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I have several hobbies which include, music, vegetarian cookery, snooker, photography, art, drama, and travelling. I have a strong sense of what I believe to be right and wrong and am a comfirmed agnostic. I am very liberal minded and can sometimes be too frank for my own good.
Out of all the Agony Aunts and Agony Uncles in the world my idols include Claire Raynor, Maury Povich and especially Jeremy Kyle as he is from my neck of the woods and is also a fellow West Ham United supporter.
I also am a lover of nature and a lover of the principles of nature and believe we should always let nature take her place and go with it.
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I'm 12 and a 20 year old man wants to date me; I love him but my parent's don't know him, should I go out with him?
Q. Hey im 12 and i live where there is alot of mexicans. But i dated a 15 year old that lives by me. But i broke up with him so there is this boy hes 20 and he gave me a letter and he wants to go out with me should i say yes and i known him 4 a 1 year ...
A. 7 August 2007: Sounds like paedophilia to me.
Stay away from this guy - trouble will entail if you don't.... (read in full...)
I'm 18, she's 23 and I'm scared to tell her how I feel
Q. Hello iam an 18 year and iam in love with my 23year old bestfirend but iam to scard to tell here and lose our freind ship what should i do...
A. 7 August 2007: Maybe drop her a hint - something like "Do you know how easy it would be to fall in love with you?", or "It wouldn't be difficult for me to take this friendship up to another level." or "I feel about as close as I could with you without being in a ... (read in full...)
My kids don't like my ex who I've started seeing again but he wants us to move in with him
Q. I have a problem. I'm a single mom with 2 boys ages 12 and six, and just got back with my ex who they know but it seems that they don't like going to his house for some reason. My ex wants me to move back with him, do you think it's fair for me to ...
A. 7 August 2007: I would be concerned as to why your children have such an objection about going back to the guys place.
In your shoes I would hang back and keep your independance. If your ex really genuinely loves you he will understand and he will not mind you... (read in full...)
My 'friend' is chasing my ex, am I wrong to be angry?
Q. Am i wrong to feel betrayed by a freind who has made a move on my ex boyfreind? i was with him a long time before we broke up 2 months ago and a good freind of mine and his has started telling him she luvs him, misses him all the time, and keeps ...
A. 7 August 2007: It doesn't sound like your friend was the reason that you broke up with your ex. The only problem is that the situation could be made a little aukward by this. When you go out with her as a friend could you just explain to her that you are trying ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know how I could track down a person who I met in a local supermarket?
Q. Does anyone know how I could track down a person who I met in a local supermarket? I didnt take their phone number and im now really gutted? Any ideas would be great!...
A. 6 August 2007: Make a note of the time and the day that you see this person.
You would be surprised how regularly people do their shop.
Shopping at this time on this particular day of the week would give you a better chance of seeing them there again some... (read in full...)
Could I be a lesbian?
Q. me and my bestfriend were having a sleep over at her house the other night. she is bisexual, and i have been confused on if im straight, or if im lesbian. ok so we were sleeping on her bed. and we ended up talking about experimenting. s...
A. 6 August 2007: I would say you are probably bi-sexual but at the age you are, many people experiment as they become enlightend into a world of sexual activity. Curiousity would certainly have driven you but if you are comfortable doing this and your friend ... (read in full...)
... or do they just get sticky fingers?
Q. do guys get turned on when fingering a girl?...
A. 6 August 2007: The most effective way you can turn a guy on is by getting turned on yourself. When you get wet he will sense that you are getting turned on - this will turn him on almost automatically. ... (read in full...)
I'm married to a man who loves me endlessly and yet I feel so uncertain about my life...
Q. Why do i feel so incomplete...I am married to a man who loves me endlessly and yet i feel so uncertain about my life. I feel terrible for the way i feel. I ve never mentioned this to anyone but its really driving me crazy..i am really unhappy in ...
