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I am a private teacher and a composer, living in the South West UK. I have a number of students at all ages and always listen to what they have to say. I have had a lot of experiences in life and am hopefully able to pass these onto others in a relatively unbiased way.

I have several hobbies which include, music, vegetarian cookery, snooker, photography, art, drama, and travelling. I have a strong sense of what I believe to be right and wrong and am a comfirmed agnostic. I am very liberal minded and can sometimes be too frank for my own good.

Out of all the Agony Aunts and Agony Uncles in the world my idols include Claire Raynor, Maury Povich and especially Jeremy Kyle as he is from my neck of the woods and is also a fellow West Ham United supporter.

I also am a lover of nature and a lover of the principles of nature and believe we should always let nature take her place and go with it.

If my opinion can help in any way then it makes efforts in here very worthwhile.

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Do guys like to date plain-looking female virgins or am I doomed?

Q.   Do guys like to date plain female virgins ? I though i would find a man in high school nothing happened , then college but still nothing . I am about to graduate from college and then go to a career college . i fear i will find no guys there who are ...

A.   1 August 2007: As a guy one of the most attractive thing I find in a lady is her radience. That is something that every woman has - it is something that you have got no less of than any other woman walking the planet. It is how you choose to use it. Smiling ... (read in full...)

My family seems cursed never to find love; will I be the same?

Q.   I am in a relationship of 6 months and i really love her. However both my parents and both my sisters havnt been that lucky in love. My mum has had many husbands and divorced my dad when i was young. Both my sisters have also gone through divorces. ...

A.   1 August 2007: A successful relationship depends on two things - you and your partner. You have both got to want to make it work - you both need to apply give and take - you both need to see the situation from the partners point of view. Providing yo... (read in full...)

Should I stay with the secure but unhappy relationship, or the new, uncertain relationship?

Q.   what should i do i have a two boyfriends now,i dont know who really i choose,my 1st bf mamed vic,we have almost 1yr relationship but we lack of communiction and then now i dont feel any feelings for him,im not happy now to him.my second bf was jason ...

A.   1 August 2007: Do not ever stay where you are unhappy. The longer you stay there the more you will regret it - you will end up despising him. In your shoes I would go with the new lad. You are still relatively young with your whole life ahead of you so go out t... (read in full...)

Should i just go on strike?

Q.   Taken for granted: I do 100% of the maintenance work, 90% of the cooking, my fair share of the cleaning and laundry, and more than half of the finances. Our point of contention is that she doesn't seem to notice what I do and gets her panties ...

A.   1 August 2007: I know this may sound a bit drastic but I think in your shoes I would just clean up after nyself and not her. Give it a couple of weeks to let the general state of the place deteriorate and then maybe early one evening tell her you are checking ... (read in full...)

Sex at 14.

Q.   Am i too young to have sex at 14 ?...

A.   1 August 2007: At fourteen you are most probably below the age for consent which makes the act of intercourse an illegal one wreather you are ready or not. The only way it would not be illegal is if the state you are in, the of consent of fourteen or below. ... (read in full...)

Am I wrong in stopping my kids seeing their dad who has a drink and drugs problem?

Q.   I seperated from my partner and father of my three children 14 months ago life has been pretty hard as when we first seperated i found out that i was pregnant with my third child he gave me no support during this time. A week after i gave birth he ...

A.   29 July 2007: Possibly a compromise would be assisted visits but initially I think you are right in denying access if there are drinks and drugs involved. If there is any incentive to get off this stuff once and for all it is this. You are denying him acce... (read in full...)

Quickest ways of losing weight.

Q.   whats the quickest way to lose weight? im 14, size 12 and weigh 11 stone and i hate the way my body looks. everyone around me and most of my friends are thinner than me and i hate being the big one. ive tried loads of diets but none of them see...

A.   29 July 2007: I think it is celery that when you eat it you use more calories eating it than it actually gives you. I believe the same can be said for lettuce. Nevertheless it is not much fun living on rabbit food and at a size twelve at the age of 14 you sound ... (read in full...)

