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Why send me a video of his girlfriend?

Q.   My to be ex husband sent me his intimate vdo of him with his girlfriend. After we have been talking about divorce for these past years. We have been lived in 2 different countries though. So he sent me that last week, saying I should know and he ...

A.   16 January 2018: Well, I get why you're divorcing him. As @Honeypie says it appears he was trying to hurt your feelings, there isn't much of another reason unless his aim was to hint at a threesome or some sexual act among the 3 of you. Or it could mean that he ... (read in full...)

I just want some to love ... who will love me back!

Q.   Hello aunts What does someone do when they can’t find love? I want to give a background ( been in two relationships) long term( both same type of guys) negligent - over powering - verbally absuive - and non emphatic . Learned my lesson that I ne...

A.   14 January 2018: The energy I get from you letter tells me that you are relying on a man to come into your life and make you happy. The truth is there is no man on planet earth that can fulfil that wish. I'm assuming you think constantly about being single and ... (read in full...)

He communicates okay, apart from when I suggest we hang out!

Q.   I have been talking to this guy for a total of two months, we met on a dating app and have gone on one date since then, I even met his grandparents lol. At the very beginning he was eager-- calling, texting, you name it frequently and now after ...

A.   13 January 2018: Maybe he thinks the sooner the two of you start seeing each other, the sooner you want to start having sex. Maybe he's nervous about having sex. Or it could be a case where he really does prefer friendship first before anything else. I know th... (read in full...)

Is this ok? It’s meant to be a nice gesture!

Q.   Is this etiquette ok? Or. It acceptable? In 6 weeks I am going interstate to see a live theater show I enjoy It has a favorite stage actress of mine in it, in a smaller but important role. She’s not the star. I’m female and I admire he...

A.   13 January 2018: I understand in this day and age many people are becoming more afraid of "approaching" people in fear of offending them in some shape or form. You can enter a situation with the best of intentions and before you know it end up in a courtroom but... (read in full...)

His email to his brother hurts more than his affair

Q.   My partner and I have been together for 3 years in January, he cheated on me with someone I knew in October. In our bed When I was away for 2 days. When I came back he acted like nothing had happened but I knew in my heart and then my friends told ...

A.   11 January 2018: "I love you..." There...I said it.... Actions speak louder than words. You know this. Does this sound like a man who cares about you? Men DO NOT chase after women who put up with their crap. And it's very clear that you're rolling in it. H... (read in full...)

I need help breaking the happy news to my partner!

Q.   Hiya everyone I’ve been with my partner for 4 years we have a 2 year old son together the problem is I have just found out I’m pregnant which I’m over the moon about but the problem is he doesn’t want any more children ever he has said I haven’t ...

A.   10 January 2018: Congratulations, you're bringing new life into this world. Things like these happen all the time in marriages. Sure, you PLANNED on not having any more kids but life has a funny way of surprising us. He's your husband, and sure maybe he may not ... (read in full...)

My gf wants to learn salsa dance and I hate it. How to say no

Q.   Hi. I've been in a relationship with my gf for about 2 years now. I'm planning to propose soon but there's is something thas is making me reevaluate my relationship. I took her once to a latin club where salsa music is played and she absolute...

A.   10 January 2018: Pardon my French but, you sound hella dramatic. You do realise this is one of the many things that will occur in marriage right? Clearly something is wrong with me because I REFUSE to beat around the bush with people. "When you complain, you ma... (read in full...)

Should my 65 year old mother try online dating?

Q.   Hi , Thanks for always being helpful. My mom is 65 years old. My father passed away ten years ago. My mom feel very lonely. I do my best to spend time with her but still she feel lonely. I advice her to date someone. She is happy with my idea. Bu...

A.   10 January 2018: It's never too late for anything once you have life. She's a grown woman and sometimes grown women want companionship and a comfortable male figure in her life. The very fact that she didn't shun the idea of dating means she is quite open minde... (read in full...)

