It kills me that I might lose her to another guy..how do I cope?

A male age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi, I was dating a girl for 3 years, from my sophomore to senior year in highschool. She was my first "real" girlfriend, and i was her frist everything pretty much. There were a lot of times through our relationship that I didn't feel like it was working anymore and almost broke it off but never did because i was afraid of what it'd be like without her. Finally it came time to go off to college and "I" decided we had to break it off because we needed to see other people if we ever wanted to find out if it was "ment to be" it broke her heart and she made me feel horrible for it, then i had second thoughts and ended up asking for her back... she had then realized it was better that we stay apart. Well now we're kinda in an "open realationship" but it's really hard for me. We talk every day and every time she even mentions going to a party or hanging out with guys or even just going to eat or something i get mad and scared that she's going to find someone new. I know she has to find someone new but i can't stop feeling extrememly miserable everytime i even think about it. The worst part is i know she isn't finding anyone yet, but the thougt just kills me. I'm almost possitive i'm obsessed and i don't want to be anymore. I'll always care about her but i don't want it to control how i feel. if anyone has some advice for me i'd love to hear it.

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