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Is it wrong for a 19 year old boy to like a 15 year old girl?

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Question - (18 March 2008) 17 Answers - (Newest, 17 October 2010)
A male United Kingdom age 26-29, *edmando writes:

hey am a 19 year old boy and a really like a 15 year old girl, but me friends and stuff say its wrong. what should I do?

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A female reader, yana Armenia +, writes (17 October 2010):

thats alot of courage i like this guy at school and we have a 3 year age differencew but i feel as though if that person is mature thiers no problem ...so i got school and i asked my friend to ask whats up not nknowing our age difference and she comes back later to tell me that he says your pretty and everthing he just thinks your two young..i was upset soo... idk i still have a crush on him and i like him because he different and doesnt remind me of all those typical same boys !! go 4 it!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010):

It's not wrong at all. I think it's sweet. You like her enough to try to get opioins(sp) on it. But thats not what matters. What matters is what you guys feel and thats it. Don't worry about everyone's approval. I've like enty of older guys. They are all in shock with my maturaity and ableable to handle their personalties. (what can I say my older guy cousins trained.. I mean raised me well.) you have a 4 year difference thats nothing. Girls maturate faster then guys she should be on thee same level as you. Maybe even higher. =) I liked someone and we had a 5 year difference. He told me, "if only you were older,"... Yeah he was never gonna date me at my age. There was one guy that actively still pursues me that is... 6/7 years my senior. He's my limit. If he was in school, mature, and had his life together maybe I'd ask my mom, but no... Siry bob. Haha. Have fun. Live life. Hold on to the girl.

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A female reader, linda scot United Kingdom +, writes (17 July 2010):

Hi you are 19 years old wait till she turns 21 she is only 15 she has a lot of growing up to do wait till she turns 21 then you can start dating her or even before that the age of consent where I live is 18

You could date her at 18 but not to have any sexual intercourse with her because where I live 18 is still a minor and by that time you would be over the age of 21 just dont rush things wait a few more years atleast when she would be 19 then date her

I hope this aswers your question

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A female reader, teddybearninja United States +, writes (8 November 2009):

no its not.. i am a 15 year old girl and i am in love with a 19 year old boy.. and he is in love with me.. every day he tells me how much he loves me and just what i mean to him... yes he made me grow up a little, a little to fast i will say that but we have never had sex and he wants whats best for me.. if i told him i want a baby (witch i already have heres what he said) "that i am not old enough and that i should finsh school and and live a year first" so i think its just fine as long as your mom and dad are ok with it

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009):

hey, I know how all you feel.im a 19 year old girl.and i feel in love with a 15 year boy.he dont act 15,we r perfect for eachother and alike in so many ways..people mite thiink its wrong and believe me people will talk crap but as long as both of you are happy and in love.no matter what there will be haters..with or without age differance..age is just a number:)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009):

Well I'm 15 years old and I'm dating a 19 year old.. Well I guess were not really dating cuz hes parents think its wrong but my parents don't care..

But we both are Christians and want to wait till marriage for intercourse. We love each other dearly. And its a hard situation because when we see each other at church we cant keep our eys off of each other..(because we cant see each other cuz his parents wont let me see him or anything like that)when I'm 16 we can officially date.. but whatever... I think its right, because honestly age doesn't matter.. =]

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A male reader, megamouth United States +, writes (24 August 2008):

hey im 19 and of course

drunk at this moment and time and have absolutly no i dea how i ran crsoss this page but i love my girlfriend with everything part of my heart and nothing in this world coulsd keep me fromm her and im 19 and shes 16 and i would do anything i posibliy could to be with her i dont remember what yor question was but we are engaged and if i lost her my world would be crushed and i dont see a point in living without being with the on e you love ...or god whichi m sorry god if you can here me im sorry for drinking but my insomnia beavcame too much for me tooo bear by myslef please forgi ve me

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008):

I see nothing wrong with a 19 year old dating a 15 year old. As long as they don’t have intercourse and the relationship isn’t mostly based on the physical aspect then I’ll say go for it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008):

Im in the same situation mate, and As a Christian and the girl I like is a Christian we have decided there is nothing wrong with it, even people at church have said that there is nothing wrong with it, and why are people in this group constantly on about sex, a relationship isnt just about sex, i think you all need to do some growing up yourselves before you start saying what is right and wrong, I really like this girl and she is 16 in August, so I dont care, its between me n her so Id say go for it mate!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2008):

Its only four years.

Four years is nothing. Chicks go for older guys anyway.

Flynn 24

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008):

hi... i started dating my first boyfriend when i was 14... he was 19... we lasted for 2 years, but the relationship was very messed up because of my age and maturity level...

i am not 17, and look back at how bad i hurt him because i just wasnt ready for that kind of relationship, and i feel horrible...

yes, it can work, and it isnt wrong, but, i would wait... she needs time to mature, even if she is the most mature 15 year old in the world.. girls change alot between the ages of 14 and 19. you should just give it time. if you really fancy her then it is better just to wait, however if you do decide to date her anyways, just remember what people are telling you. she WILL change, whether it is for the better or worse.

who knows, you guys may work out PERFECTLY, all im saying is it didnt with my x and i, and many other people i know, but everyone is different... my opinion is wait..

hope that helped.

mariah

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A female reader, thatgothgirl20 United States +, writes (19 March 2008):

thatgothgirl20 agony auntBecome her friend. They wouldn't say it was wrong if you were 22 and she was 18, now would they??? And it's still a four year difference!!!!! Become her friend, don't pressure her for sex, get to know her some. You might find out that yall have so many diff.'s you don't like her that much. If not, pursue it when she's 18. A guy at my college started dating a 15/16 year old girl, and now that she is legal, they are still together, but they are both Christians and waiting till marriage to have sex, so no way was he going to pressure her into sex.

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A male reader, Jamer70 United Kingdom +, writes (18 March 2008):

Jamer70 agony auntWe cant help who we like, but we can help who we date

i personally think a 19 year old dating a 15 year old is wrong, wait until shes 16 at least to persue a relationship

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (18 March 2008):

Dr Vendetta agony auntits wrong.

unless you want to be a pedophile and go to jail for having sex with a minor.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008):

Nah its alright mate. your both teenagers, and within a year she'll be over the age of consent.Mentally speakin your at roughly the same level anyway. as long as you treat her with respect, take it slowly and dont take advantage you'll be fine. BTW a relationship is about 2 people not the rest of the world, Ignore your mates.

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A female reader, ask paige United Kingdom +, writes (18 March 2008):

ask paige agony aunthey there

sorry to say yes i think it is a bit wrong my friend abbie who is 14 went out with a 18 year old and it just turned into a compleate mess he just compleatly used her and im not saying thats what you neccesarily would do but stillyou dont ever want to break a girls heart at that age trust me as a girl it hurts just as much at that age then it does even at 80!

wait till shes a bit older and more mature and has experienced life a bit more then if your still intrested maybe ask her out for a drink

love paige xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008):

I'm sorry if this isn't what you want to hear but I think it is a bit of an age gap, at 19 you have developed so much more mentally and physically than you had when you were 15, even if she seems to be grown up she still has a lot of growing up to do. Heck, shes probably still going through puberty! Sorry, if you do really like her then perhaps you should wait a while, at least until she is 16. Sorry xx

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