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Q.   Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here.. Just doing a poll to see how many visitors to the site are SINGLE and would be interested in a (free, of course) DearCupid dating service. Just reply to this post. Thanks! A....

A.   22 October 2006: I'm single and I think it's a great idea although it does have it's good and bad points.. it's a great idea for those that are here on a regular basis and wanting to meet new people whether for friendship or love, people that aren't suffering ... (read in full...)

His penis won't stay hard

Q.   Why every time we try to have sex his penis won't stay hard?...

A.   22 October 2006: Are you rushing into the actual sex part and missing out on the other parts like foreplay? Does he drink or take drugs? Is he getting too overly excited? Is there any pressure? Are you having sex in a place and situation where you can both relax?... (read in full...)

She says she is not the type of person that has affairs

Q.   Any help would be appreciated. I am in love with my best friend, who is a woman and a lesbian She is in a relationship but is very unhappy. I was recently in a relationship but have broken up. I have known her for 7 years and we are very close. ...

A.   22 October 2006: You need to talk to her and tell her how you feel as you will never know what can come of this if you keep it to yourself, you said she is unhappy in her relationship, why is she still there? Even though she isn't the sort to have affairs you will... (read in full...)

Should i divorce and hurt my son?

Q.   I am married man for 18 years, i have a son of 13 ,the problem is i lost all intrest in my wife, over several years i have cheated before, just typical one night stands, now i have met a woman i work with , been sexually involved with her for ...

A.   22 October 2006: If you don't love your wife anymore new woman or not you should bring your marriage to an end as staying in a loveless marriage will cause more hurt than leaving it will. You can still support your son whether your with your wife or not and can stil... (read in full...)

Wiil the age gap scare this girl away?

Q.   i fancy this 14yr old girl. im 16. wen i get to know her more i will ask her out. if she does'nt like me will this scare her away? i mean i'm not sure if she has even thought about me! we only met for 3 hours on a mates birthday so far! but after i ...

A.   22 October 2006: I doubt the age gap will scare her, when I was 14 I was with a 17 year old and I loved it :o) Please remember she is below the legal age for anything sexual so if you do go after this girl sleeping with her will be illegal and she maybe a virg... (read in full...)

I'm his first sexual partner but how can I make our sex more than just the sex??

Q.   Hi, I've been with my fiancee for almost 3 years now, and while we have our ups and downs, our sex life has always been rather..boring... I always took it as his being in experinenced and let it go because I'm the first girl he's been with sexual...

A.   22 October 2006: Your his first sexual partner so maybe he doesn't know what to do and is scared he will do it wrong so he is sticking to the things he has sussed out what to do. Try talking to him and explaining to him how him doing these things will make you feel... (read in full...)

I'm thinking of giving blood...will it hurt and is it dangerous as I'm only 15??

Q.   dear all cupids, recently ive been thinking bout giving blood at my local blood bank but im scared its gonna hurt me is it? i hate needles and pain is it a good idea? or can it be dangerous to me im only 15? thanks xxx...

A.   22 October 2006: Everyone has a different pain threshhold so it may or may not hurt you but on most occasions it does hurt most. The best thing you can do is go see them at where you give blood they will get you to fill out a form and they will tell you if you can ... (read in full...)

We split up but stayed friends...she asked to kiss me and we did now I'm confused!

Q.   Hi all, i'm an 18 yr old male, i used to go out with a girl who is 17. however about 6 weeks ago we broke up for reasons. however we have stayed really good friends and stuuf, an today i went upto Cumbria to see her and we were sat iin the car ...

A.   22 October 2006: Try talking to her and find out what she wants and where she wants the you and her thing to go, if she just wants to be friends and it's messing you up with the friendship kissing then you need to put a stop to it before you get hurt. Good luck :o)... (read in full...)

We got a deep connection and call each other like brother and sister but I feel more than that...should I tell her?

Q.   i've known this girl for nearly 3 years now. there's always this particular chemistry whenever we're together. we share the same passion for music, pondered about the same things, and even share the same belief. we confide a lot in each other, ...

A.   22 October 2006: Tell her what your thinking and feeling, you've got nothing to lose and it's better to take the chance and possibly get something you want than to sit back and always wonder what might come of it, if she doesn't feel the same and nothing can come of ... (read in full...)

We can't be seen together so only meet once a month to a hotel together!!!

Q.   i have been seeing my girlfriend for 6 years but for reasons we only go out once a month to a hotel on a thursday (because we cant be seen together)our sex life is great but when she cant make it on thursday ive asked her to change to a tuesday ...

A.   22 October 2006: Is she in a relationship already? You have been with someone for 6 years and only see her once a week at a hotel how is that a relationship? It's more like a secret affair and if after 6 years your still just meeting once a week in a hotel ther... (read in full...)

