I just had my hair cut and I HATE IT!!!
Q. Well... This probably will seem like a really dumb problem.. but I need help. It's not really a relationship question either, but I hope you can help anyways. About a week ago, I went and got a haircut, before I went in, my hair was down past my...
A. 29 November 2008: That is my life story! I grow out my hair for years and then go for a trim thinking it will just take the dead ends off and I can't even keep track of how many butcher jobs I've had.
I have very curly hair and getting the right cut seems near imp... (read in full...)
Is it okay to just not be that bothered about sex?
Q. I'm a 26 year old woman, and I started having sexual relationships when I was sixteen. I've been in two or three serious long term relationships, and all have been loving, and relatively sucessful except for one thing. I'm really not that fussed a...
A. 29 November 2008: I hate to say this but its possible that most men are just not very erotic and don't have a very appealing sex energy that turns a woman on.
I gave up on sex for 10 years. I didn't care if I ever did again and I was okay with that. And then I m... (read in full...)
As the years pass I feel as if I've lost "the one". Does anyone else feel like that?
Q. We had known each other since childhood, it was almost inevitable that years later, as adults, we would get together. We both came from unhappy homes and in the past had problems with drink and drugs. Together we straightened ourselves out and ...
A. 29 November 2008: Perhaps your relationship was never tested before you became ill and you never really got to see her true character? This is typical co-dependent behavior on her part. A child forever. I feel so bad for you that in your heart she was The One and ... (read in full...)
Is is all right I have a teacher's myspace?
Q. Right, my question is: Is it all right that I have a teacher's myspace? The thing is he's not my actual teacher, I only got to know him during cross country last year (he was one of the teachers that ran the club) and I thought he was fun and cool...
A. 29 November 2008: To me this sounded like a student who was causing trouble for him/her without you realizing it. Obviously you asked this innocently I assume. But any adult would see this as making a threat against the teacher by revealing something that could get ... (read in full...)
Are my eating habits the thing making me not able to lose weight?
Q. I'm 15 years old 107lb and 5 ft3. My family tells me I'm not fat but to me I am. I only weigh 107 but look 130! I really want to lose 15lb but it seems near impossible. It's not just numbers on the scale I want to see though. I want muscle but not ...
A. 29 November 2008: For your height - your weight is just fine. All teenage girls think they are fat. Pizza now and then is fine. As long as you stay away from fast food and soda you should be okay. Also, you are still growing and will change a little more before 20. ... (read in full...)
I'm really upset and angry at my dad...
Q. Hello, not really a romantic relationship problems but a family relationship problem. I'm a 19 year old woman who has just moved out to the big city and got her own flat for the first time. I'm a first year university student. Before that I ...
A. 29 November 2008: Your description sounds like it fits the Scottish fellow I've been involved with! Everything is everyone elses problems, criticizes and complains all the time, alcoholic, everything is about him, negative outlook, etc...
What you need to understa... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm falling apart.
Q. This is quite complicated but I will shorten it to my best ablilty. Basically I met this guy. We have met once previously a few years ago, but the contact this time was purely online. I find it a safe medium for me as I am still coming to terms ...
A. 29 November 2008: In my experience with men, most aren't interested to understand us the way we have a need to be understood. Its a drain on them and they are more rational minded. Men seem to just want to feel emotion without complication.
Its sad when you want... (read in full...)
I'd love to try anal but it hurts!!! What can I do?
Q. And it's not b/c my boyfriend wants it, either--I'm single anyway. Anyhow, since I was like 16 I have always had an interest in anal, but it's too painful whenever i try to do it with an average sized toy! Is there anything I can do? I've tried l...
A. 29 November 2008: It almost will always hurt even without lube. I think its a lot better for the man doing it that the one taking it. ... (read in full...)
What can I do with my cheater boyfriend??
Q. I have been in a troubled relationship for the past 6 years. It has been on and off and he has cheated with numerous women. I recently took him back and we began counseling and therapy for his bi polar disorder. I am supporting him and I went to his ...
A. 29 November 2008: PS... bipolar tend to be promiscuous. They really can't control themselves. ... (read in full...)
What can I do with my cheater boyfriend??
Q. I have been in a troubled relationship for the past 6 years. It has been on and off and he has cheated with numerous women. I recently took him back and we began counseling and therapy for his bi polar disorder. I am supporting him and I went to his ...
