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13 July 2011: I made a joke the other day to my boyfriend, and while it was a little sarcastic and crass, it was true. Let me start this off by saying that this site is a wonderful thing, and I have recieved some very valuable advice from it. I've also been t...
Giving Myself Advice
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10 March 2011: Lately, I've realized that using this site has given me a valuable tool. When I go to type a question, my mind wanders to what advice I would give if I stumbled across my question from someone else on this site. From those thoughts, I've b...
First Time Blues
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25 February 2011: I lost my virginity when I was 16 years old to a guy who, granted, was a nice guy, but he wasn't anything more than that. I had been waiting and hoping for that moment since the beginning of high school, even before my first kiss. After it finally ...
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How do I ask him (again) how he sees me without scaring him off?
Q. Okay so I met this really cute guy a few weeks ago while we were both working at a Trade show in L.A. I thought he was cute, but also didn't think he'd go for me. He ended up asking me out and our first date was super fun. He was constantly ...
A. 9 July 2011: It kind of seems like he already told you:
He doesn't want to rush into a relationship, but he does want to get to know you and keep hanging out with you.
What I would do in this situation is keep hanging out with him, keep getting closer, ... (read in full...)
8 months, when do I take it to the next level?
Q. I've been in a wonderful relationship for 8 months and I'm wondering when to take it to the next level? We're young, I'm 19 and he's 20 but he recently suggested the idea of us moving in together. I would love to and told him so. I wouldn't move in ...
A. 30 June 2011: You said you're 19 and in college? At this point, you're an adult and it's time to make your own decision. that being said, it sounds like you're a little reluctant to move in with him and you feel like it's too soon. Maybe you should try moving out ... (read in full...)
Should I just try to accept this quirk of his?
Q. My boyfriend is a thoughtful, sweet guy, but tends to be socially awkward. He's an opinionated guy, and can get a bit pushy when he gets going on a topic he cares about. I've told him that he can come across as aggressive, but he says that it's j...
A. 30 June 2011: If he's feeling like you're trying to change him, you may be approaching the topic in the wrong way. Then again, he may just be arguing with you, like he seems to do best.
One suggestion I have for you, coming from a person in a relation... (read in full...)
I broke up with him but he still wants me to provide him with emotional support, what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I just broke up we were together for almost three years. Although both of us know it was for the best it still hurts a lot. He was very cold about it which doesn't make me feel better about anything and even brought up points that I ...
A. 30 June 2011: Oh boy. I know how this feels.
First thing you need to do is stop taking responsibilty for his emotional health. It's not your job, nor anyone else's job, to make him feel better. It's his, and he is the only one who can do it. Noone but him will... (read in full...)
If there is no medical reason, what else could be the problem if my husband never wants to have sex with me?
Q. What can I do ,if my husband can't tell,why does he not want to have sex with me? If there is no medical reason, what else could be the reason, if your husband never cares about sex ,yet he used to. I asked him, he says ,he doesn't know why. He did ...
A. 28 June 2011: Have you guys talked about sexual needs? Maybe he has needs that are not being met.
Maybe there is something going on in the bedroom that makes him uncomfortable? Is one of you interested in kinkier sex and the other isn't?
Have you chan... (read in full...)
Can open relationships ever work?
Q. right, so I am a bloke with a massive attraction to this girl. she gorgeous and smart and funny and lovely and SINGLE and SHE LIKES ME...well, you know that with those combination then she's gotta have a problem if shes still single, right? right. ...
A. 17 June 2011: It sounds like you might have a bit of a confidence issue if you're wanting a committed relationship, but willing to accept this in its place.
The only way I can see this working is if neither one of you is exclusive. If you also want to date oth... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be sexually involved with your best friend?
Q. Is it wrong to be sexually involved with your best friend? Okay so my friend came over(he's a guy) and we were just watching t.v then we started fighting over the remote because I didn't want to watch a show. Somehow from that it led to him ...
A. 14 June 2011: First, it's debatable whether it is your place or not. You guys are very young, so, while relationships are very rarely permanent at all, it's still a serious thing when cheating is involved. I'm gonna go ahead and say it isn't your job to tell her ... (read in full...)
I was giving my husband a blow job and my son walked in on us!!