Should i keep begging?

Q.   hi my name is john and i am 14 years old and me and my girlfriend of 9 months recently broke up because i cheated with a female on the internet i cheated once before and she forgave me but i did it again and now she says she wants to be friends i ...

A.   29 July 2007: It depends exactly what you mean when you say cheated. If it is cheating the way that one assumes then who can blame her for not wanting a relationship with you. She is being more than reasonable still wanting to be a friend with you and you ... (read in full...)

Do you think it would be ok to have a relationship?

Q.   hi, i need some honest impartial advice and after reading some of the replys this seems to be the place! Im a 27yrs old nurse,i have 3 children 15yr old boy(from my husbands first marriage) and 5yr old twins (girl and a boy). 2 1/2 yrs ago my husba...

A.   29 July 2007: You need to be as open to the new man and to your children and to your husband, if your husband has any ability to take information on-board as you possibly can be. I can only imagine what you must be going through to have any chance of offering... (read in full...)

Do i sign the papers?

Q.   I have been married for 35 years and we have one son 28.I am 59 and my husband is almost 61. For about 10 years we had a commuter marriage and I only saw my husband on week-ends. During that time my husband had two affairs within one year. With each ...

A.   29 July 2007: I really believe that you are so much better off away from him. Make sure you have the most amicable settlement with your solicitor. By what you say there seems to be no advantage at all in staying with him and by separating it will eventually deve... (read in full...)

He has not spoken to me in 4 days.

Q.   Hi. Am married, 38 w/3 children. Have always dealt with the finances at home..made a mess of them over and over again but husband never helps, he just gets really mad and spiteful so it's now unbearable. Hasn't spoken to me, eaten with me or even ...

A.   29 July 2007: He is leaving you to do the accounts and then has a go at you when you muck up. He doesn't sound too considerate and the spite causes some concern. You simply aren't going to get any further towards finding any solution unless you are BOTH wil... (read in full...)

Is ten years too big a difference?

Q.   There is 10 years difference between myself and my girlfriend. She is 47 and I'm 37. She has been married and divorced but has no kids. I'm not sure if I still want kids. I do care for her and enjoy being with her, but don't know if 10 years is...

A.   29 July 2007: You've answered the question yourself - in saying that the age gap doesn't feel like that kind of gao when you are together. If it doesn't feel like a gap to you there is a good chance that it doesn't feel like a gap to her either. Sounds like... (read in full...)

I really like him but he doesn't seem interested in me that way; could the age gap be the reason?

Q.   I have a huge crush on a male friend that I met a few weeks ago. We have spent quite a bit of time hanging out together and we have great conversations, but it's never really flirty. He shows a lot of interested in me as a person, but never in the ...

A.   29 July 2007: I am assuming that he is ten years older. Having read some of the letters on this site you can never be 100% sure. It is possible that he would think the age gap would mean that you were not interested that way in him. You say that he... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and dating my 25 year old teacher

Q.   Hi. my names lindsay and im going out with a 25 year old. im only 14... but i love him and he loves me...what do u think? but if anyone finds out like in my school he could like lose everything cause hes a teacher...what do u think?...

A.   29 July 2007: This is a crazy situation. Firstly if you are sure this is more than a schoolgirl fantasy and this relationship is actually happening it is highly dangerous. Something like this cannot be kept a secret forever and when somebody finds out about it ... (read in full...)

Sex was too painful for my virgin girlfriend so we stopped; how can I help her stop feeling like she failed me?

Q.   Me and my gf decided we were gonna have sex last other night but when we started it was hurting her and she said she wanted to stop for now so we did. I told her we could stop at any point and that i wouldn't think any less of her. We have been ...

A.   28 July 2007: The information here that has been given already is really good and spot on. I feel I can only add one thing to it though that has not been mentioned. If your girlfriend takes the position of going on top so she has full control and decides how ... (read in full...)

Do you think this is a weird, freaky thing to do?