A. 29 November 2008: Just have to learn to accept he is this way and deal with it as best as you can hour by hour. I have a similar situation. When you love someone and you are more miserable without them, have to somehow find a way to cope. Not easy!... (read in full...)
I'm getting a divorce! What are my legal rights to his inheritance??
Q. I am getting a divorce after ten years, I need to know if I am legally entitled to his inheritence or what reasons I would not be entitled to it....
A. 28 November 2008: This is really a question for an attorney.... (read in full...)
I like a boy but he doesn't meet my standards, should I let it go or wait it out?
Q. Have a boy I like, but he don't meet my standards n by this i know for sure it wont work. But I really like him. Should I let it go or should i wait it out?...
A. 28 November 2008: I lowered my standards and still live to regret it. They never rise up to yours and if you love them, you always want to keep a balance and end up having to meet them at their lowest standard.... (read in full...)
Do feelings really just fade away?
Q. Ok so my girlfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me a couple months ago. I have been an idiot and kept pressing the issue of getting back together, even though i know she needs her space right now and doesn't want a boyfriend. I didn't do anything ...
A. 28 November 2008: Broken hearts never heal as fast as we want them to. Unfortunately there are no magic cures. Part of loving someone for all the days of our lives.
Hopefully you will meet someone soon and I promise you will forget all about her.... (read in full...)
Is it right to date married men?
Q. Hi Friends, my question is this almost all men that approach me are married men. It is right to date married men? I find out that these married men i love so much more than the unmarried. Show i go on dating them please help....
A. 28 November 2008: Why would you think its right under any circumstance? Would you want your husband to date another girl? WHen would that be okay?... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him for having a affair with the housemaid or should I leave him?
Q. Should I forgive him for having a affair with the housemaid or should I leave him?...
A. 27 November 2008: If he loves you and looses you perhaps he will try to win you back. But if you forgive him and give him one more chance, he will learn nothing and probably do it again.... (read in full...)
Should I give up on my marriage or keep trying?
Q. Hi My husband has left almost three months now. We have a 14 year old daughter. I want so badly to have my family back. He says he doesnt love me anymore. I have found out he has slept several nights at another womens house that use to work with him ...
A. 27 November 2008: I've found one of the hardest things in all of the world is to get a man to talk to you and say what is in hie heart and mind.
Wish there was a magic answer how to achieve this. I guess the best place to start is to say how much you love him and ... (read in full...)
He's keeping me a secret from his pregnant ex!
Q. My boy friend found out his ex girlfriend was pregnant about 2 weeks ago, she is now 3 months along. It has been hard, but he wants to be with me and is going to have a baby with his ex. He won't tell her about me, he says he's afraid she will get ...
A. 27 November 2008: You have to know that she and the baby will be in his life for as long as you are with him. Drama is pretty much a given. Even though this all happened before you met, the baby changes everything. She will probably call for help and for money. Can ... (read in full...)
Urgent help required..... difficult, awkward and unreasonable boyfriend!
Q. Hello all - I am a 34 year old women who has had a somewhat difficult relationship with a guy who is having councelling due to his upbringing (unloving parents) and he can be most unreasonable, thinks he is never at fault, stubborn and never lets ...
A. 26 November 2008: If you think he's controlling now, just wait!... (read in full...)
Is kissing considered cheating?
Q. Is kissing cheating? Just how bad is it to kiss (make out with) someone else when in a VERY serious relationship?...
A. 26 November 2008: I didn't mean to be smug but I agree it came off that way.... (read in full...)
Why do I feel heartbroken over a guy who I might have not even liked?
Q. I'm so confused. A few weeks ago this guy told me he really liked me - like really liked me. I told him I didn't know what to say because I had just broken up with his best friend. I enjoyed flirting but I really don't know if I liked him or not. ...
A. 26 November 2008: Only you can know for sure.... (read in full...)
Is he interested or just friendly?
Q. Here's the story. Met this guy at a live music venue, 5 weeks ago. I was with someone else but we managed a quick excited chat (I liked what I saw, he surely seemed like he liked what he's seen too). Had to go earlier but we exchanged a pat on the ...
A. 26 November 2008: Obviously he is interested. The future can not be known at this point.... (read in full...)
Is kissing considered cheating?
Q. Is kissing cheating? Just how bad is it to kiss (make out with) someone else when in a VERY serious relationship?...
A. 26 November 2008: You breaking up with her or her breaking up with you? If you don't know what's correct at this age, then you are too young to even be dating.... (read in full...)