I found my best friends sex tape online

Q.   This is unbelievable. There is a girl I’ve been friends with since we were two years old, and we are now 24. I recently found a video of her on a porn site (one of my friends who met her at a party sent me a link saying it looked like her). It 10...

A.   9 January 2018: Well, you wouldn't be much of a friend if you just left it would you? If you tell her, and I'm assuming she doesn't want it there, she can now take steps to try and get it taken down or at least get a fighting chance too. If this proves futile a... (read in full...)

My best friend seems to want to end our friendship

Q.   I've been friendly with my pal David for over 30 years. He drives a taxi for private hire for a living.I provide computer fixing services. A month ago, for the first time ever, he referred a customer of his to me who had a computer problem. The...

A.   8 January 2018: Friendship is a strong word, with a strong meaning. It's not something you just toss aside because of some ridiculous hiccup in your relationship especially one that has lasted more than 3 decades. To make things worse this is all due to some rand... (read in full...)

How do I get back on my feet? Can I turn my life around?

Q.   how do I get back on my feet - can this be done? Three years ago I hung out with the in crowd and got myself in financial debt - I was making money and also spending money - long story short I got unexpectedly laid off and I had to move back home . ...

A.   2 January 2018: I wish I could pay off $30K in a year. Good job. According to your letter you've made mistakes, taken responsibility for them, set goals and now you're are taking steps to accomplish them. Seems like you're doing what you need to be doing. We're ... (read in full...)

Why am I upset that none of my dad's family congratulated me on my wedding?

Q.   Hey, This is more a question on advise on how to control my feelings. I'm not particularly close to my dads family, always been excluded from family events (I.e wasn't even invited to my Dads wedding or were my two sisters from his second ...

A.   30 December 2017: Congrats on your nuptials. First things first your dad sounds like a pretty petty person. It's sucks that he sees the need to behave this way to his own children, daughters at that. Sure, he can experience hurt but not in this way. He's a man ... (read in full...)

I found men's boxers next to my hot tub!

Q.   I have a hot tub in the back of the house. The yard is not fenced and there is open space behind where people often walk. Last night I found a pair of men's boxers that are not mine laying on the ground next to the tub. My wife of 19 years said ...

A.   22 December 2017: You should know you wife best. Watch her for a bit to try and detect if she might be lying. But teenage kids, and a Hot tub? ....Sounds like a fun Friday night. Un-Fenced yard, and nobody home? ....Sounds like a fun Friday night. All ... (read in full...)

I found the one, but he is a bad kisser!

Q.   After so many rocky experiences, I feel like I finally found a great man who is the perfect match for me. He is incredibly kind, attractive, thoughtful and devoted. Not only this, but our qualities seem to match up well, and our different strengths ...

A.   22 December 2017: This letter sounds awfully petty if you ask me. You're saying you found a virtually perfect guy but you think you can't spend the rest of your life with him because he isn't perfect.....Wow. I wish I could find someone with half the qualiti... (read in full...)

My wife wants an open relationship, I don't

Q.   My wife insists on a open relationship for her but not for me. I am very resentful about this but she says its this or nothing. I love her but I am going nuts....

A.   17 December 2017: So let me get this straight... Your wife...insists on an open relationship for her....but not for you...and demands you give it to her? Your wife sounds like a very selfish person. It seems she is after something you can't provide. The first s... (read in full...)

She's left me twice does she deserve my respect? Or do I just be her friend like nothing ever happened?

Q.   Hello ladies, got a question for you, I was seeing this woman, she left me for another guy, OK, five years later we started to see each other again, she did it again, with a friend in a band, now he dumped her and she is trying to talk to me, am I ...

A.   10 December 2017: You sound like a very nice guy and that's why she probably keeps coming back to you because she knows you are nice and would never tell her off, or to go fly a kite. I think she has made it abundantly clear that she doesn't respect you. She ... (read in full...)

I was cheated on and now feel like every man will cheat on me

Q.   Basically, one year ago I ended a 3 year relationship with a guy who I figured was cheating on me. I was devastated and I think it has affected me a lot in all my relationships with people. I doubt everything anyone says to me. I recently met a guy ...

