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I was drunk, can't remember if we had sex, and he won't tell me.

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Question - (5 October 2007) 7 Answers - (Newest, 8 April 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

ive liked this lad for ages, and was thrilled when we went on a date, we madeout n stuff but hes kinda just usin me and messing me about, like when i wanna see him he won't and he will ignore me, but then he changes aand he acts like my bf, so the situation has been upsetting me, so when i went to my mates birthday party i got pissed out of my head, and thats so un like me as i hardly ever drink, when i was drunk i rang this lad up and told him i loved him, and i said 2 him just 2 tell me i have no chance with him n ill hang up but he wouldn't, then i said say that u love me and he said it but i didn't believe him , so anyway it really depressed me so i went off and went up to this lad i didn't even know to get served for me as im underage, then we kinda got talkin and he took me out side and we made up n stuff but i can't remember this but we went off together and people said we had sex but he denyed it to my friend, i think we did have sex but im not sure so im just denyin it, how do i know if im still a virgin or not and can i b pregnant, cos he gave me his number so i texted him n he texted back then wen i asked if anything happened he never text back, and back to the first guy he won't even talk to me any more we just walk straight past each other but appararently hes been keep starin at me, but im so comfused with guys right now, wot should i do

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008):

I have a similar problem, i had sex but i don't know if he came or not. This is because my bf was so drunk that he never remembered having sex with me the next day... Infact, he doesn't know if he was awake or asleep! Thing is, we had very passionate sex and it lasted along time but about an hour into it he got a bit too excited, then pulled out. He would usually say if he came or not, but there was not speech coming from him, just "actions". After he pulled out he started going down, but we continued to have sex after that although he was more reluctant after that... Do you think he could of came? I dunno tbh. Sorry if this is a bit graphic, and i'm usually very carefull... blehhh.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007):

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thank u doctor pete for your advice ive descided 2 wait a couple of weeks then if i think i am pregnant then ill buy a pregnancy test, then if i am pregnant then i guess ill tell my mam

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007):

It's too late to take the morning-after pill now, you have to take it within 3 days really, it's definitely too late after a week.

You have just as much chance to get pregnant the first time you have sex as any time you have sex.

I know it sounds like I am preaching but you really should tell a parent, or an adult at least if you are having sex so that they can look out for you, they might seem disappointed at first but you will feel miles better when someone else knows.

You need to give it a few more weeks before you can use a pregnancy kit, these cost around £10 in shops or you may be able to get one free from a nurse at your surgery.

You should also really get checked out for any STDs, because many don't show any signs of infection and they can cause you damage.

Maybe you will be lucky this time, but I think you need to think, would you rather tell your mum or have to make an effort to travel to see a GP or end up a teenage single mum and have to look after a kid for the rest of your life? It sounds to me being responsible and telling your mum is a lot better in the long run?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007):

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thanks for all your advice but the thing is that its been a week and i haven't taken the morning after pill and i can't get my hands on anything as i can't tell my parents cos they will flip and probly chuck me out. i live in the middle of no where so i need lifts 2 the doctors, n so i can't get there unless i tell my mam but i don't dare, isn't it very likly 2 get pregnant on your first time or not? and if i do go bye the morning after pill from the chemist will it still br ok if its been over a week?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007):

If you don't want to become pregnant then you need to get the morning-after pill as soon as you can. It is best to take it within 3 days. You should also go to a sexual health clinic and make sure you don't have any sexually transmitted infections. Having unprotected sex with people when you don't know or trust their sexual background is quite risky in regards to contracting infections.

The morning-after pill is available from either your GP, a chemist or from a sexual health clinic (ask your GP surgery for your nearest one) you should also be able to get this free of charge.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007):

I understand what youve done, im 18 and the amount of times i have gone to parties or out on the razz and pulled a chap is unbelieveable but i know i have never slept with any of them while i was drunk when id just met them. you would know if you had sex with someone no matter how drunk you where, yeh if you have slept with him you have thrown your virginity away, but i know your gunna get everry one telling you that so im not gonna bother. you need to get your self checked out make sure your not pregnant etc. just make sure next time you text out the beer goggles you are prepared for the worst. x

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A male reader, Tommy7 United States +, writes (6 October 2007):

You acted poorly and should visit a doctor or a clinic to see if you are pregnant or caught a disease. If everything turns out alright tell your guy about your big mistake and that you would never do that again.

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