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writes:I know this is like a lot of typical cases.. but I really need help.I'm in my second year in high school, and I've had this same crush since the first week of freshman year. This guy had shared one class with me last year- which is how I got to "know him", but I've never actually said more than a few sentences to him in my lifetime. But what I do know, from my friends who used to be good friends with him, is that he's 'bad'. He does drugs, he smokes nearly every day, he does pretty stupid shit like stealing, and I think he takes two Study skill classes during school which I like to call "for-stupid-people-classes". No offense to those taking that same class, I just say this because nearly everyone who smokes or people that relatively are idiots are in that class. I'm pretty much the opposite. I'm not Einstein, but I'm okay at school, I think drugs are for the weak, and.. okay, we've all stolen a candy bar or two in our lives, right?So regardless of the fact that he's probably the complete opposite of me, that he doesn't really take much interest in dating or even getting to know new people, the fact that in three years I know he's going to be sitting in jail with one remaining brain cell in his head, I still like him. I try to insult him as much as I can so I can just not like him. But it doesn't work, and I can't move on unless I forget about him. This obsession.. it's creepy, and it's unnatural. I really need someone to shake me up and tell me to get a reality check.So please, someone help me? I'll take any advice, good or bad, criticism accepted. Thanks, and I apologize for the long explanation!
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reader, Teacake +, writes (6 December 2008):
 You are a very sweet and caring young woman lava and thank you .... you will be just fine. Bad boys always get the best of us, but hopefully the one you end up with is devoted to you and is not as bad as the loser bad boys!
Happy holidays Lava!
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reader, Lava +, writes (6 December 2008):
Lava is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow, that was really deep and nice to read. What I mean is, that really helped me visualize. I'm sorry though, that you're in that sort of relationship relationship. I don't know if that sounds vain, but I just hope that in the end you're okay. Thank you.
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reader, Teacake +, writes (6 December 2008):
You sound like a very smart and delightful young lady! Thing is, most girls fall for the bad boys! The unfortunate girls get mixed up with them but there is something compelling about them since they are outside of normal society.
Enjoy your crush because even though you know about his bad qualities, he is still so much better in YOUR mind than he is! He probably doesn't like himself much and he might be cute now, but 10 years from now, try to imagine his beer gut, tattoos, liquor smell on his breath... what else? Certainly when you got to know him his personality would not be nearly as interesting as you think it is when you don't know someone at all.
He does sound like a troubled one, and the mother instinct in you probably wants to help him. But boys like that never change, they just get worse and usually resent the girls who love them and they end up being very abusive.
I'm in love with a bad boy who is not so young. Alas I guess for the best, he has never loved me.... I might love him until the day I die, but because he is so troubled and abusive emotionally, I have to keep my distance from him.
He is 50 now and has only got worse since I met him 5 years ago. A very interesting, charismatic bad boy, but makes a woman's life hell!
Anyhow, I got sidetracked. Once you're out of school, chances are you will pretty much have forgotten about him because you'll have been in love with a couple of guys.
All of us gals have had a major crush on a bad boy! LOL
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