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Why do men express themselves but then hold back and push away afterwards?

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Question - (16 March 2008) 6 Answers - (Newest, 23 April 2008)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I'm in love but What if the guy that I'm in love with doesn't feel the same exact way that I feel about him? Or maybe he does but He doesn't want to admit or open up to me? Why do men express themselves but then hold back and push away afterwards? What can I do to make things work after this has happened?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008):

Sounds like you are too worried. If he acts a little rude to you every once in a while he does love you!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008):

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I am focused on other things but I also miss him not to where my days wont go by though I still handle mine I goto school I've passed a recent midterm that I had in class I'm doing good I don't let it get me down or anything I would just like to know why is this happening all of the sudden??I find that getting answers from people helps ease the frustration I feel when I'm not doing anyhting asking questions makes me feel alot better...I've tried talking to and going out on dates with other men but they all seem to be sooo annoying to me. I only want to be with him and him only...I'm So in love and it really hurts that he's not even putting in any effort anymore.:(

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008):

Get on with your life. Focus on something outside the relationship. Your so engrossed you can't enjoy what you have. If he's sulking let him sulk, he's a big boy now.

Good luck

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008):

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We have had sex in the past Then we stopped but we were still talking we almost went a year without having sex but we ended up doing it recently and this time it was like no other time there was alot of emotion in it from the both of us he even expressed that he was sad because On that day after we had sex I didnt talk to him but now all of a sudden He wont say a word to me is he scared?I want to believe that he loves me But its hard since I'm recieving the silent treatment now.

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A female reader, thatgothgirl20 United States +, writes (17 March 2008):

thatgothgirl20 agony auntMaybe not all men do this. Maybe only a few/some do.

After this has happened, I say just wait.

If he doesn't want to talk, chances are you talking to him are not going to make him.

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A male reader, Gay Boi D United Kingdom +, writes (16 March 2008):

Gay Boi D agony auntHi there mrs,

Its always hard to say to someone that you love them, your so open and vunerable at the time, what if they dontsay it back? well, this does not mean that they do not feel the same, beleive me! it seems to me that you dont feel very confident that he will actualy say it back? maybe if this is the case, yu should hold back and find another way to see if he loves you? i dont know, i would (now this is materialistic) make him take you out for a fancy meal etc... then not give him any, if he comes back for more, then you know its not just for the loving, he must like/love you???? hope this has helped, D x

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