The day before I begin my period I have brown discharge... is this normal?
Q. the day before i begin my period i have brown discharge... is this normal?...
A. 26 November 2008: Yes, that is cells and fluids being pushed out of the body before the menstruation begins.... (read in full...)
My best friend likes the same boy as me.
Q. A couple of weeks ago half of our class went on a school trip to Germany. I got very close to one boy who I will call "bob" and I think I fancy him and I think he fancies me, we were flirting like crazy!. But my best friend fancys him as well, but...
A. 26 November 2008: This is just life and you will figure it out soon enough. Keep your love interest's as separate from your friends as possible because this will happen all the time no matter how old you are.... (read in full...)
Is kissing considered cheating?
Q. Is kissing cheating? Just how bad is it to kiss (make out with) someone else when in a VERY serious relationship?...
A. 26 November 2008: If you are in a relationship, even flirting with another girl is as hurtful as kissing and anything else. Giving your affections and interest to another is very hurtful to the one who loves you.
Now you know and there is no excuse to play dumb abo... (read in full...)
Since the abortion everything is falling apart! What can I do to get us back to happiness again??
Q. hi everyone, really need advice! please help me, especially females!! Me and my girlfriend were together for 3 years and she was the most amazing person i have ever met. the first 2years of our relationship were the best 2 years of my life. Then she...
A. 26 November 2008: Abortion is a very difficult emotional thing to suffer and it does mess up a girls emotions. Just don't pressure her for anything and understand that she can't help changing her mind about you constantly.
Let time heal this and just be there fo... (read in full...)
I feel like he is always playing this push away and then pull back game with me, what is going on?
Q. Okay, I am really confused and I am not sure if I should be hurt or not, move on or keep sticking it out. All this started about 7 months ago when I meet what I have to say is the perfect guy for me and everything I ever wanted. Problem from the ...
A. 26 November 2008: Game players can't help playing games and there is nothing you can do to change that. You will always be on the roller-coaster with him. Maybe that's why she was a bitch. Guys like that don't know fact from fiction and he probably drove her to ... (read in full...)
A little frustrated started thinking of others, does this mean I don't love my wife anymore?
Q. Hi, Not quite sure where to start. I'm a married man of just over a year. I love my wife but gradually I am finding we have sex less and less. Even when we do it is mostly planned and always unadventurous (spelling?) I find myself making up fantas...
A. 26 November 2008: I feel bad for your wife if you need to question your feelings. Best you end it now before you mess her life up with your unhappy state.
If you think you really do love her and this is a phase, at least try to make sex more interesting for her ... (read in full...)
How long should I leave it before I message him again?
Q. Dear Cupid, Please help im not sure what it means/am having trouble reading the signals. I went on a date on sat night with someone that i met online. The date seemed to go well, he said that he enjoyed it, walked me to the car and the end...
A. 26 November 2008: The big mistake women make is being impatient. We ruin things by contacting them too much and too soon. Let it rest until he contacts you otherwise he will get the idea that you are too needy and might be impatient about everything.
The best way... (read in full...)
Are secret phone calls from exes okay?
Q. Hey everyone, I just wondered what people's opinion was on a minor issue that has been bothering me. This is nothing big or dramatic, but it's the kind of thing that I know affects a lot of couples and I would value anyone's opinions or insi...
A. 26 November 2008: I feel very badly for you to try to pretend you are not upset. You have every reason to be upset. You seem to want to avoid negativity by being understanding and that is not healthy for you to make a bad situation not so bad.
This is a messed u... (read in full...)
What is causing my husband's weird behaviour?
Q. Hi there, I would be grateful if any of the Aunts and Uncles could let me know what they think about this kind of behaviour. I have been married for 15 years and about 12 years into the marriage my husband started doing things which I can only class ...
A. 26 November 2008: Classic passive aggressive behavior. Rather than express his anger openly, he shows you in hurtful ways.
He is obviously angry about something and refuses to deal with it openly and honestly.
You might have to ask him if he wants a divorce.... (read in full...)
Is it possible something more happened?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over a month and I know that isn't long but I really love her. She kissed her ex and on another day he showed himself to her (down below) now I'm wary that more happened, I mean I do have trust issues anyway through ...
A. 26 November 2008: About the trust issue. If there is no reason to suspect her and its paranoia for no reason, that's a trust issue.