How can I build my confidence or get rid of the acne??

Q.   hi! i am 16 years old and have acne on my face along the sideburns and around my neck and some on my nose. i have tried creams but nothing seems to work. i think that it deters some girls from speaking to me but there are still many who think i...

A.   22 October 2006: I've always just used soap and water on my face everyday and never suffered from acne where as my cousin uses cleansers and things and gets them all the time so I believe that a mild soap is better for your skin as alot of products can make your ... (read in full...)

She left me for her married boss and now living with him so why does she keep texting me wanting to meet up and thing??

Q.   I split up with my ex 12 months ago now and I am trying my best to move on,I am about 95% there at the moment. She left me for her married boss with 3 kids who told her his heart has never known so much love! and loads of other bull and she fell for ...

A.   22 October 2006: It sounds like the relationship she had so many wants from and expected to be something great has not lived upto what she really thought it would be therefore falling back onto you. He started out with her while he was married therefore he will prob... (read in full...)

I didn't feel well and she told me she didn't know if she wanted to be with my anymore so I left...can I get her back?

Q.   I made a terrible mistake at my gfs formal/prom nite, i wasnt well all day but didnt want to tell her as i thought i could push through the whole nite, but it got worse, so i thought it was best i left,she was off running about with her friends ...

A.   22 October 2006: Sounds to me like she is using the fact you left because you wasn't feeling well as a reason to do what she really wanted to do ... end it with you. I would talk to her and explain to her that the reason you didn't say you wasn't feeling well was ... (read in full...)

Both married to other people and I want to stop this affair!

Q.   How do we stop the affair? 11 months going ,sex 4 times a week ,but both are married to diffrent people not each other....

A.   22 October 2006: If you love your husband and want to be with him then walk away from your lover. There probably will never be a future for you and your lover as hardly any relationships that start out as an affair come of anything and if you and him did leave your... (read in full...)

He had sex with me and dumped me. Now he's getting cozy with me again! What should I do?

Q.   Im 15 recently went out with a guy who i really liked and slept with him too. Except he dumped me a week after. I still like him and recently when weve been hangin out hes started cuddling me and gettin abit cosy with me. I dont know if he likes me ...

A.   22 October 2006: Don't do it!!! He slept with you and dumped you, you also know he likes someone else so why would you want to put yourself back into the situation to be used and dumped again? Your underage to be having sex anyway, you made a mistake and thou... (read in full...)

Have had only 2 sexual experiences and both were lousy. Is it me?

Q.   Im 15 years old and hav had sex with 2 people. On neither occasion has me or the guy came and the sex wasn't really that good....am i doing something wrong?? ...

A.   22 October 2006: Firstly you are underage to be having sex so you shouldn't be doing it in the first place but I'm sure you are aware of that fact already. Secondly you are very inexperianced, you need to be waiting until you are with someone that you love and cher... (read in full...)

Love my bf but have urges to have sex with someone else!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for a long time but i have the urge to have sex with someone else. should we be together i do love him very much?...

A.   22 October 2006: Only you know the answer as to whether you should be with your boyfriend or not. If you love your boyfriend then nothing is worth risking your relationship over but you need to work through why you are feeling this arge to sleep with this other pers... (read in full...)

Why is she acting like we aren't together? Any advice appreciated

Q.   I'm not sure what to do in my situation. I have been with my girlfriend of a year and 10 months and we used to live together up until last saturday. she was driving to work and got pulled over for driving with no license and no insurance she ...

A.   22 October 2006: Firstly she was already out of the situation with her parents and living with you so unless she is underage which I doubt from your post then they have no power over her living with you or going back home so I would imagine this choice to move out ... (read in full...)

He cheated on her, treated her badly and she went back to him! Why would she do that?

Q.   Me and my ex broke up about a month ago. I love her dearly and really want to be with her again. Before we dated she was with her ex for 2 years. During this 2 years this guy treated her really badly, he doesn't really care for her and cheated her ...

A.   22 October 2006: I would say she must have some feelings for him whether they are romantic feelings or just caring about him as he is her past and now friends but there is something that has caused her to hold on to him in her life as a friend. There are alot of g... (read in full...)

Is my penis big enough for sex?

Q.   hi would my penis just under 6 inches erect be large enough for sex? also which position is best for a penis which has a smaller girth?...

A.   22 October 2006: You are the avarage size for sex and believe it or not on most occasions women will tell you that avarage size is better as it hits the more important spots and is comfortable in all positions therefore giving you more choice on positions to have ... (read in full...)

For no reason, he shouts at me! It's happening all the time and I don't know why?

