I really need someone to shake me up and tell me to get a reality check.
Q. I know this is like a lot of typical cases.. but I really need help. I'm in my second year in high school, and I've had this same crush since the first week of freshman year. This guy had shared one class with me last year- which is how I got to ...
A. 6 December 2008: You are a very sweet and caring young woman lava and thank you .... you will be just fine. Bad boys always get the best of us, but hopefully the one you end up with is devoted to you and is not as bad as the loser bad boys!
Happy holidays Lava!... (read in full...)
I'm completely put off by my boyfriend snorting cocaine.
Q. HI - I feel let down and have lost all respect for my boyfriend. The other night my boyfriend and I went to a house party, we both had a really brilliant evening. The next morning we went back to the house where the party was and spoke to the girl ...
A. 6 December 2008: That probably wasn't his first time nor his last time. Promises usually don't last very long once temptation is calling their name.... (read in full...)
I really need someone to shake me up and tell me to get a reality check.
Q. I know this is like a lot of typical cases.. but I really need help. I'm in my second year in high school, and I've had this same crush since the first week of freshman year. This guy had shared one class with me last year- which is how I got to ...
A. 6 December 2008: You sound like a very smart and delightful young lady! Thing is, most girls fall for the bad boys! The unfortunate girls get mixed up with them but there is something compelling about them since they are outside of normal society.
Enjoy your cru... (read in full...)
I need tips on breaking someones heart...
Q. Hi - I need advise on how to pluck up the courage to dump my boyfriend. He is a rebound relationship that has moved too fast too quickly and now he wants more than I can give him. I need to be on my own at the moment to sort my head out and move ...
A. 5 December 2008: You might also tell him that things are just moving too fast for you and you do love him, but not with all of your heart. That chances are had you met him first, things would be much different. But you have no control over your heart and emotions ... (read in full...)
What's with all my sex dreams lately??
Q. ive been having sex dreams alot lately and i cant even recognize the guys in my dreams, ive never met them before and their different guys most of the time. i do have a boyfriend and he does pleaze me so i dont know whats wrong! heeeeelllllpp...
A. 5 December 2008: Sex dreams are wonderful! And the best part of them is no broken heart, no pregnancy and no diseases!... (read in full...)
How can you gain motivation when you don't have it in you?
Q. Everybody says, when you are motivated, you can do anything. Reach all your goals, get better etc. But the question is how can you get the motivation, if you don't have it in you. I agree, from the point you have it, that is easy, but where can you ...
A. 5 December 2008: Finding motivation when depressed is very difficult. Take one step at a time until you reach just a little motivation. But motivation for what?
You can start on how to deal with the depression hour by hour day by day. What you would like to accom... (read in full...)
My ex wants me back, but I just found out he was seeing my BFF while seeing me!
Q. i have recently split up from a 1 1/2 year relationship. my ex is now trying to get back with me but yesterday i found out he was seeing my best friend for the duration of our relationship. he tell me he loves me and wants to be with me but i dont ...
A. 5 December 2008: Both of these people need to learn the lesson from you what a friend is.... by dropping them both they will learn a valuable lesson.
At his age, he is fickle and immature. Lucky you gets to teach him how to be a man and a friend. Drop him and tell... (read in full...)
How do I tell someone it's time to leave?
Q. I need advise for a delicate situation. A friend, just a friend, who I have known for 25 years has come to stay at my place which was supposed to be a couple of weeks until her LDR guy arranged things for her to move to his city. He is taking a...
A. 5 December 2008: Thanks Gina and Oldersis!
I actually asked this guy 2 months ago when he called if he could please be more clear about the plan and not only did he shout at me and say it was none of my business, and said I had the nerve to call him... when I c... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to want to have fun before I settle down?
Q. I told my girlfriend that I think relationships at my age are more to do with fun rather than love and she got really upset. I do love her but I don't want a serious relationship just yet. I'm only 17. I've been going out with her for over a year ...
