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writes:Whenever I'm alone at home with my boyfriend (whether his home or mine), he constantly tries to see my panties from under my skirt or by tugging down the side of my pants. When he just started doing it, it was fine, but he does it literally almost every time we're together. He got upset when I told him it's kinda weird to me, but he insists that he's just playing around with me and is shocked that I actually have a 'problem' with it. Any opinions regarding whether I was over-reacting? Reply to this Question
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reader, creativegoth  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 he is just really turned on by you and your knickers, its harmless, but if it gets to you, just tell him to calm it alittle, or start to do it to him when you're out, and see how he likes it.
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reader, paszkowt  +, writes (24 August 2010):
He has an "upskirt" fetish and wants to satisfy it "safe way" - with his gf. If it's not OK with you, he should stop. If you can accept it though, you could go on with it as a way of satisfying his "kink".
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (22 January 2010):
 ... just spoil his fun and don't wear any ..lol :-)
Seriously tho ...
Guys are usually visually stimulated, so at least you know he is attracted to you if he find the thought of checking your knickers out appealling. Personally that would not bother me in the slightest, ..but that's me - if you don't like it then tell him it makes you feel whatever it makes you feel. Perved on? Objectified? If he respects you then he will stop it if that is what you request.
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reader, MorganMaleUk +, writes (21 January 2010):
I can see why he'd want to, but he should respect your feelings. If he doesn't then he is being unfair, your relationship isn't in balance, and he should either cease to do it, or leave you.
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reader, sietnap +, writes (29 June 2009):
If it offends you, he shouldn't do it. But men like to look up girl's skirts. I've done it for years , I love to see girls' knickers. But I don't make it so obvious as to offend.
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reader, Heart22 +, writes (18 March 2008):
When I was with my partner I used to pull her pjs down about one inch EVERY morning when she was getting out of bed and sometimes when she was getting dressed for work.
It's just kinda playful and fascinating to see what colour and style their wearing today and always put a smile on my face.
I wouldn't do it in public, and I don't seem any harm in it in the bedroom, unless they take offense to it, which is different.
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reader, H2H  +, writes (15 March 2008):
Overreacting? No, it's simply your reaction.
It may seem "weird" to you, but he likes it and that's simply that.
And I don't think he overreacted when you accused him of being "weird."
It's just lack of mutual understanding on both sides. I'm sure you gave off signals of being uncomfortable with this that he didn't notice. So, of course, you got finally got fed-up and got upset.
The question is, how will you two work through this? Can you find a way to help him understand your feelings and get him to help you to understand his fascination?
--H2H
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (15 March 2008):
 I don't think that you were overreacting at all. As your bf, he needs to respect your boundaries. Last time a guy kept doing something like this to me, I whopped him upside the head!!!! He stopped after that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): To me it just sounds REALLY cute ^_^I would love it if my boyfriend did that to me, quite honestly!It makes me feel like going "Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww"Just so cute, in my eyes.Anyways, as you have a problem with it :P And you obviously don't think it's cute like I do, just be upfront with him....but you're going to have to be very gentle about it...maybe joke around about it?You know those cute things you do for him? Like maybe tickling or something like that? What if he told you it was weird and that he hated it? Wouldn't that hurt your feelings a smidgen?To me it just seems like he's trying to be cute and playful with you.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (15 March 2008):
 I have a brilliant idea to stop your boyfriend from trying to look at your knickers. Next time you have company over at your house, swiftly pull down his trousers and pants at the same time so all your guests can see where he keeps his tiny brain. LMAO !!!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 March 2008):
 Looking upskirt is wrong .It is an offense in some countries.
I don't think it is normal and and if done frequently is wrong as he does not respect your modesty.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (15 March 2008):
 This sounds like a harmless fetish.
I have talked with many different people with many different fetishes.
There are almost as many fetishes as there are people.
There are guys who like bras, guys who like pants, shorts, shoes, toes, feet, breasts, lower posteriors, legs, ears, hairy armpits and the list goes on.
Aparently he is just turned on by your panties.
It should only be a problem if you have a problem with it in which case you will need to talk with him about it. Doc
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