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I have several hobbies which include, music, vegetarian cookery, snooker, photography, art, drama, and travelling. I have a strong sense of what I believe to be right and wrong and am a comfirmed agnostic. I am very liberal minded and can sometimes be too frank for my own good.
Out of all the Agony Aunts and Agony Uncles in the world my idols include Claire Raynor, Maury Povich and especially Jeremy Kyle as he is from my neck of the woods and is also a fellow West Ham United supporter.
I also am a lover of nature and a lover of the principles of nature and believe we should always let nature take her place and go with it.
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I'm over 18 but I'm worried about dateing my teacher who's 4 yeasr older. Could he get in trouble?
Q. I need some advice please guys. I'm 19 and my math teacher was 21 and straight out of uni when he started at my college when I was 17. He has taught me for all of my four double math lessons most days for the past two years. He is and was single w...
A. 25 September 2007: You are always better off telling them straight. They may already suspect that something is going on anyway as you are suddenly not there. Just explain to them that love can hit anybody at any time and as for you it hit you and the teacher at the ... (read in full...)
I'm over 18 but I'm worried about dateing my teacher who's 4 yeasr older. Could he get in trouble?
Q. I need some advice please guys. I'm 19 and my math teacher was 21 and straight out of uni when he started at my college when I was 17. He has taught me for all of my four double math lessons most days for the past two years. He is and was single w...
A. 20 September 2007: Hey no worries -
It's your Mum's loss if she can't deal with it.
You will find a lot of people will be happy for you as you become more established.
Just be re-assured that you have done absolutely nothing wrong whatsoever and anybody i... (read in full...)
I'm over 18 but I'm worried about dateing my teacher who's 4 yeasr older. Could he get in trouble?
Q. I need some advice please guys. I'm 19 and my math teacher was 21 and straight out of uni when he started at my college when I was 17. He has taught me for all of my four double math lessons most days for the past two years. He is and was single w...
A. 18 September 2007: If you decide to leave the college and there are still some bits of studying you wish to continue or complete - have you thought of looking into getting the extra or higher qualifications via the open university? - As your partner he would... (read in full...)
Some friends say I have changed because I don't smoke pot anymore. They say my boyfriend is controlling me.
Q. I have two specific friends who believe that my boyfriend is "controlling" because he told me he doesn't want to be in a relationship with someone who smokes pot. this is fine with me because it is not something that i am attached to so im not doing ...
A. 18 September 2007: I regularly say in my posts you become the books that you read and become the people you hang around with. You have got yourself what sounds to be a pretty decent bloke here who wants the best for you. You have also got your so called fri... (read in full...)
The attached woman I'm seeing doesn't seem to make any decisions! Should I let her go?
Q. Hello a lil advice needed. I have broke off loads of contact wiv my affair after it started getting to heavy on my part wantin her to leave her fella. I know she does care stacks for me too but has no balls and i wish the sex had been crap cos we ...
A. 17 September 2007: She doesn't want to loose you and doesn't want to loose her family either.
I can only guess here but I would have thought she feels she cannot do without her husbands security and cannot do without your virility.
In short she wants her cake a... (read in full...)
My best friend is 17 and her guy is 53! Do I support her?
Q. one of my best friends is 17, 18really soon and shes been seeing this guy for about five months, they're havingsex and everything, theyve said "i love you" and when shes told her parents theyre moving in together. He's a really nice guy and hes not ...
A. 17 September 2007: If she loves him and he loves her then what is wrong with this?
Don't get me wrong - this age differance is highly contraversial and if it was to work there is a fairly high chance that she will find herself a relatively young widow some time in ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out. I'm not very good looking, do you think she will say no?
Q. Im in College and theres this girl who I fancy. Can't say I really like her at the mo. Should I ask her out on a date. Should I cos I've got nothing to lose. Thing is though I'm not particularly good looking. Do you think cos of this she'll say no?...
A. 17 September 2007: Try going out as friends at first and get to know each other as that - just friends. Over this time you will get to find out if you really like her and you will learn for sure if you really want to date her. Isn't it more wise to do this as ... (read in full...)
His family don't approve of us and if I had someone else I would be happier! We are in our sixties.
