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writes:HI I have a wierd guestion ... Don't know where to start. Me and my BF have a great relationship .. I know that he loves me and I love him. He is year younger ... has his whole family here in NY, his friends, job .. his whole entire life ... I am from Europe .. so my family is mostly there .. also my friends and the rest of my "life" is there. The problem? I don't really get to see my family or friends often .. maybe once every two years, when I have time and money to go back ... That's why I am most of the time stressed out and sad about everything, about my whole life .. about how just nothing works for me ... and my BF doesn't understand it .. .I don't know how to tell him, how to show him ... Sometimes I feel, like I can't take it here anymore .. that I will just quit and go back to my Family, but than I see him and I can't do it ... I wish my BF and all the best .. but sometimes I don't understand, why there is nothing left for me ... that everyone around me gets everyting so easy and I have to work my ass off, but get nothing back ... I am just unhappy right now .. and I think I am killing our relationship with all of this ... I also can't go back to Europe right now .. maybe in the Spring ... so another months and months to go (haven't seen my family for about 2.5 year now) .. I just don;t know what to do ... How to make myself feel better about everything .. and about myself too .. I am loosing it people ! I am loosing it !!!!!!!!!!!!! Please help!Thank's everyone that will stop by and help me out ... Have a great day!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): Im in new york too, and from colorado, but my fiance lives here. I miss my family and friends so much. I think if he respects you, maybe not understand you, but if he respects you he will let you go back for awhile. That's what Im in the middle of figuring out myself.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (1 October 2007):
You need a boyfriend that you love to the point that you don't need to go and see your family so often. Your whole heard is not into this guy. Move home and find a nice local lad.
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reader, rcn +, writes (30 September 2007):
 you're not the only one who has to work. ask around, I bet you'll hear many stories of hard work that ended up easing things up down the road.
You're stuck in a position where your family makes you happy and your boyfriend makes you happy. Now let's work on making yourself happy. You can't benefit your boyfriend or your family unless you become happy with yourself first.
Living in New York, what have you wanted to accomplish? Is there a certain career of choice that you haven't been able to enter into yet? Maybe attending school to do something you'd like to do. What happens in these situations, when your confused about who you're around and who you want to spend your time with, you focus on that instead of the one person you're with 24 hours a day. Instead of focusing on what you want, focus on who you are. Build yourself, not for your family or boyfriend, but for yourself. Doing that will have great benefit for others in your life. You'll be happier, more active, and feel good about who you are if you're doing something you love doing and know that what that is is benefiting the lives of others.
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