Q. So.. I was having a rather pleasant time pleasuring my man... yes BJ ... we have been together 20 years - married for 14 and have 2 young children.. 2 and 5 yrs. We had not closed our door as we tend not too because we can generally hear o...
A. 14 June 2011: Speaking from the point of view of a child who has walked in on this sort of thing, please, PLEASE close your door next time.
Also, try not to freak out. This happens. I'm not scarred for life, just a little grossed out. He likely will forget d... (read in full...)
Harmless Fun Or Borderline Child Abuse ?
Q. Hey :) I could use abit of help. My cousin(Ill call her Gemma)who is 7 her mum has started entering her into child beauty pagents. It was Gemma's mum who made the choice to enter her into these compitions and is encourageing Gemma to go to them. I ...
A. 9 June 2011: I agree with you, and I think you should get other family members together and do an intervention. In addition, make sure you are talking to the little girl and gently reinforcing that the beauty pageant stuff isn't important. Show her that her true ... (read in full...)
No Sex - is he cheating?
Q. My bf and I have been dating for six months now. He is 25 and we have never had sex. What are the chances that he is cheating?...
A. 9 June 2011: It depends on what kind of person he is. Just because you haven't had sex doesn't mean he is cheating. In fact, it seems like more of a flag that he isn't. The kind of man who cheats is not the kind of man who would be in a relationship for 6 months ... (read in full...)
Should I be me or the dancer?
Q. I am an ex dancer so used to have a good body and be considered attractive. I got treated really badly by an ex boyfriend who I lived with for 2 years, he cheated on me with about 8 of my friends and ended up becoming violent. My self esteem ...
A. 25 May 2011: I doubt it's your fault that he is having trouble with erections.
Look at a few things. First: is he actually having trouble with them, or are they just coming up slower? An erection that is slower to rise is just a side-effect of getting ... (read in full...)
Was his non-reply a sign to stop?
Q. Okay I like this guy, but he doesn't know me. He actually knows my sister's boyfriend. While we was texting he asked to see a picture. I sent the cutest picture in my phone. I'm really not ugly okay. So he said he couldn't see my face I was told to ...
A. 25 May 2011: Go ahead and text him hi. Be maybe a little extra sweet (not over kill) and he will dismiss any thoughts he may have had of the harsh text.
Guys really don't over analyze what people say like girls do. Chances are, he just had to go do somethin... (read in full...)
Dating is frying my brain and I am becoming obsessive and stupid! Help!
Q. Hey guys. So, I'm sure this is going to be a bit redundant, as I'm sure others have asked similar questions in the past, but I really am confused and am curious as to what people think about my situation in particular. This is a book, unfortunately. ...
A. 25 May 2011: The fact that you are nervous suggests that you two have chemistry. You should ask him if he wants to do something next weekend in order to give him a sign that you are still interested. Hang out again and see how it goes.
Relax. On your next mee... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me while travelling
Q. Hi, I'd just managed to make my huaband of 15 years confess he cheated on me almost everytime he went on a business trip; almost 6 times a year. The hardest thing about this truth is that we had a solmen promise from day one to be honest to each ...
A. 25 May 2011: I understand that you're trying to keep an open and honest relationship. That's a good thing. However, it's not a good thing that you are continually forgiving this man for cheating on you.
You deserve to be treated better than that, first of... (read in full...)
I think I might be Bisexual, but I'm afraid for others to know...
Q. Im 15 years old. There is this feeling in me. I think im bisexual. I think girls are sexy. there is this one girl name "Abbie". She asked me out. I said yes to see what its like. Now everyone at my school is making fun of me. And this boy I also ...
A. 18 May 2011: Good luck :) ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I love him for the right reasons. Should I marry him anyway?
Q. Here's the thing... my fiance and I have been together for a year and a half, and have lived together for a year. We are planning on getting married in October on our 2 year anniversary. But... I have many doubts about marrying him. It's not wedding ...
A. 13 May 2011: Maybe you should postpone the wedding and work on your relationship. I think marriage at this point could be a bad idea. ... (read in full...)
I think I might be Bisexual, but I'm afraid for others to know...