Q. Please someone help...........the man that i have been dating 2yrs 9 months is 68 yrs old. i am 64. he broke up with me in july but we have started seeing each other again. he is afraid to tell his selfish family. when i go over to his house in his ...
A. 17 September 2007: This bloke needs to whip his family into line, they are running rings around him. I can only say what I would do in this situation although I have to wait another 25 years to catch up in age.
I would tell this miserable family to button their id... (read in full...)
Is sex really a part of a relationship?
Q. sex?is that part of relationship?...
A. 17 September 2007: When two people have a relationship with each other they get closer.
It is the fact that they are closer that determines them as boyfriend and girlfriend as opposed to general friends.
In having any form of sexual contact you are getting ... (read in full...)
I'm over 18 but I'm worried about dateing my teacher who's 4 yeasr older. Could he get in trouble?
Q. I need some advice please guys. I'm 19 and my math teacher was 21 and straight out of uni when he started at my college when I was 17. He has taught me for all of my four double math lessons most days for the past two years. He is and was single w...
A. 17 September 2007: This is a difficult one as there is an unwritten rule that the morality of this relationship is wrong.
At the same time you are over 18 and there is no law that you have broken. He would most likely get a reprimand but it sounds as if you are ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and I want a baby!
Q. i am 16 and i lost a baby with my boyfriend who i have been with for 1 year and a half my mam did not no i was pregnant and now she has just found out i am haveing sex and i really want to try for anouther my mam thinks it will spoil my life but my ...
A. 17 September 2007: You are not ready to have a baby.
Anyone could read this in your question.
Your mum is right here after all you seem to think that because your boyfriend has a job you can spend this income on raising a child. Have you thought about th... (read in full...)
Is it true that nice guys finish last?
Q. Is it true that nice guys finish last? i am one of the nicest people, and pride myself on the fact that no one really hates me. I cant be mean, i just dont have it in me. i will stand up for myself, but i will not bully anyone. If anyone drops ...
A. 17 September 2007: Try looking at at another way.
You seem to be a great guy who is considerate and to be quite frank I would have thought you to be any girls dream fellow.
If they refuse to go out with you then they do not qualify to be your girlfriend. It ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with the new teacher, he dropped loads of hints and kissed me at lunch. What if the school finds out?
Q. a new teacher started working at my school about 1 year ago. even since he first spoke to me, i have fallen for him. (i know i must sound crazy but i really do like him!) the thing is, he has started liking me back! he has dropped loads of hint...
A. 17 September 2007: Get out of this situation now.
When I went through my teacher training we went through how to deal with amourous pupils and how to extinguish the situation as carefully as possible. A male teacher is never on his own with a female pupil be... (read in full...)
Could I still be pregnant even though we stopped before he ejaculated ?
Q. So i just lost my virginity a few days ago and when he first did it we had sex unprotected....he didnt cum at all so we stopped before he did do anything like that.... i talked to my friend and she said that even a little speck of sperm can get me...
A. 17 September 2007: The way you could look at this is I suppose that there is a chance that you could become pregnant, of course there is.
Through any unprotected intercourse there is a chance of pregnancy. During ejaculation there are usually millions of sperm th... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him for getting with someone else when we broke up!?
Q. Hey guys, So i just broke up with my ex 5 days ago and last night he made ou with some exchange student hes always telling me that he loves me and i love him soo much too!! Should i forget it happen and forgive him or give him hell for it for...
A. 17 September 2007: You had broke up and he went somewhere else, end of story, it happened. You cannot put a time on a cooling off period wreather it be two minutes, days weeks, months or years when you split up you both become free agents there and then.
If yo... (read in full...)
Should I let my 16 year old daughter sleep in the same bed with her bf?
Q. me my husband and our daughter are going on holiday for a week soon and i've told her she can take her bf who i know extremely well and have known all his life. I was just wondering what you would think if i let them sleep in the same bed. They...
A. 16 September 2007: If they are both 16 or more let them dscide for themselves - they sound mature enough to do this.... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and overweight. Help me recover my confidence?
Q. im only 15 and i think im over wieght! i read loads of magazines and im no where as slim or pretty as them. it makes me feel sad evey time i look in the mirror and i hate buying, going out the house! i have lost all my confidence! please help me ...
