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i don't have all the answers but i have lived a good life with lots of love, lovers and adventure.
i am an expert fisherman, and go fishing at least twice a week.
i have a fox terrier dog named sami spratt.
she is the love of my life,( after my wife)
she was born 4hrs after the others, and has a few issues. but like me shes a bit too clever for her own good. |
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I don't know how to communicate with my boyfriend about his career move
Q. Hi, I don't know how to communicate with my boyfriend about his career move. We are both 27. We are together for 2 yrs and want to get married after I finish studying.We love each other and want to start a family soon.I am still studying. He is...
A. 21 October 2010: i worked as a photographer for 7years, in the horse industry.
its hard to break into this profession, you have to be real good to make money. their are heaps of people think its easy but, when you have to make money then its real hard.
as an ama... (read in full...)
My boyfriend finds it hard to cum when his laying on his back, any suggestions?
Q. My boyfriend finds it hard to cum when his laying on his back. He gets the feeling but nothing happens, and he can just go on and on.. Can you suggest anything??...
A. 21 October 2010: why is this a problem for you. most girls thing their b/f cums too soon.
the answer is to try other positions. if it really
is a problem then try tightening your p.c. muscles.... (read in full...)
What could his actions mean?
Q. Dear Cupid I take private piano lessons. The teacher is near the same age as me,(about 43). He seems shy and a bit nervous around women; you know, 'academic' looking; a bit 'geeky'. He also does transposition work for me on my music. ...
A. 19 October 2010: i think you were meant to see it and make a comment.
next time your at a lesson, take a coffee break and while you are both relaxed, ask him about it in a positive manner.
just tell him you noticed it and were interested in it, and go from ther... (read in full...)
Is it necessary to tell someone you're dating about your past?
Q. How much do you tell a guy you love about ur past, about passed hook ups, stupid things uve done, is it really necessary? wouuldn't he have a bad image of me when i know that im not this person. Im afraid he wont trust me if he knows about my past ...
A. 19 October 2010: you dont need to tell him anything.....unless a std is an issue.
at your age most girls have some sexual past, but what does it matter to anyone but yourself.
if he cant accept that then he's not the one for you.
on the other hand some guys... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I haven't had sex in 8 years?
Q. just started talking to an old boyfreind. Its been 19 years! We want to be together again and he is out of state, but coming back. How and do I tell him i havent had sex in 8 years? What will he think of that? Don't know what to do!...
A. 19 October 2010: why tell him, thats your private business, and dont worry its like riding a bike,you never forget.
i went through a layoff due to my wife falling ill. but things just fell back into place when that issue went away.
just think of it a another ... (read in full...)
What do you make of his behavior??
Q. I like a guy on my uni course and ive been told he likes me too. We've kissed a few times when out with mutual friends and for the last few weeks spoke quite a lot on facebook etc. The last week though ive barley heard from him at all and when ive ...
A. 19 October 2010: he may be as shy as you are.
guys tend to get courage when they have had a few drinks in them.
if he likes you he will be back, if not then move on.... (read in full...)
I've been married 2 years and I'm still a virgin
Q. i am 23year old married from 2 years and still a virgin. my husband is being patient with me but i get frustrated.my husband even had a affair but he was not sexually involved with gal but now its all over.he says he loves me.ours is love marriage ...
A. 15 October 2010: you need help. go see your doctor and tell him why.
so sorry to see you in this position, and you will get over it.
i think there is an underlying issue here that you hav'nt told us. that is what you must pluck up courage and tell your doctor... (read in full...)
15 and 3 months late for period but all the tests are negative!
Q. i need help...i am 15 years old and i am 3 months late for my period. i am having all the symptoms of pregnancy but ive taken four pregnancy tests but they all came back negative. do u think i could be having false negatives or its just all in my ...
A. 15 October 2010: at your age, body weight can be a very big factor.
but relax, its quite common to miss at your age.
but you need to see a doctor and get on the pill and condoms if you are going to have sex.
it save a lot of heartache and sorrow. good luck!.... (read in full...)
How can I break through with my partner's kids?
Q. How can I break through and become friends with my partners kids who basicly hate me. They are polite but very very stand offish. is there anyway I can reassure them being my friend doesnt equate to replacing their real parent. I just wish we could ...
A. 15 October 2010: before i could answer this i would have to know how old are the children?.... (read in full...)
Do I tell my in-laws their daughter cheated on me?
Q. I found out my wife been cheating on me. Do I tell her father and mother? ...
A. 15 October 2010: you can tell who you like.
but should you tell anyone?. i would have thought this was something between the two of you only.
do you want to save your marriage?.
what did your wife give as a reason for cheating.
listen carefully to what sh... (read in full...)
