Would you call it cheating on his partner when we are only phoning?
Q. Guys:- Why does a guy say he'll ring on a certain day or time and then not? I am keeping in touch with a guy I adore(who has a partner who he says he doesn't get along with) so he only rings me as and when. For obvious reasons I can't re...
A. 21 November 2008: Patsy - a person who is easily manipulated or victimized : pushover ... (read in full...)
Should I buy her an engagement ring for Christmas or is it too soon?
Q. I was in a ltr for 7 years and she left for no apparent reason A month later I met (again) a woman I had a crush on when we were teens. we started dating and neither of us were looking for anything it just happened. now a month later we are very muc...
A. 20 November 2008: YOu might want to ask a little more to see if she is actually interested in marriage before you do something that serious. If you aren't on the same page 100% and haven't actually talked about that, it would put her on the spot and you could feel ... (read in full...)
Is it meant to be or is that romantic nonsense?
Q. To be honest I'm not sure this will help but good to get it off my chest even if abuse is likely to be forthcoming. I am married and have been in love with a married man for 4 years. Nothing much has happened but he told me that he loved me but ...
A. 20 November 2008: Passion aside, which man do you see in reality being at your side in 20 years from now?... (read in full...)
Is this lad friend one to stay away from?
Q. this one is bit complicated but i will try to keep it simple guys ! :) well i have a lad friend he told me he liked me when he was going out with his girlfriend. Hes really close with one of my girl friends who he talks about all the time, and it ...
A. 20 November 2008: You answered your own question.... (read in full...)
I'm scared.. is this an emotional affair undercover?
Q. I met a guy 2 years ago in a business and he's military. When we met we became friends and then split to his base and family. Two months after that we became in contact for the same business. Turned out we started keeping in touch by email even by...
A. 20 November 2008: You have no business being friends with a married man or asking to meet his family. ... (read in full...)
Just found out my ex-girlfriend is dating someone else, whom I know. This is bothering me more than it should.
Q. Just found out my ex-girlfriend is dating someone else, whom I know. This is bothering me more than it should. How do I get over this?...
A. 20 November 2008: If you loved her it is natural to be ripped up inside. No matter how old you get, seeing the one you love and lost with someone else is never easy. But you will meet someone new and no doubt forget about whatsherface.
Just say hello when you see ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to date me again and get his heart broken. Help!
Q. okay well i like this boy we went out like 3 times and i broke up with him all those times but idk i really likee himm alottt and he dosent want to go back out with me beacuse he said he dosent want to get his heart broken 4 times and i said im ...
A. 20 November 2008: I'm basically shocked that children are concerned about romantic relationships. Men aren't usually mature enough for a relationship until they are 30, if ever. lol... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed and I don't know why...
Q. hi everyone my problem is that I'm so parrnoid I've been with my boyfriend for a while and I love him, he says he loves me but I think it's just because of the way I look and our good sex life... he complains about me as a person quite a lot... I...
A. 20 November 2008: You will know when a man truly loves you and there will be no question about it. This is a self centered young man and if you stick around waiting for him to change, he is just going to treat you worse. He is showing emotional abusive behavior. You ... (read in full...)
Why am I getting all these mixed emotions about who should be in jail?
Q. Okay, so here's my issue: I was raped when I was 9-12 and then when I was 13 (2 different people) The first one is my cousin, and I never pressed charges, and the second is an acquaintance. My problem is, when the second guy got charges pressed on ...
A. 20 November 2008: Sorry to hear that Victoria. A mother's duty is to protect her children so why she didn't believe you is strange and sad. I think one of the top ten horrible things in life is when anyone you care for is so dismissive of us. Its a betrayal and ... (read in full...)
Will offering him money cloud his judgment?
Q. Will offering him money cloud his judgment? I was getting on really well with a man who liked me (but has a girlfriend) and who was temporarily out of work! Anyway, I really wanted to keep in touch with him so instead of just giving him my nu...
A. 19 November 2008: Do this only once and don't expect to get it back. If you give him money a second time that is going to be what your relationship is based on.
If he has a girlfriend you are just asking for double trouble.... (read in full...)
Would you call it cheating on his partner when we are only phoning?
Q. Guys:- Why does a guy say he'll ring on a certain day or time and then not? I am keeping in touch with a guy I adore(who has a partner who he says he doesn't get along with) so he only rings me as and when. For obvious reasons I can't re...
A. 19 November 2008: Yes, this is cheating. And he is leading you on. Men hardly ever leave their wives so what do you want exactly? You hardly know him, he is a sneak, he won't leave her but he will use you... so how is this going to work out in a positive way?
You a... (read in full...)
Why do I have so many feelings for so many guys?