A. 16 September 2007: I know somebody who is a size six, is 5'8" tall and weighs seven stone and she thinks she is fat. Nobody else does and many are showing concern because she is no doubt very seriously underweight. Then again one of my neighbours she is a size tw... (read in full...)
He resents me going out in the day and my friends all say he is being unreasonable!!
Q. Hiya everyone !, Im writin for some advice because for the past 6 weeks my 3 children have been off school for the summer holidays, and i also have my nephew during the school holidays so i've been stuck in the house most days. I have been really ...
A. 9 September 2007: If the house resembles a pig sty, the kids have no attention, no cooking, washing, and you show no time for the boyfriend then he may have a point but this is not the situation here - not by a long way.
Your boyfriend comes across as if the whol... (read in full...)
She seems so down and lonely when I see her in the pub and I'd love to get to know her better.
Q. Hi I'm 22 and single, I have only had one girlfriend and that was back in college but I ended it because I knew she wasn't the type of person I wanted to be with. I am the quiet type and have been waiting for someone who I want to spend the rest of ...
A. 9 September 2007: You have absolutely nothing to loose in asking her out. Maybe start by seeing her at the pub next time when you are with your friend and say to her that you will be back there tomorrow night without your friend and would like to sit with her, buy ... (read in full...)
My family don't trust me and I can't stand it, help.
Q. My family dont trust me and i cant stand it anymore. Its like im constantly under their parole and they really have no reason not to trust me. But its getting so bad i might just get up and leave. i cant be around negative people its taking its toll ...
A. 9 September 2007: It doesn't sound as if you have done anything like betraying them to make them loose their trust in you so you feel that you have to do something that will make them trust you.
Are you sure it is not trusting you as opposed to worrying about yo... (read in full...)
Should I trust my wife after she kept this from me??
Q. I've been with my wife since I was 19 and she was 18. We went to high school together and have a loving marriage of 15 years. Prior to our getting together ( a few weeks) she hooked up with another high school friend and I suspected they had had ...
A. 9 September 2007: If the main issue here is that he took advantage of her, I can understand you being upset about that but surely before you make a strong commitment to each other you cannot count what happens then as a betrayal towards you in any way. It just does ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my wife or work on through?
Q. Should I leave my wife or work on through? My wife and I have been married for 6 years and have a 5 1/2 year old daughter. For a couple of years things have been tough and we hadn't been getting on. She kissed and frolicked with other people ...
A. 8 September 2007: A man convinced against his will - Is of the same opinion still. Your letter answers your question pretty much. You need to leave your wife. If you stay there it will not be long before your daughter will see how you are hating the situation... (read in full...)
Should I trust my wife after she kept this from me??
Q. I've been with my wife since I was 19 and she was 18. We went to high school together and have a loving marriage of 15 years. Prior to our getting together ( a few weeks) she hooked up with another high school friend and I suspected they had had ...
A. 8 September 2007: How an earth can you class anything your wife did before you got together as cheating? - What she did before she started a relationship with you not only bears no threat to what you two have got it quite frankly is none of your business unless ... (read in full...)
I love him, but I know we're young. Can you help me?
Q. I am 17, and just starting sixth form. I have been with my boyfriend for just over three years, which is unusual, but we are both very mature for our age. We have been having sex for over a year, and although he doesnt stay over very often, when...
A. 8 September 2007: I don't see a problem here at all. You both seem very happy here in what sounds like a fantastic relationship. You see each other regularly you have understanding parents that support your relationship. I can understand his parents being con... (read in full...)
It's my cousin! What can I do?
Q. Please, can somone help me? I am in love with my 1st cousin and she has feelings for me but I don't have a problem with her being my cousin but she has been told she would be cut out of familys life if it ever was to happen so i think she's scared ...
A. 8 September 2007: First of all please understand that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you having a relationship with your first cousin - there is nothing wrong with it at all. It would also be in your best interests to completely ignore the comments made be... (read in full...)
My mother said she likes to pick trouble with me so I can do something wrong and she can call the cops!
Q. I cant stand it! i am very emothional and people who I "thought that love me" are bringing me down. Like my mom, when i stand up for someone she yells at me like i was the one who to blame, but when she stands up for someone and i disagree she ...
