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writes:My guy thinks it is funny sometimes to call out silly things in front of strangers, to embarrass me. It is not funny. The things he calls out are not true, but he bursts out laughing once he has done it. I have told him I find it embarrassing. that did not work. Then I have tried being stoic and quiet and not reacting and that does not work. And I do not want to go to his level and do the same to him because that is just not me. He does not just do it to me. He does it to his male friends. He does it to our daughter who is at an age where it is not appreciated.What can I do to stop him being Mr Wize Guy and get him to wise up to the fact that he is not very funny at all?. Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella +, writes (13 May 2011):
 What do you see in this guy and why do you put up with him? Truly he sounds like such a loser. Is it that you earn more than him and it makes him insecure.
Tell him to stop. If his friends will put up with it, then so be it. But you and your child do not need to put up with it. A child's self esteem is no important. Their vision of who they are is shaped by what happens to them from birth.
Enroll him in some counselling or send him off to do some training in how to stop being an ignorant court jester.
And put a roll of Duct tape in the case and threaten to apply it to him if he refuses to stop. It is horrible behavior
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2011): If trying to embarrass you in public is something he finds amusing, then i guess hes immature and stupid. If he is also doing it to his child for laughs, then he is being plain mean and his behaviour is totally unacceptable. That is a form of emotional abuse and you shouldnt stand for it. So the next time he does that to your child, take him aside and have a quiet word with him. Explain what will happen to him if he ever tries to shame or embarrass her in public like it again. If he wants to act like the organ grinders monkey and entertain the crowds while he is out, so be it. But not at the expense of a childs feelings. Let him know in no uncertain terms that he will not be tolerated if he does it again. Also ask if he has an over powering feeling to do it. And what happens if he tries to stop himself. In other words how much control does he have over his outbursts. He could have a mild form of tourettes. So ask him to get it checked out if he feels there might be a problem.
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (12 May 2011):
 Love the ideas previously mentioned, especially cupidus'. Share the "Daddy, did you take yout tourrettes medication today?" one with your daughter.
Another couple of jibes to give him a taste of his own medicine:
"He's tiny and trying to compensate."
"Sorry, he's 'special'." (daughter friendly)
Or better yet, duct tape+shock collar.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2011): Quit being accommodating, next time he does it, bust him loud and in public. Throw a wild ass tantrum, tell him off and then leave his ass where ever he is. See if that insinuative bastard wakes up. If not, you need to serious think about why you're continuing to accept his abuse- for God's sake stand up for your daughter as she can see that you're aware of the situation and being ineffective at protecting her. She's going to have some serious damage around this.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 May 2011):
 I like cupidus' idea.Ignore him and look at the people around you, shrug your shoulders and say, "He's very socially insecure and this is his way of coping. We've been hoping the medications and counseling would have helped more but we still see the occasional outburst. Our apologies if he has been offensive to anyone."VERY loudly: "He has some neurological damage from too many recreational drugs in his youth."Ask him to repeat it because you didn't hear it the first time. Ask him to repeat it again the second time because you didn't quite understand. Ask him to say it again because you think you might be about to understand it but just want to hear it again. Ask him to say it for the fourth time just to be certain you heard him correctly.Maybe get him to the doctor's for a checkup. He might have something weird going on that is causing him to be a jerk. I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt but you could point out that thousands of men die from stubbornness every year and he needs a checkup. His weird behavior being symptom number one.Good luck.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (12 May 2011):
 Say loud and clear for all to hear:
"Honey, did you forget to take your turrets medication again?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2011): tell him straight? have you done that?
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