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Q. My young 65 year old husband whom I adored and he did me,died 18mths ago. He told me to find somebody younger next time. I have fallen in love with a young sometimes childish 70year old.When I am with him everything is great apart from him being too ...
A. 13 October 2007: It sounds like you have an ideal situation now. It won't last forever. Nothing does. Make a change when you have to.... (read in full...)
I told him jokingly it wouldn't be my fault if I cheated on him, as he was not physically with me! Soon after we broke up. Did he ever love me?
Q. hi im 16 yr old and i met this 18 yr old guy 1 week b4 my 16th bday and on the 3rd night we slept together and it was my first time he was so full on and told me by the 2nd week he was in love with me and he was over the whole dating thing and he ...
A. 13 October 2007: I think the two of you fell in lust not love. Then you acted like a sl**. He got worried that you might have gotten pregnant from his action. Now he sees you as a danger to his well being. Maybe you should wait to become more mature before driving ... (read in full...)
My fiancee has an overwhelming fear of not being accepted by my family, is this icommon for girls getting married and what can I do to help?
Q. My fiancee has an overwhelming fear of not being accepted by my family members and she finds it hard to trust me, rely on me to sort things out for her. I feel anxious myself because of her situation as i deeply care for her and want her to pass ...
A. 13 October 2007: Invite her to more familt functions. Hang arround your family more. Maybe this will ease her fear. Tell her she is marrying you and not your family. After the marriage it will be just you and her against the world.... (read in full...)
How can I bring sex back into our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years we live together, and have started talking about getting married. I love him very much and I know that he loves me, but he just doesn't seem to be interested in sex lately. When we started ...
A. 13 October 2007: Some men naturally have a low sex drive. Your boyfriend is probably one of those. Many medications can have the same effect. Have him see a doctor. Otherwise, you need to decide if this is something you can live with.... (read in full...)
Our friendship has been rocked because we all got involved. Is there anyway we can remain friends?
Q. I have been really good friends with a girl "X" for a few years now. She has a boyfriend "Y" who I am also friends with. Things between X and Y havent exactly been peachy for the last couple of years but she doesn't know what to do about it. Last ...
A. 13 October 2007: Why on earth would you want a girl who is two timing her boyfriend? Enjoy the benefits of her cheating and understand when you find a real girlfriend she will hopefully be of better character.... (read in full...)
I'm jealous that my ex hasn't invited me to their party. Am I just being immature?
Q. My ex is havin a party tonight and for some stupid reason Im upset that I havent been invited - even though we broke up a month ago. Everyone is goin, even my friends, and I cant be angry with them for goin as its not their business that me and him ...
A. 13 October 2007: Yes, you are being overly sensitive about this one party. Find something else you like to do for this one evening. I'm sure all your friends will tell you the details of the party.... (read in full...)
Since he married me, he doesn't seem to consider my needs in the bedroom. What can I do?
Q. I was recently married 4 weeks ago and our sex life has gone down hill. Since I said I do the sex lasts about 30 seconds and he doesnt care about my needs. I have told him that I have needs to. So he says we will have to have sex twice. After the ...
A. 13 October 2007: Seek a divorce on the basis of fraud.... (read in full...)
What is anal sex?
Q. what is anal sex?...
A. 13 October 2007: Anal sex is the placing of the penis in the rectum of your parner for sexual gradafication.... (read in full...)
I've hurt my chestbone after I fell, and it hurts to take deep breaths... How can I stop the pain?
Q. Fell about an hour ago. Banged my chestbone and hurts when i take a deep breath. Very shaken. What can i do to stop the pain?...
A. 13 October 2007: Probably will heal on it's own, but just in case get a doctor's examination.... (read in full...)
I still sleep with my husband and father of our child, even though he is STILL sleeping with another woman. What can I do??
Q. Like I said in the question, you couldn't make this up. I will give you a bit of background and I would appreciate any advice, please do not be nasty or just rude, this is very very hard for me. We were together for five years, got together when I ...
A. 13 October 2007: What do you want to do. Sometimes it is better to forgive and forget. Get checked for disease and let him know the peanlty for another offense. You are not worthless and he needs to be told you will no longer accept his disrespect.... (read in full...)