This sounds like an issue if she is worthy of being trusted. Tell her that if she can't stay away from ex's or other boys, that you... (read in full...)
How often should I talk to her...?
Q. We broke off because of her family problems but this girl wants to be my close friend. She wanted me to maintain close levels of contacts with her perhaps was insecure about losing that charm after the breakup. We have had a hard time over accepting ...
A. 26 November 2008: I agree with talktoomuch, you sound like a very kind and caring young man.
This is always going to happen in a breakup when one person cares more than the other. You will probably be in the same situation one day when a girl you love wants to... (read in full...)
Realistically, what are the chances she could get pregnant from this?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been having sex for 3 months, we try our best to be responsible and use condoms but occasionally in the heat of the moment we don't use one (but I always pull out and she's been fine).. Well the other night we wanted to have ...
A. 26 November 2008: Realistically it sounds like you are in denial or misinformed about how easy it is to become pregnant.
The pulling out has nothing to do with sperm and fluids in ejaculation. Sperm can start leaving your body before ejaculation.
She needs to ... (read in full...)
If he liked me enough, he would've called right?
Q. I've known this guy for about 3 years now but we're not great friends or anything (we used to stay in the same apartment block and our friends know each other). If anything i have a small crush on him but he always plays coy and we have never been ...
A. 26 November 2008: I agree that you shouldn't have assumed it was settled, that you should have confirmed.... miscommunications. He probably assumed you blew him off?
Tell him about your mistake and ask that you hope all is well between the two of you. Don't ma... (read in full...)
How can I find out if he loves me too?
Q. ok i really love one of my best friends and i told him i like him but i didn't tell him i love him. I am at the stage where i can't stand to be away from him for more than a few days. I really want to date him but i am not good enough for him. i get ...
A. 26 November 2008: For one thing you need to stop cutting and ask yourself why you really do this. If you can come to a deep and insightful reason, you must then find a caring adult to speak to.
You will only chase away a boy who sees that you indulge in destruct... (read in full...)
How do you know what you've ruined a friendship?
Q. How do you "know" when you have ruined a friendship? I have a best friend that I care about so much that he means the sun and moon to be, but recently I said some things to him that were rash, impulsive, and selfish, and I know that I hurt him....
A. 26 November 2008: Everyone makes tragic mistakes more often then they can bear. A strong friendship will survive but will take a little time to heal.
Just tell him how horrible you feel and how much he means to you. Try to figure out why you said what you said and... (read in full...)
Does this mean I'm with the wrong guy?
Q. Hello. This is a messy one! I'm going through a divorce right now. I've actually started living with a guy from work. Meanwhile, a different guy from work (who did not know about the first guy) started coming on to me. I rejected him *of course*. He ...
A. 25 November 2008: What ever you do - do not DRINK! You could possibly do something foolish and regret this. Also, bosses and management are always watching and it could work against you double! Better yet, don't go to the party and have him wonder where you are. But ... (read in full...)
How do I fix a relationship I screwed up?
Q. I have been with my gf for about 3 years and I believe I have screwed up in that I grew complacent and began treating the relationship like a friendship and not a boyfriend/girlfriend thing. This is my first relationship of any kind and I really a...
A. 25 November 2008: Unfortunately there isn't just one magic answer.
Maybe tell her how much you love her, that you can't imagine life without her and what can you do to make her happy?
If she starts asking for unreasonable selfish demands, those would be some re... (read in full...)
Am I not seeing what everyone else does?
Q. Here I go again - I have been seeing this guy for 3 years - he has two girls I have one at home too. We get along fine when it is the two of us - days fly by - we giggle wrestle and just have a good time and do projects and such I help h...
A. 25 November 2008: You need to find something really fun to do on thanksgiving and DON'T answer your phone. He is obviously a user and very self involved. Not surprised his mother is such a bitch! Apple didn't fall to far from the tree.
Don't sell yourself short ju... (read in full...)
He says he 'has to think about things" before deciding if I am his girlfriend
Q. So, I've been kind of seeing this guy for about a month now. We hang out a lot, call each other and text. We haven't told anyone about our "seeing eachother" status, except a couple of my friends know. We haven't had "the talk" yet, where we confirm ...
A. 25 November 2008: Until a boy reaches about 25 years old, there isn't much you can expect from them as far as committed relationships are concerned.
Not a great analogy but boys are like cake in a way. Its not cake until its been in the oven for the full amount o... (read in full...)
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