Q. Im 15 years old. There is this feeling in me. I think im bisexual. I think girls are sexy. there is this one girl name "Abbie". She asked me out. I said yes to see what its like. Now everyone at my school is making fun of me. And this boy I also ...
A. 13 May 2011: When I was 15, I came out as being bi too. it's definitely scary. What I did was I only came out to a few people I trusted, and then gradually just felt free to be myself. I don't broadcast on the street that I'm bi because it's nobody's business. ... (read in full...)
I like her but I am going away soon, what should I do?
Q. I am currently revising for very hard university exams, but can't stop about this girl that I have liked for a while. However, I don't know whether to gather confidence to ask her out now, even though I will not be able to see her until after exams ...
A. 13 May 2011: I would wait til you have more time. Then, if the feelings are still there, you'll know you shold go for it. It's not really a good idea to start a new relationship when you're already swamped, and then expect to last as a long distance.
Give ... (read in full...)
Is anyone else annoyed at Facebook?
Q. I hate Facebook. There, I said it. I hate the way most people use text messaging, too. I do not participate on Facebook, but most of my friends and family do. That's fine. It's a nice way to connect with a lot of people at once and share thos...
A. 13 May 2011: I think that social networking sites have their place, but that there is a definite line that many people have jumped across.
I'm 17 and I agree that texting messes with relationships. It's great to help confirm plans or meet up with someone ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about having a DNA test....
Q. I had unprotected sex with my ex-boyfriend before 2years but I did not get pregnant since he ejaculated just on my vagina. Later I had unprotected sex with another guy he also used to ejaculate near my vagina. But a single drop went inside. So if I ...
A. 13 May 2011: First, if you're having unprotected sex, then semen is inside of you. There is ALWAYS precum, and precum can and very often does get people pregnant. So, that's not an effective birth control whatsoever.
Secondly, are you now pregnant and are ... (read in full...)
I came home and found my hubby had been going on porn sites, now he says I'm over reacting! Am I??
Q. I came home from vacation and found out my husband was going to porn sites. That didn't bother me as much as him going on live camera sites and was able to chat with these woman. He thinks I am over reacting. I feel so cheated on. I know porn is ...
A. 12 May 2011: Porn is hotly debated, but when you take it to the next level and start video chatting with women for pornographic purposes, that's taking it to a new and inappropriate level. No, you aren't over-reacting, and you guys really need to talk about ... (read in full...)
Have I been masterbated to the point where my output is now being affected?
Q. Have I been trying to masterbate too many times every day? Now I am wondering how much masturbation is too much masturbation? Usually I masturbate four times a day. But now I have reached the point where i can barely ejaculate anything anymore and ...
A. 12 May 2011: Well, that's not the most I've heard of a guy masturbating, so you aren't too weird at the very least :)
Yes, you will recover. You haven't broken yourself, you're just not producing semen as fast as you're shooting it out. Try cutting back a l... (read in full...)
Old boyfriend had cancer and I want to start it up again but I'm scared
Q. Hi, I think i need some opinions because am at a crossroads! Sooo I will have to start from the beginning so it makes sense. When I was 14 I went out with a lad I went to school with and afterwards we generally stayed in touch. He got diagnosed wi...
A. 12 May 2011: Throroughly and honestly examine your reasons for wanting to date this person, as I'm sensing a little bit of bleeding heart lover syndrome and a bit of panic and pity coloring your decision.
NEVER go out with someone out of pity, it hurts th... (read in full...)
He deliberately embarrasses me. What can I do to stop him being Mr Wize Guy?
Q. My guy thinks it is funny sometimes to call out silly things in front of strangers, to embarrass me. It is not funny. The things he calls out are not true, but he bursts out laughing once he has done it. I have told him I find it embarrassing. that ...
A. 12 May 2011: Love the ideas previously mentioned, especially cupidus'. Share the "Daddy, did you take yout tourrettes medication today?" one with your daughter.
Another couple of jibes to give him a taste of his own medicine:
"He's tiny and trying to co... (read in full...)
Why would my crush be mean to me on purpose? I thought he liked me.
Q. My crush told a mutual friend that he hated me. My crush and I have had fun together and talked and laughed. Why would he do this? He never acted like he hated me. I have done so much for him. Why would he do that and what does it mean? Thank you....