Q.   I love my bf a lot and i take him seriuosly he loves me too,but off late he gets irritated fast and shout at me 4 reasons known best to him, the next day he makes up to me and i forget it but this keeps happening all the time.i dont want to lose ...

A.   22 October 2006: Sometimes when something is going on in peoples lives they lash out at the closest person to them in this case thats you, you need to talk to him and explain how this is making you feel, he has no right in making you feel low and depressed because ... (read in full...)

Urine sample

Q.   I heard that if you don't pee after sex you will get a yeast infection. Is this true?...

A.   22 October 2006: I've always gone to the toilet after sex and I've never had a problem with anything like that, that might be because of always going to the toilet afterwards or it could just be that I'm not someone that suffers from infections. I've always beli... (read in full...)

Now that we live together, he's seems to have gone off sex. What can I do?

Q.   My boyfriend and I recently moved in together after being apart for a year. He lived in New Zealand and I live in Canada. He moved here to be with me. Our relationship is great. He is very affectionate. He gives me little kisses or cuddles me and ...

A.   22 October 2006: It could just be that now your together most the time and the relationship is settled he can start relaxing and not making sure he sleeps with you everytime he sees you, I wouldn't think there is anything to worry about. Try doing things you use ... (read in full...)

16 chasing 14 - is this ok?

Q.   do girls really care if they are goin out with older boys? i'm 16 and i fancy this 14year old girl. i know my friends will not be happy with me because just coz she is younger than us apart from my best mate who supports me! but my mate say's i ...

A.   22 October 2006: Alot of girls do like guys older especially when they are younger as at school guys their own age are quite immature and at 14 guys don't want to get involved with girls. I know you said your not in it for the sex but remember you are over 16 and ... (read in full...)

My crush is my slave for spirit week !!

Q.   Ok then I hope you can help lol Ok yea yea I'm in high school still but I really like this guy. I'm pretty sure he knows, it kind of got around but not every one knows. So there's a slim chance he doesn't know. Anyways I guess you need to know some...

A.   22 October 2006: Firstly you can't make someone like you, I would suggest firstly not getting him to do anything that may embarrass him and make him feel uncomfortable as this is not going to be a good way to make him feel comfortable around you. If it was me and ... (read in full...)

What is acceptable timing to become engaged?

Q.   how long do you think a couple should date before they get engaged? Just please give me some idea. Then after the engagement how long should they wait before they get married? my boyfriend says that an engagement is the same thing as ...

A.   22 October 2006: I always believe that in every relationship there is a different time limit on things, everything should be done when it feels right for the two people in that relationship, there is no right or wrong time each couple is different it's when it is ... (read in full...)

Lost in my self hatred

Q.   i need some support. or advice. i began dating my first boyfriend 3 years ago, almost exactly. i'm now almost 20 and he just turned 22. he's cheated, lied, hid things, blah blah in the past. he hasn't changed and i know he won't. he's very insensit...

A.   22 October 2006: You can't stay with him in a situation like that, you need to break free and work on yourself, I know it can be hard meeting new people and laying everything you have on one person and one situation I did it myself and when it came to an end I ... (read in full...)

my boyfriend plus his ex - something doesnt add up !!

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and he has a child that is almost three with another woman. She is still "in love" with him and has already told me that she believes they are destined to be together. In august he went to court for ...

A.   19 October 2006: Well she could be telling the truth as to rub it in that he was at hers or doing it to cause problems, how did she know he was gone for the two days and not just the one he was mean't to be gone for? you say he stopped side of the road and slept but ... (read in full...)

boy of my dreams

Q.   i really like this boy and we have been friends for 9 years. i'm not sure if he likes me though. how can i see if he likes me without being too forward?...

A.   19 October 2006: Well being forward be asking out right if he does or not so I would say either light flirting and see how he responds or throwing a few light questions his way about your friendship and more. Good luck :o)... (read in full...)

What does oral sex mean?

Q.   everyone keeps talking about having oral sex! i dont know what it is! my bf even asked me if i wanted to have oral sex and i couldnt say yes because i dont know what it is! what is it?...

A.   19 October 2006: I agree if you don't know what it is should you really be doing it? But on your question Oral is the mouth so this would be something like a blowjob or him returning the favour to you.... (read in full...)

Hanging with the old skool!

Q.   I went to a skool for 2 years but then i moved to a different one. Now I have moved up to high school i am meeting up with all my old friends from my old school. Especially one boy. We were really gud freinds and stilla re but when one of my mates ...

A.   19 October 2006: You ask if he is just saying it to not hurt your feelings but I didn't see a question before that... (read in full...)

Trapped

Q.   I'm 18 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, things were great when we were first together, but recently I've been trying really hard to work and save money and do something big with my life. He doesnt have the same feelings, he ...