Lonely... my boyfriend of two years just moved out, out of the blue!
Q. I am so confused.. my boyfriend of the last 2 years just moved out, out of the blue. We have lived together almost the entire time. We have had some money issues and he is not used to not having extra money to spend. He says he still wants to be ...
A. 14 October 2010: i hope i'm wrong, but i feel he has used you.
no doubt you have contributed to the coffers and done housework etc.
now that money is tight he wants to go his own way.
you may find in time , you are well rid of him.... (read in full...)
He's 40, I'm going to be 18..could it work?
Q. I'm about to be eighteen in November and I'm attracted to a man who's forty. I have to admit, I lied about my age. I said I was nineteen and he bought it because I look the part and use a rich vocabulary. Today, I took the liberty to tell ...
A. 13 October 2010: i think it wont matter if all he's after is sex.
if its more than that then it may well be too much of an age gap.
i can see whats in it for him, but whats in it for you. why do you like him so much.
have you dated guys your own age?.... (read in full...)
We had sex, he came in me, and I tried to wash it out. Will that work?
Q. hey i need help well my boyfriend cum in me and i dnt know what to do, im really scard . it happen today and i when in bath and whased it out, well i tryed, so wat i do. xx...
A. 13 October 2010: go to a doctor and get the morning after pill asap.
washing alone may not help. you need to have safe sex next time.... (read in full...)
Is she just being overly friendly?
Q. hi my wifes best mate always flirts with me. This happens when ever we go out and im drinking. Is she being over friendly or does she fancy me? When she is flirting shes touching me and always jumping on me ect. Im not finding fault as i do have to ...
A. 13 October 2010: i smell a rat here.
maybe your wife has asked her to do these things to see how you react.
you are in a marriage so it can go no further, and if you respect your wife, it has got to stop.
by all means have fun together, but never any sexual feeli... (read in full...)
Why did he want to hide the fact he bought the cake for me?
Q. This guy is sending me mixed signals. One day he's completely ignoring, then the next, he talks with me on cam all night. This week, on my birthday, I had a small get together with my friends. We have fun, then some of them leave to get food, inc...
A. 13 October 2010: he sounds cool to me, and a little shy.
give him more time to get to know you better.... (read in full...)
Does fingering mean I'm not a virgin?
Q. I see sex as a binding act of marriage, but I'm with a guy I love. I told him I do not want to have sex, and he's ok with that. The thing is, every time I'm with him, things get a little further. I enjoy it, but should I? Last time I was wi...
A. 13 October 2010: you are still a virgin.
but i have to wonder, who is it that keeps asking you?.
it's nobody's business but yours.... (read in full...)
His ex spent the night, what should I make of this?
Q. Well, basically I don't understand men at all, whatsoever at the minute, so I have come here in desperate need for some advice. I met a boy not long ago, he took my number, but never passed on his. Today, he text me saying... "I miss you shorty"...
A. 11 October 2010: its not only his bed thats broken.
he sounds a lot older that you, and is playing you for a fool.... (read in full...)
How do I connect with her son when he doesn't talk?
Q. Hi, I've been with my girlfriend for a few months now but I've always found it difficult connecting with her son. He doesn't talk yet so I struggle with knowing what to say to him. I just need some tips and advice on what to say, and how to say them ...
A. 11 October 2010: you may be trying too hard.
is his dad still on the scene, if so you will have stiff competition for his affections. dont try to be his dad, just be mums new friend.
just be yourself and if he likes you then he will come around.... (read in full...)
My fiance is very controlling!
Q. My fiance is a very dominating person.. he tries to control me.. he has a problem with all of my male friends.. he manipulates me..i tend to compare this relationship with my past relationships and i am afraid to say that the past relationship was ...
A. 11 October 2010: so, tell me why you would put up with this?.
you need to get out now, this can only end in tears.... (read in full...)
What do men think when they see this?
Q. I've seen a lot of questions about breats but haven't bumped into something like this: what do you men think when you can see the shape of a womans nipple, like if she's cold and gets hard nipples, or maybe she's not wearing a brassier and u can ...
A. 11 October 2010: did you know that a womans brests change shape just before she ovulates, and the nipples are more responsive and therefor more likely to become erect?.
its called having you headlights on.... (read in full...)
We're going to have to break up because her parents don't approve of interracial relationships
Q. Hey guys im in a interracial realtionship and ive been going with my girlfriend for happily 2 1/2 years. only thing is that her parents dont approve because im black and she is white. she said that she have to break up with me because of her parents ...
A. 11 October 2010: where i live, we have a multi racial society, but even then there are some who don't think like this. even though there are thousands of mixed couples, there are always some who will never accept it.
the best thing for you and your girl to do is... (read in full...)
