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writes:I have a female friend who is close to me. I told her that i love her and wanted her to be my gf but she said she was not ready for a relationship. Later she told me she had a boyfriend. How do i get her to leave her boyfriend or should i leave her bcos i feel she betrayed me. What should i do. Reply to this Question
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reader, steve-tellme  +, writes (23 January 2009):
 First of all this girl you are on about does not want to be anything else but friends with you. That is clear and you will see that if you read back what you wrote. Second the fact that you have already told this girl how you feel and ye remain friends means that your friendship means alot to her.. You cannot MAKE her leave her boyfriend for you. you told her before she met this man that you had feelings for her and she still got with him. Thats a choice she made on her own and its the choice she preffered. She obviously does not want to be anything more than friends. As for leaving her for "betraying you" as you put it. She did not betray anyone. all she did was get what the heart wanted. im sorry if this feels all cruel and blunt but its a reality check. You now have a question to answer yourself. should you stay and settle for friendship which is as far as you will get. or leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009): I agree, she's not interested in you romantically....and it is never cool to try and break up a romantic relationship ever, for any reasons....it will only backfire.
Either be happy to be her friend, or beg off and move on to finding happiness with a girl who loves you back.
Such is life, my friend.
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reader, TRUCK  +, writes (23 January 2009):
i agree with the above comments. I had a similar situation a few years back. After I made the innitial move just going on a date It through her emotions out of whack, instead of just backing off I pushed it and she told me she was goin on a mission, Its hard but if I where you I would break off the friendship alltogether. Cause if she wasnt being a player she wouldnt have ever even given you the impression there was even a chance you could ask her out. If anything backing off she wont feel pressured and the minute things go bad with her boyfriend she might come crawling. I say find another girl
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (23 January 2009):
 Looks more like she's trying to find a way to tell you that she's not interested without hurting your feelings.
If she's not ready for a relationship, why is she with a bf? Why didn't she tell you that in the first place?
Stop bugging her with gf stuff, she's not interested. Do what you do best and be her friend.
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