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writes:It never ceases to amaze me how rude and arrogant some people can be...I have to play a match in a golf tournament.The match has to be played by July 29th (4 weeks time).I had agreed to play it on July 1st, but 2 days prior I had a personal situation arise which meant I couldn't play that day.The man I'm playing has been sending rude and aggressive messages, saying he is going to be claiming the match as I was the one who cancelled.I have offered him ANY day in the 4 weeks we have to rearrange this match. I will take time off work-anything to sort this out.But he is refusing to reorganise it.He's not going away or anything, he just wants to be bloody minded.He's even texted to say because of our messages he no longer wants to play the match.I've asked the golf club to intervene to make him accept an alternative date. I feel this guy is cheating his way into the next round.It seems to me I should be awarded the match , if anyone is, as he's already texted he doesn't want to play the match anymore.I told the club about this before the original date, and they indicated it was resolvable.What do I do if they take his side and award the match to him?
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reader, N91 +, writes (3 July 2018):
 You scheduled the match and then dropped out.
It doesn’t matter what arose, YOU cancelled it. It’s rightly so that he should get the win. Although he went about it in a rude way, you shouldn’t have any right to reschedule the match after agreeing the date and then dropping out.
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reader, TylerSage  +, writes (1 July 2018):
 Regardless of your reasoning, you didn't show up on the assigned match date, so by default the other man wins.
He's not obligated to reschedule, if anything you might beat him and that could easily mess up his chances of winning the tournament.
It just wasn't meant to be. Everything happens with reason.
All the best.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (1 July 2018):
 No, OP
If you DEFAULT (like Cindy mentioned) HE wins. At least that IS the standard for many sports.
And would you REALLY want to play this guy anyways?
It's a GOLF match got goodness sake! Call the club and ask what the rules are IF you really don't know them by now...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (1 July 2018):
 You are the one defaulting !, and you want to be awarded the match ?!
You may have had your reasons to cancel, you may have given him as much notice as you could , etc. nonetheless if you do not show up you default and authomatically lose the match ;UNLESS your opponent agrees to reschedule with due advance on the date of the final game . BUT , he has no obligation whatsoever to accomodate you; it's totally at his discretion. A rematch in a match play tournament is a big courtesy that a player may be asking his opponent, not a God-given right. ( And I suspect that the inflexible, uncooperative attitude of your opponenent may stem, more than just from him being a cad, from your attitude that he may see as pushy and entitled ). Anyway, the club can't MAKE him accept an alternative date,- ( and badgering him for one is also bad form ). So, if he wins the match- he wins because of a technicality, and this won't be neither the first not the last time in a sport where tecnicalities play often such a relevant part.
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reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (1 July 2018):
 Is there some kind of prize? Award? Money? If not, then is it honestly worth getting all worked up over? I agree its not right that the other guy is being so mean and aggressive to you, not willing to compromise but maybe you just need to let it go? Is it worth getting all upset over? I'd walk away from this one.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (1 July 2018):
 Seriously? You are so upset because someone might be awarded a golf match? Even though it's not really fair, it seems rather an extreme reaction - on BOTH your parts.
In your shoes I would message your opponent and say that, if he is THAT desperate for the match, you AGREE to him being awarded it. Then walk away with your head held high.
It's just a golf match.
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