A. 5 December 2008: I'd say something like, hey, if we live to be 80 that means we both have 60 more years to go, you haven't even got to the first20... what's the rush?
Also, you might have her read what the other aunties have told you. Good luck! LOL... (read in full...)
How do I tell my Dad I'm scared that the guy who takes care of Grandpa wants to attack me?
Q. There's a guy who takes care of my grandpa, and one day when we were visiting my grandpa I was alone in the room with my grandpa and the guy and when I got up to leave the dude was like NO DON'T GO NOW!! in a very very creepy whiny voice. I got ...
A. 4 December 2008: If this man is creepy its possible he might not be taking very good care of your grandpa too. Stealing? Abusive? Tell your dad about this. He might really want to find someone else!
Loving fathers will always protect their children!... (read in full...)
Should I marry this older man????????
Q. i was a single parent for five years and i love my children so much. my son and daughter have been threw alot. i have moved them from home to home. i worked at places who don't pay enough and been putting up with thier father long ...
A. 4 December 2008: You haven't given much information. But if the main reason to marry this man is because you need a father for the children and you are putting their needs above yours, why not?
Hopefully he won't change after the marriage. Best to you!... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble believing that he doesn't just want me for the sex!
Q. hi really hope there is someone who can advise me. I met a guy about a year ago online and have met up a couple of times since. We both work shifts and find it hard to meet especially as we also live a good few hours drive away. The second time we ...
A. 4 December 2008: What I have come to find very interesting is how many people in your country are having problems.
Here in the US, your country has a big reputation for being the most sexually open of all the world. The most relaxed about casual sex and that peo... (read in full...)
Oh my dear geeky man, please respond!!!
Q. It is slightly embarrassing for me to admit that we met online, on Craigslist. He asked for a strictly platonic activities partner, I answered. Well, in the end, due to scheduling differences we only went to the activity once. But he tu...
A. 4 December 2008: Sometimes at first all these qualities seem endearing, the injured bird to heal with our love. But after a while, these traits might become annoying.
I think that the next time you see him to kiss him on the lips and tell him that you really l... (read in full...)
Should I spend Christmas Day with him?
Q. Hello, I hope you can help. This sounds like a trivial dilemma but I have no one else to ask and I can't stop thinking about it. It has veen been waking me at night. My boyfriend and I decided to spend Christmas day together about 2 months ago. It ...
A. 4 December 2008: Do what will make you happiest. If you aren't with him will you be sad not to be with him?
Maybe if he is not with you, he will miss your company? My vote is to be with your family. Let him see what its like to be without you.... (read in full...)
I saw my sister naked, now I can't look her in the face!
Q. im22yrs boy.. i have one elder sister.. one day she came form bathroom in naked.. she tought not one in home.. but i was there.. i seen her body fully naked.. now im feeling very shy to see her face..help me.....
A. 4 December 2008: Does she know you saw her? I would tell her what happened and say how embarrassed you felt by that and perhaps by confronting it, you will be able to be comfortable again.... (read in full...)
My husband can masturbate but not have intercourse! Help!
Q. hi, i am married for 3 years, but never have had intercourse. my husband was addicted to masturbation. now he wants to correct his act. but not able to penetrate. from the past 6 months we are trying in vain. he loses erection. can a man be able to ...
A. 4 December 2008: From my own uneducated opinion, your husband has some really serious issues that will not be helped with anything you do.
Is it possible he was molested as a child? Shame issues about his sexuality? Possibly homosexual but is not comforta... (read in full...)
Is it worth ringing him??
Q. Is it worth ringing him? Any advice would be appreciated! - I'm in love with a guy who definitely is in control of our relationship! - He only rings when he can or it's convenient for him, he only sees me when he is available to do so and he onl...
A. 4 December 2008: DO NOT CONTACT HIM! We women always make the mistake of chasing. From my personal experience with a man who I was convenient for, it will never change. You will be frustrated and depressed because control is one sided. Relationships are doomed when ... (read in full...)