A. 7 September 2007: You need to get out and away from your mother NOW. The longer you are there with her the more you will learn to hate her and the less chance the two of you will have to ever patch this one up in the future. Put a password on your laptop ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date my step cousin?
Q. is it wrong for me to date my step-cousin? i have this step cousin of mine that i have had strong deep feeling for and chasing after for more than a year and an a half. the good thing is that she knows about and confronted me about. what she say was ...
A. 7 September 2007: I don't know the rules in the states for marrying cousins, but I know here it is entirely legal for first cousins to marry. With a step cousin there is most likely no bloodlink whatsoever so I cannot imagine in any country where this could be ma... (read in full...)
I'm an 18 year old and a porn model. Most people look down on me. Why is that?
Q. I'm an 18 year old and a porn model. Most people look down on me. Why is that? What is so wrong about it? What is everyone's opinion on me? ...
A. 10 August 2007: There is nothing wrong with what you choose to do providing it is your choice and the choice is not being made for you. Providing you can keep a level head about everything and keep the job professional keeping yourself safe in the process and not ... (read in full...)
The second time the guy's wife came to my house and showed me a text message on his cell phone from my wife, saying she loved him.
Q. My wife cheats on me constantly, we've been together for 15 years. I just caught her for the 3rd time in the past 8 months with the same guy from her work. At first she said nothing was going on, I caught them flirting. The second time the guy's ...
A. 9 August 2007: The wife obviously likes to play away from home, it looks as if this is what she is like.
What is she looking for exactly?
Does she want an open relationship with you?
Would she be happier adopting the swinging lifestyle?
Would you be will... (read in full...)
Do you think it's worth even giving him another chance?
Q. Here's a little scenario that just happened yesterday with my boyfriend who I just took back a month ago. We were heading to the beach and we started arguing about me telling him to put on a shirt because he's very flashy with his vehicle and to top ...
A. 9 August 2007: Get away from this guy and stay away.
He is already using his car as a punchbag - how long will it be before he starts using you as one or worse still your children.
He sounds like a complete arogant waste of space by what you have said an... (read in full...)
My brother and I just pieced together that our father sexually abused us and our sibling. Now he may abuse his 3 year old and unborn baby - help!
Q. Hello my father abused his sisters child for 10 years from the ages of 4 to 10 she got as far as reporting it to the police but found it too traumatic an experience and couldnt face court. I always showed symptoms of abuse but when my cousin ...
A. 9 August 2007: Go to the social services and the police and file a complaint and issue a prosecution against this monster NOW. This guy needs to be taken away from his new wife and children NOW.
I know too many people who are scarred for life when they are... (read in full...)
Have i been broken in?
Q. Iv'e Had Sex...But I didnt Bleed...I Just Wanted To Know...Weather Or Not I Have Been 'broke in'...Thank You...
A. 9 August 2007: Usually upon first intercourse the erect penis breaks a little bit of skin called the hymen. This usually causes a little bit of blood but it can sometimes be such a little amount that it could go un-noticed. Maybe the next time will be a little ... (read in full...)
Our sex life has been boring since he got out of jail; any tips to liven things up?
Q. My husband had been in prison for 9 months. He recently got out in June. We've had sex over 60 times since he got out and now its just boring. Can you all give me some ideas that might excite our sex life?...
A. 9 August 2007: There are a number of positions, a number of fantasies, differant clothing, hard & gentle, injecting a bit more romance.
Sounds as if it is something like a wham bam thank you maam and that day in and day out can be very boring. Sounds like you... (read in full...)
I'm moving half way around the world - should I carry on a relationship with my wife or my mistress?
Q. This question is long because it's very complicated (even though I've simplified it quite a bit). Three years ago, I fell in love with a European girl and moved to Europe to be with her. I gave up a lot to make the move and it really was a blo...
A. 7 August 2007: Oh Boy!!! I do not think I have read such a self centred statement in all the time I have been answering in dear cupid here. You go on about making a massive commitment to be with this lady in Europe. When you love somebody genuinely that... (read in full...)
This is my first relationship, so how do I know if I love him or not?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I have been dating for about four months now and I love him, the problem is this is my first relationship ever and how do I know that what I am feeling is true love? I have never really been the type who wants to date around ...
