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13 July 2011: I made a joke the other day to my boyfriend, and while it was a little sarcastic and crass, it was true. Let me start this off by saying that this site is a wonderful thing, and I have recieved some very valuable advice from it. I've also been t...
Giving Myself Advice
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10 March 2011: Lately, I've realized that using this site has given me a valuable tool. When I go to type a question, my mind wanders to what advice I would give if I stumbled across my question from someone else on this site. From those thoughts, I've b...
First Time Blues
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25 February 2011: I lost my virginity when I was 16 years old to a guy who, granted, was a nice guy, but he wasn't anything more than that. I had been waiting and hoping for that moment since the beginning of high school, even before my first kiss. After it finally ...
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I'm 14 and pregnant - what will happen to my child, and the father?
Q. I'm 14 and pregnant and i'm not getting rid of it, but if I don't what will happen to the father of my child?, and would social services take it off me? ...
A. 25 February 2011: Oh hunny. You should have used protection. Hopefully you will in the future.
You can put the baby up for adoption, if that's what you mean by social services "taking it off you". You say the boy is 14 yrs old, so both of you are under the lega... (read in full...)
I love my friends, but all they talk about is sex! How do I tell them I think they are being crude? Or should I say nothing?
Q. I have a great group of friends ranging in age from 13 to 17. I'm almost 15, so I'm in the middle, age-wise. Well what's upsetting me is that my friends are funny and great, and I love them, but every other topic is sex! Like threesom...
A. 25 February 2011: I agree with firstlovelastlove. A little bit of light humiliation is in order to make these kids see how immature they're being. next time they all start up, say something like "Wow, don't you all sound like a bunch of virgins!" Then when they ask ... (read in full...)
Should I cheat on my bf with the cute boy next door?
Q. Alrighty so, I have been in a relationship for quite some time with a great guy. I absolutely love him to bits. He's always remained faithful and he's such a great boyfriend. Only a select few know about our relationship. Ok so I live two houses d...
A. 20 February 2011: Don't cheat hunny you'll regret it forever. That's a can of worms you don't want to open. "just to experiment with who youre really happy with"? Are you kidding? This other guy isn't even single. He's not even an option for you as far as a ... (read in full...)
How do I control my sexual urges?
Q. I have a bit of a problem... I am in my early twenties and well, I am a virgin, and have had next to zero experience with men... which I may add, is normal in my culture... in fact, more than acceptable, it's preferable... However, as far as I am ...
A. 20 February 2011: You're normal, musturbation is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of, and more power to you for saving yourself for someone special. I certainly wish I had waited a little bit longer to figure out if my first was as special as I thought he was.
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He hit me across the face, causing me to spill a hot drink over myself and my laptop!!
Q. Dear cupids, am I in the wrong here? I have a big presentation tomorrow and I had asked my boyfriend to be my practice audience when I'd done. Well he knows Iv been feeling pretty crappy at the moment due to the fact Iv been paying off his loan ...
A. 20 February 2011: Better yet, try to kick him out. One way or another, get AWAY from him!!!... (read in full...)
He hit me across the face, causing me to spill a hot drink over myself and my laptop!!
Q. Dear cupids, am I in the wrong here? I have a big presentation tomorrow and I had asked my boyfriend to be my practice audience when I'd done. Well he knows Iv been feeling pretty crappy at the moment due to the fact Iv been paying off his loan ...
A. 20 February 2011: Oh my god. What a complete jackass. You deserve to be treated so, SOOO much better than that. Find a friend you can stay with for a little bit, pack up, inform him that you are leavinghim, and that he can pay off his own damned loan. Tell him he had ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I should love him with all my heart or just be really cautions...
Q. so me and this guy have been dating for 9 months ... in the first 3 months he tells me he just wants to be friends it hurt i let it go.. then he comes back he tells me that he needed time for his self to figure out if he really wanted to be with me ...
A. 19 February 2011: If you're not sure, take it easy. Even so, don't be afraid to trust and to love, especially if he has been treating you lovingly and well. If it seems like his heart is yours, don't be scared to give your heart to him. I was the same way. ... (read in full...)