A. 6 August 2007: You possibly feel that you are in a rut and we all know what one of those are - it is a grave with the ends kicked out. Is this guy smothering you a bit? - Have you lost your independance since being with him? Do you do or pursue anything l... (read in full...)
He barely talks to me, he smokes pot and would rather be with his friends. Does he not love me anymore?
Q. Me and my boyfriend now have a long distance relationship. Ever since he came and visited me for three weeks, ever since he's gotten back all he does is barely talk to me. He hangs out with friends literally 24/7 and smokes pot all the time now. i ...
A. 6 August 2007: I would go out on a limb here and say you are right - he does not love you any more. He loves something a whole lot mor - His Stash of pot so to say. It sounds as if the stuff is rotting his brain away so he chooses to hang around with other like ... (read in full...)
How do I convince Mom and Dad to let me be with my friends?
Q. hi my name is jemma !! my mum and dad never lets me out with my friends and i am stook in the house nearly all day the only time she lets me out is to go up the shops !! and i get so bored and some times i feel i am not apart in this family b...
A. 6 August 2007: It may be an idea to ask your parents if you could invite some of your friends into your place. If your parents could see the kind of people that you hang around with they may be reassured that they are OK with you once you are out of their sight. ... (read in full...)
Be honest... do men like larger women?
Q. please help! do men honestly like larger women? im confused, im a bigger girl myself and seem to have no problem in finding guys who just want to be friends but nothing more? ...
A. 5 August 2007: I'll be entirely honest with you here. I am a fairly large bloke (260lbs & 6'0") and I love the larger lady very much preferring them to the skinnier ones. When I cuddle a lady I like to cuddle her and not end up cuddling myself as well.
On th... (read in full...)
What's the best reply?
Q. whats the best response to a guy that says "i love you"? if you are not sure you are ready to honestly say that back to him??...
A. 5 August 2007: This sounds like as if you are both relatively new together in this relationship. Assuming this is so in your shoes I would be more tempted to tell him that you are very fond of him but you are the kind of person who just doesn't fall in love too... (read in full...)
What do guys find attractive in a girl?
Q. this is to all you guys out there! Plz tell me what you find atractive in a girl and also in foreplay. What things can she do to make you go crazy!!!Well i appreciate your honest replies thank u all!...
A. 5 August 2007: The most attractive feature of a woman is her radience, the way she can smile with her eyes, a general bubbly personality all around.
A glamourous look with elegance is good. At the end of the day I have always thought that a girl makes th... (read in full...)
Should I still ask him out given that I'm 19, he's 35?
Q. I'm an 19 year old girl and I'm interested in dating someone who is 35. I think he likes me but I'm afraid that he'll say no if I ask him if he feels the same. I think this because of our age difference. Should I still ask?...
A. 5 August 2007: This potential relationship will only work if both of you want it to work. You may meet with a little resentment from peers, parents, his children if he has any. What I am saying is that you may have to face one or two minor difficulties from ... (read in full...)
I don't know what's going on inside my craaazy head!! Think I might have some kind of personality disorder?
Q. hello peeps. Need a bit of advice. I don't know what's going on inside my craaazy head!! Think I might have some kind of personality disorder? One minute I am so so happy and think I'm the luckiest girl alive, next minute I'm the most depressed ...
A. 5 August 2007: It sounds as if your hormones are a bit unsettled at the moment. A visit to the doctor wouldn't do you any harm and they may have some ideas that would really be able to help you.
You are indeed lucky if you have a boyfriend that is understa... (read in full...)
I feel so down lately. I feel really bad about myself, and feel I am rubbish at everything...
Q. hey people, I really need your help. I feel so down lately. I feel really bad about myself, and feel I am rubbish at everything. There is not a lot I am good at at all plus I hate being around people - even family because it makes me feel ...
A. 5 August 2007: You need some self belief. You also need to learn to love yourself and build your self esteem a bit.
If you feel you are really boring what interests do you have? Are you in a job that you like?
