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I have several hobbies which include, music, vegetarian cookery, snooker, photography, art, drama, and travelling. I have a strong sense of what I believe to be right and wrong and am a comfirmed agnostic. I am very liberal minded and can sometimes be too frank for my own good.
Out of all the Agony Aunts and Agony Uncles in the world my idols include Claire Raynor, Maury Povich and especially Jeremy Kyle as he is from my neck of the woods and is also a fellow West Ham United supporter.
I also am a lover of nature and a lover of the principles of nature and believe we should always let nature take her place and go with it.
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Do you think this is bad for me?
Q. hi. im on a diet and am currently eating one apple a day n thats it n doin exersise but nt too much. Du thnk this is bad for me? im 8 n half stone n almost 15 nw in i jst really want to be skinny, like the ones in the magazines. plaz tell me if this ...
A. 3 November 2007: You want to know if this diet is bad or not - in short:
YES it is bad,
Very bad.
It is also bad for your mind to think along your lines too. Aiming to mutilate your body this way in order to make yourself look like some of those stick... (read in full...)
How many colories are in meals dining out.
Q. I am on a diet sumtimes wuld like to enjoy myself. How many calories are in mst restuant meals? For example, how many calories would i be consuming if i had one glass of coke, one starter, one meal like spagetti carbonara, and one pudding like ...
A. 3 November 2007: How long is a piece of string? - Calories differ on the amout of food served and the type of food served. For a one of going out and eating a meal it really does not matter how many calories there are present.
There are a number of restraun... (read in full...)
I've been single for a long time. What should I do?
Q. i have been single for 2 years. My last relationship messed me up a bit when my ex (who ppl said was not good enough for me) cheated on me. I've never really gotten over it. I have been looking for the perfect bf and always find something wrong ...
A. 3 November 2007: I hope this assimilation can help paint a clearer picture here.
If you hang around waiting for Mr Perfect to come along you may not get on board or recognise it with Mr Right comes along instead.
What is the differance between Mr Perfect and M... (read in full...)
Small pain in back, does anyone know what it is?
Q. dear cupid, i have a serious pain at the small of my back everytime especially when i get up from my seat. please tell me what the problem is and its solution?...
A. 3 November 2007: It would be worth getting a doctor to check this one out but I cannot help wondering if you have slipped a disc or even ruptured one. If it is this there are a few excercises he can recommend to you that will have you recovering from this sooner ... (read in full...)
He cums too quickly
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and this is his first real relationship. At first there were no problems, but now he orgasms very quickly. Is it me? What can i do to put it right?...
A. 3 November 2007: Some very good information here from Peaches, she speaks a lot of sense in her answer.
In coming quickly he is obviously very turned on by you and very turned on by whatever you do when you are both intimate. What is this if it isn't the ultimate... (read in full...)
When should I put pressure on him?
Q. where do you guys think a dating relationship between two mature adults should be at the end of the third year of dating? do you think we should be engaged? do you think we should be planning a wedding? how long would you recommend waiting before ...
A. 31 October 2007: Your partner may not believe in marriage, have you thought of that?
Everyone works their own speed in relationships - getting engaged or married by a certain time is not important.
If you go around dictating direction and placing ultimate... (read in full...)
Dating question.
Q. is it ok for a guy who just turned 16 to date a 13 year old. hes in 10th grade and shes in 8th?...
A. 31 October 2007: Step cautiously - take it easy. Providing things are casual I do not see a problem here.... (read in full...)
When is the good time, to start living togetehr?
Q. Hi everyone! So I have a BF (5months now). We have a great relationship and we love each other. I know he is the one - I never felt this way for anybody and he saiz the same. The guestion is ... When do you think is a good time to start liv...
A. 31 October 2007: Doesn't sound as if he is ready regardless of how ready you are. Also if he is unable to pay his way how is he going to support half the cost of running a household?
People move in together when they both feel ready for it - sometimes it can b... (read in full...)
How many partners have you had?
Q. This is a very general question, based on the numerous questions that I see posted about couples dealing with one partner's sexual past. How many sexual partners have YOU had? Do you regret the number, be it big or small? How many "one-night-stand...
A. 31 October 2007: I am 43 and have had 12 steady sexual relationships and seven one night stands.
I don't consider this large or small and do certainly not regret it.
It has never bothered me how many parners any partner of mine has had and have not expected... (read in full...)
They're all calling me fat but I know I'm not. How can I get this through to them?
Q. My mother is constantly calling me fat, and her and her friends have a nickname for me 'fatso'. Im 140lbs and 5'7'', and her constant putting down of my weight and bodyshape is really annoying me. When she was my age she had a very kate moss ...
A. 31 October 2007: 5'7" at 140lbs (10 stone or 66kgs) is I would have thought about right for you. I wouldn't have thought this amount to be over or underweight.