I told him I'm pregnant today. He became abusive and aggressive with me. Where do I go from here?
Q. hi everyone, im 22 and this guy is 20. i need some good advice here. today i found out that i'm pregnant this is my first time being pregnant and the guy im pregnant for he's a player. its been nearly 3half weeks i havent heard from him. he's been...
A. 19 February 2011: I had a guy treat me like that. Thankfully I wasn't bearing his child at the time. This guy is a total ass and didn't deserve your company whatsoever. You said he's a player. If a sperm slipped through to impregnate you, who knows what it br... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up with me because he thinks I had sex with someone else
Q. I broken up with my boyfriend. He's thing is that he thinks that I had sex with another guy Friday. He texted me and I didn't reply because I was mad with him. He refused my explanation and terminated the relationship. I really want him back. ...
A. 15 February 2011: Firstly, if he doesn't trust you, you really don't want to be in that relationship.
Secondly, if you want him to understand the truth, walk up to him and say something along the lines of:
"Look, I never have and never would consider sheatin... (read in full...)
I'm an introvert so I actually like being alone a lot of the time. But not this kind of alone.
Q. I'm a 16 year old girl. I'm not happy. I haven't been happy for a while, everyday it feels like I'm on the verge of tears or I just was to scream or punch something. I hate going to school because their's so many people. I have friends but I don't ...
A. 13 February 2011: I think you might be depressed. Try talking to a counselor. They also have psychologists at school. You should tell your mom if youre feeling this sad all the time. If there's nothing bad going on in your life, it might be a chemical imbalance, and ... (read in full...)
Is he gay or curious? And how should I react to him?
Q. Dear eveyone... I have a friend that I’ve been known him since college. For the last four years we become close friends and I consider him my best friends as I trust him and till him anything about my life. I’m 27 and he is 28 years old and we...
A. 9 February 2011: When I was coming out as a bisexual woman and trying to see how my friends would react, I would first bring up homosexuality in a passing, non-personal kind of way and see how they reacted. Try that with him. Make sure you present it in an ... (read in full...)
Help me move on?
Q. i recently split with my boyfriend who i'd been in a relationship with for 18 month and im finding it hard to let go and move on but i really need to as he cheated on me. any ways, songs anything to help me move on? ...
A. 8 February 2011: Have a girl's night with your closest, most uplifting friends. Do really fun things liek go to a concert or get late-night ice cream and listen to lots of dancy, uplifting, empowering girl music. That always hepls me!... (read in full...)
Did he say everything because he was drunk?
Q. Ok, so there is this guy, A. We went to middle school together and then we both are in differnt high schools now. Right after 8th grade he texted me saying how much he liked me, and wanted to be with me, and I was rude to him and told him no, ...
A. 8 February 2011: Firstly, how much do you want to date a guy who drinks? They're really not that great. This is coming from a girl who has dated her share.
Aside from that. If he's said he likes you a couple of times, you might as well give him a chance. Just don... (read in full...)
Spicing up sex for that extra "wow"
Q. Hi. I'm looking for simple ways to spice up sex with my boyfriend. We have a wonderful sex life, but I'd like to put some extra 'wow' into it as he has been so amazing to me lately when I've been very stressed. We've been together nearly 2 years. ...
A. 8 February 2011: Let me just first say "Awwwwwwww :)" the fact that you two care for each other so much is so sweet, and that'll make spicing up sex that much easier.
One old trick that's very fun is wait for him to come home one night wearing some sexy lingerie... (read in full...)
I don't want a static relationship! What do I do?
Q. After dating my bf for over two years it has all become static and will be now for 3 years to come because of his job. He won't live with me until then and nothing else can progress. I don't want a static relationship. What do I do?...
A. 8 February 2011: It sounds like you already know what you want to do. Maybe it's time for a new relationship.
You guys have been together for a long time, and that means something, but you've got to make sure you're doing what's best for you, especially as young... (read in full...)
Emotional numbing advice plz?
