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female
age
41-50,
*ovablechunkyshaz
writes:Please can you help, My beautiful partner used to swing with his ex, while I am open minded, I can't do this and I have told him so and he has said he would never make me do anything to feel uncomfortable. He said it's not the fact he never felt sexually fulfilled it's just he loved the raw sex factor, I just can't do this, not that I'm against others doing this please let me add, but I was brought up to believe sex was an act of love, but also an act of fun and pleasure, I'm going out of my mind with worry, even though we have discussed this, the thought of not fulfilling him one day makes me cry, this man is the ultimate love of my life and I'd do anything for him but I can't do this, I suppose my question is will love over rule urges of this nature?? He tells me every day he loves me, And I'm his lady,
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reader, Stroller +, writes (16 March 2008):
 Urges, smurges - those can be fulfilled with one hand tied behind your back. Love is what's valuable, and it sounds like this guy knows it. I've hung out on the BDSM scene myself, and can definitely take it or leave it - I'd never want any lover of mine feeling that she doesn't compare with that or "needs to compete" (apart from anything else, it's often nothing worth competing over.Plus 5-stars to korculan's answer.
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (15 March 2008):
the fact he said that he would never make you do anything that made you feel uncomfortable are positive words coming from a male and is definitely guy talk for I care for you and love you and do not want to lose you. He was HONEST with you with his past and really he could have not told you and just continued doing this behind your back but he TOLD YOU. Very good indication of his respect for you.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (15 March 2008):
 You have got to stop overthinking. I am guilty of this myself sometimes. Guy tells you, "It's fine you don't have to." Some of us tend to worry and think that he doesn't really mean what he said and that it will come up and bite us in the ass later. Sex is not love. If he truly loves you, love will win in this case. Don't sweat it.
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