A.   10 December 2017: The issue here is that you live your life with expectations. You EXPECT to find a guy who will sweep you off your feet, love you and never do anything to hurt you. That's what you would LIKE to happen but I'm sure by now you know that life doesn't ... (read in full...)

What can I do to deal with his attitude?

Q.   Is my husband a narcissist? At the moment I am not working outside the home. The company I was working for went under. Even when I was working I still did 100 percent of the household chores and never once complained about doing it. If I go ou...

A.   10 December 2017: It's possible he could be a narcissist but the best way to know and protect yourself is to do the research. Search for "symptoms of narcissists", "narcissistic personality disorder" and "narcissistic husbands". If your husband matches around five to ... (read in full...)

Will he always cheat on me?

Q.   Hi, so my boyfriend and I have been together for two years now and a month ago I caught him talking to other girls on snapchat and receiving nudes. I pulled him up on it and was going to leave him however gave him a second chance. A few days ago...

A.   10 December 2017: Truth me told you guys are really young. I don't think you guys are in a space to be considering marriage just yet. Thankfully, it seems he hasn't physically cheated on you, so I can assume he's trying but it probably will happen again. Not ... (read in full...)

A practical joke gone horribly wrong

Q.   My friend Bailey and I played a joke on our friend Eve just to embarrass her and teach her a lesson but Bailey took it too far and now Eve got suspended and her parents punished her real bad. She's not aloud to talk to us or anyone or go anywhere ...

A.   10 December 2017: "...teach her a lesson.", "...THIRSTY", "...had no chance with him...", "...embarrass her", Plus the dick pics AT SCHOOL. This prank of yours sounds a smidge bit elaborate. Are you sure you guys are Eve's friends? First things first, you need ... (read in full...)

My husband is having an affair with a woman half his age and lies about it!

Q.   Married 19 years my husband 54 is having an affair with a girl who is 27 he sits with her in different areas of the city and goes to her house when we go to church he knows that I know and continues to lie about everything what should I do?...

A.   8 December 2017: It sucks that so many men tend to lie and cheat especially after years of marriage. I'm a man and I personally find it to be selfish, childish and repulsive. Plus he knows that you know. First things first, gain support, tell a friend or seek t... (read in full...)

What do I do about this weird attraction for my teacher?

Q.   Lately, I've been feeling a weird attraction towards my teacher, I know it sounds inappropriate, but I really like him! Some days, I can't stop thinking about him, but other days, I just feel uncomfortable around him, I know that most of you reading ...

A.   8 December 2017: Crushes on teachers are pretty common. They tend to exist in a space where a child is transitioning into an adult. Hormones are spewing, thoughts are wandering, curiosities peak. It's not something to get too worked up over, as @Denizen said ... (read in full...)

What is this feeling I have for him?

Q.   i have a childhood friend who is four years older than I am and for the most part I've seen him as a big brother because my friend has always been by my side. But there is another part of me that gets jealous when I see my friend flirt with peo...

A.   6 December 2017: It could just be a boy crush.... (read in full...)

I want to sleep with my wifes cousin.

Q.   So my wife has a really attractive cousin who I only see on holidays and up until now she’s been in a relationship. Well she’s newly single and I noticed she seems to be interested in me as well and has given vibes that she’s feeling it too. I sat ...

A.   25 November 2017: I think you already know what consequences can arise from your choices. It wouldn't only be cheating but it would be with a family member. You realise even if nothing comes from it now, it could surface 10, 20, 30 years from now and destroy many ... (read in full...)

I'm obsessed with my co-worker and I know not what to do

Q.   I am crushing really badly on my co worker, I cannot stop thinking about her. She is not interested in me but my feelings won't go away and I fear its turning into an obsession. I do not know what I must do, I have tried to avoid her but this makes ...

A.   25 November 2017: Obsessed is a pretty strong word. Plus the possibility of her upsetting you due to a lack of attention is a very distinct observation. You mentioned that you "....fear its turning into an obsession". Maybe you should try talking with a friend our ... (read in full...)

