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writes:Hi I need help / advice quickly please!!!I am 21 and live in the UK. I have a friend who has recently started hanging around with this guy who works in the local pizza place. He originally comes from Libya and is muslim. My friend is christian they really like each other and have been spending more and more time together recently. I was really happy for my friend as she really liked him. However she has just phoned me and told me that him and his cousin have told her that she must go to a mosque with him tomorrow to have this muslim blessing so that they can continue to be together. Im not sure what this blessing is and i really dont want her to get hurt when she was first telling me about this she mentioned that she would not be married in our country but in his country they would be! but when she saw my reaction to this she quickly changed what she was saying and said that they would not be married so im a little confused about it all. I know she is 21 and can make her own decisions i just dont want to see her get hurt or into any trouble or anything all I know about this blessing is that it is going to take place tomorrow if she decides to go and that it is part of a holy day or something! she said that they will get a piece of paper with something on it that will say they can be together and he is not committing a sin! to me this all sounds rather drastic just for them to be boyfriend and girlfriend i have tried to tell her about my concerns but she doesnt understand how serious this could turn out to be! especially if my suspicions are right and by the time what she thinks is just a blessing is over she will be married to this man she has known for only 2 months!!! Please help me im soooo scared for her shes soo gullable and just accepts what people say so shes not even questioning him or his cousin about the whole thing!!
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (8 December 2008):
 By the way, I forgot to say that when your friend is an adult, she will look back and think about this much differently - She will LOVE you for caring so much and for being wise enough to step in and help her.
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reader, Teacake +, writes (8 December 2008):
In this case it is best to loose her as a friend for saving her from a VERY bad situation! TELL HER FAMILY!!! The family will LOVE you forever. This is not different from telling a family of any other dangerous secret behavior. If she were going to kill herself would you tell them even if she would hate you for that? It is very similar. Tell her family now. Your friend is in for a life of hell because they NEVER give blessings to non-muslims! NEVER. The muslim religion treats women worse than goats. They are slaves to the men. It is much worse than that. Sexual abuse is very common and once that happens, the men are obligated to kill the woman for dishonor of the men in the family. They will treat her like shit because she is not one of them!
It is much better to loose her friendship than to allow her to make the BIGGEST mistake of her life! Her family NEEDS to know about this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): No her family dont even know she is seeing this man! Im really worried and just dnt know what to do!! she will fall out with me if i tell her family and she thinks that im just being all jealous or something when i try to stop her! Arrrgh! just what am i supposed to d sit back and let this happen?
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reader, Teacake +, writes (8 December 2008):
This sounds like they might be converting her without her knowledge. Muslims are forbidden to have relations with non-belivers! Infidels!
Does her family know about this? This is NOT GOOD! She is in store for a very nasty reality if she goes along with it. I could say more, but I shouldn't get into it.
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