I want her to enjoy sex as much as I do
Q. i cant sataify my lady friend the way she satifys me? i recenty was left by the women i loved 4 month ago. i did everything for her and treated her like a queen. i started dating a women who i enjoy spending time with she makes me laugh and keeps ...
A. 4 December 2008: If you're using her to get over someone and you are over weight as well, this doesn't sound like there is any sexual chemistry going on. Women tend to need chemistry more than a man does.
Also, women can sense when a man is still in love with the... (read in full...)
We've only just started dating and now her ex wants her back
Q. I'm a bit down and need some help. Two weeks ago I started chatting to a women who I met on an online dating site, we have been talking every day and night since. I have seen her three times in total, the last time I met her was Tuesday night, w...
A. 4 December 2008: All you can do is wait and see. The hardest thing it seems is to get over an ex and try a new person. Don't pressure her or it will make things worse.
Usually with women, the more aloof and disinterested a man is toward them, seems to make the... (read in full...)
After how badly she treated me should I take her back?
Q. So, this all starts a little over a year ago. I met this cute girl and I began talking to her, and getting to know her. We connected instantly, and became good friends. I asked her out, she accepted. Then we dated for about 10 months. I had fallen ...
A. 4 December 2008: Teenage drama. None of you are old enough or mature enough to have an adult relationship. I'm sure she really does love you, but she and you are much too young and inexperienced to consider marriage. From all the drama and out of control emotions ... (read in full...)
Since his stroke my man has become intolerant of my kids
Q. He cannot find love for my kids! I have been living with this man for over four years. Everything was great til he had a stroke at the age of 44in June of 2007. Since then he has had no tolerance what so ever for my girls 11 and 6. They cannot e...
A. 4 December 2008: You need to speak to a medical professional to find out what's going on with a stroke victim. Its possible he will always be this new guy who isn't all too nice anymore.
You might have to tell him he has no right to lay down the rules to YOUR chi... (read in full...)
I like him a lot and I'm in love with him but I'm scared of people judging me!
Q. well i like this guy lot and i dont feel right being with him iam afraid that pepole will judge me and he said he wants to marry me and have kids with me and hes going to ask me to marry him on chrismas and i dont know what to do he treats me right ...
A. 4 December 2008: Don't ever do what doesn't feel right. It never will. Tell him to cool off. You have your whole life ahead of you. You haven't even begun to have a life yet. You are too young to give up your personal future by devoting your life to a child and ... (read in full...)
My best friend has been making sexual comments to my girlfriend!
Q. My best freind has been hiting on my girlfreind an making sexual comments towrds her. she complained to me bout it and i don like it when he does (he does it right in front of me) i told him to knock it off and he got totaly pissed at me, what ...
A. 4 December 2008: He doesn't sound like much of a friend. Perhaps jealous. There seems to come a time when friendships need to be kept separate. Triangle energy is always drama and ruins relationships. Keep him away from your girlfriend. If you love her, stand by her ... (read in full...)
I don't want him back, I just want to let it go! Words of wisdom, please!
Q. Ok, its been 4 years but I am still having trouble getting over my marriage breaking up. I had no idea the affair was happening, thought we were good together. I think what bothers me most is that when I found out about the affair (unfortunately ...
A. 4 December 2008: That is one cold bastard. If he wasn't happy all those years why do you some big favor by acting like he was happy.
I have a horrible feeling that very few men don't cheat. But with him gone all the time, its hard to keep a relationship between ... (read in full...)
Does he just have cold feet because our relationship is serious?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 13 months and we are best friends and we never had a fight. We have so much in common we snowboard, surf and hang out all the time.... he just said to me he needs some space, and I dont know how to take it.. so ...
A. 4 December 2008: moods and minds change constantly. It is the holiday season and he might need some time alone. Couples I think make the mistake of thinking they have to be together all the time or something is wrong.