Q. One lad is in love with me, and two there lads fancy me. We shall call the lad that is in love with me GUY 1, Well i like GUY 1 as well, in fact i love him too, but he has really hurt me before and i am so scared he will hurt me again. GUY 2 fan...
A. 19 November 2008: You are all too young to have commitments! ITs much better to date a lot of boys for fun WITHOUT sex! Go out with who ever you like while you are young. By the time you are in your 30s you won't have as many choices or be in the situation that you ... (read in full...)
Does "never date your best friends guy" apply to this situation?
Q. I have been friends with my current best friend for 5 years. We are completely inseparable, and have a pretty good relationship. She has had a crush on this guy for about 2 years and a year ago, they hooked up. They never turned into anything li...
A. 19 November 2008: YOu won't want to hear this but that rule applies all the time unless she really really had no feelings for him. She is very hurt that he rejected her and it would be very painful for her to see him with you and you have what she wanted.
If yo... (read in full...)
I find it really hard to form relationships with girls!
Q. I am 17 and have recently moved 6th forms, I find it really hard to form relationships with girls; I had one good female friend at my old school but that was it. I have moved to my boyfriend's school as my best friend moved away, and I can't gather ...
A. 19 November 2008: You are young and are now developing your women skills! Just keep at it and one day you will be very comfortable. It's like learning anything new. At first you have no idea what to do, but little by little you get better at it.
Don't worry. J... (read in full...)
Do I dump him as my best friend still has feelings for him? (He's her ex)
Q. So recently I began going out with my best friend's ex-boyfriend (lets call him John). They broke up about three weeks ago, and John told me that he liked me and I liked him back, so he asked me to be his girlfriend. Before I said yes, I went to my ...
A. 19 November 2008: Dating the ex of a friend is always a bad idea even if they say its okay. Did she break up with him or did he break up with her? Either which way they are still in each other's life though you. This is called a triangle and is very stressful and ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am being asked to wait too long for something I want NOW! Should I tell him I'm not waiting any longer?
Q. I am involved in a frustratingly undefined relationship with a man who is in the process of leaving his girlfriend. She gave birth to his son 5 months ago, but they have only been together 17 months in total... She doesn't believe in abortion. I...
A. 19 November 2008: He is using you sweetie. No one wants to think that is so, but all of us women have been used before and know the score.
He is using you as a way to deal with pressure and frustration. He is a father for the rest of his life and she is the moth... (read in full...)
Why am I getting all these mixed emotions about who should be in jail?
Q. Okay, so here's my issue: I was raped when I was 9-12 and then when I was 13 (2 different people) The first one is my cousin, and I never pressed charges, and the second is an acquaintance. My problem is, when the second guy got charges pressed on ...
A. 19 November 2008: Did you go to a therapist that specializes in abuse specifically? Check out on line all the different women's crisis centers and contact one that sounds like what you can relate to. Regular therapists aren't always helpful with abuse and rape. Also ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I'm not as tight since giving birth and doesn't want to have sex with me as much as it used to be!...
Q. since i had my son a year and a half ago my boyfriend doesnt want to have sex with me as much as he says im not as tight down there as i used to be. i dont no what to do but he says there is no point having sex any more as he cant feel me ne w...
A. 19 November 2008: He's a very insensitive boy. Boo hoo for him. This is LIFE! Ask him if he wants YOU to find another lover if this is so bad for him. Tell him you wish he had a bigger penis (as suggested in another post. )
You are both too young to have children... (read in full...)
Why is he so angry at me?
Q. I would really like some advice on this please if you wouldnt mind ! :) I met this lad at a party and we really hit it off. Then spoke through texts and on computer and we was getting along find until I found out he has a girlfriend! But he asked me ...
A. 19 November 2008: Pepper said it very well. Both these people are not friends or people you want in your life. If your friend lied, she is not a friend. Unless she did it to get rid of him for you?
If he is angry its only because his plan to have as many women as... (read in full...)
Remedies for the development of hips?
Q. Hello friends, my boyfriend always conplaining about my hips. I dn't have hips what can i do to have it. It has become a nagging issue between us and he loves me, i love him too. I need the remedy for the development of hips. I need your answer u...
A. 19 November 2008: --- tell him to get a bigger penis as you are not satisfied with the one he has. That should do it. ---
THAT IS SO FUNNY! Yes, turn it around on him. You can do nothing about your hips as the same he can do nothing about penis size. He sounds v... (read in full...)
Friendship - Am I overreacting here?
Q. This is not love question, but friendship. I have a new friend that I know now for 8 months. We met at Italian class, and started friendship right away. We have very different personalities. She is very outgoing, very hyper, talkative. I am on the ...
