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*oniqueEE
writes:I'm in Boston right now, met a cool guy. We hung out for a month, then he made a move on me and we've been close since then. I'm leaving Sunday to go back to the UK, we've hung out but he's different. Not as close, he's tired from class which I get.Today I playfully said lets talk, and he said 'I don't know what to say, now I feel bad.' What do you think he meant? I asked him whats up and he said if ya cant see then your blind...Ok, so is he turned off by me now? What on earth did I do?Thanks
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reader, MoniqueEE +, writes (22 October 2010):
MoniqueEE is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all. Great responses.
We didn't really talk about it again, however he did bring me to a party the night before my flight and we had a GREAT night together.
So it seems he was just anticipating missing me. We're still in contact now that I'm back though! :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): He obviously has his own way of communicating. I think it may be ineffective as you are confused. I dont think you did anything wrong you just need to ask him to clarify. I think he said something out of emotion right there and so it can easily come across as what? I dont blame you for the confusion.
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reader, 21w  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 1. He likes you a lot and doesn't want you to leave.
2. He is just tired.
One of those. I think probably 1. is the right one. Ask him and talk to him NOT playfully. Seriously. As a close friend.
God luck!
Let us know how the story goes.
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reader, MG GAY GUY  +, writes (9 October 2010):
No sweet heart you didn't do anything wrong. As a guy (gay one at that so I get both sides of the problem) I can tell you - he is backing off because he doesn't want to go through the hurt of having to say good bye. I went through this sort of things in my twenties. Now I will hardly even talk to anyone I know is soon going to be leaving, except as a friend.
For the one left behind - it is always harder. You get to go back to your life in the UK having grown and experienced more of life. He has to stay there and feel your lack.
This last part may sound very cynical but trust me - these are lessons well learned - always keep your favorite song, restaurant, places to visit, to yourself and friends. That way with every relationship which comes and goes, you will never have sad associations with your favorite things. Keep them for yourself!
It's not that you did anything wrong. Trust me.
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reader, Koolade +, writes (9 October 2010):
 He is probably just having a bad day. Something bad probably happened back at his place. Just wait a little while to let things start over and text him again. When people get hurt or sad they are really just crying out for attention. So give it a day or to and talk to him again, if the same thing happens again ask him whats wrong and if you can help him with his problems.
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 he has feelings for you,but he cant say as your'e leaving him.
i think he's right.....you are blind.
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