Q.   My boyfriend likes for me to go down on him while he is watching porn. I figured at least he isnt doing this be himself but is this a wierd freaky thing to do?...

A.   28 July 2007: I would go along with it as being a bit kinky but if you are both doing this in relative privacy then what is wrong with it. If the porn can add a little more to the intensity and give an edge to the proceedings then go for it and enjoy your... (read in full...)

After a two year relationship, he's already moved on! How do I let this go?

Q.   My boyfriend and I split up almost 2 weeks ago, after a two year relationship. He's already over me, and has moved on with his life, while I seem to cant let it go. It's eating me on the inside, and I hurt so badly, I know I'm holding onto air, but ...

A.   28 July 2007: If he has been trying to stop your relationship for the past year then he has had a year to move on ahead of you. You have only had two weeks so what might seem very fast to you is not that fast to him. It seems strange him telling your mother t... (read in full...)

At first sex was fine and wasn't an issue but now she dosen't seem interested in it at all.

Q.   I've been going out with my girlfriend for going on 2 years now but somthing's not right at all. At first sex was fine and wasn't an issue but now she dosen't seem interested in it at all. We still get on really well and are very much in love but ...

A.   28 July 2007: You must explain your feelings to her and try to work this one out together. If she is not willing to do this or not willing to be more understanding of your needs then it may be time to start looking elseware. If you are both very much in lov... (read in full...)

I've never cheated on anyone ever and don't understand why these feelings are so strong....help!

Q.   Any advice would be gratefully received.... I'm a woman in my mid thirties with three children and a lovely man in my life. Recently a new guy started work where I do. The attraction was almost instant and as the weeks have gone by the flirting...

A.   28 July 2007: This guy is a lot younger than you and I no doubt that you feel very flattered that he finds you so very attractive and is persuing you. You said yourself that you have three children and a very nice husband that you are very happy with. You have... (read in full...)

Is it normal to have orgasms at my age?

Q.   this is abit embarresing for me but is it normal to get orgasms at my age? ...

A.   28 July 2007: It is unusual but yes it is certainly possible. No need to be embarressed about it though. It just means that everything is functioning OK.... (read in full...)

Any tips on how to memorise lines for a big part in a play?

Q.   Hey i just got a big part in a play im doing in my drama group. Its Gwendolen from The Importance of being Ernest. A girl dropped out so my teach gave me the part. the play iso n Friday. So i need help on ways to memorise my lines. does ...

A.   28 July 2007: Memorising small chunks and working very hard in short bursts of ten minutes or so. Another good idea is to try and picture any descriptions or any words as this will help trigger the sub-concious memory into position which tends to memorise... (read in full...)

I'm afraid to tell my friend I like him but I'm going mad not being able to

Q.   I would appreciate some help. I am having difficulty telling a male friend that I have feelings for him above friendship and I am concerned that if I tell him it will put him in a very awkward position if he doesn't feel the same way. At the same ...

A.   28 July 2007: I personally would use a mutual friend - especially if it is someone that you can really trust. You certainly need to tell someone and a mutual friend would mean that if he wasn't interested you would not be jepodising your existing friendship with ... (read in full...)

I'm 14, how do I ask my parents if I can go on birth control pills?

Q.   how do you ask your parents for control pills when you are my age. wich is fourteen....

A.   28 July 2007: I am not sure of the age of consent in Canada but in the UK it is 16. It basically means that it is illegal to have sex below this age and it can be considered statutary rape. Then again it is good to see that you are taking some responsi... (read in full...)

I like my best friend's younger sister; should I tell him, or her?

Q.   ok i have liked one of my best friends younger sisters for awhile ( me and my best friend are both 14, and she is turning 13 in august ) i was at his house today and i was flirting with her in there computer room well my friend was with are other ...

A.   28 July 2007: You are all pretty young and I would bear this in mind at this stage. Maybe let your friend know that you think his sister is really nice. Maybe get him to find out from his sister if she really likes you too. That way you can actually get your ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend called me a slut but he cheated on me!