A. 19 November 2008: She is rude, insensitive, and sounds like everything is about her. Please don't think all American's are like that. A lot are, but a lot aren't.
She is not a friend so let her go out by herself if you are not having a good time. You are not over... (read in full...)
How do I know if he is depressed or if it is part of his character? How can I help if he is depressed? What is this like?
Q. What is it like for males who are suffering depression? I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 8 months and he has been showing signs of depression for the past four or five. I am struggling to determine whether these are true signs of ...
A. 19 November 2008: Suggest that he find help for the depression but don't try to help him fix this because its something only he can fix.
Everyone goes though depression at some point in life. It makes relationships very stressful because its out of anyone's... (read in full...)
I'm falling out of love - is this normal? What can I do?
Q. Ok I have a question to those who have been in the same position as me I've been in quite a long term relationship my first love for almost three years, and this year things have really gone down hill, we only see each other weekends as it is but I ...
A. 19 November 2008: This is normal and part of growing up. Young kids grow into adults and your emotional needs become different. You still need to have many more boyfriends before you settle down. Most friendships don't last. Only a few very special people remain ... (read in full...)
She gave mixed signals and I don't understand!
Q. I have a question/scenario. Here is your chance to give some good advice to a confused man. I had been dating this girl for about 4 months. Everything thing was going FANTASTIC! I played it cool - didn’t try to rush anything - Just had the most ...
A. 19 November 2008: If she is giving mixed signals and you realize that, you are lucky to know this soon. Irish49 is correct. When someone wants to be with you, they will do everything they can to be with you.
There could be thousands of reasons she is backing ... (read in full...)
My girl doesn't like to be touched!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly a year. We both love eachother very much and have no plans to break up. However, she has an unnoticable case of ADHD to the human eye, and I think it's from this I have my problem. She doesn't like ...
A. 19 November 2008: I feel bad for the both of you. This could be so many things that no one other than a therapist could have the answer. It could be due to molestations BUT it could ALSO be a genetic sort of thing. Some people have that problem who were never abused. ... (read in full...)
Is that what squirting's really like?
Q. Okay I have read on this site about the whole 'squirting' business with women and sex but I decided to do some research which lead me to look at porn. (I know some people dislike porn for certain reasons etc. but I would like to point out my reason ...
A. 19 November 2008: OOPS I thought you were a boy.
but its fake and that's what it comes down to... (read in full...)
Is that what squirting's really like?
Q. Okay I have read on this site about the whole 'squirting' business with women and sex but I decided to do some research which lead me to look at porn. (I know some people dislike porn for certain reasons etc. but I would like to point out my reason ...
A. 19 November 2008: Stop watching porn for one thing. It will ruin your real sex life if you think that's what sex is really like.
Squirting happens ONLY in porn. It is special effects and is NOT real. Women have no fluids that can squirt other than urine. Maybe th... (read in full...)
I feel like I've been given a label by the person who I have grown to love deeply.
Q. Yesterday my boyfriend said in a heated conversation that he thought I'd been 'ruined'. This has upset me terribly and I'm wondering how I am ever going to get beyond his remark. He won't retract it or apologise. When I asked him if he would choose ...
A. 19 November 2008: OH YES, I forgot to say.... I read in a book that the best way to confuse the abusers is to agree with everything they say... you're right honey, I'm too complicated. You deserve someone better than me.... and then leave him! Say all that with a ... (read in full...)
I feel like I've been given a label by the person who I have grown to love deeply.
Q. Yesterday my boyfriend said in a heated conversation that he thought I'd been 'ruined'. This has upset me terribly and I'm wondering how I am ever going to get beyond his remark. He won't retract it or apologise. When I asked him if he would choose ...
A. 19 November 2008: Yes! You are over-reacting! You ARE NOT ruined!!!! Just too sensitive to abusive mean-spirited comments. Of course the comments should hurt, he meant them to hurt. But you are giving him too much authority about how you should feel about yourself. ... (read in full...)
I think I may be depressed. What are the symptoms of depression?
Q. I think I have depression but I'm not sure. What are the symptoms, and where should I go from here? If I am depressed who can help me? Thanks x...
A. 19 November 2008: There are a lot of websites you can look at regarding depression. Low energy, feeling nothing will ever change, negative attitude about self and life are some of the symptoms. Holiday and winter season is a hard time for a lot of people.
Do yo... (read in full...)
My F-I-L harrassed me, and said he won't stop until he gets what he wants.
Q. I am 32 years old and married my husband 5 months ago. My husband's father had been very close to me, really helping me be accepted in the family. Its a big family with 5 kids, all of whom are married, my husband being the youngest of the children. ...