Q. i haven't been able to feel much lately since a recent incident with an ex. Idk how to over come it..i just don't feel anything anymore......
A. 8 February 2011: Time heals all wounds. Give yourself some time to hurt, but make sure you don't let that go on too long. Then, give yourself plenty of time to heal. Rediscover what makes you feel good and makes you happy on your own. When it's your time to try ... (read in full...)
What can I say to him via text to turn him on???
Q. So me and my boyfriend just started sending dirty text messages and I don't know what to say to turn him on and I don't want to sound stupid. So Can you please help? ...
A. 1 February 2011: I find sometimes just saying little things like "I'm really chilly. Do you think I should go take a shower and warm up?" sometimes turns them on. If they are imaginative, they'll be thinking about you being naked as well as being cold, which makes ... (read in full...)
I'd like to meet up with him, but I'm worried he might like me more than a friend!
Q. I have this guy friend I talk to online. He's the same age as me and he used to go to my school. He's a really nice guy to talk to and I would like to meet up with him just as a friend, but I feel like he has much stronger feelings towards me. H...
A. 31 January 2011: Next time he makes a joke like that say something like "haha yeah, that would be weird because we're only friends". If he drops it, great, he got the message. If he starts talking to you about it, just say that you want to keep your relationship as ... (read in full...)
I feel like he is pushing religion on me, but he keeps asking me out
Q. A man asked me out that I met at a party. We met up for drinks and it appeared to go smoothly. he invited me out for a fancy dinner a few days later. I accepted. I am 48 and he is 50. The evenign started out soo good until the subject of religion ...
A. 30 January 2011: Although he's just trying to share something that brings him happiness with you, if he's forcing it on you, you need to get away. Tell him, straight out, that you judt want to be friends, and nothing more. Don't sugar coat it or put it gently. He ... (read in full...)
Parents are struggling financially. Should I let them move with me if I buy a new home?
Q. I need advice... well I moved in with my parents when my husband and I separated. My dad quit or got fired from his job, we really don't know the truth. I thought it would be a good idea that I pay them instead of staying on my own. Well I've been ...
A. 30 January 2011: Maybe they should move. If they can't afford their house and they're infringing upon their children's right to have a life, they should stop being selfish about it and move to a smaller house. This really isn't fair of them. Is it possible for you ... (read in full...)
Parents are struggling financially. Should I let them move with me if I buy a new home?
Q. I need advice... well I moved in with my parents when my husband and I separated. My dad quit or got fired from his job, we really don't know the truth. I thought it would be a good idea that I pay them instead of staying on my own. Well I've been ...
A. 29 January 2011: I don't think youre selfish for wanting to have your own life. Your parents have some problems and they need help, but they can't expect you to sacrifice your livelihood for that. They need to move to a smaller house or apartment for only the two or ... (read in full...)
I can't tolerate porn due to a horrible experience in my past!
Q. My problem is that I hate porn. It dates back to many years ago when I had an awful experience and I have explained this to my partner and how it reminds me of a horrible time in my life which I have sought profession help to overcome. I told him ...
A. 29 January 2011: If he is watching porn occassionally and you didn't even know until recently, what's the big deal? You say you don't want to control anyone. So stop trying to control him. Just make it a don't ask, don't tell topic between you two and don't think ... (read in full...)
I hit my girlfriend, is it my fault or hers?
Q. im 15 ma girlfriends 14 were in the same year but im not proud of what i did but i need some advice me and my girlfriend were arguing after something that happened at school i kinda said she was flirting with my bestmate because she was hugging him ...
A. 28 January 2011: That was a terrible thing for her to say, but physical violence is NEVER okay from either partner. You should have told her to go away, broken up with her, even cussed her out. The best thing would have been, in my poinion, to call her a heartless ... (read in full...)
I often get in a panic and gag at the thought of a bj. Why does this happen and how can I address this problem?
Q. I have this fear of giving a blow job to my boyfriend of 6 years. I don't mind giving oral sex, but as soon as he puts it in my mouth I feel the need to gag. He has a very large penis and if he has just had a shower I don't mind as much. he does...