Sounds as if the person who is criticising your weight resembles a member of the Kate Moss Stick In... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend cheated and now I don't trust him?
Q. Hiyah, well this is probably gonna be reali confusin n long and you're all gonna think omg when you read it but its worth a go.. I'm 13 and I got with my bf in feb.. at the beginning everything was fine.. I trusted him round other girls and when ...
A. 30 October 2007: I would attempt to reply to this question if I could read it. ... (read in full...)
Why am I still single after 2 years? I feel like life is passing me by. Help!
Q. I am so lonely, I find it hard to cope with life. I am 28 and spilt with my ex two years ago, the problem is nobody i meet seems to like me. I feel like I have been single for five years and not two, as i only got back with my ex as I couldnt fin...
A. 30 October 2007: You need to build yourself up with some P.M.A. (Positive mental attitude)
If you do not love yourself how an earth would a girl get to love you?
You need to start motivating yourself and showing some independance and by this very nature girl... (read in full...)
Do I report my boyfriend for domestic violence or not?
Q. I have known my bf for years, and have dated for a few months now. He beat me up pretty badly, all my xrays and catscans came back fine, but the police were called by the hospital and they want me to report it. i don't know what i should do, i don't ...
A. 30 October 2007: If you do not report him he will hit you again, and again, and again and again.
It will get worse and continue to do this until something gives - wreather you getting something a whole lot worse (maybe killed) or you defending yourself and endi... (read in full...)
My ex won't leave me alone and I'm scared of dating.
Q. When I was 15 i starting dating a guy who was really nice. We got engaged after just a few weeks, fast I know but we were young. After about 9 months during an argument he hit me across my face. I was really confused at the time I thought he loved ...
A. 30 October 2007: Maybe getting a solicitor to compose a letter direct to him warning him of his behaviour and that if he makes any further attempt to contact you there will be an injunction taken out against him.
If what you say is correct I don't see a way in w... (read in full...)
How do I make her feel more included??
Q. Hi i've just come across this website so i don't know if this is a type of question you can help me with but i'll give it ago. I'm 16 currently at college/6th form. About 5 weeks ago there was a new girl came into our college, she is in nearly a...
A. 30 October 2007: Sounds to me as if you are doing everything right.
Allow her to open up in her own time and let nature take its course. If she feels really comfortable with you all I no doubt she will open up and this will allow your friendships with her to d... (read in full...)
How do I bring up this subject to him.
Q. HELP!!! i divorced my husband 3 years ago because it wasn't working out, we had been together since we were at school and always stayed in touch. Recently we have started seeing more of each other as friends but things are getting very close. We ...
A. 29 October 2007: Don't force anything -
I do not think in your shoes I would say anything either.
Nature is doing a pretty good job of taking care of this relationship so just lay back and let nature take it's course and BTW remember to enjoy the journe... (read in full...)
Is it bad that I really didn't care.
Q. so i broke up with my boyfriend today and he seemed really hurt but the part i really feel bad about is apart of me really doesnt care is that a bad thing?...
A. 24 October 2007: It depends on the circumstances. You do not seemed bothered about it yourself but I cannot help wondering if he took things a whole lot more seriously than you did.
If he was given the false impression by you that there was more in the relation... (read in full...)
This woman is my world but she's married.
Q. i am 19 years old and i have been with this 31 year old woman for 8 months. she got 4 kids n she is married. but since we been together its been the best time of my life and hers even her family thinks that im the best person for her. she has no ...
A. 24 October 2007: There are two ways this relationship can go - the way she has chosen to finish it or the other way.
The other way is for her to leave her husband for you and move into your place with her four children - I am assuming of course that you have a r... (read in full...)
I need some suggestions on a threesome!
Q. i want to do something wild and crazy w/ my husband. i want to have sex with another women while he watches and then have him join in. any suggestions on this ,he is deeply in love w/ me and would do anything for me, but is this going to far. HELP ...
A. 24 October 2007: You need to discuss it with him - he can only say no or yes.
What I would suggest is though that you put no pressure on him here and go with whatever his decision is - it is a large step for many people to take and one that many would be uncom... (read in full...)
Why would he be such a monster?
Q. What makes a guy who want to have sex with a girl but she refuses and instead he forces her to do oral sex instead. What are the implication or reasons for his action....
A. 24 October 2007: The reasons for his actions is that he is a controlling abuser of women who should be locked up.
Guys are attracted to girls and desire them the same way that girls are attracted to guys. Sex of any description is a mutual thing that two peop... (read in full...)
He's got a great personality, but not great looks. Should I give him a chance?
