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*isard89
writes:This question is directed at men, but I'd like anybody's input I can get: I don't think there's anything wrong with porn, I watch a bit of it myself on occasion... but I recently moved in with my boyfriend and I'm realizing that he may be addicted to it. I was wondering, how much porn do men watch? What amount should be considered normal? Should I be worried if my boyfriend watches hours a day?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): Well, it seems Dr. John is very religious, that's merely ONE point of viewAnything you do that does not get in the way of being a "happy" member of society isn't bad for you.If he is able to leave a full life while watching porn for hours each day, then there is nothing wrong.IF however his porn watching gets in the way of a normal relationship, as seems to be the case, then something is wrong.Real doctors determine abnormal behaviour NOT by what society thinks but by how it affects your capability to function in said society.So how much porn do most men watch? Certainly not hours, geez god what would be the point? Watch it, wank, turn it off.I am starting to get the feeling that for some men it is more of a hobby like collecting lighters, you don't need it, it is just something to pass the time. Try to get him intrested in another hobby. Mind you, will you be any happier if he spends hours sorting his beermat collection or watching soccer?You might have to overcome a common female expectation that in a relationship you are constantly with each other. When he is watching porn, why don't you do what you like to do? Are you upset because he watches porn or because he is not paying attention to you (as in, would you be upset if he did ANYTHING else that did not involve you)Mind you, one trick you might want to try, when he is watching porn, go down on him. NOT competing with the image, just try and see if he prefers watching it over the real thing. Reminding him subtly that he now got something better then the jpeg sisters and his own hand.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (8 March 2008):
 I agree with Dr. John.
But if you want the wordly p.o.v.-that porn is okay but in moderation-yes, I'd say he's addicted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): It sounds like he is a bit addicted and have a chat with him and say that you find it ok but in moderation. The other thing is, he could be young and this is a passing phase. But i know what it is like to be around someone watching the stuff so much, its crap. Have a chat with him.
take care
xx
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (8 March 2008):
 Porn should not be watched in any amount whatsoever!
Yes, it can even be dangerous to indulge in and has destroyed countless relationships.
The best way to explain what I am talking about is just to give you a couple of links to information on this subject.
Prepare to be shocked when you read the information. It is an eye opener for sure. Doc
http://www.filterguide.com/harmful.htm
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20030722/article_03.htm
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 March 2008):
 Everything should be done in moderations. Anything excessive is bad for your health.
Plan more healthful activities around the house or get out of the house more often .
If his work is affected or he procrastinate more often, then it is compulsive and obsessive behaviour.
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reader, Entirely Unique  +, writes (8 March 2008):
 I would be worried about even 10 mins a day let alone hours, you recently moved in with him surely you both should still be enjoying the 'honeymoon' period instead of him going off to watch porn.
I don't have a problem with porn again like you I've watched some myself but I'd rather I was included in the watching and it being an odd time rather than him disappearing to watch hours and hours of something I should be supplying him.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (8 March 2008):
 I would be DEFINITELY worried if my boyfriend was watching hours a day. I don't mind if my boyfriend busts out the porn sometimes - he probably checks out porn for a TOTAL of 2-3 hours a week. That's granting him about 45 minutes for each session of porn viewing/masturbation. He probably does it maybe 3-4 times throughout the week... I could care less, he always does it if I'm off at work or at school, just to get his fix until I'm home to give him round two.
But HOURS? A DAY?? I mean, does he still have energy left for you in the bedroom (or even emotionally) at all? Because that's an awful lot of porn, PARTICULARLY seeing as you've recently moved in with him. You'd think that he's be ALL OVER YOU, now that he's got a live girl in the house, not off in fantasy land with a porn stars who he has no connection with.
I think your boyfriend may have an addiction. Like you, I think occasional porn viewing is all well and good... but hours a day, that's just too much.
I'd have a little chat with him if I were you.
Good luck, sweetness!!
xx India
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