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writes:I'm really unsure what to do. I have me an amazing guy who basically ticks eveyone of my boxes but he is engaged. I know I should just cut all ties but I can't help thinking that maybe I should see what happens, or am I just setting myself up for a fall?
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reader, chita22  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 I have a friend who is also engaged and loves his girl very much,but his personality is very very flirtatious w/girls and I know a few of my friends think the same way u do cause that's exactly what they say to me that might just be the way his personality is and u think its more then that but if he wasn't inlove w/his girl they wouldn't be engaged trust me on that. Guys would make any excuse not to be commited so I think he's just a flirty guy and forever will be doesn't mean he's willing to cheat on her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2010): My male friend was engaged for 5 years before he eventually split up wiv his missus. U should probably talk to him tell him how you feel because the worst he could do is say I'm sorry but I don't feel the same way about you i am happy and then you will know and be able to move on :) hope this helped :) 3 best of luck!
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (10 October 2010):
 i'm not sure what you mean, "I have me...".
is this a typo and should be "met".
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 Im going to ask you.. if this man ticks all of your boxes, I am fairly confident in my guess that one of those boxes is "faithful". If he leaves his fiancee for you, that means he is not faithful, and that he is also willing to break up a serious committment. Does he still tick all of your boxes then?
Try and just be happy there are men like him out there, and find your own prince charming. This man is taken, and if he is anything as great as you think he is he will stay with his fiance.
Then again, no harm in being friends. Perhaps he has some great friends that share the same values as him, usually guy friends take after one another in that respect.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 Hmmm I will say I'm a little in between about this. He's already taken but not officially. Depending upon how long they've been engaged, how long or how many times the wedding has been postponed, he may or may not get hitched. Obviously he does love her if he proposed, however the timing is wrong or she may not be the right one. Or he could be the cheating type and who's to say he won't do the same to you? A lot to take into consideration here. Although he's engaged, the only thing you can do is sit on the sidelines and watch whether this event will actually place or not. It's his choice if he wants to break off his engagement and date you instead. But the odds aren't really in your favor. I could be wrong. Just don't continue to pursue him once he's married. You DON'T want to be a mistress, or the other woman.
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reader, Natalie:) +, writes (9 October 2010):
 I would cut all ties, just imagine if your friend told you this had happened to them, you'd tell them they had to stop because he ant possibly be so perfect if he cheats. Wouldn't you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): Is it the fact that he's engaged contributing to the fact that the boxes are ticked?
Sometimes, it's the fact that you cant have him that makes him exciting.
Good luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 You are just setting yourself up for a fall, you say he ticks all your boxes in a man, so does that mean you want a cheater for a boyfriend? Because that is what he is, he is engaged to be married, he is not your's he belongs to another girl, you need to cut ties, you deserve better than this, you deserve a guy of your own who is commited to you and doesnt treat you like a bit on the side because darling am afraid that is all you are to him, if you did get with him and you two ended up engaged he would end up just doing the same on you and you would be left heartbroken, just think of his poor fiancee here its not fair on her, end this now cut all contact with the man, cry if you need to cry let it all out and then get back on the dating scene, your guy will be out there waiting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): He's in a committed relationship and since u have ur emotions itd be best to stay away and keep distance. Yes, youd be setting yourself up for a fall.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): He is engaged to be married to somebody else. There is no other option but to forget about him. Seriously, just don't even go there. Think about his poor fiance, how would you feel if you were engaged to be married and your fiance left you for another woman? Not that i'm saying this guy would leave her for you because that's highly unlikely. What makes you think he wants you? Has he shown interest in you? Has anything happened between you two?
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