I asked my co-worker out but she said she would think about it. How long before I ask her again?

Q.   Ok so I asked a girl I work with out to have dinner with me. We have been working together for around 6--8 months. I know her pretty well, but not really well, but in the end I just thought "who cares, go for it". So I asked her and she said it ...

A.   22 November 2017: Give it some ample time, maybe until the end of the week. It is understandable however that you two do work together and dating does have the potential to lead to disaster down the road. But I also understand life is short and ceasing the moment. ... (read in full...)

How do I tell him his breath smells?

Q.   I am seeing the most amazing person I have ever met, but I have a problem. His breath always smells and I have no idea how to bring this sensitive subject up without hurting his feelings. I did not notice it at first, but recently I have become ...

A.   19 November 2017: This has happened to me before with a friend of mine. On a number of days I would notice that she had bad breath but it seemed no one was letting her know, not even her boyfriend. I think it had to do with her choice of foods throughout the day. I ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has hooked up with his best friend?

Q.   I've been dating this guy, and we are crazy about each other. The only thing I'm a little uncomfortable with is the fact that his best friend is someone he's had strong feelings for and hooked up with in the past. plot twist: she is a lesbian. I ...

A.   17 November 2017: Yes, it is a bit awkward, however she has declared herself to be a lesbian. The hooking up aspect is in the past and you can't do anything about that, but what you really need to be concerned about are your boyfriend's feelings towards this girl. ... (read in full...)

Should I leave a little heart in his desk?

Q.   Is it ok to leave a little heart in his desk? Just want to know some opinions. There's this guy at work that I like and I'm sure he likes me too. But I think it was my mistake by not showing interest in him and I think he has distanced a littl...

A.   17 November 2017: I'm not exactly sure what type of relationship you had before this distance, but maybe you can send him an email and ask him to join you later for lunch. The liitle heart aspect is sweet, but in this day and age, with all the dating rules and office ... (read in full...)

How can I get over my parents' neglect?

Q.   how Can I deal with moving back home to parents that only care about money and are constantly berating me - I come from a Eastern European culture where my parents marriage was arranged (very toxic relationship) my parents hate each other but stay ...

A.   15 November 2017: Once again I will stress to another person in distress the importance of being aware of the mental state of your surrounding family. Your parents don't sound like good people. It's unfortunate that both of them are bad apples and you had to be ... (read in full...)

My sister's boyfriend kissed me and now we've been making out behind her back!

Q.   My sisters boyfriend kissed me what should I do?? I’m 15 years old and my sisters boyfriend is 19 they’ve been dating for about a year I’ve known him as long as she has known him. This all started about 3 months ago when he started grabbing...

A.   13 November 2017: Imagine the side effects this will have if your sister finds out? There's enough lying and backstabbing in the world don't let it tear apart blood relations. Plus, bear in mind this guys now has the two of you under his fingers. Imagine the stories ... (read in full...)

Walked into an awkward love triangle

Q.   Hi, for the last 6 months or so I have liked one of the men (call him Tim) from my workplace. He is one of quite a few men and women that are in our lunch group and we all go out for drinks and things like that fairly often. He has been in a co...

A.   13 November 2017: Well you have to admit that was a bit of a shady move on Mary's part. Did you not just tell this girl that you liked this guy? True, Tim doesn't belong to either of you, not to mention he's your friend's ex but you made it clear to her that you like ... (read in full...)

Led into a fantasy and I like it

Q.   The other night after having sex my girlfriend told me she wanted to do it again but that this time I could do whatever I wanted to her and she would let me. She said she would be my whore for the rest of the night. When we started up again she...

A.   13 November 2017: Well, provided you clearly explain what it is you would like to happen in your fantasy I don't think it should be a problem as long as you both keep it within the ranks of just a fantasy and not get carried away with it. Make sure you get a privat... (read in full...)

How can a wife cheat for 3 years and act like everything is ok?