A. 19 November 2008: No doubt this creep has forced himself on others many times. Probably everyone keeps quiet about it.
ALSO, you said you wear sexy clothes, well, you need to dress in a less sexy way since that obviously is a major turn on to men.
Slap his face... (read in full...)
Should I break my virginity or keep it?
Q. Hi everyone I really want the answer to this question. I am 25 years old, and am still a virgin. Should I go on to keep the virginity? Or should I break it? Your answer will be valued. ...
A. 19 November 2008: I wish I had waited to have sex with someone who was special for my first time.
In my case, it resulted in too many one night stands and never got the experience to form love relationships. I look back now and I regret experimenting just to see w... (read in full...)
A complicated best friendship. Got myself into quite a pickle here!
Q. I’ve been best friends with a girl for several years now, but recently I moved away to university and have found that she is what I miss most from home. We had always been close from the beginning of our relationship; I had helped her through a ...
A. 19 November 2008: Hi there, from what you describe this sounds like what all kids go though when they leave home and go out into the real world on their own.
The 20s are the hardest time emotionally for people. You are lonely, homesick, leaving childhood behind a... (read in full...)
My F-I-L harrassed me, and said he won't stop until he gets what he wants.
Q. I am 32 years old and married my husband 5 months ago. My husband's father had been very close to me, really helping me be accepted in the family. Its a big family with 5 kids, all of whom are married, my husband being the youngest of the children. ...
A. 19 November 2008: I would confront him in a very serious and angry tone and tell him to leave you the hell alone or you are going to say something to the family. That he should be ashamed of himself to make sexual advances on his son's wife! That he needs help and ... (read in full...)
She's said she's in love with me but it's not working... she's terrified of committing here. WHY?
Q. To all you girls out there, I have a question/scenario. Here is your chance to give some good advice to a confused man. I had been dating this girl for about 4 months. Everything thing was going FANTASTIC! I played it cool - didn’t rush anything - ...
A. 18 November 2008: Just ask if she's comfortable seeing you once a week. Hared to say what goes on in someone else's mind since this is not an odd or obvious behavior situation.
Don't pressure her if you really like her and also ask if she wants for the both of ... (read in full...)
How am I to prevent past traumas from turning me into an evil, manipulative temptress???
Q. Ok, this has taken me almost a half hour to write and still doesn't explain it right, but anyway here goes. My question is this:- How am I to prevent past traumas from turning me into an evil, manipulative temptress??? If I'm not already halfway ...
A. 18 November 2008: This man also abused you emotionally which is very ugly of a man to do, married men have no right doing that!
You are at least aware of this problem which is half the battle. Seeking a therapist is a good idea. Finding someone you can relate t... (read in full...)
I need to find proof she's cheating on me!
Q. I've been told by people my girlfriend is cheating but I have no idea! How can I tell and what should I do?...
A. 18 November 2008: Who are these people? I've had neighbors turn against me because they believe gossip. I have no idea what was said as no one will even look me in the eye! I know for a fact whatever was said was made up as I found out other things were being said ... (read in full...)
The past is the past... why does he want to know?
Q. I have been dating someone for almost 8 months. I have never been unfaithful to him, nor in any of my other relationships. I do not carry myself in a classless manner, and I have respect for myself. However, he has been asking how many men I h...
A. 18 November 2008: A very immature and controlling boy who has made very unreasonable demands on you. Is this someone you actually see a future with? Set boundaries now or this guy is going to make life very unpleasant. The past is past and unless you have a disease, ... (read in full...)
Now I'm reticent to express my feelings to her.
Q. I know there is a social idea that people who are inexperienced with relationships get attached too quickly and think what they are feeling is love. I haven't had many relationships and I know that I definitely fell into this category for my first ...
A. 18 November 2008: Telling someone you love them is always a very good idea.... (read in full...)
My new partner's ex is trying to break me and ruin my life.
Q. I am really struggling. My new partner's ex is trying to break me and ruin my life. They were never married - she fell pregnant when they dated for a few weeks - so they have a child together and share the parenting. But she controls him by ...
A. 18 November 2008: He has a child forever and she will be in his life forever. Find a man with no children. She isn't going anywhere and will always be in the picture. Too much drama. There is no magic that will make her go away.... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a guy likes you from reading body language?
Q. Hello everyone I've heard that you can tell if a guy likes you from body language... but I don't know the signs.... so if anyone out there could tell me anything about this subject I'd really apppeciate it :) thanks ...
A. 18 November 2008: A lot of boys and men are going to like you during your life. Don't chase them, but smile and say hello. If they really like you they will ask you out. If they are shy, I have found out that if they like you enough, they get over that shyness.
... (read in full...)
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