Q.   wat if my bf told me dat im slut? and he said he doesnt want me to go back in the club. does it min he loves me and care for me??? i did everything he wants for me. but he cheated on me wid my frend...i love him so much. and im begging him to go ...

A.   28 July 2007: Nobody who genuinely loves you would treat you like this. Get out of the relationship, stay away and start to look elseware. Let your friend have him if that is what she wants - she deserves him.... (read in full...)

I have the 'hots' for her bf! How do I break them up?

Q.   I know its wrong but I have the ''Hot's'' for my friends boyfriend... What can I do to break them up???...

A.   28 July 2007: If this is how you treat your friends it will not be long before you do not have any left. Try being happy for them instead of being so deceitful like this. ... (read in full...)

Which is safer? Online dating sites or a match making agency?

Q.   which is better and safer online dating or go to a match making agency ? i want whats best for my daughter a good man and her safety ....

A.   28 July 2007: I would say that you would find good and bad everywhere you go for this kind of thing. Just make sure you step carefully and cauciouisly and make sure you do your best not expose your daughter to any danger. If you have a young daughter to look... (read in full...)

My cultural tradition is, we look after our elderly parents..my husband wants them out! What should I do?

Q.   i've been with my husband for 12 years married for 10 years we have 4 children. I come from a filipino family and it is our tradition that we take care of our parents. my husband and i have been living with my parents for the last 4 years while he ...

A.   28 July 2007: It is not as if your parents are making things difficult. I could imagine your husband being difficult if they were always finding fault with him and no matter what he did they disliked him but this is not the case. Your parents sound like very ... (read in full...)

He's been uploading pictures of his genitals to the internet and won't stop

Q.   My husband hasn't been wanting sex much recently, and I feel disappointed. But today when he was at work I found out the reason.. he'd been uploading images of his penis and pictures of him in the nude to Wikipedia and adding them to articles...

A.   28 July 2007: It does not look as if he has got any respect for you. He certainly has not got any respect for your feelings. It would be a differant situation if you were both into doing this kind of thing and trying to get in touch with other people of the sa... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is an angel but thinks she's worthless, how can I make her see what I see?

Q.   my girlfriend iv been seeing for 6 months and known a year is wonderful, shes beautiful, funny, clever, and so caring to everyone even people she doesnt kno, and i love her very much. only problem is she has no self esteem and thinks shes useless, ...

A.   25 July 2007: We all see beauty differantly. I no doubt what I conceive as beautiful others would conceive as ugly. One of the most beautiful things I notice in a woman is radience, the way in which she smiles with her eyes. I am in no doubt by what you ha... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is an angel but thinks she's worthless, how can I make her see what I see?

Q.   my girlfriend iv been seeing for 6 months and known a year is wonderful, shes beautiful, funny, clever, and so caring to everyone even people she doesnt kno, and i love her very much. only problem is she has no self esteem and thinks shes useless, ...

A.   25 July 2007: Beauty is one of the hardest things to actually explain to somebody. What I think is beautiful others think is ugly, and vice versa too. I can't help being convinced that somebody has referred to her as ugly way back in her childhood and she has ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my married teacher and there's a lot of evidence to suggest he likes me too, what should I do when school starts again?

Q.   I've tried getting over my teacher so many times. I've tried getting to know this boy I had a crush on for a few months, but once we went out, there were no sparks. zip. nothing. I think my teacher likes me back, it seems like he has since the day ...

A.   25 July 2007: Wow - what a long question. This guy sounds like a really good teacher. He is praising you and believes in you and is possibly giving you a little more attention than the others. This may be because the others are more confident and are progress... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has started shouting and swearing at me a lot and basically doesn't want me to express my opinion

Q.   My live-in boyfriend of about 1.5 years has lately just started raging, calling me a f**king stupid bitch c**t, when i say something he doesnt want to hear. (like, "i thought you paid that bill".) he says its because i am giving him bitch tone or ...