Q. Hi i have a big problem as this guy likes me i told him that i liked him too, but i dont i was drunk when i said it now he never stops ringing or texting or IM me. I want to give it a try with him hes got the best personality ever but his looks are ...
A. 24 October 2007: If the looks are the main deciding factor on wreather you date a guy or not then more fool you, for you are missing out on having a great time with some of the best guys around. Girls that go for looks as a be-all and end-all are noted by the vast ... (read in full...)
I am 12, he is 28. We are in love and he says he wants me to move in with him as soon as I am 16.
Q. About a month ago I met a really sweet guy at my aunts wedding. I'm only 12 but i look alot older and people tell me i am a lot more mature than my age. He's 28 and he works with my aunt. Pretty much everyone in my family knows him and they all seem ...
A. 24 October 2007: If this guy knows your age one word comes to mind - Paedofile!!!
As it has only been kissing there is a chance he will escape a jail sentence even if it is with your full approval - If you had taken this any further I no doubt he would now be i... (read in full...)
Why do I keep trying to cause conflict with my boyfriend?
Q. finally found decent boyfriend who is everything i want..so why do i keep trying to cause conflict between us for no reason? ...
A. 24 October 2007: The way he will see it is that you may be wanting to get rid of him. If he picks up on it he will eventually leave and find someone who is easier to get on with. If you do not want this to happen then just stop doing this to him. Try edifying ... (read in full...)
My fiance is VERY controlling. What can I do??
Q. he tells me what i can and can not do. he tries to control me. i been in this relationship for 6 months. my fiance is 47 and i am 31. Recently he has start arguing with me about people that I be around. when my cell phone rings i get worried because ...
A. 24 October 2007: This relationship is a father and daughter relationship when it is at it's best and dominant/submissive relationship at it's worse. This guy comes over as a control freak who will get his controlling ways more and more each extra day you stay with ... (read in full...)
Am I being silly?
Q. Hi My names rebecca and my boyfriend works long hours. I need some help and advice as I feel very down. I am a very jealous person and always have been. I am worried as my boyfriend is going on a team building evening bowling and dinner with all...
A. 12 October 2007: You will only strengthen your relationship with this guy by trusting him. The more this jealousy raises it's ugly head the more strain you will put on the relationship.
Your guy goes to work and he is trying to better himself to secure a better... (read in full...)
Should I take any notice of my father?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 6 months now. We are both divorced. I am 23 and he is 39. I like the way our relationship is going and we are very happy. My mother adores him, but my dad only sees the age difference and refuses to even meet ...
A. 12 October 2007: If your father is not even willing to meet this guy then I can understand anybody not giving him the time to even air his opinion. If he has any objections he needs to meet up, if he has any fears he needs to talk to you about them. If he is not ... (read in full...)
I can't believe I cheated
Q. I cheated on my girlfriend... I love her so much... She is beautiful and really intelligent and has a great sense of humor... She takes care of me, makes me dinners, lunches, gives me back rubs, buys me random presents, pays for fuel for my car....
A. 12 October 2007: You say you love her and how this other girl was useless when compared to her yet it didn't stop you sleeping with her - did it.
I am not so sure that you do love her.
There is no doubt that you are in a hell of a comfort zone with her an... (read in full...)
Is my teacher flirting with me?
Q. Hello this may seem like a pointless question but i am just wanting to know what little treasure means? coz my teacher always calls me his little treasure and today he walked in the class when i was alone and said hello Becky hows my little treasure...
A. 12 October 2007: He is not flirting - I think you may well be reading more into this than is there. I no doubt your teacher likes you, you may be one of his better performing students and although teachers are not supposed to have their favourites they inevitably ... (read in full...)
I can't have this baby..my bf is an alcoholic and an angry person! Help!
Q. I am 7 weeks pregnant and can't have this baby because of being in a really bad and progressively worse relationship. My boyfriend is an alcoholic and overall an angry person and so is his family. He wants to have this baby but I don't want to ...
A. 3 October 2007: It is a decision you will have to make for yourself but please remember this.
It is your body and NOBODY, absolutely NOBODY has the right to tell you what you should do with it.
If you choose to abort the boyfriend need never know and your ca... (read in full...)
I don't find traditionaly beautiful women attractive. Whats so wrong with that?
Q. I am a college student in a long term relationship with a beautiful girl... we've been together for around 4 years now. I would like some feedback for a situation that so far I have found unique to me. I have had other girlfriends before her but s...
A. 3 October 2007: You sound like somebody who has really discovered absolute unconditional love. You see the natural beauty of your girlfriend for what she really is. I must admit I view women the same way you do noting and observing the way in which a woman omits ... (read in full...)
I'm 60, he's 35! Can it work?
Q. I am a 60 years old womam (seems much younger than my real age). Six or severn months age, I came across a 35 years old man on a agegap dating site, agelessfriends.com . we are very much in love after one-month's close commnunication. He's a lovely ...