I drunkenly cheated on my fiance and now she doesn't know if she'll ever trust me again!
Q. My fiancée and I have been together for two years (living together for 1.5 years); we were supposed to get married March of 2011. I love her more than my own life and would stop at nothing to make damn sure that she's happy. But last month, I to...
A. 11 October 2010: if you came on here to have us say were are so sorry for you then your'e wrong.
i side with her on this one
you say you were so drunk you didnt know what you were doing, sorry but i dont buy that.
drink is no excuse for what you have done.
how ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my boyfriend about his family?
Q. im 13, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 4 months. he is at my house all the time ive never been in his. but i dont care im afraid to meet his parents to be h=honest but he is quite close with mines. we never really talk much about his ...
A. 11 October 2010: i wonder if an age difference is an issue here, how old is he.
if he is much older his family will be against his going out with a 13year girl.
i just hope you are not being rushed into a sexual relationship at your age, older guys can tend to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has terminal cancer, I want a baby but he doesnt. Should I leave him?
Q. My boyfriend has terminal cancer, i want a baby but he doesnt. Should i leave him? We met a year or two ago and we have fallen in love. He has a child by a previous marriage and is content with that but I am becoming desperate. I dont want to ...
A. 11 October 2010: sorry but if you really love this guy, and love him enough to have a child with him, then how can you even think of leaving him now?.
it just dos 'nt add up.
i think its a selfish act on your part to even think of having his child without his ... (read in full...)
Calling Christians - Can a spouse do so much wrong that you just can't come back despite what the bible says?
Q. I am a very spiritual person. I love people and always look for the good in them. I am someone who can be involved with someone who has 2 tons of bad and 5 pounds of good, and I shift the scale to the good. But I am in a marriage where I have lost ...
A. 10 October 2010: wow!, answering this question could open pandora's box, but here's what i think.
you have to do what you think is right, deep, deep, down inside.
you have given all you can to this guy, and its time for action.
you have a basic right to a free an... (read in full...)
Can I keep seeing my professor, or is it a lost cause?
Q. About a week ago, under fairly casual and normal circumstances I accepted a ride home from my college professor. The classes I take are evening classes part time, and he is not employed by the college directly, but began teaching this past ...
A. 10 October 2010: i suspect hes after you for sex.
if thats not what your'e looking for, then tell him before you take things further.
you are not two teenagers looking for a quick fix.
act like adults and talk things over.
if you do enter into a relationshi... (read in full...)
He has webcam chats with men, but won't have sex with me.
Q. Hi I have been dating this guy for 2 years, living together for 6 months. His bisexual. We have never had the honeymoon stage, he has never seemed to chase me for sex. I thought this was odd and found out he web cams to men and mastubates to porn ...
A. 10 October 2010: some gay guys seem to like having a woman around so others wont suspect they are gay.
and to do the housework and help with finances etc.
get out now. you are worth so much more than this guy will give you.... (read in full...)
I thought my friend was flirting with me, but then I tried to kiss her!!
Q. well I dropped one of my friends home the other night, she always seems to flirt with me, but tonight she was a little bit tipsy. I went to kiss her and she rejected me. What do I do? I feel really bad because we get on really well and i feel ...
A. 10 October 2010: you need to tell her your sorry, and mean it.
too many guys think that when a girl has had a few drinks, she's fair game.
she did the right thing in rejecting you
wait till your sober and tell her that you like her.
then ask her for a date.
... (read in full...)
Why do I feel dirty and ashamed?
Q. I've been hanging out with this guy that I've known for several years. We've always just been friends but lately its seemed like more for both of us. We started kissing, then one thing led to the next. I'm still a virgin so I told him I wasn't ...
A. 10 October 2010: firstly sex is'nt dirty, so you have nothing to feel dirty about. at your age you should be having a normal sex life.
that dos'nt mean having sex, but you should be able to handle the moral and mental issues involved.
why do you feel ashamed?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tried to slip me the tongue, and it was a HUGE surprise
Q. my bf tried to slip me the toungue and i didnt know he was ready so it was a HUGE surpirse and i didnt see it coming so i ended up kissing his tounge i got so scared and didnt know wat to do after that so he said srry and i said one day buddy. i ...
A. 10 October 2010: well next time you see him you could kiss him,and maybe even slip him some tounge, make it a fun thing. its no big deal really, so see the funny side if you can.
practise makes prefect.
there is no right way to kiss, everyones different, thats wh... (read in full...)
Alcoholic at fifteen!
Q. this is nothing to do with relationships ,, but i am nearly 15 now and i am a alcholic ,, and i need to focas on my school work ,, how do i cope with not being able to drink and no stress ,, because whenever i dont drink i am stressed ,, hense why i ...