A. 12 May 2011: If you didn't hear it from him, assume it's not true. There are so many reasons people lie, so who knows what could be going on here.
Try asking him if what you heard is true, and tell him the source. He will respect you for your maturity... (read in full...)
Girl I am dating asked me if I want to see sex tape of her and a guy from college, and says her ex-bf liked to watch it! What do I make of this???
Q. Aunts, can you please give me some perspective of this please. I have been dating this girl for like 3 months. she is gorgeous, 26, very sweet. I know she has a number of bfs in the past and she's experienced with guys. But i dont let that intimid...
A. 12 May 2011: You are not confused at all. This is unhealthy and creepy in every way, and this poor, misguided girl seems to be a lot younger in her ways than 26. She needs to get her head on straight and stop degrading herself.
Yes, her ex is creepy, this is ... (read in full...)
My ex likes me quiet, but bugs me until I scream. How can I get his attention more? I still like him!
Q. The other day i was messing with one of my ex's because i still like him. Well he asked me if i still like him and i was afraid what he would say if i say yes so i told him i dont know, and he kept bugging me about it so i told him no. But now i am ...
A. 18 April 2011: Your question is confusing. If he actually said that he likes you most when you are quiet, doesn't that translate in to he only likes to look at you? Do you want a guy who only likes to look at you? Or for that matter, a guy who likes to annoy you? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is awful at oral sex!! How do I tell him this without hurting him??
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly 2years. i truely love him.but he's awful at oral sex. I don't know how to tell him this without hurting him. What should I do?...
A. 17 April 2011: There are definitely ways you can work on this without having a real sit-down talk with him. You can absolutely avoid the awkward feelings-hurt risk of that kind of approach.
I agree with C. Grant. He'll get over the initial slight embarass... (read in full...)
Do guys respect virgins or non experienced girls?
Q. Is it true that guys actually respect girls who have never had sex or if they haven't done much with a guy? I don't want to sound rude, but i don't believe this. I hear guys talk and surely if some girls are rude about the girls who are virgins, ...
A. 13 April 2011: No one can speak for all men, but, yes, generally a lady with the confidence to keep her virginity until she finds someone worth giving it to is respected by both guys and girls alike. Immature people are intimidated by that kind of confidence, so ... (read in full...)
How can I let go of what's happened in the past?
Q. I have been seeing someone for about 10 months. About 7 months or so into the relationship, while I was away for about a month, he told me that he spoke with his ex-girlfriend (used to be long distance) and was upset that she was seeing someone new. ...
A. 13 April 2011: This guy seems to be trying to have his cake and eat it too. You really don't seem like the kind of lady who is okay with a man who's trying to decide between you and another girl, especially if part of that decision includes sleeping with both of ... (read in full...)
What do the men look for in a woman? Do they only want sex?
Q. Question for guys Its a pretty simple one but you see i am finding it hard to find a guy who wants me for me . Only want me for sex really im not nasty at all or ugly... Broad question for you all What do guys look for in a woman ?...
A. 13 April 2011: I'm not a guy, but I can tell you that every guy is different. If guys are only wanting you for sex, you are hanging around the wrong guys! Do you find yourself attracted to players or guys with a reputation of using girls for sex?
You might ev... (read in full...)
Why did my husband fondle me then go masturbate in the bathroom when we were at a friend's house?
Q. I do not have any idea how to title this question. I am 31 and my husband is 32. We were at some friends' house recently. He came to me and asked to come with him. We went into a bedroom and he closed and locked the door. He said to me to get ...
A. 13 April 2011: Maybe he just didn't want to have sex in his friend's house? That's a little weird but everyone gets weird at times. I can't tell you the number of "Huh?" looks I've gotten from my boyfriend for all my weird idiosyncrasies.... (read in full...)
At what age is a woman no longer attractive?
Q. When does a woman lose her "hotness"? What age is considered no longer attractive? I would love to hear all opinions from women, men, all ages. Thanks!...
A. 13 April 2011: I have never seen so beautiful a thing as an older woman with confidence. As long as you keep your heart, soul, and fire alive, it will keep your body and spirit young.
Those who age gracefully are those who embrace life and its cycles. To add o... (read in full...)