A.   25 July 2007: My gut instinct here is to get out of this relationship just as soon as you can. No man says that kind of thing to anybody that he genuinely loves. You are not in a position of being married to him and I gather through your question above t... (read in full...)

I started dating my ex's friend; now my ex doesn't speak to us and is calling me a slut

Q.   my ex broke up with me in Dec after a brief 4 month relationship. very shortly after our breakup, i was out and I met one of his friends that he talked about all the time, but Id never met this friend..me and my ex's friend hit it off right from the ...

A.   24 July 2007: It seems he has the problem more than you. I detect a bit of jealousy here as well. The best way forward here is not to show you're bothered with this. If anybody confronts you about it then come straight out and tell them you met up by chance w... (read in full...)

How can I motivate myself to make more of an effort in the bedroom?

Q.   I have a small problem that I need some help with. I've been married 23 years to a good man. We have a good marriage. He has always had a stronger sex drive than I do. He's not asking for sex every night but he says he finds our sex life to be ...

A.   24 July 2007: I know this is going to sound a little frank but I want you to consider it. If you genuinely feel that sex is not important to you would it bother you that much if your husband was to go somewhere else to fulfill what he isn't getting at home? Via a ... (read in full...)

I have a mad crush on a customer

Q.   I work and I see frequent customers. There is this one main guy who comes in about every week, and when i see him, i get sooo red. Expecially when i communicate with him. And I'm sure he notices too!! I've seen quite a few attractive guys,...

A.   24 July 2007: Don't throw yourself at him - you are worth far more than this and you obviously want him to see that you are too. If you come over equally as confident and go out together for a couple of social drinks or a meal or something purely as friends.... (read in full...)

His horoscope said 'an ex is back'! How much validity do you think this has?

Q.   Things have been going beautifully between my b/f and I for the past few months, after much stress over an ex-girlfriend that took him 4 years to get over because he insisted on remaining friends with her, even though she's manipulative, intrusive ...

A.   24 July 2007: So I suppose along with you a twelth of all the population in the world will have an ex coming back too. That would make for an interesting world now wouldn't it. Surely you should take this with a pinch of salt it is only claptrap althoug... (read in full...)

I want to get divorced, but I am terrrified of the wrath of G-d!

Q.   I want to end my 25 year marriage because my husband and I have grown apart and there is absolutely no attraction in it for me. But I have tremendous religious guilt and worry incessively that God is going to punish me for doing this horrible ...

A.   24 July 2007: Surely any religion that promotes an unhappiness like this is wrong. If in divorcing and re-marrying you find true happiness then surely you have to go with this. I don't think you should have any guilt about what you have done or what you plan... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to give your virginity away as a birthday present?

Q.   is it wrong to give your virginity to some1 you love for his birdthday? after 3 months ? or should i wait :S ...

A.   24 July 2007: I wasn't aware that ones virginity could be wrapped in paper and bows and the thought of giving somebody this for their birthday comes across as cheap and tacky. Taking the relationship to this level should only happen when you both feel it is th... (read in full...)

I'm muslim, she's buddhist - her parents don't accept our relationship!

Q.   i am a muslim and my girlfriend is a buddhist. we love each other truly. but her parents are not accepting our relationship and does not want it to continue. what should i do?...

A.   24 July 2007: There are lots of stereotypical views people have of muslim men when they marry a non muslim woman. Here are a few. The women have to change their religion. The children are brought up in Islam. The woman becomes slave and servant to her... (read in full...)

This girl I recently got to know told me she likes me; I don't feel the same way but I feel bad about rejecting her

Q.   Hi Everyone, I'm sure there's been numerous topics like this but, there's this girl that's in my summer school class that I just got to know. She just told me that she liked me, but the problem is that I don't feel the same way. She confesse...

A.   24 July 2007: Maybe explain to her that she is extremely attractive but you do not feel the chemistry that should be there for the relationship to work from your point of view. Maybe explain that the love you feel for her is like a love you feel for a very ... (read in full...)

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