Don't corner him for any details. Just tel... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's friend
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years. We have 4 children together. He cheated on me once before, a while ago and we've been fine until recently. His friend and I were always close but recently it's been more than that. I'm not and never have ...
A. 4 December 2008: The "friend" is eventually going to slip up in some way and drop hints to your man. This situation is not going to end pretty unless you put an end to it now. Even so, this guy might cause trouble. You are in a real jam.
You might need to come cle... (read in full...)
I can't seem to let go, I can't seem to feel, I'm just stuck. Whats wrong with me?
Q. So I'm sure you've all probably heard this story a million times. I don't know if I'm even asking a question, but just need to pour my heart out to a kind ear. Any words of comfort would be greatly appreciated. my boyfriend and I broke up official...
A. 3 December 2008: You will love many men in your life. Some more than others. I'm not so young and 5 years ago met the one I'd been looking for my whole life. But I was not the one he was looking for. Love and life isn't fair! Grief takes a lot out of a person and it ... (read in full...)
Need help and tips please with a part time job!
Q. I really really reallyyy need some HELPFUL advice/tips here!!!! I work part time at a very high profile exclusive club. My job is to just stand at reception and greet / smile with customers. There is no one for me to really talk to, I stand ther...
A. 3 December 2008: Are there no other jobs? Is it possible to find a job that is interesting to you? Nothing worse than having to spend hours a day being bored out of your mind.... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble trusting her!
Q. I am involved with a very sexy girl she's 22 says she loves me calls me her boyfriend and wants me live with her. We get on really well txt non stop and have graet sex so what is the problem?..... We I have beem hurt in the past by people c...
A. 3 December 2008: You might have to ask yourself if you are coming on too strong and being overly demanding.
She might feel pressured by you to make up stories. If she is as pretty as you say, its possible you want her more than she wants you.
There are rea... (read in full...)
My married boss suggested no strings sex, should I take his offer?
Q. Hi,for the last one year i have been attracted towards my Boss. I am unmarried 28 Y female and he is 35 Y married male. He is also attracted towards me. He has asked me for sexual relations with him without any emotional involvement.He never forces ...
A. 3 December 2008: He wants you to have sex with him without anything in return? That's a good personality, as lazyguy said. LOL
You think its wrong? You KNOW its wrong and of course the wife will be upset. You also take the chance of loosing your job the minute s... (read in full...)
What should I do with my married doctor who I'm in love with?
Q. Hi I am an unmarried girl. 3 years back i went to a doctor. He became a good friend of mine. I never had any intention to get physical with him as he was married. He asked me to kiss once, i could not stop. One day after kissing, he touched my whole ...
A. 3 December 2008: Is there an agency you can report him to? In the US something like this can cost him his license. He obviously has done this before and perhaps does this with many patients.
He is taking advantage of his position with others and as everyone... (read in full...)
To chase or let go?
Q. For those who like someone: If I like a girl how do I tell the difference between she enjoying the chase and her simply not interested in me? 1) If she likes the chase would it be safe to say that if she is talking to me when she wants in ...
A. 3 December 2008: Being interested is only the first step. You can't know the future. Just see if she wants to spend some time with you doing something fun and take it step by step.
Love is a process. Have fun! Either which way you need to practice having confiden... (read in full...)
How should I respond to his negative behavior?
Q. I work with this guy who is very attractive but married. I'm married also and have never cheated on my spouse. My co-worker is 59 years old and I'm 25 years old. I can't help the attraction and have never responded to his seductive offers. Here ...
A. 3 December 2008: He sounds like a major game player womanizer. Thank goodness you didn't fall for his crap. Why would you want to stay his friend if he is such a manipulative asshole?
He wasn't able to "work his charms" on you, you didn't take his bait and he's... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends...
Q. Hello, hmm where do I begin... Well my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We were engaged, and he broke up with me because of one of his friends who is is a girl. I was devastated. I almost had a nervous breakdown. I lost hope and ...