Confused...Am I too demanding, or is he too much of a flirt?
Q. I am in love with a very special man, unfortunately things keep going wrong and I can't wipe the memory, lots of things where I feel like he has disrepected me, he is a bit of flirt and I can't work out whether I'm too demanding or whether we just ...
A. 13 October 2007: Follow your heart. His offense was merely an error he tried to save your feeling. A little white lie.... (read in full...)
Huh?
Q. what does my bf mean when he calls me boo and his perfect 10 ...
A. 13 October 2007: Boo means Booty or captured prize and 10 mean the best, like on a scale of 1 to 10 she is a 10. He means you are the very pretty girl he captured.... (read in full...)
Was I wrong? Friends, Weddings, and Unreturned Phonecalls...
Q. Hi Everybody, I need to get the take of people I don't personally know on this situation. I live by two simple rules. Don't pursue a woman that's taken and don't show up uninvited. On short notice, a female friend of mine (who I've known m...
A. 13 October 2007: Call her up and ask her. I think she is mad because you refused to play her little game. Maybe it turned out all for the best.... (read in full...)
How do I get over falling for a friend whi doesn't feel the same way?
Q. simple but a hard question - how do i get over the fact that i am falling for a friend that doesnt feel the same way about me? im finding it so unbelievably hard...
A. 13 October 2007: It's OK to fall for someone so long as you don't act on it.... (read in full...)
I'm attractive, but I know I didn't do anything to provoke harassment.
Q. Hi everyone, I have a slight problem. Its kind of long so please bare with me. Ok, Iam 20 years old. I been working at my job now for two months. I work at a store and I really love it. Ever since I have started working there I had the biggest crush ...
A. 13 October 2007: What he did was illegal. You need to decide whether you wnt to consent or not. Since you did not protest I think you should tell him never to do that again witout asking first (assuming you want him to do it again). Remember both of you are risking ... (read in full...)
Why do I always think about my ex... Is it because I still love him?
Q. Why do i always keep thinking about my ex-boyfriend? We broke up like a few months ago, and went out for nearly 4 months, yet I always think about him. I want to get over him, but he sometimes pops inside of my head at times. We do sometimes keep in ...
A. 13 October 2007: Did you have a good reason for breaking up. Is that reason still valid. If so, why are you wasting your time.... (read in full...)
He's a mama's boy. How do I get him to spend time with me?
Q. My boyfriend is a Mama's boy...how to I get him to separate? He is 21 and still lives with mom. Never lived out on his own. I am slightly young, have a job and live on my own. I want him to spend time with me but i cant get him away from mom. She ...
A. 13 October 2007: Bring him over to your house and show him why he shouldn't be a mama's boy. ... (read in full...)
He said he didn't like me, but keeps looking at me...
Q. i sent this new guy on my bus a note saying i liked him but he cheked that he didnt like me. but he also keeps looking at me. does this mean he still likes me? if he does y would he do that?...
A. 13 October 2007: He is immature and answered with the standard little boy response. Now he's probably regretting what he has done. Send him another note and see if he has changed his mind.... (read in full...)
Is there still hope for us after all this tragedy?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a year and three months. She has had a very tough childhood. She nearly died after her bowl collapsed and her father abused her mother. This means she has to really trust someone before opening up to them. When we ...
A. 13 October 2007: You both may be depressed. I suggest you both seek treatment and then see where your at. With modern treatment methods your return to marital bliss is very good.... (read in full...)
He told me what he did with prostitutes, and it turned me on.
Q. hi i need help ive been with my partner 25 years not a brilliant 25 years but even so i do love him he has in the last two years seen 3 prositutes i was totally gutted, never felt so sick in my life just could not imagine he would ever do that, he ...
A. 13 October 2007: The details of sex turn many people on. For this you are normal. The question is has he quit and unlikely to repeat his cheating? Also, can you forgive him for what he has don. Make your decision and move on.... (read in full...)
He cheat and we break up, now the endless msn messages
Q. weeks ago my boyfriend for an year moved away to another place for his university. we agree to keep a long distance relationship working. but within two weeks he confess to me that he had slept with a girl he just met. because he find the long ...
