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writes:is it wrong for me to date my step-cousin? i have this step cousin of mine that i have had strong deep feeling for and chasing after for more than a year and an a half. the good thing is that she knows about and confronted me about. what she say was it felt weird bec she sees me like a cousin when were not related. so when she said that i gave her a choice of if it was ok with her or if it was not then i would let it go but it was ok with her. after the chat we hugged and kissed.(but on the cheeks)now im asking myself what would my family(blood family) say and what/how would myreally cousins would? so please people give me advice and what you think i should do!!! thanks
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (7 September 2007):
I don't know the rules in the states for marrying cousins, but I know here it is entirely legal for first cousins to marry. With a step cousin there is most likely no bloodlink whatsoever so I cannot imagine in any country where this could be made illegal in any way. Here it is possible for step brothers and step sisters to marry as well as it is just not considered to be wrong. It is only when there is a blood link in siblings when the law and moral ground so to say goes into that foggy grey area.I would try going out with her as good platonic friends and if anything else develops then just let it. I wouldn't worry what members of the family would have to say - after all the couple that got together that created this step cousin for you in the first place did not form their relationship against your dissaproval and if you had of voiced your dissaproval then I doubt if the couple concerned would have shown you any concern whatsoever - so now this situation has arisen what right have they got to intervene in this situation.If they disaprove of this relationship you potentially have with your step cousin it rather says a lot more about their bigoted ways than it says anything about you or your potential girlfriend in any negative way.I hope this has helped - I say go for it and enjoy yourself.Trev
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reader, auntie donna +, writes (7 September 2007):
 At the end of the day, you are only step cousins, so it's legal and if you love eachother then you shouldn't care what everyone else thinks. But you said, she said she thinks of you as a cousin!! Which could mean she wants you as a cousin and no more. Basically you need to sit down with her and decide what you are going to do, as this is a decision she needs to be involved in making. Good luck to both of you and let me know what you decide
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reader, mnhsgurl +, writes (7 September 2007):
If it is a step cousin I do not see an issue
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reader, sexi  +, writes (7 September 2007):
 HiHow is this girl your step cousin?
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