purchase either of those. But if you must use an body spray can, again, make sure it's clean.
You could possibly break the hymen with fingers. Tampons can also break your hymen (of course, tampons aren't really sexual though).
Whatever you use, also make sure you're lubricated enough. You may have enough 'natural' lube, but if you want it to be as painless as possibly I'd suggest purchasing some water based lube and using that as well, which you can usually find at the chemist / pharmacy (and I'm pretty sure you don't need to be a certain age to buy it).
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reader, ChristineAvril +, writes (9 May 2010):
 Don't use random objects up there! Buy a dildo or vibrator and definitely use a lubricant - lots of it, especially if your natural lubricant is insufficient.
You need to be alone, with plenty of time and be relaxed so that your muscles aren't taut. Arouse yourself with an erotic book or video and go for it, gently.
Good luck.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (9 May 2010):
 Don't do it yourself. Seriously, just don't intentionally break your hymen. The reason sex hurts the first time isn't usually because breaking your hymen hurts (most can't feel it break at all) but because you're not turned on and lubricated enough and the vagina stretches and there's a ton of "sticking" and friction. My advice is to wait to have sex until you're older first off. Then when you do have sex, make sure you have tons of foreplay until you're wet and he can easily stick two fingers inside you without pain. If that can't happen, make sure you spend a few times (this could take days) playing around to find what feels good. Once he can do that, try putting some water or silicone based lube on and make sure he's wearing a condom. Also remember to relax your PC muscles (the ones you use to start and stop peeing). That should make it fairly painless. For now though, just practice using your fingers to find out what feels good for you. Sex isn't about finding a way to shove it in there so it doesn't hurt and he can get off. It should be just as pleasurable to you. But you can't expect anyone to make you feel good until you can make yourself feel good, so get masturbating (with your fingers and some lube).
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2010): well, i don't really think that you should be having sex yet, but i guess i can't stop you. trying to break your hymen in the way you described will probably be very painful, possibly inefective, possibly dangerous. if you're really concerned, talk to a gynecologyst about it. but bear in mind that sex often hurts the first time even if the hymen is already broken. and if you're too embarassed to talk to a gynecologyst about your sexual problems, you're not ready to be having sex.
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