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My husband found some screenshots from my sim game!

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Question - (17 May 2018) 6 Answers - (Newest, 19 May 2018)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My husband is jealous of a dating Sim (similar to otome) visual novel romance game. Recently he came across some pictures I'd saved of one of the sex scenes between the sprites (it's all dialogue) to show to my friend. He got mad that 1) I had picked a black male sim and 2) that I was "paying to fuck a sprite".

First, I don't name my characters after me, they are separate characters and they all look different. Second, I'm a fanfic writer so of course I save screenshots (he doesn't know I write basically erotica).

Please don't lecture me about my fandom life. It is normal and healthy and my fandom is made up of about 98% women all "romancing" sprites with their avatars.

What can I do about my husband?

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A male reader, Billy Bathgate United States + , writes (19 May 2018):

It’s normal and healthy and it’s damaging your marriage. Decide what is more important to you, your online sex life or your real married life then jettison the one you can’t live without.

My guess is your husband will be out.

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A female reader, DancerGirl1984 United Kingdom +, writes (18 May 2018):

I'm sorry but I had to laugh. Tell your husband to grow up and get a life. It's a game, not reality lol.

What I did find sad was that you can't be open and honest about your writing to your husband. You should feel comfortable enough to embrace your passion with your husband and vice versa.

My Daughter is into Anime and Japanese cartoons and is also a writer and Fandom. I don't know much about it but I support her passion as it makes her happy.

Be open with your husband no matter what. If he disapproves then it is a insecurity on his part and something for him to work on.

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A male reader, TylerSage United States + , writes (18 May 2018):

TylerSage agony auntThis doesn't sound all that different from a romance novel girls love reading. The only difference here is that you have complete control over the affairs of the characters and you have visuals. It's like playing with dolls.

As long as you can assure your husband you don't have plans to cheat on him with a burly black man any time soon it shouldn't be a problem, however it does make him insecure so you must understand that it could take a toll on the marriage.

Follow your bliss, but sometimes our bliss can hurt those around us. Discretion must be used in this situation but sometimes it might just need best to find an empty room, close the door and bask in your own privacy.

All the best.

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A male reader, Code Warrior United States + , writes (17 May 2018):

Code Warrior agony auntAh yes, the ever popular advice censorship warning: "Please don't give me advice I don't want to hear because I command you thusly." Yeah, there will be no censorship here today. You have the right to ignore any advice you choose, but you have no right to demand that our advice comply with your edicts.

As far as your little fantasy world being normal and healthy, declaring it to be so does not make it so. That being said, I've no idea if it's normal and healthy, but it sure strikes me as kinky.

Whatever, as long as you're not getting avatars pregnant and leaving them to raise their little icons on their own, then I guess it's ok. Of course, I'm hoping that your avatar isn't applying for resources from the operating system. Memory and file space are limited resources and need to be reserved for those avatars with a real need. After all, we can't be heartless, but we can't be wasting system resources on avatars with the means to support themselves. In the end, we all want our little icons to grow into useful applications and valued components of the operating system. So, please practice safe clicking and make sure your anti-virus software is up to date. After all we don't want to get a sexually transmitted virus.

As for your husband, he could open an account and your avatars could meet up for some hot clicking. Right click, left click, right, left, right, left... faster, faster, faster... Ohhggghh. Watch out for climax though, those internet packets can make a mess when they squirt all over your keyboard.

Oh, you should probably come clean about writing erotica. It might turn your husband on and then you could do stuff in real life too.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom + , writes (17 May 2018):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntI second Honeypie. All I'd add is that many delve so deeply into it for escapism because their own relationship is lacking romance. Perhaps continue the simulation game, but focus more on revitalising your marriage.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (17 May 2018):

Honeypie agony auntDo you spend more time "romancing" imaginary characters than your husband?

For me that is what it comes down to.

Why did he bring it up? Does he feel neglected?

And why so defensive?

"Please don't lecture me about my fandom life. It is normal and healthy and my fandom is made up of about 98% women all "romancing" sprites with their avatars."

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