A. 26 January 2011: Practice!! The gag reflex gets better over time, and different things work with different people. I had a strong gag at first, but I really wanted to please my boyfriend in that way. I kept practicing and I've gotten a lot better. A position I use ... (read in full...)
Are we fixable?
Q. Hey everyone I hope someone has the time and heart to help me. I've looked for advice everywhere and never an answer no matter what website I've gone on. Here it goes: well i've been with my fiancé for 2 years now. We have a 4 month old daught...
A. 26 January 2011: If you want to leave, leave. Don't give him a chance to get back in because that will only make getting over it harder for you. This realtionship is way too volitile to be healthy for any one involved, especially your baby. Do what's best for her. ... (read in full...)
Are we fixable?
Q. Hey everyone I hope someone has the time and heart to help me. I've looked for advice everywhere and never an answer no matter what website I've gone on. Here it goes: well i've been with my fiancé for 2 years now. We have a 4 month old daught...
A. 23 January 2011: This is NOT a healthy relationship. Physical violence is really not okay from either of you. All of this anger and bitterness and simple lack of attraction is not going to get any better when you get married. It will get worse. You are so young. You ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend watching porn, says he doesn't care if I break up with him or not
Q. Ok, I recently found out that my boyfriend has been going on this website called [name removed but suggests pictures with no clothes on]... ALL THE TIME!. He wont reply to my texts, he doesn't talk to me, i feel like he has emotionally with...
A. 23 January 2011: It kind of seems like he wants out. You guys need to talk and decide whether you should break up or try to work things out with each other. Maybe there are buried issues involved. ... (read in full...)
We have an open relationship but he says he hasn't been with anyone else. Should I trust him?
Q. I was with this guy since this time last year. After being together for 7 months, he moved to my home country in Asia for a new job. I visited him after 1.5 months and he told me he's very attracted to Asian women and found difficult to resist the ...
A. 23 January 2011: If you are this worried, you DON'T trust him. That's the simple fact.
If you still want to be with him, just use condoms. Use the excuse that you forgot a pill and want to be extra careful.
After the week is up, you should seriously examin... (read in full...)
Ex said he wanted to be friends but he's not talking to me
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend, and I was heartbroken, however when we broke up he said he still wanted to be friends and talk with me, yet nothing's happened. We talked for like a day after the breakup and then nothing since. I do wish that ...
A. 23 January 2011: You just have to give it some time and space. It may still be awkward for him, especially so depending on the reson of your break-up. Give him a little time, and yourself some time to heal. Looking at him with sad, wistful eyes won't help. In a ... (read in full...)
Homesick in Canada! How do I cope?
Q. Ok well basically im 15 nearly 16. 5 months ago i moved from england to canada. i have moved so much in my life and i finally lived somewhere where i had the most amazing friends, family and school and it all fell apart when i moved here. so my ...
A. 22 January 2011: I'm so sorry :(( The best advice I can give is to try to be out there and make friends. Try finding clubs that you're interested in or joining a class outside of school. People with common interests will make great friends. And don't lose contact ... (read in full...)
My scrooge husband does not care about my financial problems. Is this normal in a marriage?
Q. My husband doesn't care that I have financial problems. I was adjusting for green card last year. During that time my working permit expired and lost my full time job. But he still wants me to pay my share of the rent. He doesn't care my account is ...
A. 22 January 2011: That is...really distrubing. A relationship should never be about money like that. yes, money is a worry, but youre not his roommate, youre his wife. It's a partnership. One gives more when the other needs it. He will have those times too, and you ... (read in full...)
Husband needs the aid of porn to have sex with me
Q. Why when my husband and I have sex we always have to have porn on. When it is not on and we are kissing sometimes he gets on hard, but most of the time he is soft until we have porn on every night. We were apart for almost 2yrs and he said this...
A. 22 January 2011: He has an addiction. Try to get him to seek help for it, and explain how much it hurts you that this is going on. That will make him more likely to get help. No one wants to hurt the ones they love.... (read in full...)