Q.   After I found out that my wife was having a three year affair with another man, I gave her an ultimatum and she ended it....she eventually told me that she made a big mistake, and didnt know what she was thinking the past three years...I found out ...

A.   11 November 2017: Women tend to cheat when there is an emotional disconnect in the relationship. Do you think there is anything that has changed since you two have been together? It also seems that you guys are pretty young. This could be a determining factor. Maybe ... (read in full...)

Why did my LDR boyfriend block me after I made a comment on one of his photos?

Q.   ok this is short but I just can't understand it.. my bf blocked me from his facebook as soon I commented one of his recent pictures, (i said: how long is this pic?) and he blocked me after it. I am from the USA he is from Iraq, we have been together ...

A.   11 November 2017: Could be the culture shock. May people from the middle east aren't fans of Americans so maybe to avoid criticism he blocked you. It was wrong, mind you, but that could be the reason. It's like a undercover gay man having his flamboyant boyfriend ... (read in full...)

Can you help me find the words to express how I feel about him?

Q.   hi there im 35, ive been speaking to a man for a while now, i find it very hard expressing myself, i want to tell him the strong feelings i have for him, but i get embarrassed, would someone word it for me please xx...

A.   9 November 2017: I personality don't think anyone here can word-out your feelings dear. You're not on Wheel-of-Fortune, you're experiencing strong emotional feelings for another person. Only you can tell what you're feeling. What you need to examine now is why you ... (read in full...)

How to deal with my interfering and judgmental cousin?

Q.   Hi, my cousin is so judgemental and always interferes, even though we never chat and haven't done so in many years. If i have an issue with somebody else and mind you, a legitimate issue, she sees it fit to interfere and stick up for anybo...

A.   9 November 2017: Don't get so worked up over this. It's gonna be you against the family. Kill em with kindness. Don't waste your energy on starting altercations, rise above it. When they aim low, you aim high. Who knows what this Uncle of yours is up to on his PC. ... (read in full...)

I am male and I have no sensational feeling during sex

Q.   Hi, I have a very big problem - I do not feel anything during intercourse! Please help me! I am 35 years old and i have had this problem since my sexual debut. And the problem is really simple, yet very complex - I do not feel anything! When I...

A.   9 November 2017: While I don't think you're asexual, do you think it could be possible you're gay? I say this because you responding this way could be a subliminal message. Some men try sex with men accidentally and end up loving it. Even to the point where they ... (read in full...)

There is no intimacy in our marriage .... is my wife having an affair?

Q.   I have been married for 15 years. Beginning of marriage the sex life was great. Then all of sudden I had to wear a condom didn't want me to orgasm inside her. The kissing stopped was only just a peck on the cheek or lips. Once a month she has dinner ...

A.   9 November 2017: I'm no love therapist but I'm winging it when I say it may be possible that your wife wants you to be more aggressive with her. Turn on that macho, bravado charm. Tell her what to do, grab her around the waist and plant and big one on her, spice up ... (read in full...)

Am I wrong to want my boyfriend to stop looking at porn online?

Q.   Dear aunts and uncles, I'm only 21 and have been in one relationship which I'm currently in so I don't have much knowledge. My boyfriend's penis looks nothing like the ones I saw in porn.It isn't kinda twists a bit. Plainly put, it ...

A.   7 November 2017: Penises come in all shapes and sizes. You have to realise that porn is a media industry. Just like in the soaps, the producers gather the most aesthetically please people...according to society and cast them as the stars. It's unlikely you'll see ... (read in full...)

I am male and I have no sensational feeling during sex

Q.   Hi, I have a very big problem - I do not feel anything during intercourse! Please help me! I am 35 years old and i have had this problem since my sexual debut. And the problem is really simple, yet very complex - I do not feel anything! When I...

A.   7 November 2017: I wish you were a bit more specific in describing what "feeling nothing" means. I gather that it's either no emotional connection with your partner, no sexual drive when with your partner or no sensual/orgasmic sensations while having sex. It seems ... (read in full...)

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