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writes:I find myself attracted to men in their 20's mainly 21 and 22 year olds, I'm 18... do I stand a chance. I feel they are more mature than boys my age, boys my age are just interested in shagging the fittest girl in the year, are they more mature in their 20's and are they commited or are they just like boys my age users and are all boys who are my age like that...? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): I am 19 and my boyfriend is 24...and while yes he is more committed...I wouldn't say he's necessarily more mature. He knows what he wants in life and is done with the messing around part of his life, so in this case he's done playing all the games and manipulating part. But as for just wanting to get laid...pretty sure that's just a male trait in general. Guys love sex no matter what age they are. I'd say its just a matter of finding a guy who respects you, and I'm not sure that's an age thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): There is no right answer to this.
Because humans, male and female, differ from each other, you cannot generalise like that.
You will get some immature shitheads. And you'll get some that aren't.
Its really up to you who you go out with. Just don't let preconceptions limit you.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): they may seem more mature but actually they're just alot better at playing games and manipulating. atleast u can tell what a guy ur age is after.. they're straightforward & easy to read. thats not to say every bloke who's 20, 21, etc is nasty coz they're not but u shud jus be careful.. dont expect too much more
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): It's normal for a young female to be attracted to older males. But I do not think it will help any maturity frustrations you have with men.
And besides, does a mature person want a partner who is several years younger & earlier in the stages of life? You can shop for older men than yourself, but that doesn't mean you'll attract the most mature men out of those older age groups. Usually you get the least mature ones.
I don't think girls/women are especially mature in their teens & 20s either. Right now I think our society just tends to measure maturity in ways that make females look better/earlier at it.
Being in a relationship with an older person and wanting to do "older" things does not mean maturity to me. How about not putting yourself into (and not remaining in) relationships that are unbalanced and damamging to yourself? I know plenty of young women who are a lot less grown-up & responsible in that area of their life than the "immature" male peers they point fingers at.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): Well guys vary with maturity but i have a friend who's 20 and he forgets abouts exams in favour of games consoles! I think a lot of guys don't mature til they're about mid-late 20s! But i guess it just depends how they've been brought up and what they've been through in their life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): i'm falling head over heels by this guy who's 7 years older than me. and i'm only a year older than you are.
guys our age tend to be bit too immature for some of the girls their age, i guess.
as to standing a chance, it just depends on you and him hitting off.
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (14 March 2008):
Men can be like that whatever age they are. They really can. Of course you have a change with a guy a few years older than you. Try and judge a guy by his individual personality not his age. Everyones diffrent.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (14 March 2008):
 Men don't fully mature until they are 45. I heard that from somewhere, can't remember where. But some don't even mature at or after that age.I will say this, my bf of seven months (almost eight) who is 25 may be immature and act stupid sometimes, but he NEVER pressures me into having sex.It could just depend on the guy.
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