A. 7 August 2007: Go with your gut instinct and you will know - it will just hit you one day and you will know.... (read in full...)
I have developed a close friendship with a teacher eight years my senior who is single and now that I am no longer his pupil, I would like to pursue a romantic relationship with him.
Q. I graduated high school this year and am off to university. I have developed a close friendship with a teacher eight years my senior who is single and now that I am no longer his pupil, I would like to pursue a romantic relationship with him. Can ...
A. 7 August 2007: I know of four relationships that have happened just like this over the past twenty - twenty five years and all four couples are still together and very happy today. Compare that to the national divorce statistics then. Firstly please be as... (read in full...)
I don't want to split up with him but I don't know what to do, should I believe him?
Q. I had been going out with a lad for a few months when I found out he had been cheating on me. We split up for 6 months and then he asked me to go back out with him and that he was sorry for what he had done. I have now been going out with the sam...
A. 7 August 2007: He's cheating -
Dump him.
The phone messages may be just flirting but by what you say the intentions are there to do a whole lot more even if he isn't doing them yet.... (read in full...)
I have just discovered that my boyfriend has signed up for a dating site...
Q. I have just discovered that my boyfriend has signed up for a dating site, when I asked him why he just said it was to have a look, I find this strange, we are both in our 40s. I can't really understand why he would want to do this?...
A. 7 August 2007: This is an interesting situation. I have gone onto dating sites (Browsing) to black my nose so to say and learn about what people put about themselves. Looking at the photo and then seeing if the description is anything like what I imagines ... (read in full...)
My my weight is causing me to be unhappy....
Q. Hi, I'm 14 years old and have always been happy with my weight, I don't know how much I weigh but I am starting to feel unhappy, this is causing me to make myself be sick and I am exercising lots, I want to wear baggy clothes as well. I have to...
A. 7 August 2007: I gathered by what you say that your weight hasn't changed much and you have gone from being happy to being unhappy about your weight.
At the age you are at the body goes through a lot of changes as you naturally change from being a child to being... (read in full...)
I have not got any time for her anymore.
Q. I feel like I don't want to be friends with my "best friend" anymore. When she calls, I don't want to talk to her. She's been really skanky lately, drinking to the point of having to go into emergency, taking pills, neglecting her 2 y/o daughter, ...
A. 7 August 2007: I believe in keeping clear from your best friend you are being very wise.
Alcahol has taken over her life by the sounds of it other drugs are about to as well, she is hanging around with like minded people too and by what you have said she is d... (read in full...)
I don't want to rush her but the bottom line is that I'm completely in love with this girl.. !
Q. Last June I picked up the phone and called a friend I went to high school with. I literally hadn't seen or spoken to her for 12 years. We went out for drinks and since then we've been spending time together at least once a week (maybe a little ...
A. 7 August 2007: I do not see what harm a peck on the cheek would do at the end of the evening - or a hearty hug. If you make a habit of doing these things regularly and she sees that a potential relationship with you is not going to give her a hard time of it then ... (read in full...)
God, my parents and me... Who comes first?
Q. I have a conflict in values with my parents who are very religious, whereas i am not. Please advice....
A. 7 August 2007: If the conflicts are just religious ones then disregard your parents. Religion is a personal thing that every single one of us have their own beliefs with. Nobody but nobody has the right to inflict their beliefs this way upon you.
There... (read in full...)
I think I'm a sex addict, how can I be sure?
Q. do u think i am sex addict? lol i feel mad stupid sayin dat. but i think about sex like everyday, i masturbate at least once a week, i watch porn, and if i havent had sex longer den a month, i start goin crazy n want so much, sometimes i even cry ...
A. 7 August 2007: You sound like a normal woman with a normal sex drive to me.
Just make sure that the boyfriend has got a good supply of condoms for the future.... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and a 20 year old man wants to date me; I love him but my parent's don't know him, should I go out with him?
Q. Hey im 12 and i live where there is alot of mexicans. But i dated a 15 year old that lives by me. But i broke up with him so there is this boy hes 20 and he gave me a letter and he wants to go out with me should i say yes and i known him 4 a 1 year ...
A. 7 August 2007: Sounds like paedophilia to me.
Stay away from this guy - trouble will entail if you don't.... (read in full...)
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