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writes:I've been in a wonderful relationship for 8 months and I'm wondering when to take it to the next level? We're young, I'm 19 and he's 20 but he recently suggested the idea of us moving in together. I would love to and told him so. I wouldn't move in any time soon, I'm thinking of at least a year from now. We're in college and I currently live at home and I admit I'm worried my parents will say no because this situation has never happened before. I don't know how to tell them or if it's a good idea to move in with the bf so soon? Any advice is appreciated- thanks in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (30 June 2011):
 Well if you are not planning on moving in with him until a year from now, then by the time that comes around you will have been together 1 year and 8 months. That shows you have been together a long time and it would be perfectly fine to move in together. Plus you will be 20 by then so there is no reason at that age to still be living with your parents.
If you are not planning on moving in together for another year then simply dont tell your parents until it is much closer to the time. Telling them now would be silly because you are not planning on moving out anytime soon, so it would just cause uncessesary discussions about something that is not happening for ages.
I think if you are in a stable relationship and have been together at least a year then moving in together is perfectly fine. Anything before a year is a bit hasty and rushed - so if you want to move in with him, then plan to do it in a year and all will be fine. Just dont tell your parents until closer to the time when you are actually going to start looking for a place to live.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (30 June 2011):
your a adult now your parents can,t stop you from moving in with your boyfriend tell him that maybe a year from now you can get somewhere together
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (30 June 2011):
 You said you're 19 and in college? At this point, you're an adult and it's time to make your own decision. that being said, it sounds like you're a little reluctant to move in with him and you feel like it's too soon. Maybe you should try moving out of the house on your own first and gradually moving in together? then it won't feel so much like you have mommy and daddy over your shoulder or liek you need their permission.
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