You say that you are rubbish at everything - ... (read in full...)
Do guys get nervous when it comes to girls and what can I do to make him make the first move?
Q. One of my friends told me this guy told her he liked me and all, and after hearing that I started liking him too. It's been 2 YEARS and he still didn't ask me out or anything (and I know for a fact that he STILL likes me.) Other guys have asked me ...
A. 5 August 2007: Have you asked the question why haven't you asked him out instead? After all we are now in the 21st century and nothing is thought negative in any way of a girl asking a bloke out. If you think of it - it is problably the main reason why you ... (read in full...)
Now I think we're broken up for sure.. I don't know what to do...
Q. Hi, I'm 16, me and my boyfriend have been dating since I was 14. I gave up everything for him. We've been through a lot. I was verbally and physically abused for a few months before he left and he confessed to have cheated on 4 different ...
A. 5 August 2007: This guy verbally insults you, he physically assults you, he has cheated on you repeatedly, you're giving, he's taking, you're giving, he's taking etc. etc. etc.
You may see him as Mr Perfect and you may well be in awe of him; but he sees you... (read in full...)
How can I get myself a social life and stop my friends from turning into my enemies?
Q. All my friends have started to take the piss out of me. I have started to lose all of my friends and they keep mocking me and my lack of a social life. I don't know why they have all started to hate me but I really want to get back on good terms ...
A. 5 August 2007: Are you sure you are not doing something to put them off. Either this or is somebody in your school or local area mounting a hate campaign against you.
It is a known saying in life that you become the books that you read and you become the peop... (read in full...)
For me there is no way I would do this as I think its rather disgusting and I see my anus as a one way system. Am I being silly for not letting my boyfriend try this?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and we are completely in love. We have been sexually active for about 9 months and we have done everything apart from anal sex. My boyfriend makes little jokes about doing it all the time and when I come ...
A. 5 August 2007: It's your body and your choice - the only thing I would say is that how do you know that this activity is not pleasurable or enjoyable if you do not try it?
Surely if you have never tried it, it is impossible to know this.
Providing you... (read in full...)
Being Raped hasn't ruined or changed my life...i kinda enjoyed it...Whats wrong with me?Am i a freak?
Q. Hi,im Naoko im 20 years old and when i was 19 i was raped... I just wanna know if im a freak Being Raped hasn't ruined or changed my life...i kinda enjoyed it...Whats wrong with me?Am i a freak?...
A. 5 August 2007: There are some girls out there that fantasise about being raped although they are very few and far between. They usually have a safe word where all the action can stop if they feel stressed at any time.
What is being said here though by the soun... (read in full...)
is it safe to have anal sex during pregnancy
Q. is it safe to have anal sex during pregnancy?...
A. 5 August 2007: If you are comfortable with it and want to do it then there should be no problem with it whatsoever.
As for it harmimg the pregnancy if it did then you would most probably be the first.... (read in full...)
He likes to drink too much, and it hurt our relationship. Any advice?
Q. I'd split up with my boyfriend when he was at uni cos all he was interested in doing was getting drunk and treating me 2nd best. We got back 10 months ago after he finished uni and he said he'd changed but after 3/4 months of being good i find he ...
A. 5 August 2007: Sounds to me as if this guy is an alcaholic.
Alcaholics need alcahol and by the sound of it your fellow is in this position at the moment. The fact that he is creeping the drink in via the back door - that he does it descreetly after work and... (read in full...)
I lost my boyfriends trust by doing some pretty stupid thing-how do I gain back his trust?
Q. I lost my boyfriends trust by doing some pretty stupid things. When we were going out fore about 7 months I contacted 2 people I really felt something for at one time and I couldn't even tell him why. Truth is I didn't know myself. But now I know ...