A. 3 December 2008: He is young and he is an asshole. Let him be the one to loose you and regret his mistakes. Never take this guy back because he sounds like a game player. You deserve so much better.... (read in full...)
Any opinions or advice on how to proceed with this enigma of a man?
Q. I fancy the pants off of this guy that I met online (last January) but he lives in Scotland and I am stuck here. I came out and told him that I liked him. Later on he admitted that he liked me too but wishes that I wasn't here. I've decided to ...
A. 3 December 2008: This must be a Scottish trait. The guy I'm in love with is from Scotland and you never really know what's going on. Charmers, they LOVE women and need more than one. They are great at not letting you know what the heck is going on.
IF you want to ... (read in full...)
What are the options for a girl with a man whose penis is almost 5''?
Q. What are all the options for a girl with a man whose penis is almost 5 inches? I secretly cry in my pillow after sex because my body is so sexually pent up. I am 33 but I do kegol exercises everyday and I've had no children and my ex boyfriends ...
A. 3 December 2008: Do you ever get on top? Sometimes that position helps stimulate the right spot regardless of their size and depending on how you ride him. Sorry to be so graphic.
If you aren't too embarrassed to masturbate together, that can be exciting.... (read in full...)
What can I do? I'm stuck and depressed.
Q. my life so far has been the epitome of continuous unrequited love. now i like someone, am clueless how he feels, and am petrified. i dont like liking people cos I always get hurt. I need to know what to do cos Im stuck and depressed....
A. 3 December 2008: I can relate very much to your situation. I guess you have to take a chance on being hurt if you want love in your life. Its always a huge risk. Is it better to have nothing?
Only that Dali Lama says life without sex is more pleasant. No complica... (read in full...)
Why doesn't she orgasm as much as she used to?
Q. Been with girlfriend 2 years she used to have 2 or 3 orgasms every time. Now once every few times. Is she cheating or not into me anymore? ...
A. 3 December 2008: I have a similar situation. I am so so in love with a man who isn't in love with me. We have been friends with benefits for 5 years. I used to have 4 each time! But as time went on and I saw how hopeless the situation was, I started closing up ... (read in full...)
I need help talking to a friend of mine!
Q. Right this might sound abit pathetic but i need help talking to a friend of mine. Thing is i've has strong feeligns for a really long time n i thought he did me but obviously not and people started making it worse but we sorte it all out between ...
A. 3 December 2008: If you have the nerve to say to him, I hope it doesn't bother you that I am a little on the quiet side. I wish I was more talkative but I guess I'm a little shy.
Something like that, and that might start a conversation!... (read in full...)
Do I continue being his friend? And why does he need my friendship so much?
Q. I've been seeing a married man who is now in Iraq. He's told me repeatedly that he is not in love with his wife but feels he needs to do the right thing and finished what he started. He has a daughter and is afraid that his wife will use her against ...
A. 2 December 2008: You have to know by now that you have no business getting involved with a man who isn't divorced. That in time he will do to you what he is doing to her.
The daughter will always come before you. And the wife will always be in his life in some way... (read in full...)
He likes someone else, but is willing to have me as second best... Should I get with him?
Q. Do you think its silly if you dont want to get into something with someone that not only admits they are a commitment phobe, but also that has always liked someone you both know, but she doesn't like him in that way? Would you feel 2nd best? And ...
A. 2 December 2008: Why would you want to be with a man who fancies someone else? If you are hoping that he will end up wanting you instead, chances are that won't happen. Why settle for second when all that will bring is drama and pain?
Tell him if things don't wo... (read in full...)
I want to get my mate's mum naked!
Q. most will think this is fake but thats your opinion. anyways i was at my friends house and i slept over. the next morning we had a soccer practise so when we got back he went to have a shower first. while he was upstairs i was downstairs playin ...
A. 2 December 2008: Sounds like a lot of trouble. Get some girly magazines.... (read in full...)
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