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writes:I have been going out with my girlfriend for 3 years. The relationship was going down hill due to us arguing all the time about stupid things. Two weeks ago she said she wanted a break. She told me she wants to do her own thing and concertrate on school. she really wants to move when she graduates from college. While we were talking about the break she said for the past 3 years of us being together she pictured us being married... but she didn't have the heart or strength to work on the relationship right now... When I left her house she said we can still be friends so I'm wondering what does this break mean and what should I do? Should I wait for her or do you think the break thing is another way of saying it's over..... and I haven't seen/heard from her since the start of the break 2 weeks ago.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): if u dont want to wait for her you should have told her durin th conversation... she must have a plan otherwise she just would have broke up with you .. of course you havent heard from her since th break, it woldnt be a break other wise would it .. ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): I agree with the suggestion that you DON'T sit at home waiting on her, hoping & assuming she's not a risk to be out hooking up with other guys.
Trust me, she IS out with other guys. The "we're on break" declaration is being made to justify it.
It wouldn't come as any great shock to me if she has already had a specific guy in mind. It's often what motivates unsatisfied people to finally take the step and declare the break with their current BF/GF.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): I agree with the other poster. "take a break" is short-hand for "we're just not right". No hate, but not that much love either. Move on. There's a chance she'll come back. But if I were you, I'd get back out there. Sometimes things just don't work out. And then WHAM the perfect girl just falls in your lap (I met the beautiful girl who became my wife ONE DAY after my old GF moved out). If you're worth being with, go find someone who wants to be with you.Happy St Patrick's Day All!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): listen, i know a lot of girls are gonna hate me for saying this, but whenever a girl wants a break it means they aint satisfied.go out! play the field! trust me, if/when you get back together, it'll come out that she had sex with someone else (probably), and shes gonna turn round and say 'but we were on a break!', so yeah, if she wants the break then fine, play the field! otherwise later on, your just gonna feel cheated and alone (if she did get with someone else).''false love never hurt anybody, it was the false hope.''good luck
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 March 2008):
 I'm with Paladin, and I quote him: "sorry, but it's over. The longer you dwell on it the harder it will be for you to face. Clearly you still care about her but she doesn't feel the same. All that stuff about friends was her just being cordial and doing her best to be nice.". And I diverge from Paladin here: don't expect her to ever come back. Move on, for good.
See it as a new beginning.
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reader, Paladin +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Sorry, but it's over. The longer you dwell on it the harder it will be for you to face. Clearly you still care about her but she doesn't feel the same. All that stuff about friends was her just being cordial and doing her best to be nice. Go out and have some fun and who knows you two might just wind up together someday, but for now you two are definitely separated.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Sometimes I want space, but a break is something else. A break means that she wants to be single, or see other people.Btw, you are free to see other people during this time too.
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