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writes:I know this isn't a relationship question but I really don't know what to do! I went to my close friends party last night and I drank a bit too much. To make it worse I'd had nothing to eat that day which made me really drunk. But basically I made a complete idiot out of myself. Quite a few people shouted at me and someone that I work with told me to 'play in traffic' which upset me so much I spent the night crying in the toilets. I think I might have ruined my mates night and I am working with her mum later who was at the party too and saw me completely drunk(what shall I say to her?!). I don't want to go back to school because Im so embaressed. I dont want to be myself anymore..What can I do? :(
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reader, H2H  +, writes (15 March 2008):
Just be you, it's the only thing you can really ever be.
All of us do things, drunk or not, that are embarrassing. So own it! It's something that you did, an action, not who you are.
You've already paid a high price for it -- you cried about it all night.
Forgive yourself. The back to school and hold your head up. You learned something most of us learn the hard way, sooner or later, we're human. You know, sh..., er, stuff happens.
If you need to apologize to anyone, do so. But watch for people not being understanding or judgmental. Some might not have yet learned they too can lose control.
And there are always some who get great pleasure from looking down on others or making them feel bad.
Remember, you're only human. And the only way to be sure what's enough is by finding out what is too much.
And btw, I've done the same thing on a number of occasions. Learned from each one, especially how to forgive and understand myself.
I also quickly learned who my real friends were as well. Their opinion and mine are the only ones that really matter.
Love and accept yourself. Peace out.
--H2H
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (15 March 2008):
 Well whoever told you to go play in traffic was just an ass or a jerk in general. I'm sure that things will get better, just give it time. We all hate ourselves sometimes. You have my condolensces.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): SWEETHEART
We have all been there at some point in life, Just say god Im so sorry for making a complete mess of myself last night..I feel just terrible but its a learning experience and I no not to do that again...I tell my kids to go play with the traffic (joking) so dont take it to heart so much hunny there are a million people who wake up and think oh my!!!!! I peed behind a bloody jeep last night on the way home from a party, I dont do peeing in the street but my fella said just go!!!!! Oh my I thought why havent I got bladder control! :} so cheer up and stop worrying there are alot of people who do it your not on your own..And dont tell anyone about the peeing ok thats between me n u TAKE CARE WITH LOTS OF LOVE AND SQUISHY HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): Psychologist Eric Berne says this is why a lot of people get drunk, you know, so they can feel terrible the next day and hate themselves and go on about it... and get more attention. I'm sure you're not doing it for that reason, but watch out.Not everyone gets drunk but most people have, at some point. Were you mean/nasty/horrible/cruel/violent? Or were you just drunk? In which case a simple "Don't think I'll do *that* again" to your friends should be enough. And get over it!
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