A. 13 October 2007: You have found him to be a cheater. You need to decide whether or not you can forgive him. Then make a decision move on rapidly.... (read in full...)
I want to be independent, but is it worth the sacrafice?
Q. I could really use some advice/suggestion on this. I am 32 yrs old, I have recently separated from my husband of 7 years and I have 2 boys (6 and 4). We still talk and he expresses every day how much he loves me and wants his family back. The ...
A. 13 October 2007: It depends on your relationship with your mother. If she allows you to be independent I say take her help. You may need to sit down and negotiate some rules. Best put them in writing. You should also contribute to the household.... (read in full...)
I really like him and don't know what to do.
Q. hi there iv been seeing this guy for about 3 weeks technically we r not going out.But i feel really insecure and am getting upset over the smallest things (like when we are out he'll comment how this other girls 'hot') Is he doing this to make me ...
A. 13 October 2007: He is either rude or ignorant. You need to tell him to keep his comments to himself and his eyes on the girl he's with. This is not too much to ask.... (read in full...)
How much time should I give her?
Q. me and my girlfriend are in a long distance relationship and we have been going out for 9 mouths now. i'm 17 and she is 15. i go and see her every school holiday. for the last three mouths i have spent with her and we got on great. when i come hom...
A. 12 October 2007: She don't want you and is trying to find a nice way out. Let her go.... (read in full...)
Is it Love or not? My "best friend".
Q. How does one know that he or she is in love? I think I might be, but I'm not sure. I've fallen for my best friend(see previous post) and I have feelings for him that I've never felt before. I don't really even know how to explain it. And is it true ...
A. 12 October 2007: Life is too short to pass up the chance you have here. I say you love him and if he feels the same, it's a chance you must take.... (read in full...)
I use to be positive, what's wrong with me now?
Q. My bf threatens to end the relationship if he doesn't get things his way. Im so down even on a friday night im too sad to want to go out anywhere because of all the things that are bad about myself I heard from him. We have been for 4 yrs togthe...
A. 12 October 2007: Time to stand up for yourself and dump the boyfriend. Four years and no wedding, how much of your life do you plan to waste?... (read in full...)
Going through a Self-Esteem Crisis!
Q. To give you a bit of a brief of the situation, im going through a self esteem crisis. Now, where to start... I'm fat, ugly and a real geek. My best friend of around 8 years has disappeared since I moved house. I feel empty, and as if i can trus...
A. 12 October 2007: Consider this a wake up call. Fat people always get the short straw. Last picked for everything. There are a few lights out there but they are few and far between. You need to search them out. Another choice is talk to you parents about getting ... (read in full...)
What can I do and does it worth going on with this relationship?
Q. I have a relationship for over an year with a man i really love. he has a 8 years old daughter, but he never got married to the mother. i have nothing with his daughter, who is a sweetheart, but hate the mom. i don't like her interferring the ...
A. 12 October 2007: Doen't expect priority over his daughter. You named a few things that didn't go your way. On balance, do you get a lot of good times with him? You can't expect to win them all.... (read in full...)
He denied to my friend about being interested in me, although everything seems to indicate he is (very affectionate, stares at my lips, hugs me)? What do I do?
Q. theres a guy i really like hes so shy and so modest about himself and so damn affectionate when hes around me usally he is not always affectionate with others even girls infact hes told me before that i scare him sometimes that girls in gen scare ...
A. 12 October 2007: Like you, I question his sincerity. If he tries anything bring up these points while saying no. You shouldn't trust him unless he treats you with proper respect in both public and private.... (read in full...)
When guys tell you they love you do they actually mean it or they want you to fell good?
Q. when guys tell u they love u do they actually mean it or they just want u to fell good...
A. 12 October 2007: It may or may not be true. You have to figure it out in the context of their entire behavior. Is he old enough to know what love is? Does just do it to get something from you? Did he introduce you to his mom?... (read in full...)
