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writes:I'm just 15.. Not in a serious relationship.. But urgghh.. I have this confusing and hurting obsession towards my teacher, who happens to be a woman.She's aged 40, married..there's no sexual attraction duh..however, I love her so much, like my own mother..and it hurts when she's ignoring me.I think about her all the time! Omg, I'm not a lesbian am I?
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reader, campfire63  +, writes (8 May 2009):
Don't be too concerned about your sexual orientation over this situation. I would look further into your home situation and more specifically your relationship to your parents/care providers. Perhaps she is filling a void you are wanting with a parent. It sound more like a nurturing need, not a sexual desire or what is likely a signal to being a lesbian. Sexual orientation is a complex and ever unfolding area for many, you are way too young to know that for sure yet but this situation is not about that in my opinion. Maybe talk about this with your school counselor. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): You may not be a lasbain. It could be you love this teacher for her personality. I have been there myself lol
And i feel the same with my old teacher.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): Hey im 15 aswell and yh i am in love with my teacher who also happens to be a female ... i dont know what to do either .. i guess theres not much you can do, plus like you said your not sexually attracted so i would assume you just feel close to her as a friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007): Your not a lesbian, btw lol im 14 nd i know what you mean.
you just admire her beyond beleif and i know what it feels like, if you have ever imagined kissing her or like being intimate and you like thinking about it then maybe you are a lesbian. .But who cares?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007): thinking about her does not mean ur a lesbian you've said theirs no sexual attraction so i would'nt worry. shes probebly a good female role model for u to look up to. have u had boyfriends in the past, did u have feelings for them?
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reader, giddygiddyfreak  +, writes (9 October 2007):
 hey. just because you admire your teacher doesn't mean your a lesbian. You could just really love her as a teacher...I'm a lesbain and i love this one guy teacher he's amazing but obviously i don't fancy him..! lol. So, nah i don't think you are unless you have a crush on her as if she were male..! You could just love her because she's good to you..? I don't no. But you don't have to be gay to love a woman teacher. Dunno wether it helps..!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): You are not bisexual or lesbian, you would know if you were, you would not be interested in boys at all, and you would have sexual urges towards women.
You simply think highly of this woman, she is older, she is your teacher and she cares about you and is there to make you feel good about yourself and motivate you to learn. You want to please her because you like and admire her, this is a great thing, kids need heroes, even if they are teachers who are in their lives to help them to become young adults.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): You might be bisexual, attracted to men and women. Accept you have an crush on this woman and try to get over it! One little crush dosen't mean your a lesbian!
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (6 October 2007):
Loving other women does not make you a lesbian. Wanting to have sex with women instead of men is what makes a lesbian.
Wait a few years and see how you feel.
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reader, Lila +, writes (6 October 2007):
 Is your teacher younger,cooler,or more understanding than Mom? Alot of young girls get a "mom crush" on someone who somehow seems better or more easily accessable than their mom. Plus if it's not sexual you are probably not gay. Maybe you could spend time with your mom more.
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reader, just-ask-xx +, writes (6 October 2007):
 Well, if you're only 15, you won't really know, you might just feel close to her because, as you said, you love her like a mother. And if there isn't any sexual attraction at all? I wouldn't say you love her, well it's not likely anyways :) reply if you want to :) love just-ask-xx
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reader, beccyDlicous  +, writes (6 October 2007):
your not definetley a lezbien you might not be but you could be a bisexual
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