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writes:I met this young guy (25y) I am 33y female....We had chemistry..started whith just kisses..with the time we ended up in sex....I like him a lot. Is very mature and has a brillant career, is very smart and corteous. Very succesful for his age.Last night we agreed to go to salsa classes..I was waiting for him...he arrived late saying that he was late at work, I asked him if he did at porpouse...(i don't know if he doesnt want to take me to the places that he used to hang up with people.?)..He starts to kissing me and huged me like a desperate...we had sex...we were in my room for a couple hours, was almost 1 am..then he said is time to go..and he left...I realized he call me/text me just when he wants to come over and have sex. I like to have sex with him, I really enjoy it. But is not the only thing that I want..I would like to go out..we did that for a little bit..we went to movies, dinner, dance..but now all that is gone...I start to feeling that I am his "booty call"...Should I confront him? or Should I let it go?I dont know.Thanks in advance.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (14 January 2012):
 yes he is getting what he wants. my guess would be after he is tired of you he will move on to another woman. yes to be honest ( you are his booty call) sorry . he is giving you love to get sex. most likely he is not interested in a long term relationship, or even a relationship. he is more than likely interested in sex. as the old saying goes why buy the cow , when he can get free milk. i don't think he will be long term relationship material , you are on loosing end with him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 January 2012):
 yep nothing more than a booty call.
you've already gotten great advice..
what you want depends on what you should do?
if you want him to admit it and keep on doing it then confront him and tell him it's ok or else he will lie.
if you want more than a booty call and want him to stay that's going to be tough... you can confront him and tell him what you feel but that probably won't work well. You can withhold sex from him (but then since you enjoy it that punishes you too) and he will get the message... (probably will have to tell him you want to date/go out etc)
Sadly once a booty call, probably never more than that....
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (13 January 2012):
 IF you want to continue to be just his booty call, then you don't have to say a word.... just go to your room and remove your clothing....
IF you want a warm, fulfilling relationship with an adult man, who will treat you as you would like to be treated (i.e.: as an adult woman!).... then you need to tell him to either grow up and fill THAT role...., or part from your life (so that you can get a REAL adult man as a special friend..)...
Good luck....
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (13 January 2012):
 Yes you are.
A convenient, easy, available option. Why would he invest all the time in taking you out for dinner/dance/the movies, when he can just get to have sex without any effort? He doesn't give a damn about your company, you are unfortunately just a booty call
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (13 January 2012):
 At the moment, it seems like he is having you just for sex then leaving. Obviously, you enjoy this part. But, if you are looking for more, it doesn't seem that he is at this time.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (13 January 2012):
 Yep. The v^^^^ shop is open and he's not camping inside with a big cart, he's getting what he needs, and leaves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012): Yeah, you're a booty call.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (13 January 2012):
 Well I must agree with "tennisstar88," but you say you enjoy it. Sounds like the relationship is not one that would last or deepen, but there is nothing wrong with enjoying something while it lasts, at least until it begins to sadden you. But yes, it sounds like it's mainly just the sex for your boy toy.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 January 2012):
 You are his booty call. He gets what he needs and leaves.
The next time he comes around, don't have sex with him. You're going to have to stand your ground. Suggest going out on a date instead. See what his reaction is. If he jets or balks at the idea, then he's just interested in sex with you. Nothing serious.
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