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*arv6
writes:my husband is a closed book when it comes to the bedroom. i try to get him to open up and he doesnt. our sex life is becoming so repetitive that i am getting bored. he also doesnt last long and i have been finding myself needing more. he is also not romantic and doesnt care if i reach orgasm or not what should i do?
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reader, marv6 +, writes (9 December 2008):
marv6 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for all the response there is not a fetish that hhe has i already have a vibrator and sexy underwear but not as good as th real thing
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reader, pyan  +, writes (9 December 2008):
Hi
i think you may have to take lead with him for what you want to do, (or there is somthing wrong with him). try some sexy underwear or book a nice weekend away with him. also try a adult movie with him, i found that helped my wife a few years ago when her sex drive was low. she, well we both enjoyed watching them and it gave her ideas to try. good luck and let me know if i can help
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reader, NightStalker  +, writes (9 December 2008):
Ouch. May I start by apologising for haveing such a man. Secondly check his history on his p.c. if the man has any wierd and wonderful fetish's they will be here. I am into BDSM and havent told any of my ex's about and would never dream through fear of scaring them off. I wouldnt recommend speaking to him head on about it as that will just make him deffensive. your best bet is to go about it from a different angle, if you do find a 'wierd' fetish come about it with an open mind! And then throw it at him, go to ann summers or where needed to get the things for it and try it. I know he doesnt deserve it as he is obviously a waste of space but it's a good way to stay faithful. You could also try getting him to open up by telling him your fantasies. I don't know a women/man yet that doesnt have a 'taken' (you know what I mean!) fantasy so tell him yours on a basis that he has to tell you his.
Or ofcourse buy a vibrator?
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reader, Teacake +, writes (9 December 2008):
 This depends on how much you like sex and how open and experimental you are.
I'm in love with a man who is just someone he uses for the sex. Its the best ever and is why I can't cut things off. Heartbreaking. But, because he does not love me, sometimes it seems a bit repetitive.
So here's what I'm thinking and perhaps this might interest you? There's these things you can insert inside the man's rectum that stimulates his prostate... the male G spot. If you enjoy oral sex, using that thing will give him a very intense orgasm. Should you rock his world like that, perhaps he will be more interested in pleasing you?
I would love to try that with my friend, but it isn't cheap and I'm not sure when I'll even see him again. But if this thing does what it claims... perhaps it moves things to another level?
This is just one idea out of so many. Basically, the woman has to find a way to open him up sexually and be as appealing to him as possible. Just regular sex, missionary style can in fact get really boring. There are other things but I don't know how experimental you are.
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reader, SinVA +, writes (9 December 2008):
Tell him. Initiate new sexual encounters, maybe a new place, or wear something sexy, who knows. Try and spice it up a little.
If that doesn't work, hold off on pleasing him, until he makes sure you are pleased.
If that doesn't work, let him know that this is a major area of concern for you and that sexual chemistry is a huge part of any relationship, and that you don't want it to damage what you guys have.
It may be that he just doesn't know he isn't doing enough! Goodluck and enjoy yourself!
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