A. 5 August 2007: Winning back somebodys trust after you have lost it is you will find a long and arduous task.
I take it from your question you are still with him but you are maybe not that happy at the moment.
You just have to keep doing the responsible and ... (read in full...)
So I'm not jealous about porn, looking at other females or anything.. is anyone else out there like that??
Q. I see that probably about 90% of females are really bothered by porn and I kind of get it but at the same time I don't. I know some of my friends are this way but is anyone else out there not bothered by it? or bothered by anything for tha...
A. 3 August 2007: What a refreshing change to read of a young lady who has no hang ups regarding porn.
I as an older teenager used to hang out with a group of lads that used to hire out some adult movies. The most amusing thing about it was the comments that we ... (read in full...)
3 days ago he sent me a text message saying that his son wants to move in with us when we buy our house, I told him that was ok, but he won't let me meet his son yet.
Q. hi I have been with my partner for over 2 years, he told me 3 months ago he has a 13 year old son, He works away, and I only get to see him once a week, and he is always with his work mate, 3 days ago he sent me a text message saying th...
A. 2 August 2007: I wouldn't agree to anything regarding the son moving in until you have at least met him. You need to know you can get on - you need to know that you can trust the son too. If you agree and he turns out to be a monster, a thief or worse it is ... (read in full...)
So do I give up on our relationship or give in to his request (ultimatum)?
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. He has had about 6 sexual partners before me. He is my first love and I've been brought up to believe that sex before marriage is wrong. He always said he was okay with it but now nearly 2 years on ...
A. 2 August 2007: If you are absolutely sure that you want to stay with this one and you want this guy to be your first then go for it. Two years is a long time to wait and it isn't as if he isn't committed. You are obviously very close and your guy obviously wants ... (read in full...)
My best mate has cheated on her bf so many times, I feel like I should tell him. Should I?
Q. My best friend of 15 years has been going out with this guy for 2 years almost. In that time she's cheated on him God knows how many times, last time I got her to tell him because I thought it wasn't fair on him and she did, but got mad at me ...
A. 2 August 2007: It depends how close you are to the boyfriend that has been cheated on. If you are particularly close to the girl in question and not to the lad then maybe it would be a good idea to stay out of it. If he is a good friend then I would be in... (read in full...)
Can you still snog a boy if you have braces on?
Q. can you still snog a boy if you have braces on?...
A. 2 August 2007: Yep - no problem.
Go for it and enjoy yourself.... (read in full...)
I fell for her but found out she's older than me and I'm not sure if we're related!
Q. okay i got a few problems on my mind...1st is about this girl...see i first saw her at my uncles house, my uncle was getting married and we were having a miniparty. she was there bcoz she was the brides sister...at that point i didnt feel anything ...
A. 2 August 2007: Although I am not indian I need to asure you that you are not breaking any law regarding incest by getting close to someone related to you in this way.
I live in a quiet westcountry village and the vast majority of people who marry down here are ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant from sperm on toilet paper?
Q. can a 17 year old girl get pregnant if there is sperm on toilet paper?...
A. 2 August 2007: I wouldn't say impossible as there is perhaps the very slightest of chances and if you ended up having a lad may I suggest you call him "Houdini".
Joking aside though as I said the chance of you falling pregnant is probably less than winning ... (read in full...)
Is everybody online dating? I cant find anyone in the real world!
Q. Is the whole world online dating? I can't find anybody in the real world ....
A. 2 August 2007: I for one think you have to have an enormous amount of trust in the human race to go dating on the internet. I no doubt that some sites are good but you can only ever go by what people choose to say about themselves until you actually meet them in ... (read in full...)
After a year and a half he still wont introduce me to his daughter and wants our relationship to be secret
Q. I am separated and I met a man who is also separated. We have been seeing each other for a year and a half. When I first met him he explained that his ex can cause problems and so he wanted to keep things quiet about us. He further indicated he ...
