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*ebecca.megan
writes:This isn't a major problem, but to me it is, so any advice would be great thankyou. well the thing is, when i'm at school i don't know why but lads feel they can take advantage of me, they touch me everywhere constantly, its not like it's just the odd occasion, its all of the time. i'm not sure whether it's because they feel good about themselves and infront of their mates or what, but its really starting to frustrate me and get me down.my mates girls +some other close boy friends try to get them to stop, but they won't listen and carry on doing it and sometimes really hurt me.i'm not the type of person who can open up easily, not to anybody, not even my mum. so i didn't know where else i could go, any advice, please? x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): you should stand up to them and find one you like then they might leave you alone
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reader, CorpusDei  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Part of this is going to depend on the nature of the touching going on. To me, it sounds like this is going beyond a hand on the arm or shoulder and is moving into the area of harassment. That needs to stop. If there are a group of guys that are consistently touching or attempting to touch you inappropriately, and you've made every reasonable effort to get them to stop, then it's high time you involved an authority figure there at your school. If you have a school counselor or nurse, talk to them first. Let him/her know what's been going on, and that it's become increasingly uncomfortable for you. Although it's almost certain that you'll need to identify the boys in question, you may want to request that your identity in this issue be kept confidential. I'm not as familiar with privacy laws in Britain, but you should have a right to confidentiality in a situation like this. If this isn't something that you're comfortable with, then you need to talk to your parents and have them get in touch with school administrators.
Bottom line: You have a right not to be touched in a manner that makes you uncomfortable, whether it's in class, in the hallway, after school, whatever. Don't put up with it from anybody, much less a bunch of snotnosed twits who get their chuckles with a grope and a laugh.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Well if you want this to stop you need to open up to somebody. Or give one of them a good smack or punch. Maybe you can try being homeschooled if your mom doesn't have a job.
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