A. 10 October 2010: go see your doctor, and they will put you in touch with people who can help you.
its not something you can deal with on your own.
i congratulate you for admitting this problem and wanting to deal with it.
you are not the first to have this problem... (read in full...)
Sex is so painful for me that boyfriend would rather masturbate
Q. ive been with my boyfriend 4 years now im so very happy with him but unfortunately he studies abroad and i don't see him for up to 6 months at a time then when i do its only for a month. But every-time i have sex with him it always hurts eve...
A. 10 October 2010: first,see a doctor about this. sex dos'nt have to be painful, just the opposite.
i suspect that when your hymen tore during your first time it created a tear that has scared when healing, and this may be causing you pain.... (read in full...)
I get such a rush looking at this girl who isn't my girlfriend!
Q. I am 29 and in a serious relationship of about 18 months and we live together. It has been a good so far but if im honest not great with many ups and downs and bad times. We have just come out of 4 counseling sessions due to her being unable to cope ...
A. 10 October 2010: sorry i just cant side with you on this. you are benig totall unfair to your partner.
you say your serious but your looking at others.
you cant have your cake and eat it too.
... (read in full...)
Did my ex get my virginity?
Q. my boyfriend and I were discussing our pasts with each other and we can't seem to agree on whether or not I am still a true virgin. Right before my ex and me broke up we did try and have sex, however he is quite large and after getting just a little ...
A. 10 October 2010: the hymen is located at the entrance of the vagina, so if he penetrated you by 2 or three inches, then its unlikely you are still a virgin.
but its up to you really, if you think you are, then thats ok.
what your new b/f thinks is his problem.... (read in full...)
Too difficult to have sex, what do I do?
Q. My girlfriend and I are having an issue having sex, she's a virgin and she's really petite. So she told me she wanted to have sex, so i start to touch her and i realize shes really tight, i barely fit my middle finger inside her. so when i try to ...
A. 10 October 2010: i am concerened as to how old this girl is, maybe she"s too young.
it could be a lack of foreplay or lubrication but even petite girls can have sex if the prep is right.... (read in full...)
Amazing guy who ticks all my boxes but he's engaged!
Q. I'm really unsure what to do. I have me an amazing guy who basically ticks eveyone of my boxes but he is engaged. I know I should just cut all ties but I can't help thinking that maybe I should see what happens, or am I just setting myself up for a ...
A. 10 October 2010: i'm not sure what you mean, "I have me...".
is this a typo and should be "met".
' '... (read in full...)
Guys put off by a 24 year old virgin?
Q. Do guys feel put off if a girl is a virgin at 24? I'm pretty shy and lacking in confidence because of being mentally and physically (not sexually) abused when I was younger. I've never told anyone that I'm a virgin because I find it really embarr...
A. 10 October 2010: you need to relax and just be yourself. the fact that your'e still a virgin is a sign that you have high standards and didnt jump into the sack with the first guy that tried.
... (read in full...)
Could he just want to be friends or is he trying to build a relationship?
Q. We are both in relationships but a man whom I met 2 times thru works keeps texting me about everyday life. He text me sometimes several times a day. He is flirty but never crosses a line. Could he just want to be friends or is he trying to build a ...
A. 9 October 2010: yes, he likes you. but is holding back for a good reason.
he respects you.
be patient and be nice to him and keep answering his texts.
if you think it would be ok then ask him to coffee or lunch.
when you get him on his own he will open up.... (read in full...)
Did I do something to turn him off?
Q. I'm in Boston right now, met a cool guy. We hung out for a month, then he made a move on me and we've been close since then. I'm leaving Sunday to go back to the UK, we've hung out but he's different. Not as close, he's tired from class which I ...
A. 9 October 2010: he has feelings for you,but he cant say as your'e leaving him.
i think he's right.....you are blind.... (read in full...)
I need suggestions for a special gift
Q. Hi everyone. This isn't much of a relationship question but here it goes: My best friend is moving away next year, he's like a brother to me and I'd really like to do something really special for him before he leaves. Whenever we exchange gifts d...
A. 9 October 2010: buy him a friendship ring, nothing flash. then he will always remember you.... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my friend that I love her?
Q. I am a married man of 8 years. The marriage has been OK but not great. Two years ago I started a new job. I met new people in this job and have established some wonderful friendships. One of the people I have met and built a friendship with ...
A. 9 October 2010: you can ask her how she feels about you, but dont tell her how you really fell unless you are prepared to leave you wife and take up with her.
its a really big step. i suggest you deal with your own marriage first, before you do something you will... (read in full...)
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