A. 2 August 2007: My first instinct here is that the guy is not separated - does he allow you to ring him on his landline at home? Either he is still married or together with his so called ex or they have an agreement where they may be on a trial separation and h... (read in full...)
I have liked this guy forever, but he is dating my friend
Q. I have liked this one guy forever and a few months ago he started going out with my best friend even though he liked and still likes me. He has been calling me alot lately and we are talking about an hour everyday. Last time we talked he kept ...
A. 2 August 2007: The first thing I have to comment about is that I am surprised about your choice of friends. I have a number of what I would call good friends that I would never use a word like you have used to describe - let alone a best friend. If ... (read in full...)
My older sister calls him a pervert.. but is he really too old for me?
Q. i know age is just a number but i have a quick question is 16 which ill be 17 in a week and hes 20 is that big of a differnce? because my older sister keeps calling him a prevert but her husban is 29 and she is 23 so is she just trien to get him to ...
A. 2 August 2007: Unless your sister really knows something about this guy that could be very damaging to you if you were to continue this into a fully fledged relationship I would be prepared try ignoring her completely.
From what you have written you sister c... (read in full...)
I am with someone that is 15 years older than me. How can I keep him interested?
Q. So I am recently dating a guy that is 15 years older then me and I'm wondering if anyone has advice on how to make sure that he stays interested in me. ...
A. 2 August 2007: In answer to your question I would think what it was about you that attracted him to you in the first place. Providing that is there - whatever it is he should remain with the same feelings for you as he had at first.
Just be you and be the you ... (read in full...)
How do the men feel about dating an older woman?
Q. Men only please! I am a woman in my early fifties and have met a guy in his forties, there is a 8 year gap. He is grey haired and a bit overweight and I am hardly grey at all and trim, fit, and told I look much younger quite often, even in my thirt...
A. 2 August 2007: As a bloke I would have no problem dating a woman of your age. I am 42 by the way and am probably a similar age to the guy you are dating.
I can understand some guys being a little worried about a larger gap than this but the concern would be... (read in full...)
I need to get my mind off him!!!
Q. hi i am 14 and i recently went to a football match and i really like one of the footballers i saw playing (it was a pre season match) i cant stop thinking about him although i have only seen him twice (i saw him in his car on the way home ) he is 21 ...
A. 1 August 2007: It is merely a crush. Other advice here is really good and in your shoes I would act on it. As for this fellow maybe keep in touch regarding a fan club or if you know any of his other friends or relatives see how it goes and if you still feel the ... (read in full...)
How can I cope with her breaking up with me?
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend for the past 10 months. Only recently she has moved back home to Wales and since then the relationship has seemed strained. She has been home for about a month and is now asking for space. Things have seem...
A. 1 August 2007: Maybe you could get in touch and ask her if you could do anything to help out regarding her grand-parents. Show your concern as a friend and if the feelings from her are still there then you may get back on track in a few months.
In your sho... (read in full...)
I'm 20, 4'10in and worried.
Q. I am 20 years old and only 4 ft 10. My mother is 5 ft 3 and my father is 5ft 5. I am really getting worried about my height. I have been to my doctor who says i have nothing to worry about as long as i am healthy. Can any one help me please because ...
A. 1 August 2007: I know as a guy I am attracted to the more extreme variety of lady. Those over 5'8" and those below 5'0" I find both have qualitys that are very rare in the more average height ladies.
Maybe it is because they have never been able to mingle i... (read in full...)
Do guys like to date plain-looking female virgins or am I doomed?
Q. Do guys like to date plain female virgins ? I though i would find a man in high school nothing happened , then college but still nothing . I am about to graduate from college and then go to a career college . i fear i will find no guys there who are ...
A. 1 August 2007: As a guy one of the most attractive thing I find in a lady is her radience. That is something that every woman has - it is something that you have got no less of than any other woman walking the planet.
It is how you choose to use it. Smiling ... (read in full...)
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