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I like my own parts. Is this wrong? I am confused about my sexuality.

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Question - (11 April 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 18 April 2011)
A female United States age 36-40, *rincessjasmine writes:

i have always liked men and wanted relationships with men, never crushed on a girl (im a girl)

but i can watch girl porn and get turned on by bodies and guy porn too and same thing happens. i know its a fantasy and thats ok.

but the problem is: i like my own body, my body turns me on, and so does my vagina....i had this weird thought of licking my own vagina, i thought i liked the thought at the moment and it turned me on. i can kiss my breasts too and it turns me on.

this idea freaks me out though, if i like my private parts and they are GIRL parts then that must mean i wana kiss another girls parts???? but then i try to imagine it and first of all its hard to imagine like im trying to imagine it, and when i think of some porn star girl i like to watch and think of kissing her vagina (ew) sounds gross but if i really try to think hard about it, i think i would like it....but do i want to do it? HELL NO. but i think, oh well if i was in the moment maybe at first i wud say no but if i started i'd get into it and eventually like it, just like how i thought it was wrong to look at myself strip but when i started i liked it. this is how it would be with some girl i thought was hot, i kno this is stupid and i was perfectly happy before i got this thought that i would enjoy the act of being sexual with a girl, i dont want to bbe but maybe its really wat i would enjoy :( but if it makes me sad then obviously its not right for me. wow, i am so ocd right now! ahh am i just going around in circles? i cant figure it out, maybe i shud give up trying and say yea maybe i would enjoy it, but i dont wana do it and leave it at that....maybe a part of me is lesbian and i shud just accept it (ugh i hate HATE thinking i am)

also my latest sexual encounters w/men havent been good, i cann get into it but i think maybe w/a girl it wud be more interesting b/c they hav so many more sexual parts to them. but guys still turn me on and ive only loved men. its just that if im not doing it with a guy i like just anyone and that obviously wont turn me on as much as someone i truly cared for. i kno guys turn me on but i think, what wud it b like w/a girl but dont wana actually try it.

one time when i tried kissing a girl it felt so wrong, foreign and forced. its not me but i thinnk, it cud be if i let it but dont want to let it....ahh!

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A male reader, Jackalus United Kingdom +, writes (18 April 2011):

I think you are just proud of what has been given to you :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2011):

a lot of people may feel this way and i know what your going through this happened to me and in fact i am biisexual, if boys and girls turn you on you have to except the fact! your YOU no one can change how you feel inside! this is totally normal dont worry hun.

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A female reader, SweetSmoochy United States +, writes (12 April 2011):

SweetSmoochy agony auntThe fact that you enjoy your own body doesn't make you attracted to women. It means you enjoy your own body and your own shape. Continue to love yourself, as that is incredibly healthy for both self confidence and chemical reasons if you pleasure yourself. Many ladies, myself included, enjoy their own bodies and find themselves beautiful and sexy. It doesn't necessarily mean you want other women, the two are separate things.

It seems like you don't think you are attracted to women, but you obviously aren't sure one way or another. You said you tried kissing a girl and it didn't feel right as well. What it sounds like is you are a straight woman who likes her own body. That's it! No need to analyze. It's just the way you are.

One last thing. If you are curious or maybe attracted to women as well as men, it's not a bad thing. Accept yourself exactly the way you are, whether that be bisexual, straight, or purple.

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A female reader, moon river  United Kingdom +, writes (11 April 2011):

moon river  agony auntYour just curios about sensations and masturbation. Most teens cannget turned on by any stlye or mix in porn because they're just curious beings, myself included

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