I really like two different guys, and don't know who to choose! Help!
Q. Help me!!! I really like two different guys. the first one is my boyfriend of four months and the second one is becoming a closer and closer friend. I like them both so much, and they both have good qualities. My Boyfriend has taken the time t...
A. 22 January 2011: I don't think wanting to see my boyfriend more than once every couple of weeks is "wanting more than I can have". He breaks plans with me to hang out with his friends, whom he says he hangs out with daily. Breaking plans is a problem, not spending ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to think of my girlfriend when masturbating?
Q. should i masterbate thinking about my girlfriend? i have just started dating her but i had a crush on her for years? i kind of feel bad thinking of her in such a way ?help please........
A. 21 January 2011: it's completely normal and much better than thinking of someone else. Just maybe don't tell her early on in the relationship. It might be a little much so early. ... (read in full...)
My husband is obsessed with porn, we have a second baby on the way, live with his mother, and I had a summer romance!
Q. I am 24 and married to a 25 year old firefighter that is obsessed with sex and continuously is on sex sites, looking at porn, answering personal ads, and talking to and having sex with other girls on a virtual chat site. I am unhappy and have been ...
A. 21 January 2011: How close are you to his mom? Maybe you should talk to her. she knows her son very well, and moms are amazing at knowing how to help with things. I know you're a mommy too but she's been doin it longer :)I bet she'd be able to help you out with what ... (read in full...)
Do I move on and go out with this other amazing girl?
Q. My ex and I broke up at the beginning of November, and despite how adamant I was about making things work, she said we were going along two different paths in life and that it would only hurt us more to try and stay together (she's at a different ...
A. 20 January 2011: I would try to move on. The other girl you had a strong relationship with is dating other guys, and it seems like she's just trying to keep you because it's hard for her to deal with you moving on like she has. Date this new girl and slowly move ... (read in full...)
I don't want him...doesn't he get it?
Q. My ex boyfriend who just continues to stalk me. He left me about two years ago to be with his baby's mother at the time (found out later on that the baby was was not his)he treated be really, really bad..he was verbally, mentally, emotionally and ...
A. 20 January 2011: Absolutely get a restraining order. This guy sounds like he's crazy, and you don't know what he might be capable of. Gather all the letters, facebook messages, and testimonials of his behavior that you can and go to the cops. ... (read in full...)
We've been together now for over 3 months but still haven't had sex!!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 and a half months, but haven't had sex! We are very close and have a strong connection, however, he is reluctant to fully have sex with me. We have fooled around orally and we both obviously turn e...
A. 20 January 2011: Thank you guys!!
Yeah...I'm a very physical person when I really care for someone, so I do tend to want to move in to the sex stage once I figure that out. I haven't been with many guys, only two, and one other orally. I'm just so ready for that... (read in full...)
I feel like I was played in the worst possible way!
Q. Hey aunts. Little help will be appreciated. I've been going through a rough patch lately. So there is this guy, used to be my closest friend for a long time then, over a year ago his behavior started to change. To cut a long sory short he spent an ...
A. 20 January 2011: Firstly, kudos to having the power to kick him out when he said that bogus crap to you. Not all women posess that.
Secondly, ignore him, DO NOT meet him or talk to him again, and if you can, come up with some snappy zingers to respond to his beha... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to leave bruises during sex?
Q. My Girlfriend wants me to leave bruises during sex? I am not sure what to take of this we have been dating over a year now. She wants me to hit her.. I dont know what to do is it normal?...
A. 20 January 2011: NOT NORMAL. She has probably experienced abuse. GET HER HELPED!!... (read in full...)
My wife told me how much she liked having sex with her ex!
Q. Before my wife and I were together, she had a boyfriend that she lost her virginity to (at 16). She really liked him. She had a relationship with him that included regular sex, then after breaking up got back together after a couple of months ...
A. 20 January 2011: I have had sex with three people before the guy I am with now, and none of them have changed any part of my relationship with him. He and I have not had sex yet, and I did enjoy the sex I've had before, but honestly, I wish I was a virgin again so ... (read in full...)
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