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He says I’m loose! Help!

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Question - (15 May 2018) 5 Answers - (Newest, 16 May 2018)
A female United Arab Emirates age 18-21, anonymous writes:

I'm a virgin and today my boyfriend tired putting a bit of his dick inside and he said later that its very loose,

I've never played with myself or let anyone else, no one has entered a finger inside me still he's saying this. can anyone please help me I'm worried

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2018):

You are not loose he is just very small.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom + , writes (16 May 2018):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntCONDOMS. NO SEX WITHOUT CONDOMS! Sorry, but that needs to be said if you and your boyfriend are worried about this, as it shows naivety about sex and consequences.

You and your boyfriend have now had sex. You are no longer a virgin. Read up on safe sex and educate yourself.

As for your boyfriend, he's ignorant about it too. He needs to educate himself before sex as well. He probably won't, though, which means he's not a good guy to date. He doesn't know what he's talking about and you both need to educate yourselves because you're likely to get pregnant or a disease, if not.

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A male reader, TylerSage United States + , writes (16 May 2018):

TylerSage agony auntIt could be a means of manipulation.

Guy tells you you have a loose vagina, it keeps you spiralling into a frenzy, you start feeling insecure about yourself and fear you might loose him as a bf. In turn you make every effort to please him and get his approval probably by giving him as much sex as he possibly fix your vagina from being loose of course.

Don't fall for it.

Tell him if it's loose then it's probably not for him.

Men do and say ANYTHING to get sex.

Be confident in your body.

All the best.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2018):

You are not "loose".

Your boyfriend knows nothing of the female anatomy. He is an idiot. Do not let him do the old "just the tip" ploy with you anymore. It is sex, and he will give you a bad reputation when he gets mad at you for something, or doesn't get his way and wants to hurt you. You are not technically a virgin if you have had his penis "tip" inside your vagina.

He sounds very childish, selfish, manipulative, and ignorant. Stop sleeping with him, and having sex with him until he marries you or all together if you can find someone better to date.

Sorry if I sound harsh on him, I get irate at those people who blame their own insecurities and shortcomings on someone else.



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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (15 May 2018):

Honeypie agony auntIs he sure it's not his penis that is skinny? small?

And what does he COMPARE it to?

OP, the vagina is a muscle. NOT an old sock. It is MEANT to be flexible so you can later in life deliver children.

Having SEX doesn't make a vagina loose, OK? They are NOT all shaped the same (just like men don't all have the same length/girth).

If he is accusing you of being "loose" because he thinks you have had sex with others (or fingers) then that only shows how UNEDUCATED he is, in women's bodies. BASIC biology.

Also... the reason he keeps slipping out might be because you are VERY wet (aroused) which is NORMAL too OR because the position you two have sex in isn't working for you two.

I would suggest you STOP having sex with him. And that you stop dating him. He won't like the fact that HE is probably on the smaller side himself.

OP, your vagina is fine. Probably even NORMAL. Might be bigger/wider than average? Who knows. The point is just like GE can't "grow" a bigger penis, you can't "grow" a tighter vagina.

YOU can however work your Kegel exercises (those are the muscles in your pelvic floor ) it will benefit you in more ways then sexually.

So in short, your BF is an ignorant idiot who blames you for something you have NO control over. IS that really a guy you want to be with?

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