A.   19 October 2006: There are so many different forms of OCD some being worse than others and more life controlling. Someone with OCD can suffer from not wanting to leave the house or going to certain places or even little worries on leaving the house stopping them... (read in full...)

My fiance cheated on me

Q.   I am actually asking for advice i found out that my fiance of 3 years is cheating,but the thing is he wont confess to me even though he knows that i know he really did it. One day he told me that he thinks i should leave him because he hurt me and ...

A.   19 October 2006: To me it sounds like by him saying things like you should leave him that tells me he is either trying to push you away and drive you out of the relationship or he is turning the tables back on you, he hurt you so he says you should leave so rather ... (read in full...)

We've had sex and we went to France for the weekend...so why hasn't he asked me...to be his gf?

Q.   Please help me! im 18 and soo confused! This bloke who is 25 is always taking me out and recently took me to france 4 the weekend but he hasnt asked me 2 be his girlfriend yet? we go out for dinner and cinema all the time and we have slept together ...

A.   19 October 2006: Some people when they get to a certain age stop actually asking someone out and either just mention what the other person wants or just goes with whats happening and might just presume that your together as you've already shared so much together, I ... (read in full...)

My buddy is planning to dump his gf..and I like her. Would it be wrong of me to date her once he let's her go?

Q.   I've been friends with (Bob) since we were kids. Bob's been dating a girl but says he's thinking about ending the relationship soon because he's not in love with her. I became good friends with his girlfriend, and realized she's my ideal woman in ...

A.   19 October 2006: I personally have always stayed away from my mates ex's it's just a no go area for me but if it's something you want to do I would suggest just pacing yourself regarding this even though he might end the relationship everyone still needs sometime to ... (read in full...)

Dating 3 months and she's talking engagement rings and marriage?? She's my 1st gf, so is this normal?

Q.   Hi i am slightly confused. Since me and my girlfriend met my girlfriend from a very early stage (3 months) started saying things like 'When we get married' and stuff. And i found it very strange as she's my first girlfriend and i didn't think in ...

A.   19 October 2006: Have you tried to talking to her regarding this? if not maybe you should try and explain how you are feeling, tell her it's not that your don't see a future and possibly marriage together you just are enjoying getting to know her at the moment and ... (read in full...)

im going off on holiday soon but i will miss her

Q.   Im off on holiday on saturday until the following saturday and while it will fly by, i am going too miss my girlfriend. I was just wandering if there are ways too help me not miss my girlfriend the most i've not seen her is 5 days and i missed her s...

A.   19 October 2006: Your going to miss her whatever you do or try to do, the only thing you can really do is fill your week up with loads of things to do while your away and that will make the time go faster and probably take your mind off her for abit at least. H... (read in full...)

I'm in a long distance relationship and I ended up kissing another girl....I've been given a second chance but I don't know if she will go back to the way things were!!

Q.   I met my girlfriend over a year ago. We broke up about two times. But got back together. Its a long distance relationship, but I go too see her when I can. Only 3 hour train ride away. I got her a ring and told her I love her. She said it back. We ...

A.   16 October 2006: You betrayed her trust and made her feel pretty bad at the fact you cheated on her, you are lucky she has given you a second chance but if you really want this relationship you are going to have to work hard at proving to her how you feel about her ... (read in full...)

My friends ex keeps asking me out but I'm worried she ain't really over him!!

Q.   hey, my best friend dated a guy, they were going out for a year, but they broke up. She's pretty upset about it, but she told me she got over it. The problem is, after about a month, the guy asked me out. I secretly had a crush on him when they...

A.   16 October 2006: I agree with rhythmandblues2 if you really want to go for this then test out your feelings for him and how you two gel together and then approch your friend, it would be a shame to tell her all this and fall out to then find that really there isn't ... (read in full...)

I'm comfortable with how things are...but I'm reaching a point where I would like more!!

Q.   I think in my own mind I know the answer that this could never be anything more than casual but I'll ask it anyway. I've been seeing this guy for a year once a week or couple of weeks, nothing serious just great conversation and comfortable ...

A.   16 October 2006: I think you should be sure in what you are wanting from this casual relationship and once you know the answer you should then go after what you want, if you want more than what he is giving or going to give you will get hurt carrying on this way ... (read in full...)

He has started acting how he did before we got together and I can feel myself slipping backwards!

Q.   i need help... i'm good mates with me ex ... but i can feel myself wanting him back. we are good mates still...but he's been different with me recently.. hes knows what makes me laugh and smile so he's started using this to make me laugh. he fli...

A.   16 October 2006: Relationships break up for a reason, ex's are ex's for a reason maybe you should think about why he is an ex and think about whether you want to be in that same situation again??? If you really love him and can be sure things will be different this... (read in full...)

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