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writes:I am a serious packrat and can never get rid of anything. At my old apartment I had the spare bedroom full of Cabbage Patch Dolls and stuffed animals that I had accumulated. When I moved in with my boyfriend I agreed to downsize once we had settled in. I had ten large garbage bags full of dolls and stuffed animals that I brought from my old place. A few weeks ago he helped me go through all of them. We opened all the bags and put up a display sentimental ones all the others were piled in the closet in the spare bedroom. Since I cannot bear to get rid of anything my boyfriend said he would take care of it for me. Friday when I got home from work the closet was empty. He did not say anything about it and I didn't ask. Today when I took the trash to the dumpster I opened the lid and saw the dolls all bagged up and sitting in the dumpster.I promised him I would get rid but now I am not sure I can go through with it. If I take them out I break my promise to him but I just can't let go. The dumpster doesn't get emptied until Friday morning so I have almost a week to decide.
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reader, Ashleys42 +, writes (24 September 2008):
Ashleys42 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice We talked Emilysanswers you are right I needed to accept that they are gone. We talked about it the other day and he explained it from his point of view. Heknew I would never remove them on my own which is why he said he would take care of it. He wanted to wait a few weeks so that it wouldn't be as fresh on my mind. He knew the dumpster was emptied on Friday so after I left he took the bags down to the dumpster so that they would
be long gone by the time I got home but they were emptying it when he took the first 2 bags out so he had to just put the remaining bags in the dumpster. He thought they would get covered by the other tenants trash long before the garbage in our apartment had to go out and hoped
that they would be safely hidden in the dumpster until it was emptied the following week. I asked him why he didn't consider donating them and he said he didn't think of it. He told me if I wanted to get them out to do it but I felt guilty breaking my word to him and they were in with the filthy trash for almost a week by then and we
weren't even sure they could be cleaned so on Friday they were hauled to the dump. I guess I will have to live with it
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): You did your part your boyfriend did his by getting rid of them for you. Leave them for the trashman and enjoy your clutter free life with him.
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reader, Hopeful Romantic +, writes (17 September 2008):
 I hope you got them out of the dumpster, photographed them and sold them on e-bay. I know a lot of adults frown on other adults that like toys. My boyfriend has lots of toys, but he puts them all up in his studio and they look cool there. (you know - action figures and such) ... so, for the ones you keep, try to always make sure you have a room where your toys go. Then nobody can complain because that is YOUR room for YOUR toys. :) ... a lot of people collect things - it doesn't make you a bad person.
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (15 September 2008):
Cabbage patch dolls are worth a lot of money. Like the other poster said sell them. I think you would handle it better if you knew someone else was getting to use them instead of them just sitting in a dump field. Tell your boyfriend that you are going to get them out of the trash sell the stuff worth money and give the rest to good will. He should understand you wanting to give the toys to Good Will were poor children can enjoy them
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 September 2008):
I think you need to accept they have gone.
But first check ebay and see if they are worth anything. If they are then fish them out and sell them. Put the money towards something nice for yourself.
You can't keep your dolls forever. You have to move on and grow up.
It's sad but you have to think about how you have moved on and how good it is to be an adult rather than a child with toys.
Good Luck!! xx
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