I have bad anxiety and depression and it's all caused by women
Q. Hello, I'm an 18 year old guy and I have bad anxiety and depression and it's all caused by women. Not like ex's or anything like that but just I can't seem to even get a girl to like me much less a relationship and it makes me feel pretty down. I ...
A. 12 October 2007: What you need to do is develope a plan. You need to meet and peronally ask out 100 girls. I'm willing to bet if you do this you will find a girlfriend. It's the same as sales, except you are selling yourself. Work on your sales pitch.... (read in full...)
When we are getting ready for sex I lose my erection almost immediately.
Q. i have been with my girlfriend for auite a while now, and she has had sex before and i am a virgin but we both feel ready for sex, but when we are getting ready for sex i lose my erection almost immediately. ...
A. 12 October 2007: Just keep trying. Your problem may be failure to relax. Are you taking any medication (even decongestants can have an adverse effect). See a doctor if the problem persists.... (read in full...)
I'm bi-curious, and in a relationship with a guy, but have met a girl from work I really like.
Q. hello, sorry it might be really long but i will try to keep it short and to the point. firstly, i have a bf for 4years now and i do love him and treasure our r/s. secondly, i am bi-curious. i hav liked gals as much as guys, but never had ...
A. 12 October 2007: The big thing you left out is what your bf thinks about the issue. Are you a cheater or not?... (read in full...)
I'm 20 and sick of being single... is this what's making me so unhappy?
Q. Iam 20 years old and Iam so sick of being single. I have not been in a relationship in 2 years. Some people tell me to stop focusing so much on finding a boyfriend but I cant. I just cant meet any guy, let alone the right guy. I dont meet guys in ...
A. 12 October 2007: It's all in the numbers. You need to take the iniative and meet a lot of guys. Ask some out if you need to. Successful women intimidate less successful guys. So I suggest you don't flaunt your smarts or success. Nor should you apologize. ... (read in full...)
I'm teetotal. Will his friends still like me when they know this?
Q. Ive made the decision to never drink and I think ive made a good decision for myself, however I feel that so many poeple look down upon me for it, or think m weird. Im about to meet my bfs friends for the first time and my bf even says they are he...
A. 12 October 2007: Your decision is yours to make. Drink sodas even if you need to bring them with you. Don't expect to become fast friends with people whose main recreation is drinking. Just don't lecture them on their evil, they alredy know.... (read in full...)
What kind of message am I sending her?
Q. I love my fiance but am still not comfortable around her, especially when we are making love. I feel quite tense and nervous as to whether i am doing it right and what kind of message i am sending her? I can't really enjoy the company of her for ...
A. 12 October 2007: After time this will get better. The joy just builds over time.... (read in full...)
Should I move on?
Q. together 7 months but im not sure if i love him and dont think he loves me..... do you think i should justy get over it and move on and ffind someone who loves me?...
A. 12 October 2007: Sure you should find someone who loves you. Do you know what love is? You need to know what you are looking for.... (read in full...)
I promised myself that I won't see him again. How can I keep to it?
Q. I decided not to call him again after he said to me that he didn't want to marry me or see me often. However, i don't know if i can keep this decision for ever. I think that i will change my mind as i am feeling that i miss him. However i don't want ...
A. 12 October 2007: Is your self esteem so low you would sink back to some one who thinks so little of you?... (read in full...)
I found my boyfriend has been viewing shocking internet sites, what should I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year and a half. I was going through the web history on the computer this morning, trying to find a page I stumbled across the other day, and came across a load of pages that I can only assume ...
A. 12 October 2007: Don't make a big deal of it. Just mention you noticed.... (read in full...)
I am 16, and addicted to internet porn, but looking at incest.
Q. I'm a sixteen year old virgin, and I think I am obsessed with internet porn. Worst thing is I always find myself reading and looking at incest- father and daughter porn. My Mom and Dad broke up when I was 2. I have never been sexually abused o...
A. 12 October 2007: It's OK to look at porn, but don't get caught or do it to excess. You like the incest because it more exciting because it is taboo.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to make love in boyfriends truck
Q. is it wrong of me to want to make love in my bfs truck ? he promised we would but havent yet !...
A. 12 October 2007: It's only illegal. Why not start with a bj?... (read in full...)
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