What do you think of this guy? How do we go back to having original, striking conversations?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been on four dates with this one guy. He is a gentleman, makes me laugh uncontrollably and I am attracted to him. On our first date,we had a nice conversation,about the concentration camps in Germany, other political matters...
A. 13 April 2011: Who says it's too soon? You or some notion of how relationships are supposed to go? You may want to consider letting yourself fall in to a relationship with a guy who really likes you.
Yes, I do think you're over-analyzing. This might be because ... (read in full...)
I like him but I'm scared to tell him. Help!
Q. I need help Please! Okay i have a friend he is really sweet i flirt with him some but he doesnt see it. I really like him and he's really cool. I have been thinking about seeing if he likes me but dont what to do or how to do it. I really like him...
A. 12 April 2011: I understand how you feel. Trust me, it won't be like that forever. Pretty soon, the people around you get more mature and it's going to be just fine if people know who you like.
Guys your age are, well, a little oblivious. You may have to hit h... (read in full...)
I like my own parts. Is this wrong? I am confused about my sexuality.
Q. i have always liked men and wanted relationships with men, never crushed on a girl (im a girl) but i can watch girl porn and get turned on by bodies and guy porn too and same thing happens. i know its a fantasy and thats ok. but the problem...
A. 12 April 2011: The fact that you enjoy your own body doesn't make you attracted to women. It means you enjoy your own body and your own shape. Continue to love yourself, as that is incredibly healthy for both self confidence and chemical reasons if you pleasure ... (read in full...)
What do you think of this guy? How do we go back to having original, striking conversations?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been on four dates with this one guy. He is a gentleman, makes me laugh uncontrollably and I am attracted to him. On our first date,we had a nice conversation,about the concentration camps in Germany, other political matters...
A. 12 April 2011: Well, it seems like the two of you like each other but it's just gotten a little bit awkward.
If you want to re-break the ice, (which sometimes needs to happen after something "official" occurs, like kissing) try thinking up some conversa... (read in full...)
I miss my friend and I want her back in my lfe
Q. I miss my best friend. Last summer she met a new girlfriend who is very possessive - she doesn't like my friend spending time with me on her own and when I see the two of them, I am ignored all the time. I was in a car accident before Christmas - ...
A. 10 April 2011: Your friend has moved herself out of your life. I know how painful that is, but there really isn't anything you can do to make her change. She's her own person. Like Bobbyjo said, work on your own self confidence and open your heart up to new ... (read in full...)
How long is enough time to contact her?
Q. Okay so I have been seeing this girl occasionally on the weekends, she is a friend that moved away and moved back close by recently. Anyways yesterday we hooked up and everything went really well, the night was enjoyable and we both had a great ...
A. 10 April 2011: For most ladies, the whole "wait 3 days" thing is really not accurate. Call her tomorrow, that should be enough time. Then, from there just keep it light and fun. Don't stress.
Best of Luck... (read in full...)
My dads porn addiction is hurting our family!
Q. A little back story: My mom and I are very close, so we talk to each other like friends often. Because of that, I know a lot about her and my dad's relationship. My dad has been experiencing some Erectile Dysfunction issues over the past two...
A. 10 April 2011: Hey guys. I already understand that I can't intervene in this. I guess I didn't make it clear that what I wanted was advice on how to deal with this, not how to get in the middle of this. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my virginity to her because she is not a virgin. What should I do?
Q. Hi I'm a virgin and I've met a girl. shes not a virgin though and she wants my virginity but i don't want to lose my virginity with her as she's not a virgin either what do i do about this? ...
A. 8 April 2011: if you don't want to, don't do it!! Sex comes with a lot of issues and risks. It's not worth it if you're not even sure if you want to or not. ... (read in full...)
My dads porn addiction is hurting our family!
Q. A little back story: My mom and I are very close, so we talk to each other like friends often. Because of that, I know a lot about her and my dad's relationship. My dad has been experiencing some Erectile Dysfunction issues over the past two...
A. 8 April 2011: This isn't a fake post. I really, really wish it were because I can't even look at my dad the same because of this. If I wanted to ask about a porn debate, I would have made a post stating just that. In fact my last question was a debate question ... (read in full...)
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