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writes:I have just discovered that my boyfriend has signed up for a dating site, when I asked him why he just said it was to have a look, I find this strange, we are both in our 40s. I can't really understand why he would want to do this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (7 August 2007):
This is an interesting situation. I have gone onto dating sites (Browsing) to black my nose so to say and learn about what people put about themselves. Looking at the photo and then seeing if the description is anything like what I imagines it would be. I have also seen people more locally on these site that I recognise by their photos and it is quite easy to see how truthful they are boing in their descriptions. The results are pretty much 50/50 so I gather that if anyone was to date anybody off there it would be pretty much like tossing a coin - heads you get what it says on the tin so to say or tales - you get a pretty nasty surprise - and that is from the photos - the non photographed entries I would gather that the vast majority lie completely about themselves. The quiestions I would have for him is:Has he paid any membership?Has he uploaded a photo?Has he made himself a mailbox on the site?Has he posted any contact details?Has he made any contact to others?If he was only browsing then the answers to all five questions would be a categoric no. Browsing dating sites is no more threatening than browsing the lonely heart columns in the local or regional newspapers. Somewhere you may have browsed yourself without causing any threat to you present relationship. If there are a few yesses in those five answers then I think you are looking at a more tricky situation that may involve some trust issues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): Ive just walked away from my 7 year rship because i found out my partner had been chatting to girls and even went on a sex chat site. Foundout 4 days ago.
Its upto you what you do. But unfort the internet is also a corrupt and nasty thing.
Good luck,ihopeyour strong enough, iwasnt.
Its being unfaithful
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reader, Skeez +, writes (7 August 2007):
 Agreed with hlskitten.
You need to talk to him.
If hes joining a dating site then theres obviously something
wrong in the relationship. Or hes just being a sick disrespectful man.
Talk to him sweety.
Goodluck
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (7 August 2007):
 HiHas he actually signed up for it as in paid, or just been browsing?Cuz you can do that without joining.To send and reply to most of them you need to pay.Apart from girls date for free, and even that the guys have to pay for.This doesnt sound right to me.Why would he want to have a look anyway?Me thinks you need to ask him a few more questions.Good luckC xxxxxx
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