A. 1 October 2007: The age gap will only be a problem if any of you choose to see it as that. I no doubt you will get a few funny looks in public when you go out together and you may have to deal with his parents or (if you have any) your children who may be of ... (read in full...)
Can a woman who's gone through the menopause have an orgasm?
Q. Can a woman who's gone thru menopause have an orgasim?...
A. 1 October 2007: Most certainly they can and from listening to many of these women they often say that the orgasm is much better too. The risk of becomming pregnant is completely removed so often there is less stress and worry associated with sex.... (read in full...)
He abuses me and loves me? I love him, is he ever going to change?
Q. ok. so here is the deal. i've been with this kidd for one year nd he's always lieing to me, he is so jealous, he hit me before, mentally abuse me, hurt me verbelly and physically but i know that he's crazy about me. he's in love with me and he would ...
A. 30 September 2007: If he hits you he does not love you - end of story. Get out of this one and leave this animal whilst you still can.... (read in full...)
13 years of marriage, she tells me now about a one night stand before we got together.
Q. I'm totally freaked out. My wife of 13 years just admitted that a few days prior to our getting together she had a one night stand(drunk) with a high school friend of ours who she barely knew. She has NEVER told me this even though we dated for 4 ...
A. 30 September 2007: You are making a big thing out of nothing. It was a long time ago and if you have a happy marriage let this be. If you pursue this you will loose her for sure.
It is easy to see why she kept it from you - just read your question and the answ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex but my gf is never ready. Are there ways to make a girl ready?
Q. hey frnds ! i wanna know how to make a girl ready for sex??? i need to have sex but my girlfriend is never ready to do so!! i can't controle it....i need to have sex...plzzz help me out!!!!!!! thanxxxxxxxxx...
A. 30 September 2007: OMG are you for real?
If you want a girl just for sex have you thought of visiting a prostitute. If you are so desperate for sex many towns in india have it available for a mere couple of hundred rupees. The places that sell sex are there fo... (read in full...)
My son has been diagnosed with autistic spectrum disorder. How do I solve his problem of not wanting to use the toilet except for urine?
Q. hi readers. i found out last year that my son has been diagnosed with autistic spectrum disorder. its not very well known of and some people dont even know it exists. My problem is, he has just started primary school and he is confident enough to ...
A. 30 September 2007: As a parent of three my oldest (15) Has Aspergers syndrome and my youngest (9) has A.S.D.
The way to deal with others is to say what I have said on a number of occasions, it goes something like this: -
"He behaves like this because he is au... (read in full...)
23 years age gap. I don't care about me, but of my boyfriend's reputation. Please advise.
Q. I'm having a relationship with an older man, there is a 23 year age gap but we are both very comfortable with each other and we're very happy together. My problem is that im worried that people may think bad of us, not many people know of our rela...
A. 30 September 2007: As somebody who is probably a very similar age to your boyfriend (I am 43 BTW) I would be very surprised if he had any problem with any people finding out. If I was in his shoes my main concern would be you getting hurt by nasty comments.
If it... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my Music Producer. Is it worth pursuing him?
Q. I am a small-time musician and I have a seriously intense crush on my producer, who is in a (very) long distance relationship. He's 31 and I'm 19. Are there too many reasons not to pursue him, or should I just go for it? He sends obvious vibes ...
A. 30 September 2007: As your producer you surely have a business arrangement with him. The only business arrangement I know where both parties indulge in that kind of stuff, especially where money is involved, is known as prostitution.
Whilst you are in a business... (read in full...)
If I do the bad guy thing
Q. I am 21 soon id like to think I know a bit since I had a crap life my girlfriend cheated on me and I gave her a 2nd chance and she cheated on me with 2 guys at the same time why do things like this happen to nice guys. Well I don’t think I am a ...
A. 30 September 2007: Likenesses attract each other.
If you decide to play the bad guy you will either get a bad girl who knows no respect and cannot be trusted or someone who has welcome written across their forehead who will expect you to treat her badly because ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 29 September 2007: How about a forum area for those of us who help out others.
I feel a forum for agony aunts and uncles where we could add views and get to know each other a bit through an area where we could all post for all of us to read. Maybe set a criteria... (read in full...)
My ex assulted me. How do I move on from this?
Q. hi there my ex partner assulted me 2 weeks ago and when i mean assulted he has been admitted to crown court for abh charges. its just that i feel like he is haunting me, he has already put me on that many sites and filled in profiles on me. im on s...
A. 29 September 2007: You say he is putting your details on these sites.
Print them off and collect them - they are evidence - I would even go as far as collecting any replies they attract too.
This guy sounds seriously disturbed and the more evidence that ca... (read in full...)
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