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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): I do normally bring my own jacket but the freezer I have to go into is -10 degrees and I go in there for sometimes 15-20 minutes at a time. Using my jacket plus his jacket is much better. Me and my coworker are pretty good friends. We play around alot and we give the occasional hug. My husband found out I was wearing his jacket because he claimed I smelled like cologne so I told him why. We do have trust isssues because he had cheated 3 times while I was pregnant, so he thinks that I am now going to do the same. But truth be told I have always just gotten along with guys and that's who I tend to make best friends with.n
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): Wearing a man's clothing is pretty personal , and it usually signifies an intimate relationship. That's why your husband is upset.
Wouldn't it bother you if your husband repeatedly loaned his jacket to the same female co-worker?
If it only happens once, it's ok. But if you're always cold you should take your own jacket.
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reader, Staceily  +, writes (14 November 2012):
 Well you said "my coworker let's me use his jacket at work", meaning it's been more often than once so I can see where the problem is. If it was one time, you forgot your jacket and it was chilly so he offered then who cares. If it is a regular occurrence, you could bring your own jacket but instead borrow his then I see the issue. It's a personal thing to wear another guy's clothing. I remember in high school it's so exciting to be able to wear a crush's sweat shirt or jacket. It's his personal clothing and he lets me wear it! I imagine your husband pictures a hot guy lending you his jacket every day and you fawning over it. Why not just bring your own?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 November 2012):
 why were you wearing his jacket? and why does your hubby know about it? I mean seriously I don't tell my husband stuff that goes on in my office "honey I got cold and I ended up wearing Fred's jacket" are just not topics of conversation at our dinner table...
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a. why did you wear it
b. why does your husband know about it
c. what's your history with the co-worker.
I am sensing something is being left out of the question....
BTW, here at work we ALL have "designated work hoodies" and we call them as such... I even keep a blanket here...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 November 2012):
 Yeah, why don't you have a jacket of your own at work?
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (14 November 2012):
I think you should bring your own jacket to work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2012): I mean unless at the time he also lent you his jeans and underwear I don't see why he's mad. You weren't naked and only wearing the jacket. So it has nothing to do with sex. Your husband is jealous and silly. Just don't do it again now that you know what a sensitive baby you married unless you like hearing him whine and complain. I guess he'd rather you freeze.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (14 November 2012):
 Why were you wearing it, and where? (just curious honestly)
From the little you have written I think your husband is overreacting.
If it got cold one day and work and he lend you the jacket, I see no harm, no foul. But if you go to work every day and borrow his jacket, I think it's a little odd that you don't just bring your own.. know what I mean?
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (14 November 2012):
 Depends on the context.If you wore it just because you were cold and he was polite enough to share, no big deal and he needs to calm down.If you're flirting with this guy and he doesn't know you're unavailable, then there's a problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2012): Maybe there has been some previous issue for your husband to have such a reaction. For some reason he does not understand the working relationship you have. A simple open conversation to discuss his reaction and your working relationship might help.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (14 November 2012):
 Does it get chilly where you work? I don't see the big deal.
If it's clear that you're married, and you aren't feeling or giving off flirty vibes, I don't see the issue. You're cold. Someone lends you a jacket. Seems okay to me!
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